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by Sofi
Tue Nov 03, 2020 2:34 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 3620

Re: Sexual outlets

Hey BuddyBoi21, I first want to take a moment to validate what you're feeling with everything being a shitshow and whatnot. Spend some time today and this week doing some self care if you can. Fortunately, one of the things I recommend in a self care package is masturbation, so yay, two for two! I'm...
by Sofi
Wed Oct 28, 2020 4:02 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is there a good way to stay happy when people around me aren't?
Replies: 3
Views: 693

Re: Is there a good way to stay happy when people around me aren't?

That's great to hear. I can relate to having to spend less time online to be happier overall, especially certain social media sites I know have too much negativity for me. I really hope the walks help too!
by Sofi
Wed Oct 28, 2020 3:58 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Exploring sexuality respectfully
Replies: 7
Views: 1195

Re: Exploring sexuality respectfully

So, the dilemma you're facing is actually not rare. Something helpful I learned in a Ethics of Sex college course was looking at sexual fantasies using consequentialism. If you're not familiar with it, consequentialism is basically an ethical/moral philosophy theory that determines whether something...
by Sofi
Fri Oct 23, 2020 12:38 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anxiety and fears
Replies: 31
Views: 5056

Re: Anxiety and fears

That's great to hear, I think it will be really good to talk to her about it. I understand you're uneasy, but I promise, you cannot get pregnant through clothes if one or both people's clothing completely covers their genitals.
by Sofi
Thu Oct 22, 2020 7:36 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: I need binding and packing advice
Replies: 13
Views: 1355

Re: I need binding and packing advice

Ah, I hear you and that makes sense. No worries about the scents, it's not something everyone has an attachment to, but maybe there's something else - and no pressure to figure it out right now and/or tell us, it's just for you to think about if you feel it might be helpful. As for the discord serve...
by Sofi
Thu Oct 22, 2020 6:09 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Discharge
Replies: 1
Views: 630

Re: Discharge

Hi, everything you are describing sounds normal! If the discharge is white or clear, as long as it isn't chunky (like cottage cheese chunky), you're totally fine. Discharge happens before, after, and between periods - basically at all times that you're not bleeding, you might have discharge. This ar...
by Sofi
Tue Oct 20, 2020 3:12 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Dysphoria getting worse, I don't know what to do
Replies: 5
Views: 1340

Re: Dysphoria getting worse, I don't know what to do

Hi Sky, I'm sorry you're dealing with dysphoria, I know it can be really difficult. This is definitely a good place to come to as we're always here for you. That being said, there are outside resources we can refer you to for further help such as, for example, a mental health provider. Let me know i...
by Sofi
Fri Oct 16, 2020 11:13 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Validation of Trauma and Intuition
Replies: 6
Views: 1048

Re: Validation of Trauma and Intuition

I think that is a good start as far as a safety plan, and it's super important having people who know us well enough to know when something is off. It can be hard to realize it ourselves in the moment, but an outside perspective is often what we need in situations where our mental health isn't doing...
by Sofi
Tue Oct 13, 2020 4:16 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Winter is coming...so date ideas?
Replies: 5
Views: 1005

Re: Winter is coming...so date ideas?

I'm glad to hear you've had all those options, but I can see how the cold weather is going to intervene with them. Unfortunately this is a tough time for dating, and a lot of us are forced into spending more time with our partners through phone or video calls. I know it's not what anyone wants to he...
by Sofi
Mon Oct 12, 2020 5:10 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I'm worried about romantic attraction.
Replies: 12
Views: 1423

Re: I'm worried about romantic attraction.

That doesn't sound silly or petty at all, it sounds perfectly normal. Most people want companionship and emotional closeness, not always in a romantic way, it could be more platonic. However it sounds like you do want romantic love. It's also okay for you not to be sure! Take time to explore this, p...
by Sofi
Wed Oct 07, 2020 11:40 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: I'm having trouble not feeling guilt about my gender.
Replies: 15
Views: 1764

Re: I'm having trouble not feeling guilt about my gender.

First of all, I want to say that the way you feel about this situation is completely valid and I'm so sorry you went through it. It is never okay to cross someone's boundaries and describe sexual encounters or scenarios with someone who didn't consent to it, especially if this person knew you aren't...
by Sofi
Tue Oct 06, 2020 11:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: 21 minutes late on the first combined birth control pill of the month
Replies: 3
Views: 582

Re: 21 minutes late on the first combined birth control pill of the month

Hi MigueLMichaeL, If she has been consistently taking the pill at the same time every day but was 20 minutes late this once, you shouldn't worry. 20 minutes is still a safe time frame. That being said, we have suggested you start using condoms as a backup (on top of your girlfriend taking the pill)....

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