We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...

Hi Rubix, You're exactly right, there is a lot to masturbation (and sexual pleasure more generally) that is about headspace - it's so much more than what body part is doing what! We say a lot more about that in the first part of this article: With Pleasure: A View of Whole Sexual Anatomy for Every B...

Hi Dreamlore, Menstrual cycles can and do vary a lot, and since you have important recent weight change as a possible factor all by itself this wouldn't concern me too much. That said, if you before this you had many years of very predictable periods, and they've suddenly become irregular then the N...

I'm glad you found it helpful! And thanks Raffles for that useful tip

Hi Mosept, I wonder what kinds of places you've been reading these articles about pleasure? Because you've talked a lot about different physical things, but actually a lot of what is going on when people experience sexual pleasure (regardless of their gender or anatomy) is their brain. This is a goo...

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If someone found a way to cure a broken heart they would be very rich indeed! But I actually think that all of those emotions have something to tell us - about what's important to us, what we care about, things like that. I'm glad you're feeling better and that life is good in general. When you say ...

Hi BeepBoop, You're right that it's confusing when you ask someone directly what they want and they don't respond. It sounds like neither of you are in a great place right now to be rebuilding your romantic relationship, though it is definitely nice to have someone to speak to and feel connected wit...

Hi qualifiedpanda, I'm glad you want to be there for your girlfriend, but questioning her sexual orientation is not a good way to do that. Yes, being a survivor of sexual abuse can give people a lot of complicated feelings around sex, but it does not make someone asexual. If you're going to be there...

Hi waterhyacinth, Can you touch a bit more on what about this relationship your friends are saying is unhealthy. You've mentioned the age gap, but is there anything else that your friends are picking up on? I realise you're 17 now, but one thing to note is that in Ohio the age of consent is 16, so i...

If everyone is comfortable, like the situation you described with your friend, then you don't need to feel guilty here. I'm usually really happy to talk more about consent and how it works, but right now it seems like you're trying to find something to feel bad about and we've said a few times alrea...

Hi CassidyG, I'm sorry, it sucks when you're doing the research, doing everything "right" and still something isn't clicking. It sounds like speaking to your doctor is a good shout, as both your medication and your depression could be a part of this for sure. I do wonder, what is your moti...

There are two kinds of context that are important, your relationship and the moment. By your relationship, I don't mean whether they are your friend/partner/sibling etc. I mean do you have the kind of relationship where playful physical touch is common, enjoyed and reciprocated; where you have trust...

Hi Roseeejames5, I'm glad that you've found Sam and Sofi's comments helpful. It sounds like your own sexual assault and the trauma from that has been bothering you recently. I wonder if continuing to heal from that will help you with the feelings of guilt you're experiencing now. Do you want to talk...

Hi sunsatellite. Individual preferences vary so I'm not going to jump in here with specific recommendations - that's not really our thing. There are a bunch of blogs out there that give in-depth reviews of different toys! These can be really informative in helping you wade through all the different ...

Hi tam! Welcome to the boards :D I'm so glad you found us. It can take a while to get to know your way around your genitals if you haven't taken a look before! A lot of the medical diagrams are so generalised and tidied up that they don't represent a lot of the normal variation from vulva to vulva. ...

Hi dollparties! I'm not autistic and so can't speak from my own experiences of stimming, but this actually doesn't sound that weird to me! Biting and kissing are not that unrelated, and some people are going to be into it. As long as your partner is on board there's nothing wrong with some gentle ch...

Maybe you can name it yourself! Who knows, perhaps some day it will catch on

hey theatreluvin, I totally get that telling someone that you love them is a vulnerable thing to do. I wonder what makes you feel like you'd be embarrassed though? When we're embarrassed often it comes from feeling like we've done something wrong or weird, and I don't think loving someone is wrong o...

Yep, condoms are a good method of birth control, and one we always recommend to protect from STI's too. You can read all about condoms as birth control, including how to use them effectively, here: Condoms.

Hey MusicNerd, You know, I think it's okay to feel bummed for a moment and grieve what might have been. It just shows that you cared, which I actually think is a hopeful thing - you've shown that there are great people out there that you can feel excited about. Sure, this time it didn't work out but...

Hi Somesh, We're not going to tell you anything different on our boards than we are in our articles - I promise if we review and update them constantly with the best information we have. We also can't answer questions about pregnancy scares here on the boards - and this feels very close to a pregnan...

How about when you exercise? One tool used for kids with hyposensitivity is "heavy work" - anything that involves moving with or against resistance. As you get older, different kinds of exercise or physical work can provide additional sensory input - and lots of people get a kind of rush f...

So glad you hear it! Did you want to dive into any more of this with us here, or were you more looking to just get if off your chest?

Hi spottedowl, This sounds like a lot to be figuring out! Is it a recent realisation for you, or has something made you think about it more recently? I'm glad you have a therapist to talk to, and that you've been able to share with us here. It sounds like you're feeling a lot of stuff - okay, happy,...