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- Sun Sep 02, 2018 6:32 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Concerned about impact of porn
- Replies: 5
- Views: 3808
Re: Concerned about impact of porn
Hi Lola May Welcome to the boards :) I'm glad you felt able to come to us with your questions! So let's dive in... To answer your last question first, the anatomy you're describing sounds totally normal to me. If you're getting an idea of what most vulvas look like from porn, that's about as realist...
- Sun Sep 02, 2018 6:11 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I can't get this out of my head...
- Replies: 1
- Views: 1702
Re: I can't get this out of my head...
Hey reyna, Welcome to the boards! I'm sorry that this is what brought you here. This guy sounds like a total creep and clearly and repeatedly violated your boundaries in a totally unacceptable way. I'm sorry that you had to deal with it. I can relate to that feeling of being ashamed and guilty and t...
- Fri Aug 31, 2018 4:01 am
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: My mum pretends im strait
- Replies: 1
- Views: 4253
Re: My mum pretends im strait
Hi Koro, So your social worker told your family something you'd asked to keep private - and didn't even get the facts right? I've asked around and it's normal for social workers to write reports that are shared with people like your doctor, and sometimes your family. They should also be able to keep...
- Fri Aug 31, 2018 3:38 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I feel bad about my past. I feel so bad
- Replies: 11
- Views: 7086
Re: I feel bad about my past. I feel so bad
Hi Tyler, Just so you know, you don't have to tell a teacher why you want to speak to a therapist, you can just ask them how to find someone to speak to. Also, with any therapist that you do see you can check before you open up that everything you say is confidential. I'm glad you have friends you c...
- Fri Aug 31, 2018 3:34 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Statistic Freakout
- Replies: 1
- Views: 2163
Re: Statistic Freakout
Hey Music, It sounds like you're struggling with some hard feelings around this right now, I'm sorry. I think there are two things here that are worth bearing in mind. The first is that numbers are just that, numbers. Sometimes statistics are really useful - like when you are making decisions about ...
- Fri Aug 31, 2018 3:21 am
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: Was this sexual abuse or I'm overreacting?
- Replies: 11
- Views: 9010
Re: Was this sexual abuse or I'm overreacting?
Hi Jack,
No-one gets to touch your body - especially in a sexual way - without asking. I'm sorry that this happened to you and that instead of supporting you your mum acted like it's ok - it isn't. How do you feel about this now? What do you need from us just now?
No-one gets to touch your body - especially in a sexual way - without asking. I'm sorry that this happened to you and that instead of supporting you your mum acted like it's ok - it isn't. How do you feel about this now? What do you need from us just now?
- Sun Aug 26, 2018 6:50 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Feelings for a Friend
- Replies: 1
- Views: 3819
Re: Feelings for a Friend
Hey sugar23 I'm sorry you're feeling so conflicted! It sounds like you really value the friendship of this person, and I get how hard it can be when you want more and the other person might not. I say might not because there are a couple of things here that make me cautious. Firstly, the fact that h...
- Sun Aug 26, 2018 6:21 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Confusion™
- Replies: 1
- Views: 2465
Re: Confusion™
Hi curiouskitten, I'm so excited for you that you've met someone that you feel you are really compatible with and have a lot of chemistry together with! I get that when you become interested in someone new, who doesn't identify in the same ways as your previous partners, it can take a while to figur...
- Sun Aug 26, 2018 3:07 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Is it an orgasm?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 2948
Re: Is it an orgasm?
Hi Lia, I'm going to paste what Heather said in response to (I assume) this question in another thread: Hey there, Lia. I'm sorry you're feeling so frustrated! For sure, orgasm can be much milder than expected sometimes, or in general. But when you kept talking about how you have tried everything, s...
- Sat Aug 11, 2018 2:31 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Feeling Weird After Sex
- Replies: 7
- Views: 3237
Re: Feeling Weird After Sex
hi Jacob895 Welcome to the boards. I can't give you an easy answer to why you feel the way you do - our emotions are complicated things - but we can talk about them a bit and see if we can understand them a bit more. When you say you feel guilt, what do you think you feel guilty about? Same with the...
- Sat Aug 11, 2018 2:17 am
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: Is this rape? Assault? Overeaction?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 4079
Re: Is this rape? Assault? Overeaction?
Hi lionelcat I'm so sorry that this happened to you. It definitely wasn't your fault. What your describing fits the definitions of rape and sexual assault - you weren't given the opportunity to truly consent, you were ignored when you said no both verbally and with your body language and you were ex...
- Sat Aug 11, 2018 2:04 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Coping with monogamy as a bisexual polyamorist
- Replies: 9
- Views: 4375
Re: Coping with monogamy as a bisexual polyamorist
Hi ILoveHelloKitty, I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling with this in your relationship. It's normal to experience attraction to people outside your relationship, whether it is monogamous or not. Being a good partner though means that we stick to the boundaries we have agreed in our relationship...
- Sat Aug 11, 2018 1:36 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: SCARED ABOUT STI
- Replies: 9
- Views: 3384
Re: SCARED ABOUT STI
hi Angel2018 Have you looked at this article? Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That? It tells you about the levels of risk from different activities. Of course, using barriers or doing those activities who have been tested appropriately reduces those risks. Generally, when making th...
- Sat Aug 11, 2018 1:14 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Friend Breakup
- Replies: 6
- Views: 5470
Re: Friend Breakup
Hi Laima, I'm sorry things have become strained between you and L. I can't tell you whether to try and rekindle your friendship or let it go, because I'm not you, and only you know how you feel about that and how important it is to you. Let's think about both options then: Firstly, it's sad but some...
- Fri Aug 10, 2018 3:12 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Ocular herpes?
- Replies: 5
- Views: 2751
Re: Ocular herpes?
hi aj2234, Again, your doctor is the person who can answer these questions for you. I wonder if your questioning the accuracy of blood tests is linked to the anxious feelings you mentioned in your other post? Also, can you tell me what it is about the prospect of a HSV infection that you find so dis...
- Fri Aug 10, 2018 2:56 am
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: Infection in vaginal canal?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 3210
Re: Infection in vaginal canal?
hi sonatine, This sounds like thick vaginal discharge from what you're describing. Vaginal discharge changes can vary in colour and consistency, and can sometimes be quite thick and white/cream, kind of like paste and that's nothing to worry about. If, however, it's more chunky that can be a sign of...
- Fri Aug 10, 2018 2:38 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Bathroom issue
- Replies: 6
- Views: 3473
Re: Bathroom issue
I'm glad you've found a psychologist that seems to be working well for you! Recognising that this is something that you struggle with and taking steps to work on that is an important, brave thing to do.
- Fri Aug 10, 2018 2:08 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Kyleena Bleeding Patterns
- Replies: 1
- Views: 1438
Re: Kyleena Bleeding Patterns
Hi gatesy, I see you've had worries about this before, and you know that because IUD's can change or stop our periods the way we know we are protected is because they are SO effective. Here, The Buddy System: Effectiveness Rates for Backing Up Your Birth Control With a Second Method , we give the ef...
- Sun Aug 05, 2018 8:57 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Asexuality and arousal
- Replies: 6
- Views: 2493
Re: Asexuality and arousal
I'm so glad you've found us and it's helpful to you! Thanks for the compliment <3
Is there anything more you wanted to ask us just now? We're all ears.
Is there anything more you wanted to ask us just now? We're all ears.
- Sun Aug 05, 2018 8:55 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Preferring to date people your age
- Replies: 7
- Views: 4640
Re: Preferring to date people your age
Hi Hellocupcake, It sounds like you've had some rough conversations around this - I'm sorry! I definitely don't agree that wanting to date people your own age is somehow related to being "held back". In fact, it sounds sensible, healthy and fun to me! Often we are able to connect well with...
Re: hey
I meant any kind of direct stimulation to the genitals.
- Sun Aug 05, 2018 8:41 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Sex with my Girlfriend
- Replies: 1
- Views: 3133
Re: Sex with my Girlfriend
Hi LilDonut21, Welcome to the boards. I wonder what you mean when you ask if these things are an issue? If you mean "is it ok that you like these things?" then yes! Plenty of people have fantasies that they wouldn't act out in reality, and plenty of people enjoy stimulation of their prosta...
- Sun Aug 05, 2018 8:26 am
- Forum: Sexual Health
- Topic: Birth Control + Taking Other Medicines?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 3113
Re: Birth Control + Taking Other Medicines?
Hi backpackergirl! Usually when prescribing any medication a doctor will ask you if you're taking anything else so they can figure out if there might be any interactions - did you mention the minipill to the healthcare provider you got the laxative from? If you did, and they said it was ok then you ...
- Fri Aug 03, 2018 4:54 am
- Forum: Et Cetera
- Topic: What's your favourite Scarleteen article?
- Replies: 7
- Views: 6698
Re: What's your favourite Scarleteen article?
Depending on how I'm feeling it's You Cannot Become Pregnant When You Have Pants On , because there are times when we all need some straight talk or An Immodest Proposal because I read it once, years and years ago and always remembered and wanted to read it again, because the difference between the ...
- Fri Aug 03, 2018 3:36 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Girlfriend finds it very difficult to climax
- Replies: 10
- Views: 5141
Re: Girlfriend finds it very difficult to climax
Hi wantingtoplease, It sounds like you're feeling a lot of pressure right now. You're right, many people find clitoral stimulation more satisfying than entry, but that doesn't mean that it's what EVERYONE with a vulva is into so if your girlfriend is telling you it isn't her thing she's the best pla...