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by thewrit3r
Sun Oct 22, 2017 3:55 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Is the word “straight” heteronormative?
Replies: 5
Views: 3777

Re: Is the word “straight” heteronormative?

If it was offensive to the queer community. I wasn’t sure if calling someone heterosexual straight says that it’s the “right” way to be, like there’s only one direction for a sexual orientation to go. But I could be wrong. I’m heterosexual so I didnt want to make any assumptions.
by thewrit3r
Sun Oct 22, 2017 6:34 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Is the word “straight” heteronormative?
Replies: 5
Views: 3777

Is the word “straight” heteronormative?

I was talking with my family the other day about sexual orientations and mentioned someone being straight but they said that straight is offensive because it implies it’s the “right” sexual orientation because it’s called straight. I’ve been thinking about this for a while and I can see where they’r...
by thewrit3r
Sat Oct 14, 2017 5:15 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: What is Something You're Looking Forward To?
Replies: 19
Views: 9755

Re: What is Something You're Looking Forward To?

Some of my friends invited me to hang out at a restaurant this weekend, they’re going to get all dressed up just for fun :) also one of the clubs on campus is throwing a Halloween party later this month which I’m super excited about
by thewrit3r
Sun Oct 08, 2017 4:37 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Vagina help
Replies: 2
Views: 1836

Re: Vagina help

Hi,

I think it would be a good idea to visit a doctor. I really can't say what's going on and it wouldn't hurt to see someone.
by thewrit3r
Tue Sep 26, 2017 4:23 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I am 19, and i have never had ANYTHING in my vagina. Am i the only one?
Replies: 2
Views: 2155

Re: I am 19, and i have never had ANYTHING in my vagina. Am i the only one?

If it makes you feel better, I'm 20 and I've never had my vagina penetrated by anyone or myself. I don't think there's anything wrong with it. I really don't like using the words "normal" or "weird" because everyone's experiences are different and who are we to judge? It's all re...
by thewrit3r
Sun Sep 17, 2017 3:45 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Advice on not worrying about what people think
Replies: 2
Views: 1656

Re: Advice on not worrying about what people think

Hi, I'm sorry you feel that way, but being aware of your thoughts and biases is a good step to overcoming them. Ableism is embodied in our society so it is going to take some time to undo that. And unfortunately people do stare at disabled people sometimes, so your fears may not be completely unfoun...
by thewrit3r
Sat Sep 16, 2017 5:37 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: How comfortable are you with your genitals?
Replies: 6
Views: 5587

Re: How comfortable are you with your genitals?

I don't really think about my genitals unless I'm in a sexual situation like Jacob said. I do like the way it looks, but I'm treating it more like any other part of my body and I'm trying to like the way my body looks in general. I do feel the need to cover up around other people at home, but I know...
by thewrit3r
Thu Sep 07, 2017 3:50 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: When did you have your first crush?
Replies: 5
Views: 1705

Re: When did you have your first crush?

I don't think it's weird at all. I never really crushed on anyone I met during my high school years, and even now as a junior in college, I can't say I'm crushing on anyone at the moment. I was attracted to people, but it wasn't anyone I wanted to be in a relationship with. I don't know if you've ha...
by thewrit3r
Mon Sep 04, 2017 4:36 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Emotional Needs and Wants
Replies: 4
Views: 1166

Re: Emotional Needs and Wants

Hi First off, it's completely normal to masturbate. Many people do it at some point in their life (but if someone doesn't want to of course that's fine, too). The only time it would be concerning is if it got in the way of anything else you needed or wanted to do, and I did see you mention it confli...
by thewrit3r
Mon Sep 04, 2017 4:20 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Pleasure
Replies: 3
Views: 2360

Re: Pleasure

Hi,

From my understanding, as long as masturbating doesn't get in the way of other things you need/want to do (i.e. school) then you can do it as often as you like.
by thewrit3r
Tue Aug 29, 2017 6:13 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I get no pleasure from Clitoral stimulation
Replies: 7
Views: 19915

Re: I get no pleasure from Clitoral stimulation

Hi! First off, there's no "strange" way to masturbate. Everyone has different preferences and feel pleasure in various ways, so as long as you don't hurt yourself. Secondly, lots of kids masturbate so it's not just something older people do (I know because I did it when I was that young to...
by thewrit3r
Tue Aug 29, 2017 3:58 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: His past
Replies: 8
Views: 1941

Re: His past

It sounds like you're going through a lot. I'm glad you were able to talk with your boyfriend about this and it's good that you recognize where the root issue is. I'm really sorry you had to go through abuse - no one deserves that. I really feel like you would benefit from talking with someone. Have...
by thewrit3r
Mon Aug 28, 2017 2:58 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: His past
Replies: 8
Views: 1941

Re: His past

Hi, Relationships can be really complicated. And since you just got back together after he was with a few other people and you were with someone else, that does add another layer of conplexity to the relationship. The first thing I would assess is exactly what you're worried about regarding your boy...
by thewrit3r
Mon Aug 28, 2017 12:44 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Suicidal / crush
Replies: 4
Views: 1325

Re: Suicidal / crush

It sounds like you're going through a lot. I can definitely relate to the suicidal ideation. You say you have them under control - do you have any measures you take in case you feel suicidal again? I'm just checking to see if you feel safe, which it sounds like you are, but I just want to check in w...
by thewrit3r
Mon Aug 28, 2017 3:34 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Suicidal / crush
Replies: 4
Views: 1325

Re: Suicidal / crush

Hi, Frustrated, First of all, I'm so sorry you lost your friend to suicide. Losing a friend is extremely difficult, but there's always a different layer added when you lose someone to suicide. If you need someone to talk to, you can always call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8...
by thewrit3r
Sat Aug 19, 2017 5:18 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Do you like ASMR?
Replies: 2
Views: 1979

Re: Do you like ASMR?

I first tried ASMR via YouTube, but like Mo I isn't get the tingling sensation. But I did want to look at it again because I'm always looking for ways to relax :) I know it's not the same but I like listening to white noise every night - it helps me sleep.
by thewrit3r
Tue Aug 15, 2017 4:28 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Mission trips=white savior complex?
Replies: 2
Views: 2448

Re: Mission trips=white savior complex?

I haven't yet only because I don't know if they're under the mindset of black people needing to be saved by white people. It's never explicitly said, I guess just because I often see them with black people, or anyone who's not white, I just get that vibe at times. I think too because of history I'm ...
by thewrit3r
Fri Aug 11, 2017 10:14 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Mission trips=white savior complex?
Replies: 2
Views: 2448

Mission trips=white savior complex?

Every time I see a friend or someone else doing mission trips in places like Africa, it's mostly white people. And I know it's good to help those in need but a lot of times people write about how inspiring it was to work with people and how God wanted them to do it, etc. And it just bothers me. I'm ...
by thewrit3r
Thu Aug 10, 2017 5:51 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I'm questioning my sexual orientation
Replies: 7
Views: 5260

Re: I'm questioning my sexual orientation

Your parents are definitely hypocritical. I don't think they actually accept anyone who's not heterosexual but they justify it somehow since no one wants to be called a homophobe/biphobic/etc. It's kind of like when people say "I'm not racist, but..."and they make a racist statement, as if...
by thewrit3r
Thu Jul 27, 2017 9:52 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: cnat climax with/thinking about my girlfriend
Replies: 4
Views: 1986

Re: cnat climax with/thinking about my girlfriend

Hi, Sam pretty much summed up what I was going to say about sexual attraction, but I thought I'd still add my two cents: Sexual attraction doesn't have to equal romantic attraction. While you may be turned on by your fantasies of women in porn/in your mind you probably don't feel the emotional conne...
by thewrit3r
Wed Jul 26, 2017 4:37 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I'm confused about myself
Replies: 6
Views: 3978

Re: I'm confused about myself

I'm really sorry you're having a hard time finding support from people in your life. If you could truly talk to someone without judgement I think that would lift a huge weight off your shoulders. Support systems are really important in life, and while I know you've had bad experiences, I still belie...
by thewrit3r
Tue Jul 25, 2017 9:54 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I didn't know masturbation was a thing
Replies: 2
Views: 2048

Re: I didn't know masturbation was a thing

Exactly! I felt so guilty for the longest time that I'd done something wrong. To know now I could have saved myself a few years of shame makes me frustrated that I didn't know earlier but also relieved - I know longer have to think that way anymore! :D There does seem to be this mindset that masturb...
by thewrit3r
Tue Jul 25, 2017 9:47 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I'm confused about myself
Replies: 6
Views: 3978

Re: I'm confused about myself

I just wanted to add to what Sam said, that sexuality can be fluid. I was pretty sure I was straight, but I have wondered if I was attracted to women in the past. I still would identify as straight but I do feel attracted to women - it's just not the same as my attraction to men. And while I don't t...
by thewrit3r
Sat Jul 22, 2017 5:35 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I didn't know masturbation was a thing
Replies: 2
Views: 2048

I didn't know masturbation was a thing

After seeing the "Masturbation Myths" forum I just realized I never heard any of these myths growing up because I didn't even know masturbation was a thing until I was 14, and I had been doing it for years! My parents NEVER brought it up with me (as far as I remember; my mom talked about i...
by thewrit3r
Sat Jul 22, 2017 5:26 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation Myths
Replies: 8
Views: 4299

Re: Masturbation Myths

Strangely enough I didn't even know masturbation was a thing until I was 14 ago, years after I started doing it! But since I've gone on I've heard the typical "you'll grow hair on your palms/go/blind/etc.", that you'll make sex less enjoyable with a partner because you'll have "used u...

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