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by Mo
Mon Sep 19, 2022 3:23 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: HSV1 question
Replies: 1
Views: 2167

Re: HSV1 question

Hi Dannie,
I know I addressed this question for you in chat, but if you have any further questions or follow-ups, feel free to let us know. :)
by Mo
Fri Sep 16, 2022 4:01 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Did I fall foul of misinformation?
Replies: 20
Views: 2282

Re: Did I fall foul of misinformation?

My understanding is that HPV transmission through manual sex is unlikely, but not impossible. We really can't know the STI status of this guy, and even if he did have HPV that doesn't mean you would have contracted it. Ultimately this isn't something we can know for sure, and I know that's stressful...
by Mo
Tue Sep 13, 2022 5:08 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: my girl bestfriend
Replies: 1
Views: 1270

Re: my girl bestfriend

Hi there euphoria.

Is this the same friend you've mentioned a few times on here before? I know you'd mentioned in a previous post that you worried the two of you were drifting apart. Are you still feeling that way? And is it something you've talked with her about since the last time you posted here?
by Mo
Fri Sep 09, 2022 4:14 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What would you tell your past self about sex?
Replies: 4
Views: 2828

What would you tell your past self about sex?

Sometimes I wish I could open up a little portal to the past and send my younger self a letter with some information I wish I'd known or thought about when it comes to sex and relationships. What sort of thing would you choose to say, if you had that ability? There are two main things I'd want to te...
by Mo
Tue Sep 06, 2022 2:50 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: frustrated
Replies: 3
Views: 1707

Re: frustrated

Carly has a good point in your other thread that feelings of frustration generally put a huge damper on things, and make orgasm pretty difficult, so if you find yourself getting frustrated during masturbation, I think it may be helpful to decide at that point to stop and do something else for a bit....
by Mo
Tue Sep 06, 2022 2:24 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Any tips for developing a crush on someone?
Replies: 5
Views: 2951

Re: Any tips for developing a crush on someone?

Hi there Dennis91, and welcome to Scarleteen. We really can't give you tips on this, sadly! Developing feelings of attraction for someone else is one of those things that people tend to do at their own pace. Some folks develop feelings very quickly and easily, and for others it takes longer. I will ...
by Mo
Mon Sep 05, 2022 3:48 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Am I bisexual or just a lesbian struggling with comphet?
Replies: 6
Views: 4668

Re: Am I bisexual or just a lesbian struggling with comphet?

It's really interesting to see you say you're into the idea of this guy being a man due to how that fits in better with the sort of couple-y stuff you see out in the world. I pretty often hear young women say (both in talking with folks here at Scarleteen and in my own personal life) that it took th...
by Mo
Mon Aug 29, 2022 4:44 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: am I edging myself?
Replies: 7
Views: 2795

Re: am I edging myself?

I think forcing yourself isn't likely to feel great, but it could be something to think about, when you get that impulse to pull the vibrator away. Not to make yourself keep going, but maybe to experiment with waiting a few more seconds to stop, even, or just to evaluate how you're feeling in that m...
by Mo
Mon Aug 29, 2022 4:36 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Friends and mental illness
Replies: 13
Views: 3841

Re: Friends and mental illness

This might feel more like asking for accommodations than you're comfortable with, so apologies if that's the case, but there are times when I've found it helpful to say something that doesn't go into any real detail about my situation but sets some sort of expectation for the social time I'm going t...
by Mo
Fri Aug 26, 2022 4:30 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Stressed about sex
Replies: 1
Views: 2879

Re: Stressed about sex

Hi Miracle, and welcome to Scarleteen. The big thing that jumps out at me here is that it sounds like you have a lot of things you feel worried or anxious about, when it comes to figuring out where things stand with this guy or being sexual with him. It might be helpful to think about taking this al...
by Mo
Fri Aug 26, 2022 3:13 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation question???
Replies: 3
Views: 856

Re: Masturbation question???

Great, glad that was helpful for you!
by Mo
Tue Aug 23, 2022 3:00 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: A long ramble
Replies: 38
Views: 27220

Re: A long ramble

Hi Raffles, I just wanted to throw out an idea in case this is helpful, when it comes to telehealth therapy. I have a good friend who's in what sounds like a slightly similar situation to yours, who doesn't want to be living with her family but is unable to move out yet and who also has no real priv...
by Mo
Tue Aug 23, 2022 2:48 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Imposter syndrome on coming out NB
Replies: 3
Views: 2781

Re: Imposter syndrome on coming out NB

I think that's a great way to frame your experience. Whether or not you gender identity as a whole is a choice on your part, it was your own choice to think about your own identity and acknowledge/explore those feelings. And I think that's a fantastic and powerful decision to make! :)
by Mo
Tue Aug 23, 2022 2:44 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Fetish incompatible with my own nature; dealing with abnormal amount of intrusive thoughts a day
Replies: 5
Views: 1421

Re: Fetish incompatible with my own nature; dealing with abnormal amount of intrusive thoughts a day

I'm sorry those grounding exercises have gotten less effective; that sounds pretty frustrating on top of everything else. Intrusive thoughts can be really difficult to shake (this is something I've struggled with so I can really sympathize with how hard and upsetting it can be), so hopefully once yo...
by Mo
Mon Aug 22, 2022 5:07 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 1509150

Re: Accepting my sexuality

To touch on the idea of feeling undeserving or unworthy: it can be really hard to feel worthy of other people's love or affection when you're so aware of what you feel are your shortcomings. But I think it's important to keep in mind that you aren't alone in feeling that way. We're all painfully awa...
by Mo
Mon Aug 22, 2022 3:26 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Punishment
Replies: 15
Views: 5389

Re: Punishment

Maybe if your mom asks what you want to talk about, you could say something like "I'd rather wait until you're both here so we can all have just one conversation together." Do you think she'd accept that without pushing for more information?
by Mo
Mon Aug 22, 2022 2:57 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: safe ideas
Replies: 1
Views: 980

Re: safe ideas

I do think it's helpful to keep in mind that "sex" encompasses a lot of things, not just PIV intercourse! We go over that in this article, which may be helpful: What's Sex? If you're looking for some ideas, you and your partner could look through this list to see if there's anything that s...
by Mo
Mon Aug 22, 2022 2:45 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: feeling discouraged when i masturbate
Replies: 5
Views: 1615

Re: feeling discouraged when i masturbate

I do think it will likely help if you approach masturbation as a process of exploration and enjoyment and don't focus entirely on orgasm, for now. Frustration at not achieving orgasm tends to make orgasm even harder to reach, which makes things more frustrating, and it can be a self-perpetuating cyc...
by Mo
Fri Aug 19, 2022 2:47 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Hi, Sam
Replies: 13
Views: 1733

Re: Hi, Sam

That's great! I'm glad to hear you got it back. :)
by Mo
Fri Aug 19, 2022 2:46 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: penetrative masturbation suddenly pleasurable?
Replies: 1
Views: 2671

Re: penetrative masturbation suddenly pleasurable?

I think this is a great example about how broad generalizations about sex and sexuality will never apply to everyone. A lot of people with vulvas take some time to figure out what feels best during masturbation or partnered sex, but that isn't the case for everyone! And I think that when there's a d...
by Mo
Tue Aug 16, 2022 4:45 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Dislike of Partnered Sex?
Replies: 3
Views: 847

Re: Dislike of Partnered Sex?

Hi there cglxy45, and welcome to Scarleteen. Have you looked into information about asexuality at all? I wonder if that's something that would resonate with you. Some people who are asexual do enjoy masturbation or have some feelings of sexual attraction to other people and others don't; there's a p...
by Mo
Tue Aug 16, 2022 4:10 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: could my mum have found something?
Replies: 7
Views: 3091

Re: could my mum have found something?

It is really up to you and what you feel safe with! If you'd like thoughts on where else you could store the toy where it would be less likely to be found, we could talk about that, but if it feels like getting rid of it is the safest option for now, I can understand that.
by Mo
Tue Aug 16, 2022 4:08 pm
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: delete old posts?
Replies: 3
Views: 5828

Re: delete old posts?

As a general rule, we don't delete posts on our message boards; that's part of the site guidelines you agreed to when signing up for an account. Do you feel that having these posts still up on the boards would impact your personal safety in any way?
by Mo
Tue Aug 16, 2022 3:29 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 1509150

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Take all the time you need!! :)
by Mo
Tue Aug 16, 2022 3:00 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbating
Replies: 1
Views: 1382

Re: Masturbating

Hi Riley_Carter, and welcome to Scarleteen. It doesn't sound like anything's wrong with you. It's pretty common for people to take a while to figure out what works for them during masturbation. While a lot of people enjoy vibrators, some folks just don't get much out of them at all. When you're mast...

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