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by Heather
Sun May 09, 2021 10:20 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Is expired lube safe.
Replies: 4
Views: 3070

Re: Is expired lube safe.

How expired is expired in this case? Six months? Five years? Does it smell? Does it look okay?
by Heather
Sun May 09, 2021 10:19 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Genderflux, but my family is anti-enby
Replies: 13
Views: 4800

Re: Genderflux, but my family is anti-enby

Hey there, nerd. I just wanted to come in today to give you some solidarity, especially...well, today. I'm 51. I left my Mom's house when I was 15, and stopped living with my Dad at 19, but I've had to support him and have him live with me sometimes a few different times in my life. But I've been on...
by Heather
Sun May 09, 2021 10:01 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: my guilt is eating me up alive
Replies: 25
Views: 6258

Re: my guilt is eating me up alive

Hey there, haikyufan. I really think that this sounds like a level of guilt that is so severe, pervasive, and intrusive, and so misaligned with what it's attached to (in this case, situations where your partner is assuring you that they do not feel violations have occurred) that we are not the right...
by Heather
Sat May 08, 2021 8:01 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Minors & Sex
Replies: 8
Views: 4133

Re: Minors & Sex

Can I ask in what capacity/role you were hired to work with the younger sister? Do you have a supervisor or supervising agency for *that* job? If so, that is who I would report this to. Either way, if you are in their home as a social worker, regardless of who you are there to see, I do think you ar...
by Heather
Sat May 08, 2021 7:51 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Regretting a threesome with my boyfriend
Replies: 14
Views: 15176

Re: Regretting a threesome with my boyfriend

Hey there, Chanelle. I'm sorry that this went this way for you. Unfortunately, sometimes when we try new sexual things, they don't always go as we want or expect. Threesomes are something where I'd say that people can often particularly have expectations that often don't match up to reality, especia...
by Heather
Sat May 08, 2021 7:43 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Loosing V Card (white Hymen)
Replies: 5
Views: 3869

Re: Loosing V Card (white Hymen)

Hey there, Tinkerbell. So, the hymen is actually not right at the opening, but rather, usually inside the opening. And when you can see any of what's left of it -- by the time someone's having sex, it usually will be pretty hard to distinguish from the vaginal opening because much of it will have wo...
by Heather
Sat May 08, 2021 7:37 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Struggling to keep my weight gain fantasies under control
Replies: 16
Views: 8266

Re: Struggling to keep my weight gain fantasies under control

You're welcome! It just sounds like this is getting outside both our abilities here, but more, outside what this medium offers. I think that what you need here is probably going to be way better delivered in a more private setting at the very least, you know? Both when it comes to the matter of othe...
by Heather
Fri May 07, 2021 12:11 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: which penis piercing makes vaginal and anal sex feel the best
Replies: 4
Views: 3565

Re: which penis piercing makes vaginal and anal sex feel the best

So, “stimulation” is a word that just means we feel a thing. By all means, a piercing in a place where someone can feel it will generally result in someone feeling a thing, or being stimulated. However, whether or not a person *likes* that kind of stimulation is all over the map. Make sense?
by Heather
Fri May 07, 2021 6:54 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Struggling to keep my weight gain fantasies under control
Replies: 16
Views: 8266

Re: Struggling to keep my weight gain fantasies under control

I appreciate you trusting me to share all of this, belled. I'm so sorry there's so much fear wrapped up in all of this for you in so many ways. You know, to me, this is starting to sound like mental health professional territory in a few ways; like you'd be much better served by someone with that tr...
by Heather
Thu May 06, 2021 10:13 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: which penis piercing makes vaginal and anal sex feel the best
Replies: 4
Views: 3565

Re: which penis piercing makes vaginal and anal sex feel the best

There's no such thing as anything -- not a piercing, not a kind of sex, not an anything -- that makes sex feel best for everyone, because what feels good for people varies much, much too much, even for people who have the same genitals, gender identity or other body parts. Some people won't find gen...
by Heather
Thu May 06, 2021 10:01 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Minors & Sex
Replies: 8
Views: 4133

Re: Minors & Sex

Certainly. I'm still not clear what capacity you're seeing this young person in, but if it's in any of these -- m -- I'm afraid that you may be mandated to report here. At the very least, if you have a supervisor or supervising agency, I'd be sure to fill them in on all of this. It seems to me that ...
by Heather
Thu May 06, 2021 8:54 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Minors & Sex
Replies: 8
Views: 4133

Re: Minors & Sex

I just want to add in that I think it's important you let her know that from a legal standpoint, SHE is also engaging in felonies as well, I'm afraid, by *herself* making, possessing and distributing child pornography. That is how these laws are set up and view it, however ridiculous that may seem (...
by Heather
Thu May 06, 2021 8:48 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Struggling to keep my weight gain fantasies under control
Replies: 16
Views: 8266

Re: Struggling to keep my weight gain fantasies under control

Hey there, belled. Good to see you again. I see two prongs to this conversation: 1) making sure that you're not engaging in thinking or behavior that endangers your health in some way, that isn't in some way disordered (and I don't mean because you think it's sexy to be fat -- there's nothing the ma...
by Heather
Wed May 05, 2021 1:21 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Bottom growth
Replies: 1
Views: 2598

Re: Bottom growth

Beyond what T itself will do, you mean? If so, nope. Besides just taking care of your general health so the T can do its job and your circulation stays good, there isn’t.

It does tend to happen for most folks pretty fast on T, though.
by Heather
Tue May 04, 2021 9:12 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: changes on t
Replies: 1
Views: 1897

Re: changes on t

Hey there, phantomdog. I'm glad that you were able to get on T as you wanted and that it's so far been so positive for you! HUZZAH! (I really need to get The Great outta my head.) That discharge won't be about ejaculate, that's not a thing in the way that it sounds like you're thinking. However -- j...
by Heather
Mon May 03, 2021 10:22 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: my guilt is eating me up alive
Replies: 25
Views: 6258

Re: my guilt is eating me up alive

Sure thing. I hope you can start feeling better about it soon. It sounds like this has just been really activating for you when it comes to your trauma. <3
by Heather
Mon May 03, 2021 10:03 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: my guilt is eating me up alive
Replies: 25
Views: 6258

Re: my guilt is eating me up alive

Hey there, haikyufan. It sounds to me like in order to do that, you might have to figure out where it's really coming from. He's been very clear with you that it was NOT a boundary violation on his part. Just because something might feel weird sometimes doesn't mean a boundary has been crossed, by t...
by Heather
Thu Apr 29, 2021 11:33 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sperm Survivability in Period
Replies: 4
Views: 1585

Re: Sperm Survivability in Period

Bodies can certainly do weird things sometimes, but that would be pretty hard for a body to pull off, since it'd effectively be asking it to have been doing two opposing things hormonally for most of a cycle at the same time, you know?
by Heather
Wed Apr 28, 2021 1:56 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Irrational semen fears (long)
Replies: 4
Views: 1960

Re: Irrational semen fears (long)

Hey there, Dreamlore. I just was coming through and catching up with the boards, and I wanted to respond toi something you said here about you being a real freak. You're not, you know. I mean, not in the derogatory sense ( I can't speak for your positive freakitude!). Not in the sense that this is s...
by Heather
Tue Apr 27, 2021 9:35 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sperm Survivability in Period
Replies: 4
Views: 1585

Re: Sperm Survivability in Period

Hey there, Rhea. I'm not sure I understand what you're asking. Are you asking how sperm cells that are deposited into the vagina could stay hanging around in the vagina or inside the cervix during a menstrual period? If so, then the answer as I understand it is that it wouldn't be all that likely, g...
by Heather
Tue Apr 20, 2021 9:25 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How effective is sperm/semen outside the body?
Replies: 12
Views: 2638

Re: How effective is sperm/semen outside the body?

Yep, that works just the same as handwashing does. <3
by Heather
Wed Apr 14, 2021 11:07 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 22
Views: 3241

Re: Exclusivity?

<3
by Heather
Tue Apr 13, 2021 12:00 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Higher sex drive causes?
Replies: 8
Views: 2557

Re: Higher sex drive causes?

By the way, I just wanted to pop in and say one brief thing to kind of sum all this up which is to make clear that even the idea that there are "causes" for you having greater or more frequent desire than a partner is, itself, kind of a busted idea that probably comes from some misapprehen...
by Heather
Tue Apr 13, 2021 11:28 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Casual sex as a virgin
Replies: 9
Views: 1002

Re: Casual sex as a virgin

I'm not sure I understand what you're asking for exactly! Can you be a little more clear about what it is you want resources for? What's the "this" that what folks have provided resources for so far haven't addressed? :)
by Heather
Tue Apr 13, 2021 10:16 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 22
Views: 3241

Re: Exclusivity?

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