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by Alexa
Wed Feb 19, 2020 1:17 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex with braces?
Replies: 19
Views: 1488

Re: Sex with braces?

Hey there! I wanted to chime in briefly, just because my trauma *does* come from a past, long-term dating experience, so I thought that could be helpful. It sounds like you're already setting yourself up for success, as Heather and Mo pointed out, by communicating with potential partners ahead of ti...
by Alexa
Wed Feb 12, 2020 8:32 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I just feel so broken..Am I?
Replies: 217
Views: 16741

Re: I just feel so broken..Am I?

Hey, 0PT1M15T1C. Since I'm new in this conversation, I want to start by telling you how glad I am that you're here. I'm sorry that going through this, and sharing it with the people around you, has been so hard. I can empathize. Also -- this is totally okay to share with us at Scarleteen. Your emoti...
by Alexa
Wed Feb 12, 2020 6:47 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: don't want to hurt the foreskin
Replies: 5
Views: 965

Re: don't want to hurt the foreskin

Hey! More lube definitely might help. Switching up the *kind* of lube could help too -- if you're just performing manual sex (aka jerking her off), then silicone lubricant is perfectly safe and tends to last longer/be a bit thicker than water-based lubes, for example. I also totally get your comment...
by Alexa
Wed Jan 22, 2020 5:46 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How does being in love change?
Replies: 25
Views: 3170

Re: How does being in love change?

Hey tomatopotato - this is something I've seen a lot in myself and in my friends who have experienced anxiety and low self-confidence in the past. When you feel more secure about your crushes, it allows you to be excited about them without tying the success or failure of a romantic connection to you...
by Alexa
Wed Jan 15, 2020 7:34 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Transgender? (Mtf)
Replies: 57
Views: 3675

Re: Transgender? (Mtf)

Hey there CaptainWildRose: I'm sorry to hear that it's so difficult to get away from this home where you don't feel you can be yourself safely. I'm glad you're here. <3 I don't want to be redundant, but I *do* think that if you called a local center they would have experience with this kind of thing...
by Alexa
Wed Jan 15, 2020 6:53 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Internalized sexism
Replies: 13
Views: 2253

Re: Internalized sexism

Hey thewrit3r: First of all, you are totally welcome here. We're glad you came here to ask your question! I want to begin by affirming that, when you are bombarded with sexist comments and behavior from the folks surrounding you, questioning your sense of reality is natural - and does not make you s...
by Alexa
Sun Dec 15, 2019 11:18 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Change in Period
Replies: 16
Views: 3950

Re: Change in Period

Hi Booksandoceans: It sounds like you and your boyfriend may want to find a gentler or different way for him to touch you. The skin that makes up the vulva is mucosal tissue , which can tear more easily than other skin. If you are bleeding whenever he touches you, then that indicates you may need to...
by Alexa
Sun Dec 15, 2019 11:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How often is vaginal irritation normal?
Replies: 8
Views: 1047

Re: How often is vaginal irritation normal?

Hi there: The short answer is likely yes! The long answer is that it is State- and location-dependent. It can be helpful to chat with Planned Parenthood to find clinics that will help you in your area without using your insurance. I want to share a couple of resources -- the first is this list of St...
by Alexa
Sun Dec 15, 2019 10:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Abortion appointment on Saturday
Replies: 21
Views: 1975

Re: Abortion appointment on Saturday

Hi Justyne: I'm so glad to hear you feel good about your procedure! I know it can be hard navigating the symptoms afterwards, but they will pass. Who you choose to tell is completely up to you. If your Auntie is a trusted person, that seems like a good choice for you. As for telling the guy, that ch...
by Alexa
Sun Dec 15, 2019 10:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Personal Question
Replies: 1
Views: 428

Re: Personal Question

Hi crmmrc: Manual sex is a low-risk activity for pregnancy and STI transmission, even before the hand sanitizer comes into play, so it should be very low- to no-risk to touch yourself afterwards while using the toilet. We have a great article on the relative risks of different sexual activities here !
by Alexa
Sun Dec 15, 2019 10:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Mental Health and Romance
Replies: 24
Views: 2794

Re: Mental Health and Romance

Hi Buddyboi: That sounds like a very successful night! It's great that you put yourself out there so much, and pursued your own interests while also actively getting consent. I'm happy for you -- and also am jealous of this party! It sounds so fun! I should share that I am not autistic, but I DO hav...
by Alexa
Sun Dec 15, 2019 9:38 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Need some big sister advice
Replies: 10
Views: 1272

Re: Need some big sister advice

Hey GolfingGirl: I like how you closed your post - with a couple of thoughts on how you lost your virginity, and you'd like for your sister to have comfier opportunities than you did when you were her age. At the end of the day, the time of life that someone chooses for their sexual debut is entirel...
by Alexa
Sun Dec 01, 2019 10:02 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Spotting while on Yasmin
Replies: 28
Views: 3659

Re: Spotting while on Yasmin

Hey Juliaho90:

Yes, your question makes sense, and no, you don't have to wait til the end of *each* pack - just the first one! So you will be under the full protection of the birth control pill on day 29, assuming you took it consistently that first month.
by Alexa
Sun Dec 01, 2019 9:35 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Dealing with unbalenced sex
Replies: 1
Views: 720

Re: Dealing with unbalenced sex

Hey Cathandly, First, let me say that it sounds like the two of you are navigating this well so far -- I'm glad that you're both communicating bravely around what feels good and safe during sex and what doesn't. There are a few different pieces here that are all important to your sexual health and h...
by Alexa
Wed Nov 27, 2019 10:37 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I really need some advice on talking to someone
Replies: 5
Views: 1159

Re: I really need some advice on talking to someone

I'm glad your friend is respecting your boundaries a bit more now. That's important. As someone who lives with a lot of anxiety, trust me - keeping it inside can intensify it and make it harder to deal with over time! I would definitely consider finding someone who could help you navigate that in-pe...
by Alexa
Wed Nov 27, 2019 10:28 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Any tips?
Replies: 153
Views: 10131

Re: Any tips?

Hey Sky - nice to meet you. I've caught up a little bit with what's going on with you and hope I can help. Re: speaking to your manager, I don't think you have to tell them anything about the photos you took in order to tell them that there may be someone coming in who has been harassing you and mak...
by Alexa
Sun Oct 13, 2019 9:21 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Feeling shamed
Replies: 1
Views: 978

Re: Feeling shamed

Hi, Aly! First of all, I want to say that there is no shame whatsoever in having loving, consensual sex with your partner. It seems like you both have taken all the right steps here, and I am glad for you that you have made those decisions in a mutually supportive and caring relationship. You have a...
by Alexa
Sun Oct 13, 2019 8:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Birth Control Questions! :)
Replies: 1
Views: 507

Re: Birth Control Questions! :)

Hey Aly! Thanks for writing. And, just for starters - your questions are never silly! We are happy to answer them as best we can. If an expanded window for taking your birth control pills in the morning helps you to remember taking them, go for it! Taking your pill at the same time every day is most...
by Alexa
Fri Sep 13, 2019 6:53 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Is my boyfriend cheating
Replies: 4
Views: 1322

Re: Is my boyfriend cheating

Hey Pineapple Queen, I'm sorry for the stress you're experiencing right now in this relationship. The thing that is standing out to me most here is that there seems to be a lack of trust between you. That is true whether he is cheating or not - at the end of the day, you have difficulty trusting wha...

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