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by Alexa
Sun Jul 19, 2020 6:57 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: What does a future new relationship look like during COVID-19?
Replies: 6
Views: 644

Re: What does a future new relationship look like during COVID-19?

Hey Sabine, I want to start by telling you how much I empathize with you! Dating during quarantine is not only difficult to navigate because of logistics -- it is also hard because we can't see into the future and know where and when we will be when it is safe to meet with new people again. It sound...
by Alexa
Sun Jul 19, 2020 6:39 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Learning From My Cat About Trauma + Self-Worth
Replies: 6
Views: 2495

Re: Learning From My Cat About Trauma + Self-Worth

I realized that if my cat can be lovable not despite all those things he had going against him, but because of all those things, then maybe, just maybe I could potentially be good enough and lovable with my past, my flaws, and all. This is so beautiful! I'm glad your kitty helps you to see this in ...
by Alexa
Wed Jul 15, 2020 1:49 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Penis Size/Shape
Replies: 1
Views: 902

Re: Penis Size/Shape

Hey TS_6249, It's normal for your body to change size in general! It wouldn't change size due to you not masturbating, though -- it's likely just body growth as per usual. From Not Everything You Wanted to Know about Puberty but Pretty Darn Close: Puberty most commonly starts with testicular growth....
by Alexa
Sun Jul 12, 2020 8:53 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Can’t Feel Sexual Pleasure
Replies: 26
Views: 1833

Re: Can’t Feel Sexual Pleasure

I totally get all of that. I've had similar experiences. For me, it has helped to have other "distractions" to help me feel less on the spot while having sex -- like having music on, or being able to talk to have banter with the person I'm with. That doesn't work for everyone, but it can h...
by Alexa
Sun Jul 12, 2020 8:45 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How to change timing of Yasmin pills?
Replies: 5
Views: 1504

Re: How to change timing of Yasmin pills?

Hey there,

Spotting/irregularities in your menstrual cycle when going on and off a birth control pill is totally normal, yes. It should regulate over time!
by Alexa
Sun Jul 12, 2020 7:39 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: how to get my dad to stop opening my mail?
Replies: 8
Views: 1058

Re: how to get my dad to stop opening my mail?

Great! Keep us posted if anything else comes up. <3
by Alexa
Sun Jul 12, 2020 7:34 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: My sexual life is in shambles (TMI)
Replies: 6
Views: 899

Re: My sexual life is in shambles (TMI)

It sounds like that dream really helped you access what Sam mentioned earlier: Focusing more on connecting with and enjoying your fantasies and desires, rather than specifically on orgasm (or even masturbation) may help with addressing that mental block you feel you have. It can be really hard not t...
by Alexa
Sun Jul 12, 2020 7:04 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Tall Girl Problems
Replies: 13
Views: 1112

Re: Tall Girl Problems

I hear that. It can be really hard to envision a future for yourself in a loving relationship when you aren't shown lesbian love frequently on TV, in movies, or in the world around you. I also feel like if we've been hoping/waiting to have a relationship come along for us, it can start to feel like ...
by Alexa
Sun Jul 05, 2020 8:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 3028

Re: Sex and all the complications

I think what's helpful about knowing what terms you're comfortable with -- whether you make a literal list or not -- is being able to create and direct conversations around bodies that feel good and safe to you, and hopefully, in doing so, expand the forums in which you're able to explore and heal a...
by Alexa
Sun Jul 05, 2020 6:28 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Dating/ hookup
Replies: 4
Views: 1410

Re: Dating/ hookup

Hey Charles! I hear you. It can be hard to meet people in person -- especially now, not knowing when this pandemic will end and needing to socially distance from people we don't live with. Most dating apps have an age limit, as you probably know, and are 18+. As frustrating as this can be, it's impo...
by Alexa
Sun Jun 28, 2020 7:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Self Esteem Issues
Replies: 7
Views: 685

Re: Self Esteem Issues

Hey theatreluvin, I'm really sorry that you're having these invasive, negative feelings about your body. We actually have this amazing lil roundup of articles and songs to help folks out of a low self-esteem rut here . I would love for you to check it out and see if anything there feels helpful. Do ...
by Alexa
Sun Jun 28, 2020 7:29 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Pregnancy scare with major anxiety.
Replies: 1
Views: 1456

Re: Pregnancy scare with major anxiety.

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Alexa
Sun Jun 28, 2020 7:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Others doubting my bisexuality
Replies: 5
Views: 589

Re: Others doubting my bisexuality

Hey roxfoxreal, Fellow bisexual here -- I had this same experience with my own parents! :roll: It can be *so* frustrating when you can feel that people around you are invalidating your sexuality, even quietly. It makes total sense that this would upset you. I understand the temptation to compare you...
by Alexa
Sun Jun 21, 2020 6:33 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Contraceptive methods
Replies: 1
Views: 508

Re: Contraceptive methods

Hey Alester, No worries! We are always glad to answer more questions :) It sounds like you're right on the nose. Using two kinds of contraception -- particularly when marrying a barrier method with hormonal birth control (or a non-hormonal IUD) -- is always going to be your safest bet. Have you alre...
by Alexa
Sun Jun 21, 2020 6:28 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?
Replies: 33
Views: 2119

Re: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?

Hi Sabine, It sounds like 1) the venues that you're currently using (apps, etc.) are not working well for you right now, and 2) you're talking a lot about how/whether to expand your reach using other sites and ways of engaging with folks with your parents. Since, as you've talked about with Sam, onl...
by Alexa
Sun Jun 14, 2020 7:50 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How often do single people have sex?
Replies: 16
Views: 1777

Re: How often do single people have sex?

Hey andrej, It sounds like you've answered your own question! If there isn't trust, it can be really hard to get to a place where it feels safe and good to have sex -- especially casual sex. I find that communication and trust is even more important when you are sharing a sexual partner with other p...
by Alexa
Sun Jun 14, 2020 7:41 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Dental dam questions
Replies: 1
Views: 471

Re: Dental dam questions

Hey emu-alex, I would love for you to check out this article and this article on safer sex for lesbians! They're great for just helping you feel caught-up and informed so that you can make your own decisions about dental dams and other means of protection. Your question has many parts, so I'm going ...
by Alexa
Sun Jun 14, 2020 7:13 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anxiety is affecting sex...
Replies: 18
Views: 1742

Re: Anxiety is affecting sex...

It can be really hard to know that your partner is still healing over an ex of theirs. I know that that has pulled on some of my anxiety and jealousy strings in the past. But I have to agree with Sam -- relationships are almost never "clean cut." Starting one doesn't mean that you complete...
by Alexa
Sun Jun 14, 2020 6:58 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: My dad’s overstepping... A LOT
Replies: 17
Views: 1155

Re: My dad’s overstepping... A LOT

That makes sense, theatreluvin. You feel violated because, well, that's a *super* violating thing to do! He should not have shared details of your personal life with a stranger, or to anyone without your permission, really. I'm so sorry that happened. I agree with Sam that "putting him on an in...
by Alexa
Sun Jun 07, 2020 10:16 am
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: Abortion
Replies: 22
Views: 5571

Re: Abortion

I am so glad that the light is coming back into your life, bit by bit. More will come with time. <3 I hope that knowing that, and feeling relief, will help you validate for yourself that you made the right decision about your own health. As meaningful as I know it is to you, it sounds like that tedd...
by Alexa
Sun Jun 07, 2020 9:53 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Insecure about my boyfriend's past
Replies: 3
Views: 630

Re: Insecure about my boyfriend's past

Hey Patrichles, I'm going to name what's happening here, even though I know it can be a stressful word to describe oneself with -- jealousy. But guess what -- jealousy is natural and okay in and of itself! It can be easy to experience this emotion in a relationship that is precious to you and that y...
by Alexa
Sun Jun 07, 2020 8:53 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Yasmin and cancer risks
Replies: 14
Views: 2660

Re: Yasmin and cancer risks

Hey Juliaho90, This sounds like a normal period, and not a breakthrough or withdrawal bleed. To have a withdrawal bleed, you need to be "withdrawing" from active use of the BC pill (e.g. taking your sugar pills for the breakthrough bleed week). You are no longer withdrawing from the pill b...
by Alexa
Sun May 24, 2020 9:14 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: internal condom
Replies: 1
Views: 399

Re: internal condom

Hey phantomdog, There's only a marginal difference between reported efficacy of internal vs. external condoms -- about ~3%. That being said, condoms are only as effective as the person using them, and people tend to be less familiar with internal condoms. Because of this, in terms of average actual ...
by Alexa
Sun May 24, 2020 7:26 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Raw Sex
Replies: 1
Views: 387

Re: Raw Sex

Hey Brackinbitty92, Having unprotected sex is less about how long you wait to make a decision, how old you are, etc. and is more about informed decision-making. Heather has an excellent answer to a question about unprotected sex here that I think may be really helpful when you're thinking through yo...
by Alexa
Sun May 24, 2020 7:08 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Female Condom
Replies: 13
Views: 1849

Re: Female Condom

Internal condoms do not come in different sizes. One of the benefits of internal condoms is that they are able to take the shape of the vaginal canal once they are inserted & warm up from body heat, so they are sort of one-size-fits-all.

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