We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...

Posted in this thread October of last year, but feels equally relevant now. Glad it's still going :) - I am currently visiting the college that I went to. There are open lap swim hours in their huge (and deep!) pool and often it's pretty empty. I'm used to swimming laps in a small (shallow) pool wit...

Hey Kreed, Glad you came back to the boards. Hope it's okay that I'm jumping in. I want to repeat what Heather said, in even clearer terms: We are very worried about you surviving while in a relationship or in contact with this person. As you have seen, abuse escalates. Which means that the abuse yo...

Hey gardenGnostic, What's the parental mandate you referenced? And when you say you've been known to "intentionally confuse him" what do you mean by that? Also, are you willing to share more about the ground rule that you set that he kept doing in secret? Lots of questions! Thanks for bear...

Hey Beca_cps, Welcome to the boards! :) I would suggest that you give the doctor's office a call and let them know what forms of contact will work for you. This shouldn't be anything new to them--since health information is quite personal, plenty of people want to make sure their communications with...

Hey AndrogynousPunk, Welcome back! Nice to have you :) Sounds like you've been doing a lot of reflection and are wanting to take some new steps with your gender expression and body. Congratulations! That's great that you are feeling grounded in what feels best to you, what you want to try, what you ...

Hey LB, Welcome to the boards :) We aren't able to diagnose your symptoms over the computer, so your best bet is to give your gynecologist or other healthcare provider a call and set up an appointment. They should be able to answer your questions! Do you feel able to do that? (One thought: It's poss...

Hey ArzineusYuki, Hope it's ok I'm jumping in here. I'm mostly going to second the great advice that thewrit3r gave. As I read your first post I noticed how much obsessive anxiety you are experiencing--this coming from someone else who is very at home with obsessive anxiety :) For some people, confe...

Hi Ella, Welcome to the boards! I'm so glad you found us here :) I want to be honest with you--I am feeling really not good about this situation that you have described. Given that you called it "risky," and decided to ask about it on the boards to begin with, my guess is that your gut is ...

Hey gardengnostic, Welcome to the boards! :) It's often easier and can be more helpful to talk about subjects in regards to specific personal situations rather than in the abstract. So I am wondering: Is your question about sexual abuse and communication based in an experience(s) you've had? What ab...

Hi kai_ros, Welcome to the boards! I second what Arasia wrote. I'm glad you also found it helpful :) Thank you Arasia! In addition to all the great things Arasia shared, I'll add a bit more. I definitely resonate with a lot what you brought up, and I know lots of others do too! A few ideas that may ...

Hey JackHamilton, In terms what trans groups might be a good fit for you, given that you are 23 I don't think children's groups are an option. My guess is, even if you were able to go, you would realize it actually wasn't a great fit for you. Even though you may share similar interests or mannerisms...

Hey JackHamilton,

I will share a link to that article in your other thread.

Oh I'm so glad! We're here if another question or concern comes up

Hey! Sounds like cancelling the movie date and stepping away from this relationship is a good plan. I'm sorry you're feeling bad as you reflect on all this :( You said you feel silly for not realizing sooner that you would be better off not involved with him--you are not alone! I have definitely fel...

Hey Tommy, Tommy, Given that you were not on school property *and* were not breaking any school rules I cannot imagine what action they could legally take against you. My guess is the dad brought it up with the school because he was feeling angry and it helped him feel like he was "doing someth...

Hey Jess99, Hope it's ok I'm jumping in. I want to make sure I understand everything you've said, thanks for bearing with me! On Friday you had this sexual experience with a coworker which brought back flashbacks and feeling numb. Then on Saturday you met up with another person, decided to start a r...

Hey jerd_herley, When you say you'd feel really bad do you mean because you feel like you'd be hurting his feelings? Or because it's not what you want to do? If you're saying you'd feel bad because you want to go see a movie together, and then take space, then it sounds like you should keep the plan...

Hi Neatoburrito, I am so sorry to hear about your break-up :( I am hearing that you have become suicidal since the break-up. Suicidal feelings or impulses are very serious things. While we are able to talk with you about navigating break-ups, we are not equipped with the proper resources to handle s...

Hey Lolools, It sounds like you're saying you think your friend is feeling sexually and/or romantically interested in you, and this was her way of flirting? The only way of knowing for sure what she is thinking and and what she is wanting is by talking to her, so I'd suggest that as a next step! But...

Oooo great question Sam! I loved reading everyone's responses. Not personally feeling up for going in-detail about my pubic hair in this moment, but I have strong feelings about my arm hand leg foot mustache and armpit hair that I'm very up for sharing! I am naturally quite a hairy person, and have ...

Hey fruit13, Welcome to the boards! There's a bunch of things you brought up that I want to respond to :) It's important to remember that people have VERY strong opinions about pornography, and a lot of the writing out there has a certain agenda behind it (i.e. pro-pornography or anti-pornography). ...

Hey Charismakween, Welcome to the boards :) Your post was not too long at all! That's what we're here for. There are a bunch of things you brought up that I want to respond to :) First, one of the main ways that people with vulvas/vaginas masturbate is by stimulating their clitoris. Most people with...

Hey Hisfave, We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your t...

Hey Amethyst, I was one of those people voicing appreciation for how thoughtful & reflective you clearly are, and for being considerate about Scarleteen's policies :) As I said before, and will probably say every post, this is a tricky and weighted subject, so it can be hard for me to write conc...