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by Alexa
Sun Aug 02, 2020 7:09 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Mom stuff
Replies: 7
Views: 4133

Re: Mom stuff

Hey PartySarah, I'm sorry you're missing that intimacy! You definitely deserve the space for a fulfilling sex life. How do you feel about being creative about where you have space (e.g. at your sex interest's home, a hotel, a car!, etc.)? Also important -- how and when do you feel you'll be able to ...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 02, 2020 6:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bleeding after loosing virginity
Replies: 1
Views: 1586

Re: Bleeding after loosing virginity

Hi there Xxboxx342,

We actually have a really helpful article on bleeding after your first intercourse, One Bloody Mess: Myths & Realities of Bleeding with First Intercourse. Want to take a look at it and let us know what you think?
by Alexa
Sun Aug 02, 2020 6:28 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Transmasculinity and Body Image CW: Fatphobia
Replies: 15
Views: 5673

Re: Transmasculinity and Body Image CW: Fatphobia

Hey Buddyboi21, I've been looking toward the "what my body can do" goal for quite some time since I started boxing. It's why I love it so much; it helps me focus on self defense rather than how my body looks. I LOVE this! Functional goals like this can be so rewarding. It's this sort of ch...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 02, 2020 6:08 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Pleasure
Replies: 5
Views: 2803

Re: Pleasure

Learning what your body likes, especially for the very first time, can take a while! Every body is different and reaches sexual maturity at different times/in different ways. I don't think this means that you're not ready to try masturbating yet; it may just mean that you still have some experimenti...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 02, 2020 6:01 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: LONG, LONG post about my struggle with a weird fetish (17,F)
Replies: 1
Views: 4224

Re: LONG, LONG post about my struggle with a weird fetish (17,F)

Hey dudehelp, Okay, first of all -- you are not weird! Many people have fetishes. As long as you're engaging your fetishes while respecting other people around you and actively confirming their comfort, it shouldn't be a problem. It sounds, in general, like you are aware of your attraction to weight...
by Alexa
Sun Jul 26, 2020 6:40 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Can’t finger(?)
Replies: 2
Views: 2610

Re: Can’t finger(?)

Hey BPanther_L, This is definitely the right place to have so many questions! I'm glad you came here to talk with us. Masturbation and pleasure are so individualized. What feels good to one person may do nothing for the next. Getting to know our bodies can be a really daunting task at first -- but i...
by Alexa
Sun Jul 26, 2020 6:25 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: My feelings about my gender is changing rapidly
Replies: 22
Views: 9563

Re: My feelings about my gender is changing rapidly

Hey transfemandgay, I hope it's okay if I jump in here! Can you tell me a little bit about why wanting to (sometimes) be seen as a femboy and (sometimes) be seen as a transwoman conflict in your head? You mentioned gender fluidity above, and instinctually, I'd encourage you to read up as much as you...
by Alexa
Sun Jul 19, 2020 7:32 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Self Masturbating
Replies: 1
Views: 2333

Re: Self Masturbating

Hey there 82 pye,

It can be difficult to learn what your body wants, even in solo sex (and for some folks, especially in solo sex). Have you read our article Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation? It might help you to explore those needs a bit more.
by Alexa
Sun Jul 19, 2020 7:25 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Getting a little upset because I've had to stop during anal because akward angles and stuff.
Replies: 5
Views: 3569

Re: Getting a little upset because I've had to stop during anal because akward angles and stuff.

Hey KittyPink, I'm sorry, I know it can be hard when you enjoy something and aren't able to figure out how to make it work for your body. Have you tried going back to square one and working your way up to anal sex with a penis? Working your way up with fingers, smaller toys, or even dilators and lot...
by Alexa
Sun Jul 19, 2020 7:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Quarantine distance relationship
Replies: 5
Views: 2604

Re: Quarantine distance relationship

Hey Liltimmyt, I noticed that you were having this trouble with him about a month ago -- so it seems you've been talking for some time about whether you want to video or phone chat. While he hasn't been open to it, it sounds like that kind of closeness is really important to you. Sometimes we like m...
by Alexa
Sun Jul 19, 2020 6:57 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: What does a future new relationship look like during COVID-19?
Replies: 6
Views: 2895

Re: What does a future new relationship look like during COVID-19?

Hey Sabine, I want to start by telling you how much I empathize with you! Dating during quarantine is not only difficult to navigate because of logistics -- it is also hard because we can't see into the future and know where and when we will be when it is safe to meet with new people again. It sound...
by Alexa
Sun Jul 19, 2020 6:39 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Learning From My Cat About Trauma + Self-Worth
Replies: 6
Views: 9743

Re: Learning From My Cat About Trauma + Self-Worth

I realized that if my cat can be lovable not despite all those things he had going against him, but because of all those things, then maybe, just maybe I could potentially be good enough and lovable with my past, my flaws, and all. This is so beautiful! I'm glad your kitty helps you to see this in ...
by Alexa
Wed Jul 15, 2020 1:49 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Penis Size/Shape
Replies: 1
Views: 2458

Re: Penis Size/Shape

Hey TS_6249, It's normal for your body to change size in general! It wouldn't change size due to you not masturbating, though -- it's likely just body growth as per usual. From Not Everything You Wanted to Know about Puberty but Pretty Darn Close: Puberty most commonly starts with testicular growth....
by Alexa
Sun Jul 12, 2020 8:53 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Can’t Feel Sexual Pleasure
Replies: 26
Views: 11960

Re: Can’t Feel Sexual Pleasure

I totally get all of that. I've had similar experiences. For me, it has helped to have other "distractions" to help me feel less on the spot while having sex -- like having music on, or being able to talk to have banter with the person I'm with. That doesn't work for everyone, but it can h...
by Alexa
Sun Jul 12, 2020 8:45 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How to change timing of Yasmin pills?
Replies: 5
Views: 4784

Re: How to change timing of Yasmin pills?

Hey there,

Spotting/irregularities in your menstrual cycle when going on and off a birth control pill is totally normal, yes. It should regulate over time!
by Alexa
Sun Jul 12, 2020 7:39 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: how to get my dad to stop opening my mail?
Replies: 8
Views: 4297

Re: how to get my dad to stop opening my mail?

Great! Keep us posted if anything else comes up. <3
by Alexa
Sun Jul 12, 2020 7:34 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: My sexual life is in shambles (TMI)
Replies: 6
Views: 3666

Re: My sexual life is in shambles (TMI)

It sounds like that dream really helped you access what Sam mentioned earlier: Focusing more on connecting with and enjoying your fantasies and desires, rather than specifically on orgasm (or even masturbation) may help with addressing that mental block you feel you have. It can be really hard not t...
by Alexa
Sun Jul 12, 2020 7:04 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Tall Girl Problems
Replies: 13
Views: 4847

Re: Tall Girl Problems

I hear that. It can be really hard to envision a future for yourself in a loving relationship when you aren't shown lesbian love frequently on TV, in movies, or in the world around you. I also feel like if we've been hoping/waiting to have a relationship come along for us, it can start to feel like ...
by Alexa
Sun Jul 05, 2020 8:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 11157

Re: Sex and all the complications

I think what's helpful about knowing what terms you're comfortable with -- whether you make a literal list or not -- is being able to create and direct conversations around bodies that feel good and safe to you, and hopefully, in doing so, expand the forums in which you're able to explore and heal a...
by Alexa
Sun Jul 05, 2020 6:28 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Dating/ hookup
Replies: 6
Views: 5710

Re: Dating/ hookup

Hey Charles! I hear you. It can be hard to meet people in person -- especially now, not knowing when this pandemic will end and needing to socially distance from people we don't live with. Most dating apps have an age limit, as you probably know, and are 18+. As frustrating as this can be, it's impo...
by Alexa
Sun Jun 28, 2020 7:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Self Esteem Issues
Replies: 7
Views: 3391

Re: Self Esteem Issues

Hey theatreluvin, I'm really sorry that you're having these invasive, negative feelings about your body. We actually have this amazing lil roundup of articles and songs to help folks out of a low self-esteem rut here . I would love for you to check it out and see if anything there feels helpful. Do ...
by Alexa
Sun Jun 28, 2020 7:29 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Pregnancy scare with major anxiety.
Replies: 1
Views: 5473

Re: Pregnancy scare with major anxiety.

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Alexa
Sun Jun 28, 2020 7:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Others doubting my bisexuality
Replies: 5
Views: 2302

Re: Others doubting my bisexuality

Hey roxfoxreal, Fellow bisexual here -- I had this same experience with my own parents! :roll: It can be *so* frustrating when you can feel that people around you are invalidating your sexuality, even quietly. It makes total sense that this would upset you. I understand the temptation to compare you...
by Alexa
Sun Jun 21, 2020 6:33 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Contraceptive methods
Replies: 1
Views: 2240

Re: Contraceptive methods

Hey Alester, No worries! We are always glad to answer more questions :) It sounds like you're right on the nose. Using two kinds of contraception -- particularly when marrying a barrier method with hormonal birth control (or a non-hormonal IUD) -- is always going to be your safest bet. Have you alre...
by Alexa
Sun Jun 21, 2020 6:28 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?
Replies: 33
Views: 8168

Re: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?

Hi Sabine, It sounds like 1) the venues that you're currently using (apps, etc.) are not working well for you right now, and 2) you're talking a lot about how/whether to expand your reach using other sites and ways of engaging with folks with your parents. Since, as you've talked about with Sam, onl...

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