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by Alexa
Sun May 24, 2020 6:57 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Anal play
Replies: 3
Views: 1285

Re: Anal play

Hey SpaceRover, You can certainly use oil for anal play, and some folks do prefer natural oils like this because of its longevity and feel. However, I would *not* recommend using latex gloves with sunflower oil because the oil can degrade the latex, which can risk an infection for your partner. If y...
by Alexa
Sun May 24, 2020 6:50 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: tips for a child abuse survivor
Replies: 13
Views: 1075

Re: tips for a child abuse survivor

spreading out is difficult... i cant help but fear losing her if i try anything like that. i feel like her leaving could happen at any time, and that causes me to second guess everything. This is definitely familiar to me -- it can be hard to build other emotional supports when you fear that turnin...
by Alexa
Sun May 17, 2020 7:33 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Coming off Birth Control pills
Replies: 1
Views: 700

Re: Coming off Birth Control pills

Hey there Yani, As I'm not your medical provider, I can't say definitively whether or not your girlfriend is pregnant/your conclusion is correct. However, if she's had withdrawal bleeds since your last sexual encounter and her pregnancy test came back negative after ~a month of not having sex, it se...
by Alexa
Sun May 17, 2020 7:06 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Needing advice
Replies: 15
Views: 2351

Re: Needing advice

Hey Sky, I'm sorry to hear that your periods are so difficult for you. Menstrual suppression is definitely one way to help with any distress around periods and gender. Hormonal IUDs, like Mirena and Skyla, can make your periods lighter, or even make them go away (though we can't guarantee that this ...
by Alexa
Sun May 17, 2020 6:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 3028

Re: Sex and all the complications

Hey Shadowsong, I really get how difficult and painful it can be to figure out what you want or need when you feel like you've been following the advice or desires of others for a long time. It can take practice, but it's really helpful to learn to check in with yourself and try to tune out others -...
by Alexa
Sun May 10, 2020 6:28 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Covid anxiety
Replies: 11
Views: 1756

Re: Covid anxiety

Hey Sky, I'm really sorry to hear that you're in pain. I'm glad that you're taking some time at home to let your body recover. Recalling something Heather mentioned earlier, and something I know you've talked about with us before -- can we talk through why you feel you need to continue working at th...
by Alexa
Sun Apr 19, 2020 9:00 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I don't feel good even when I try to masturbate.I don't think I'm asexual though
Replies: 16
Views: 2563

Re: I don't feel good even when I try to masturbate.I don't think I'm asexual though

Hey AStranger, I can definitely identify with this process: It's been very present in my sessions,the whole "I want to know why I do/feel x and then provide exact measures to fix it". How do you just.....Feel?? It's something I've confronted in myself many times. I always want a list of st...
by Alexa
Sun Apr 19, 2020 7:26 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I want to support my brother, but I'm not sure how, or if I should
Replies: 3
Views: 954

Re: I want to support my brother, but I'm not sure how, or if I should

Hi there Jon, Let's start with what we know! I think it can be hard, when hearing secondhand information, to root yourself in what is truth , what is inference, and how to go from there. From what I'm hearing, this sounds like what we've got (and please correct me if I'm wrong!): 1. There is a possi...
by Alexa
Sun Apr 12, 2020 7:38 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do I meet new people?
Replies: 22
Views: 2337

Re: How do I meet new people?

Hey MusicNerd, I'm sorry you had that experience on a dating app. That's not fun. It's unfortunate that people use the internet to protect themselves from important conversations with other folks. I feel you -- finding queer scenes outside of bars can be difficult! I'm not sure what the area you liv...
by Alexa
Sun Apr 12, 2020 7:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I have some questions about- sexuality, sex related stuff
Replies: 1
Views: 501

Re: I have some questions about- sexuality, sex related stuff

Hey there Soeleo, I'm glad you came to us with your questions! You're in the right place. I'll try to approach them in the order you listed them. 1) BDSM is definitely not *only* an interest of people who have been assaulted or abused. Many people are kinky, for a variety of reasons. It's normal and...
by Alexa
Sun Apr 12, 2020 6:34 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My new girlfriend avoids intimacy
Replies: 1
Views: 475

Re: My new girlfriend avoids intimacy

Hey Lesbian321, I want to start by saying that I'm glad you two are taking necessary precautions during the pandemic and staying physically apart, even though I know it sucks. You're doing the right thing. It sounds like your girlfriend is having trouble with direct communication around sex. That's ...
by Alexa
Sun Apr 12, 2020 6:24 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I just feel so broken..Am I?
Replies: 217
Views: 16743

Re: I just feel so broken..Am I?

Seconding what Sam said -- little things from my own abuse still come up every once and a while when something reminds me of it, now that I'm no longer repressing those memories. Now that I'm farther away from my own abuse, I like to take those opportunities to remind myself how much better things a...
by Alexa
Sun Apr 05, 2020 8:46 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I’m thirteen and curious about masturbation
Replies: 1
Views: 413

Re: I’m thirteen and curious about masturbation

Hey there, First of all, I want to point you towards some of our great articles on masturbation that might help you out! Our intro article is Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation , and it's very helpful. We also have quick but useful answer to another question about pain while masturbating. Having...
by Alexa
Sun Apr 05, 2020 8:35 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: first encounter with porn/arousal was intense BDSM, now i don't know how to have a healthy relationship with it
Replies: 3
Views: 819

Re: first encounter with porn/arousal was intense BDSM, now i don't know how to have a healthy relationship with it

Hey boopboopboop! First of all, *none* of this is TMI. This is what we do here, and we're happy to help! I'm so glad that you've been able to get to a better place. Having a safe place to talk about desire, kink, etc. is so important, in part because if we learn over time that these things are okay ...
by Alexa
Sun Apr 05, 2020 8:06 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I just feel so broken..Am I?
Replies: 217
Views: 16743

Re: I just feel so broken..Am I?

First of all, so glad you got a psychiatry appointment! I hope it gives you some clarity. I'm really glad your mom is there for you and that you're not feeling as alone. It's so important to have someone at home to hold you, physically and/or emotionally, when those breakdowns happen. I don't think ...
by Alexa
Sun Apr 05, 2020 6:43 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Contraceptive pills - medical history
Replies: 31
Views: 2506

Re: Contraceptive pills - medical history

Hey Juliaho90, People take birth control for a number of reasons. You can certainly use them to suppress/skip periods. However, it's not quite as simple as taking birth control the month of a particular event (e.g. a vacation) to skip the period, nor do you 'push back' a single period and have it la...
by Alexa
Sun Mar 29, 2020 9:20 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I just feel so broken..Am I?
Replies: 217
Views: 16743

Re: I just feel so broken..Am I?

Hey there, Even though I know it sucks, cycles of feeling very good/very bad and everything in between are normal. We've probably said that before, but I always need to be reminded when I hit my lows. If it helps, maybe journaling about good/bad days can remind you of the good times and maybe give y...
by Alexa
Sun Mar 29, 2020 8:35 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: not finishing during sex
Replies: 3
Views: 437

Re: not finishing during sex

Hey Talkativeintro, First, let me say, this is a totally common experience. It can be hard to learn to translate the things that feel good when you touch yourself to partnered sex. It may just take more experimenting! And if your sex is pleasurable and enjoyable then you're starting from a great pla...
by Alexa
Sun Mar 29, 2020 7:18 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Taking back an abusive ex?
Replies: 37
Views: 5404

Re: Taking back an abusive ex?

Hey there, Belcano: I'm so glad you keep checking back in with us here. <3 I hope it helps to have multiple outlets for something like this. I know it can be overwhelming. In my own experience, when you are missing someone desperately -- especially someone who was abusive/ you are codependent with -...
by Alexa
Sun Mar 29, 2020 6:45 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Birth Control Pills
Replies: 1
Views: 1947

Re: Birth Control Pills

Hi there Ghostwriter, Unless your pills are visibly disintegrated -- broken, dissolved, etc. in any way -- it should be just fine to take as normal. If a pill ever is disintegrated in some way, you can treat it like a missed pill in your pack (even if you take what is left of it) to ensure that you'...
by Alexa
Wed Mar 25, 2020 7:06 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I just feel so broken..Am I?
Replies: 217
Views: 16743

Re: I just feel so broken..Am I?

I *love* that you've learned that in soccer (football? what do you call it? hehe). That seems like a great thing to carry with you into your life. I'm glad you feel it's helped a bit. Screens are for some people, not others -- everyone's sleep needs are different. I say do what's best for you. Somet...
by Alexa
Wed Mar 25, 2020 5:38 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I just feel so broken..Am I?
Replies: 217
Views: 16743

Re: I just feel so broken..Am I?

Hey 0PT1M15T1C, Jumping back in and I was able to read the longer thread and catch up <3 I want to start by saying that I'm so sorry these things go in cycles. I know it so well -- you're so excited to be on an upswing, feeling better, and then you're caught off guard by a painful week or month wher...
by Alexa
Wed Mar 18, 2020 6:10 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Birth control pill fell out of packaging
Replies: 4
Views: 514

Re: Birth control pill fell out of packaging

Hey there Juliaho90, It's definitely still okay/safe to take your pill! Unless it's disintegrated in any way, it should work the same as always. As with all birth control pills, just make sure to take the pills in the correct order (indicated by the color of the pill). Do you have a birth control ca...
by Alexa
Thu Feb 27, 2020 6:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Oral sex in relationships
Replies: 15
Views: 2766

Re: Oral sex in relationships

Hey MuchShy, It sounds like all you're really asking for is a partner who doesn't put pressure on you to do things you're uncomfortable with, and the opportunity to try things out sexually if/when you and your partner *both* feel like it. To me, that sounds like any healthy and happy sexual relation...
by Alexa
Wed Feb 19, 2020 6:35 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex with braces?
Replies: 19
Views: 1489

Re: Sex with braces?

A few of the guys it's so funny to joke around with when we're talking about this and I'm realizing it'll probably be similar in person. I love this!! I think that especially if you've felt worried about awkwardness before, this is such a good and cute sign. To me, it means that you all are willing...

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