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by tomatopotato
Tue Dec 17, 2019 3:21 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Racism, Ableism and Dating Apps
Replies: 5
Views: 1064

Racism, Ableism and Dating Apps

Dear fellow message boar members, recently i've tried online Dating again, mainly to meet a couple of interesting people to hang out with. I wondered how i can overcome my slightly racist and ableist thoughts while Dating? Isn't it racist if I am hesistant to meet somebody if they can't speak a lang...
by tomatopotato
Wed Oct 30, 2019 8:58 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: meeting my online friend
Replies: 9
Views: 1473

Re: meeting my online friend

I think I've decided to stop the friendship with him. I'm still a little unsure, but I know that my feeling of "I simply don't want to continue this" is valid. It doesn't make sense to me to go on with this friendship when I'm actually glad that we don't live in the same neighborhood so I ...
by tomatopotato
Wed Oct 23, 2019 4:12 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How can I process these feelings?
Replies: 29
Views: 5382

Re: How can I process these feelings?

Dear humanbeing, first of all, I'm glad you're out of your relationship and hope that you're having loved ones who support you in your situation. If you're not having a therapist you trust I would definitely get in touch with one, but since you've written about your diagnosis I suggest you're curren...
by tomatopotato
Wed Oct 23, 2019 3:34 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Emotional apathy
Replies: 3
Views: 823

Re: Emotional apathy

I'm actually having a lot of free time now which I'm spending in active ways. Recently I've had the chance to recharge a lot, so I'm feeling a lot less stressed! However, could you suggest me some strategies how I can support especially B and how I should deal with them not listening? I've already s...
by tomatopotato
Sat Oct 19, 2019 7:38 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Emotional apathy
Replies: 3
Views: 823

Emotional apathy

Dear members of the message boards, lately my friends are having an extra rough time. Friend A disclosed to me that they thinking about death a lot, without knowing if those are suicidal thoughts. (They are seeing a therapist, therefore I'm not extremely worried) and friend B has a difficult relatio...
by tomatopotato
Thu Aug 29, 2019 11:35 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: being somebody's crush
Replies: 5
Views: 1708

Re: being somebody's crush

What I actually wanted to adress is that I am kinda attracted to him, if being aroused by non-sexual touch counts as attraction. I am simply ashamed of it because I do not think he is aesthetically pleasing, and behaves slightly weird. My friends and family would not judge me, but I kinda would myse...
by tomatopotato
Thu Aug 29, 2019 1:23 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: being somebody's crush
Replies: 5
Views: 1708

Re: being somebody's crush

He still does both, but I'm not super grossed out by it. The touching sometimes feels unwanted in situations, feels like nothing oder really feels super wanted. I just wouldn't ask him to touch me because I'm slightly shy in this matter and because I don't want him to know that I like the touch. How...
by tomatopotato
Wed Aug 28, 2019 6:49 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: being somebody's crush
Replies: 5
Views: 1708

being somebody's crush

Dear scarleteen staff, a while ago I made friends with a bunch of people, including someone who I suspect having a crush on me. The first time I met him I kinda felt attracted to him when he was touching me, despite him being totally not my type. Nevertheless the way he smiles at me disgusts me, I'm...
by tomatopotato
Mon Jun 10, 2019 1:02 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: meeting my online friend
Replies: 9
Views: 1473

Re: meeting my online friend

Oh gosh, thanks, I would not have noticed that! But I think you're right, I've expected it to go smooth. Nevertheless I think another factor is that I am somehow afraid that he is interested sexually in me - 'cause he expressed this certain kind of interest in me in the far aways past, which never l...
by tomatopotato
Mon Jun 10, 2019 12:19 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: meeting my online friend
Replies: 9
Views: 1473

Re: meeting my online friend

We have been texting quite normaly so far. I´ve texted him maybe an hour after we went home to tell him that it was cool getting to know him in person, and he responded quickly and checked in later with me if I came home safely, and then I have texted him one day later and now we´re in the middle of...
by tomatopotato
Mon Jun 10, 2019 11:51 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: meeting my online friend
Replies: 9
Views: 1473

Re: meeting my online friend

I do want to continue being friends, and I would consider meeting him again in person since I actually liked talking to him, but if this simply does not work out I am perfectly fine to keep things online only. No, there where no major different things. I knew that he is pretty introverted, and he wa...
by tomatopotato
Mon Jun 10, 2019 10:43 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: meeting my online friend
Replies: 9
Views: 1473

meeting my online friend

Dear Scarleteen-team, very recently I have met my long time online friend for the first time. We did not call before ever, just send a couple of voice messages a long time ago, and I did not exactly knew how he looked like, so the meet up was quite a surprise that left me with mixed feelings. While ...
by tomatopotato
Mon May 27, 2019 9:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: emotional trouble with her ex-girlfriend
Replies: 1
Views: 593

emotional trouble with her ex-girlfriend

Dear Scarleteen-staff, my best friend is in a complicated situation with her ex-girlfriend and asked me, if I could describe her situation to you to help her deciding whether she should pursue a relationship with her or split up completely. I have already showed her the article "should I stay o...
by tomatopotato
Mon May 27, 2019 9:01 am
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: i can´t open a new topic on the relationships board
Replies: 1
Views: 28835

i can´t open a new topic on the relationships board

Hi scarleteen-staff,

there is no "new topic" button on the relationships-board. Is that on purpose or is something wrong with the board?

I hope you can help me out :)
by tomatopotato
Mon Apr 01, 2019 8:54 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: depressive girlfriend & a new crush
Replies: 1
Views: 1146

depressive girlfriend & a new crush

My best friend is having her first girlfriend since three months. While everything was going quite well with her in the beginning, it has been quite rough for her since mayber a month. Her girlfriend sufferes from depression since her childhood and she is not taken care of professionally. Last month...
by tomatopotato
Sat Nov 24, 2018 9:05 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: confessing your feelings/need of a little pep talk
Replies: 8
Views: 3547

Re: confessing your feelings/need of a little pep talk

I have asked him yesterday if he would consider us more than friends when we were walking home, and he just said that he definetly would, since he has feelings for me, too and if I had not asked him, he would have told me about his feelings in a couple of weeks. Nevertheless, I do not know how thing...
by tomatopotato
Wed Nov 21, 2018 1:57 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: confessing your feelings/need of a little pep talk
Replies: 8
Views: 3547

Re: confessing your feelings/need of a little pep talk

He is coming to my town tomorrow. We're probably going to talk a walk and visit a café, since it's best to clarify things in a neutral surrounding.
How do I can mentally prepare myself for getting rejected?
And how should I manage the conversation if he doesn't have feelings for me?
by tomatopotato
Mon Nov 19, 2018 2:24 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: confessing your feelings/need of a little pep talk
Replies: 8
Views: 3547

Re: confessing your feelings/need of a little pep talk

Oh, I don't think he would be rude. He's definitely going to be surprised, but who wouldn't be? If he doesn't have feelings for me and immediately tells me so and does not want to stay friends I would be pretty bummed. I might cry, since I'm an easy cryer and go home. If he doesn't have feelings for...
by tomatopotato
Mon Nov 19, 2018 2:11 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: confessing your feelings/need of a little pep talk
Replies: 8
Views: 3547

Re: confessing your feelings/need of a little pep talk

I simply thought of telling him something like this: "I just wanted to ask how you would describe the relationship between us. Are we just friends or more than that? I would be rather interested in developing a relationship with you, but I would be fine staying friends since I appreciate your f...
by tomatopotato
Mon Nov 19, 2018 11:20 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: confessing your feelings/need of a little pep talk
Replies: 8
Views: 3547

confessing your feelings/need of a little pep talk

Dear Scarleteen-people, I met a guy online about 1 and a half month ago on an dating app and we have been seing us five times since. (Side not: this is the only time I have ever talked a lot to a guy I like and the first time someone male genuinly seems to like me, I have never had a relationship be...
by tomatopotato
Thu Nov 01, 2018 12:00 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do I tell my parents that I'm meeting/dating an online friend?
Replies: 10
Views: 3819

Re: How do I tell my parents that I'm meeting/dating an online friend?

I just told my parents about him and seeing him soon again. They were really supportive. I didn't expect that to happen AT ALL. My mom said, she believes I'm old enough for making my own decisions and that she's happy I've met somebody I like. They know the city he lives in and therefore visiting hi...
by tomatopotato
Wed Oct 31, 2018 12:34 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do I tell my parents that I'm meeting/dating an online friend?
Replies: 10
Views: 3819

Re: How do I tell my parents that I'm meeting/dating an online friend?

Yes, I think the solution is quite good. If it turns out he does not want to deal with the situation (which would suck and be a kinda shitty move but understandable on the other hand) I don't have to talk to my parents. I'd suggest I simply tell him that my parents do not know about me meeting him s...
by tomatopotato
Wed Oct 31, 2018 11:08 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do I tell my parents that I'm meeting/dating an online friend?
Replies: 10
Views: 3819

Re: How do I tell my parents that I'm meeting/dating an online friend?

1) I don't think so. At least my parents haven't ever given me the impression that meeting someone a little older is a problem. Some of my friends they know and like are 20-22. 2) Oh, I don't know aswell. I'm actually quite fearfull that he'll dump me immediately (but that rather stems from me being...
by tomatopotato
Wed Oct 31, 2018 10:35 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do I tell my parents that I'm meeting/dating an online friend?
Replies: 10
Views: 3819

Re: How do I tell my parents that I'm meeting/dating an online friend?

Oh, I guess I framed it the wrong way. I'm 17 and he is 20, right, and even though I'm not an legal adult and he is I'm considering him kinda my age due to both being young adults or adult-y in a cultural way? Might make no sense. I'm turning 18 next in 8 months, therefore the situation is a little ...
by tomatopotato
Tue Oct 30, 2018 10:15 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do I tell my parents that I'm meeting/dating an online friend?
Replies: 10
Views: 3819

How do I tell my parents that I'm meeting/dating an online friend?

Over month ago I've accidently met someone genuinly nice on a shitty dating app. We had been texting a lot for a couple of weeks and met for the first time around 3 weeks ago. I didn't told my parents because I was ashamed and afraid they wouldn't allow meeting him out of stereotypical fear of Inter...

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