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by Alexa
Sun Aug 16, 2020 6:52 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Handjob Pre-Cum
Replies: 2
Views: 684

Re: Handjob Pre-Cum

Hi there Lola43, What you're describing (manual sex) does not present a pregnancy risk, and is low STI risk. I would recommend reading over our guide, Can I Get Pregnant or Get or Pass On an STI From That? . Maybe even read it/share it with your partner! It sounds like this topic carries a lot of an...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 16, 2020 6:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bleeding after losing virginity
Replies: 5
Views: 846

Re: Bleeding after losing virginity

Hi Liltimmyt, We don't mean to worry you; just to make sure you're aware of what to look for when getting STI tested/asking your partners about their testing history. We have an article that outlines which STIs can be detected by which tests (e.g. swab, blood): Testing, Testing . If you're worried a...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 16, 2020 6:32 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Inserting tampon after shower
Replies: 1
Views: 439

Re: Inserting tampon after shower

Hi there, MuchShy! It makes sense that if you wash away your menstrual blood, it will be harder to insert a tampon (the menstrual blood usually acts as lubricant for the tampon for a painless insertion). I would recommend one of two things: either use a little bit of lube to insert the tampon after ...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 09, 2020 9:00 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: STD prevention while conceiving?
Replies: 3
Views: 821

Re: STD prevention while conceiving?

Hi CatMommy, It's hard to say whether different STIs would survive via the "turkey-baster" route, and it is also dependent on whether the ejaculate remains at body temperature between ejaculation and insemination, so I would still recommend the precautions that Mo referenced. Further, I ha...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 09, 2020 8:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Mystery clit
Replies: 3
Views: 296

Re: Mystery clit

Hi Annabanane, Yes, varying clit size is normal! It is also perfectly normal for more of the clitoris to be internal than externally visible. It sounds like you know how to make your body feel good, and that's what's most important! Also, to your earlier question -- yes, is it possible for you to fe...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 09, 2020 8:50 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation, antidepressants, stopping period, not a boy but want a penis, etc
Replies: 1
Views: 158

Re: Masturbation, antidepressants, stopping period, not a boy but want a penis, etc

Hey Lande! I'm going to do my best to address all of this! <3 1. Admittedly, washing your hands thoroughly is going to be your best bet. There are some soaps out there that are specifically advertised as "odor-neutralizing" that may be helpful, but I haven't used them myself so I can't att...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 09, 2020 8:14 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: NO MEANS NO! My hope is that all girls read this
Replies: 1
Views: 532

Re: NO MEANS NO! My hope is that all girls read this

Hey Okie, I'm so sorry that your "no" was ignored and that you were pressured into sex. That is never okay. I'm glad that you no longer feel as though this was your fault -- it absolutely wasn't! His behavior was manipulative and coercive and that's not on you at *all.* Thank you for shari...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 09, 2020 7:52 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Placebo Pill Question?
Replies: 3
Views: 672

Re: Placebo Pill Question?

Hey Aly! Okay, a couple of things -- I'm not an Implant user, but also am a sexual health counselor. I AM, however, a very long-time user of the IUD, so I'll talk a bit about that, too! It is possible for your period to lighten or disappear with either the Implant or the hormonal (NOT the copper) IU...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 09, 2020 7:34 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Is my penis normal?
Replies: 3
Views: 503

Re: Is my penis normal?

Hey Sky,

That sounds normal enough to me. Pulling back on the foreskin can tug at places where it starts attaching to the shaft, which may hurt a bit. However, if you have ongoing pain or want a second opinion, you can always talk with your medical provider. <3
by Alexa
Sun Aug 09, 2020 7:33 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex and Feelings can be confusing
Replies: 20
Views: 1786

Re: Sex and Feelings can be confusing

BuddyBoi,

I hear that re: being raised with shame. If you ever want to talk through that further, we're here!
by Alexa
Sun Aug 09, 2020 7:17 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Feeling Ashamed/Unsure
Replies: 1
Views: 165

Re: Feeling Ashamed/Unsure

Hey A.Feind1983, The question of what your sexual orientation is is entirely up to you. It sounds like attraction to women may certainly factor into it, but you get to decide how that defines your identity. Want to take a look at our article, Q is for Questioning? I think it might be really helpful ...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 09, 2020 7:01 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Crushes and LDRs
Replies: 1
Views: 438

Re: Crushes and LDRs

Hey Ciaraj, First of all, let me congratulate you on finding a flirtation opportunity in quarantine! :lol: That's a feat. Of course, I don't know her and can't come to any definitive conclusions about whether she's flirting with you or not. But if I boil it down, it looks like our questions are -- c...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 02, 2020 7:09 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Mom stuff
Replies: 7
Views: 814

Re: Mom stuff

Hey PartySarah, I'm sorry you're missing that intimacy! You definitely deserve the space for a fulfilling sex life. How do you feel about being creative about where you have space (e.g. at your sex interest's home, a hotel, a car!, etc.)? Also important -- how and when do you feel you'll be able to ...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 02, 2020 6:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bleeding after loosing virginity
Replies: 1
Views: 270

Re: Bleeding after loosing virginity

Hi there Xxboxx342,

We actually have a really helpful article on bleeding after your first intercourse, One Bloody Mess: Myths & Realities of Bleeding with First Intercourse. Want to take a look at it and let us know what you think?
by Alexa
Sun Aug 02, 2020 6:28 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Transmasculinity and Body Image CW: Fatphobia
Replies: 15
Views: 1594

Re: Transmasculinity and Body Image CW: Fatphobia

Hey Buddyboi21, I've been looking toward the "what my body can do" goal for quite some time since I started boxing. It's why I love it so much; it helps me focus on self defense rather than how my body looks. I LOVE this! Functional goals like this can be so rewarding. It's this sort of ch...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 02, 2020 6:08 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Pleasure
Replies: 5
Views: 714

Re: Pleasure

Learning what your body likes, especially for the very first time, can take a while! Every body is different and reaches sexual maturity at different times/in different ways. I don't think this means that you're not ready to try masturbating yet; it may just mean that you still have some experimenti...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 02, 2020 6:01 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: LONG, LONG post about my struggle with a weird fetish (17,F)
Replies: 1
Views: 721

Re: LONG, LONG post about my struggle with a weird fetish (17,F)

Hey dudehelp, Okay, first of all -- you are not weird! Many people have fetishes. As long as you're engaging your fetishes while respecting other people around you and actively confirming their comfort, it shouldn't be a problem. It sounds, in general, like you are aware of your attraction to weight...
by Alexa
Sun Jul 26, 2020 6:40 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Can’t finger(?)
Replies: 2
Views: 654

Re: Can’t finger(?)

Hey BPanther_L, This is definitely the right place to have so many questions! I'm glad you came here to talk with us. Masturbation and pleasure are so individualized. What feels good to one person may do nothing for the next. Getting to know our bodies can be a really daunting task at first -- but i...
by Alexa
Sun Jul 26, 2020 6:25 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: My feelings about my gender is changing rapidly
Replies: 22
Views: 1375

Re: My feelings about my gender is changing rapidly

Hey transfemandgay, I hope it's okay if I jump in here! Can you tell me a little bit about why wanting to (sometimes) be seen as a femboy and (sometimes) be seen as a transwoman conflict in your head? You mentioned gender fluidity above, and instinctually, I'd encourage you to read up as much as you...
by Alexa
Sun Jul 19, 2020 7:32 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Self Masturbating
Replies: 1
Views: 439

Re: Self Masturbating

Hey there 82 pye,

It can be difficult to learn what your body wants, even in solo sex (and for some folks, especially in solo sex). Have you read our article Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation? It might help you to explore those needs a bit more.
by Alexa
Sun Jul 19, 2020 7:25 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Getting a little upset because I've had to stop during anal because akward angles and stuff.
Replies: 5
Views: 680

Re: Getting a little upset because I've had to stop during anal because akward angles and stuff.

Hey KittyPink, I'm sorry, I know it can be hard when you enjoy something and aren't able to figure out how to make it work for your body. Have you tried going back to square one and working your way up to anal sex with a penis? Working your way up with fingers, smaller toys, or even dilators and lot...
by Alexa
Sun Jul 19, 2020 7:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Quarantine distance relationship
Replies: 5
Views: 812

Re: Quarantine distance relationship

Hey Liltimmyt, I noticed that you were having this trouble with him about a month ago -- so it seems you've been talking for some time about whether you want to video or phone chat. While he hasn't been open to it, it sounds like that kind of closeness is really important to you. Sometimes we like m...
by Alexa
Sun Jul 19, 2020 6:57 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: What does a future new relationship look like during COVID-19?
Replies: 6
Views: 635

Re: What does a future new relationship look like during COVID-19?

Hey Sabine, I want to start by telling you how much I empathize with you! Dating during quarantine is not only difficult to navigate because of logistics -- it is also hard because we can't see into the future and know where and when we will be when it is safe to meet with new people again. It sound...
by Alexa
Sun Jul 19, 2020 6:39 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Learning From My Cat About Trauma + Self-Worth
Replies: 6
Views: 2461

Re: Learning From My Cat About Trauma + Self-Worth

I realized that if my cat can be lovable not despite all those things he had going against him, but because of all those things, then maybe, just maybe I could potentially be good enough and lovable with my past, my flaws, and all. This is so beautiful! I'm glad your kitty helps you to see this in ...
by Alexa
Wed Jul 15, 2020 1:49 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Penis Size/Shape
Replies: 1
Views: 889

Re: Penis Size/Shape

Hey TS_6249, It's normal for your body to change size in general! It wouldn't change size due to you not masturbating, though -- it's likely just body growth as per usual. From Not Everything You Wanted to Know about Puberty but Pretty Darn Close: Puberty most commonly starts with testicular growth....

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