I'd like to add a really common piece of advice for discussing things like this: phrase things in terms of your own feelings, not as accusations towards her. "I statements." I think you've got this down, actually. ("I need more alone time, and that I cannot always be her constant sour...

Five years ago I was 15, almost 16, a sophomore in high school. Probably my greatest fear at the time was failing my test to get my learner's permit, actually learning to drive a car (I was terrified I would crash), and taking my road test to get my license. None of this turned out to be any problem...

The first that comes to mind is one from my dark period a couple years ago: Fade, by Staind. It puts to words and music the feeling of not having anywhere to let your emotions out because no one will listen. And there's a little positivity in there too. (Of course what I was upset about was a guy no...

Hmm. I don't think I really can separate out romantic love in terms of taking a risk. The way I see it, any time I open up to someone or are vulnerable around them, it's an emotional risk. And of course this is "worth it", because the only other options would be completely isolating myself...

Oh, and the other thing that annoyed me on notalwaysromantic (as I was reminded by the new, similar story I just read) was the one where a woman basically congratulates a guy on his penis size. I have honestly not seen half as much judgment or discussion of breast size in my life as I have of penis ...

Totally meant to post about that one. :shock: Except I think it was during the site change. But yeah, ugh. (And totally not a thing I would have expected from that family of sites, which so often features stories about acceptance, or outrage about non-acceptance, of others' religion or lack thereof/...

You could tell her first off that you want to say something that's hard for you to say, so you're going to read something you wrote earlier. *can't find a smiley that's encouraging but doesn't look like it's laughing at you*

One that's really been annoying me lately is how commonly you see things like "when I met you I realized that I had never really been in love before", or "I had all these past relationships but they meant nothing because now I found this person". Rarely if ever do I see people sa...

It would effectively be the same as a man on top of a woman during intercourse holding her down and physically preventing her from getting up. If the person being restricted didn't like it but didn't show that or say anything about it, then from their point of view it would be assault, while the oth...

My garbage of the day came in a post of responses to a visual joke about "loose" vaginas. Most of these were awesome, accurate, and called out the falseness and slut-shaming implications of the joke. Yay, excellent! But then there were the remarks (some of them in the same responses as the...

My personal experience is with tumblr, but it applies to all social media-- there are the posts with awesome information and/or activism, and then there is the nonsense, and the junk. Unfortunately, the junk is often just as elegantly and concisely worded as the good stuff, causing it to get shared ...

Hey, Lyric, I just wanted to jump in and check something with you. Did you tell your boyfriend that this is something that scares you and that you don't like it (not just that it's a thing that happens)? If not, I would totally recommend that you do so that, like Sam said, you can work out some way ...

And that reminds me of http://www.seaquence.org/ , which lets you create little buggy critters that swim around playing notes. You can adjust how high or low the notes are, how many critters you have, and various other stuff to make a little musical pool. Like Weave Silk and This is Sand (I haven't ...

Ooh, pretty! That reminds me, there's also http://thisissand.com/ , which is like filling bottles with sand except that you have your whole screen to fill! You can choose a single color or a gradient, and change colors as much as you want. As a bonus, the sound of the falling sand reminds me of ocea...

Hey, Naya, can you clarify something? The question you're asking is about how you can not be anxious and just enjoy a certain kind of sex, but if I understand you right, you said you actually don't like being aggressive or being on top. Do I have that right?

I think what Ruth was pointing out is that the rest of the article doesn't include any genders at all. Do you also feel like that part only applies to relationships where the female is younger?

I'm going to quote my boyfriend here: "What makes a relationship good isn't codified in some book somewhere as 15% flirty conversation and 35% dates and blah blah blah. It's whatever it takes to make both people happy." In other words, the "right amount" of conversation for this ...

Another good one is to look up landscape pictures on 500px, Flickr, Tumblr, or any other photo site. It's very relaxing to imagine yourself being somewhere beautiful.

Hey moonlight! As mentioned above, LARPing was actually a half truth. It stands for Live Action Roleplay. So it's sorta like a Dungeons and Dragons type of thing, except that instead of just saying, say, "I leap into the room and put the guard in a headlock," you say that and you actually ...

You are correct about which was the lie, and correct that it was a half-truth! Actually, I did start LARPing this summer, but I don't really have a talent for it-- I'm rather shy and hesitant at stuff like improv. I've stuck with it and I'm getting better, though. To explain the rest (because why no...

Ah, a half-truth! One of the tricks to this game. I just really wanted Fuzzbutt to be true, so glad to hear it is.

SilentDragon: Instrumental rock music?

Here's my list:
I once won a state-level vocabulary competition
This summer, I discovered a talent for LARPing
I own a book signed by my favorite astronaut

Puzzle-type games are great distractions! Right now on my phone I have Buttons and Scissors, 2048, Dropwords, and Flood It. Also, I like to write, so if I'm trying to get something done or distract myself (or both) I'll set a timer for five minutes and try to write as constantly as I can. When the t...

You know, it's interesting... I never really parsed "man up" as a gender thing. I guess I always saw it the same way as "grow up", i.e., pull yourself together and behave like an adult. Obviously, "to try and coerce people to behave in ways they want by [way of negative insi...

There was a topic kind of like this on the old boards! Here's what I put there: * Having someone care about things you're interested in, even subjects that wouldn't interest them otherwise * Seeing someone make an effort to get along with, or at least tolerate, the other people you are close to * Be...