Hi Zoinkscoob, There can be a few reasons why sex is painful. You mention using lube, which is great. Are you also aroused and not tense when having sex? Or do any of the explanations here sound like they might apply? From OW! to WOW! Demystifying Painful Intercourse As for your discharge questions,...

It can occur, as sometimes ovulation isn't suppressed during a specific cycle. That's why the pill is designed to work in three ways, so that if ovulation does happen you still have the other two ways keeping you from getting pregnant.

Got it. In that case, I'd suggest planning on the focus of you next session being addressing this issue, since it's clearly causing you a lot of stress. In the mean time, doing some self-care might mitigate some of what you're feeling: Self-Care a La Carte If your tracker is only asking for dates, t...

Hi Angeldelight,

If you're still seeing your therapist, have the two of you made any progress on identifying and addressing the underlying causes of this anxiety? Also, does you period tracker have you measuring things like body temperature and cervical mucus?

I think that depends on what you'd hope to get out of bringing it up with her. For instance, if you want to let her know that you get where she's coming from, you could bring it up and preface it with that. That would give her some idea of where you're coming from, and could head off some of the rea...

It's been a year since the Pulse shooting, and all the discussion around it in the next few days may bring up some tough feelings for people. This is a space to vent and support each other around those feelings.

Hi Mw2525, A little cycle variation is normal, and there are lots of reasons why a period could be a few days late (although if you're expecting it today and it hasn't come and instead comes tomorrow or the next day, it barely counts as late). You can read about those here: M.I.A or, Dude, Where's M...

Got it. The most succinct description I've found come from Our Bodies, Ourselves under the heading of benign cervical conditions. "Cervical eversion (also called ectropion) occurs when the kind of tissue that lines the cervical canal grows on the outer vaginal part of the cervix, making it red,...

It sounds like a next step is for you to talk to him about how you're feeling. That might feel daunting, but if you talk with him about what's going on you two may be able to address some of the things making you feel insecure. I'd add that, since he sounds like he cares about you, he likely wants t...

To start out with, how much information about it did your healthcare provider give you?

That sounds like a tough time to have gone through. With your concerns, I'd suggest bringing them up when you visit the doctor. If it's more important to you to not have to go through another meds adjustment than to possibly reset your cycle, that's something your healthcare provider should know and...

I can't tell you how glad I am that you'll be talking to a counselor. That kind of support can be really helpful when you're dealing with situations like this, and hopefully they'll be a space where you feel supported. It sounds like you've thought through a lot of your options (and that you're alre...

I totally get where you're coming from. I'm not sure it's so much a function of heteronormativity as it is a cultural tendency to assume there's one, specific set of traits that are the hottest and that physical attraction is the driving force of how people choose who to date and who to sleep with. ...

Hi gatesy,

We can't say for certain what caused it, but it was likely that either during sex or during masturbation that you inserted something that bumped into your cervix enough to cause this.

Hi Chuchita, You're not actually doing anything wrong, and plenty of people have been in this situation before you. It sounds like you think your boyfriend is a great guy. It also sounds a little like you're dating him because you feel like you should, and not necessarily because you feel a lot of a...

Hi Mountainhome, If you think there's a chance that your parents would hurt you or otherwise severely punish you if they found out, then the safest thing to do is to not tell. It's not immoral to keep yourself safe (I'd argue it's not immoral to not tell your parents everything either). Your parents...

Hi anonymousgir, My first piece of advice is, when you masturbate,to focus less on orgasm and more on figuring out what feels pleasurable to your body. When you put a lot of pressure on yourself to climax, it can actually make it harder to do so because you get stressed out about not orgasming, whic...

Hi TooWorry, We can't really predict when your period will arrive, because cycles can vary from month to month in ways you can't always predict. How long have you been tracking your period for? And would you like information on how to track it in the most accurate way possible? Even if you were ovul...

We can't really pick a person for you to decide you want to pursue a relationship with. That sort of feeling arises organically from getting to know other people. Something we can help with is brainstorming ways for you to meet new people (since it doesn't sound like there's anyone you're interested...

A blog reflecting on grief, loss, and community for the one year anniversary of the pulse shooting: http://www.scarleteen.com/blog/sam_w/pu ... year_after

That sounds like a difficult thing to discover. How are you doing?

As to your original question, what kind of help are you looking for from us?

Hi Babe101,

From your previous posts it looks like you do have a sexual relationship with your boyfriend, as the two of you are engaging in some sexual behavior. A you referring to a specific kind of sex?

Yes, if you do not see the substance you're concerned about listed, that generally means it is not cause for concern. However, if you want to double-check, your best bet is to call your pharmacist and ask them if you need to worry about the interactions between the two.

Hi cj,

You can read about what does and does not effect your birth control here: Something You Can Worry About Less: Interference and Hormonal Birth Control

Hi treehugger,

To add on to the writ3r's excellent advice, this article might give you a starting point to help think about what terms, if any, feel like they apply to you: The Rainbow Connection: Orientation for Everyone