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by thewrit3r
Thu Mar 12, 2020 4:21 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Working in Sex Ed?
Replies: 4
Views: 1236

Working in Sex Ed?

Hi, everyone, I’ve been at Scarleteen for awhile and seeing the information here, plus hearing about my mom’s work with HIV-positive patients (where she also discusses safe sexual practices) made me consider a career in sex education. I’m pretty frustrated with how sex ed in the USA is now but I see...
by thewrit3r
Thu Feb 06, 2020 5:18 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Sexual harassment from a professor
Replies: 10
Views: 1771

Re: Sexual harassment from a professor

I do remember learning that in therapy about mindfulness practices and letting your thoughts sit with you without judgement. I do find ranting helps. I used to journal in the morning to get my thoughts out, but I suppose it could help to just have a journal with me whenever I need to vent. I didn’t ...
by thewrit3r
Wed Feb 05, 2020 5:27 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Internalized sexism
Replies: 13
Views: 2676

Re: Internalized sexism

It’s been awhile since I posted here but I just wanted to thank everyone for their input. It’s so so nice to talk to people who see and hear me as a person. So many places on the internet (and where I live) aren’t very inclusive and this has got to be one of the most inclusive spaces I’ve found onli...
by thewrit3r
Wed Feb 05, 2020 5:22 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Sexual harassment from a professor
Replies: 10
Views: 1771

Re: Sexual harassment from a professor

You’re right. Honestly if the situation was reversed and my friend was worried about being an “asshole” for not being able to handle hearing about this, I’d tell them that they’re not an asshole and that it’s healthy to put up boundaries to protect your mental health. I don’t know why I’m so hard on...
by thewrit3r
Mon Feb 03, 2020 6:31 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Sexual harassment from a professor
Replies: 10
Views: 1771

Re: Sexual harassment from a professor

Hi, 0pt1m15t1c and Heather, I’ve thought about that. My major is actually writing and I’ve written op-eds for school before. I’ve never dealt with this before and am still processing it so I’m not quite comfortable writing about it just yet. I think I need more time to digest it and talk confidentia...
by thewrit3r
Mon Feb 03, 2020 1:49 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Sexual harassment from a professor
Replies: 10
Views: 1771

Sexual harassment from a professor

I’m graduating from university this semester and I recently found out last year that one of the professors in my department has been sexually harassing female students. From what I’ve heard (I’ve never had class with him), a student complained about him a few years ago to the department chair, they ...
by thewrit3r
Mon Jan 27, 2020 6:38 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Internalized sexism
Replies: 13
Views: 2676

Re: Internalized sexism

I do think that would work. I’m working on being a better advocate for myself which includes respecting that my need for boundaries is perfectly valid. Honestly I’ve been spending too much time on the internet and sometimes around other people in person where most of the sexism/hate is coming from. ...
by thewrit3r
Thu Jan 23, 2020 6:43 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Internalized sexism
Replies: 13
Views: 2676

Re: Internalized sexism

Thanks Heather :) it’s nice to know that I DO have a right to respect and that my feelings are 100% valid :) I’ve actually never really set boundaries with people, so how would I start? Would I just say, “hey, I’m not comfortable talking about X; can we talk about something else?” I feel like that c...
by thewrit3r
Fri Jan 17, 2020 11:38 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Internalized sexism
Replies: 13
Views: 2676

Re: Internalized sexism

Hi, Sam, I really do feel like I’m angry all the time when I think about all the sexism (not to mention racism and other discrimination in the world) is and at this point I think it’s a matter of channeling that anger into something positive. I actually found the feminist club on campus nice. It fee...
by thewrit3r
Thu Jan 16, 2020 2:48 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Internalized sexism
Replies: 13
Views: 2676

Re: Internalized sexism

Hi, Alexa, I often find that just venting out my feelings helps get me out of a rut and reevaluate my feelings and this really helped, so thank you so much for listening :) (And thanks Heather for the message! I appreciate everything you all do at Scarleteen :))) To answer some of your questions, I ...
by thewrit3r
Wed Jan 15, 2020 5:54 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Internalized sexism
Replies: 13
Views: 2676

Internalized sexism

Hi! I haven’t been here in forever and I know I’m not exactly the age range for this website but this is the most inclusive, sex positive site I’ve found and it’s one of the few places I feel like I can truly be myself and not worry about being judged. What I’m writing now has been on my mind recent...
by thewrit3r
Mon Jun 03, 2019 5:31 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: If You're Celebrating Pride, How are You Celebrating It?
Replies: 5
Views: 2310

Re: If You're Celebrating Pride, How are You Celebrating It?

My town is fairly conservative as well so I have no idea what’s happening publicly, but I follow a local LGBT group on Facebook and they list local events; I’ll see if they’re doing anything. This is really minor and not a large crowd type of celebration, but I’d really like to get a bisexual flag t...
by thewrit3r
Mon Jun 03, 2019 5:27 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Happy Pride Month!!!
Replies: 3
Views: 2112

Re: Happy Pride Month!!!

Thanks, Heather! I am feeling a lot better about letting it out. My biggest anxiety was that I felt like I couldn’t “make” up my mind in my sexuality but as you and several others have pointed, sexuality can be fluid and if I don’t have a strict term for mine that’s okay. I’m getting okay with my se...
by thewrit3r
Sat Jun 01, 2019 3:34 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Happy Pride Month!!!
Replies: 3
Views: 2112

Happy Pride Month!!!

Happy Pride Month to everyone! I just came out online and I’m feeling some mixed feelings - anxiety, nervousness, just generally unsure of how I identify - but I’m relieved I allowed myself to be honest and so thankful that my friends have been nothing but supportive. No matter where you are on your...
by thewrit3r
Fri May 03, 2019 11:44 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: When You're Having a Blah Body Day, What Helps you Feel Better?
Replies: 5
Views: 2250

Re: When You're Having a Blah Body Day, What Helps you Feel Better?

Exercise or movement of any kind also helps me because it helps me realize what my body is capable of doing. It also just feels good when the endorphins are being released. Dancing is definitely a favorite of mine for body positivity because it’s just so fun I love myself in it :)
by thewrit3r
Mon Jan 28, 2019 4:07 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Your partner's politics
Replies: 5
Views: 4774

Re: Your partner's politics

Like Sam said, there are somw political views I can’t budge on - especially identity politics. I think it’s ridiculous that someone’s identity is politicized (being black, gay, female, or just a minority in general) so that’s not something I can compromise on (and like Sam said, they probably wouldn...
by thewrit3r
Sun Jan 27, 2019 3:17 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Stressful night
Replies: 2
Views: 1949

Re: Stressful night

Hi Sam, I did mention to her that she seemed out of it (I said she didn’t seem like she was feeling well) but I didn’t outright say she was drunk. I don’t know, that sounds more accusing than concerned but I feel like she has a right to know. She just texted me back that her meds were the reason she...
by thewrit3r
Sun Jan 27, 2019 9:27 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Stressful night
Replies: 2
Views: 1949

Stressful night

Last night I went dancing with some friends at a social. It was a lot of fun but then I saw one of my friends come in and she was really drunk. When I went to hug her, she was literally stumbling and couldn’t really control her body movements. Thankfully she came with friends so they were watching h...
by thewrit3r
Sat Nov 10, 2018 11:40 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: What's your favourite Scarleteen article?
Replies: 7
Views: 4473

Re: What's your favourite Scarleteen article?

This one is awesome when I’m considering being sexually active and my needs and wants: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/yes_no_maybe_so_a_sexual_inventory_stocklist I also love this one, especially since my sex education was next to none: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodies/can_i_get_pr...
by thewrit3r
Sat Nov 10, 2018 11:35 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: What is one thing you learned about sex & yourself this year?
Replies: 18
Views: 9663

Re: What is one thing you learned about sex & yourself this year?

Realizing that sex is and can be multiple things, that sexuality can be fluid and that’s perfectly okay, I deserve respect from my partner and vice versa, and sex should be consensual, fun, and safe!
by thewrit3r
Sun Oct 21, 2018 4:52 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Who are you comfortable talking about sex with?
Replies: 8
Views: 5052

Re: Who are you comfortable talking about sex with?

Maybe because I’m on a college campus but it’s pretty easy to talk to people at sex when it’s say, an overview and not detailed - like gender norms with sex, consent, kinks, etc. I also talk with my mom a bit and sometimes my older brother about the politics of sex. With more personal stuff I have a...
by thewrit3r
Sun Sep 30, 2018 6:25 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Creeped out by myself.
Replies: 6
Views: 2455

Re: Creeped out by myself.

Hi, Before I say anything else, I saw that you mentioned you have GAD. Are you receiving any treatment for it? Medication, therapy, something else? I’ve found from personal experience that mental illness doesn’t go away on its own and it really needs to be adddressed if you want to feel better. Beca...
by thewrit3r
Sun Sep 30, 2018 6:15 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Tales of a 20-year-old virgin
Replies: 4
Views: 3265

Re: Tales of a 20-year-old virgin

Hey, 21-year-old virgin here :) just wanted to add my two cents to show you that it’s not “weird” or “wrong” to be a virgin at any age. And like Alice said it really depends on your definition of virgin. Are you just counting vaginal intercourse? There are a lot of sexual acts that are just as valid...
by thewrit3r
Thu Sep 20, 2018 8:06 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: What's "Real Sex?" (Seriously.)
Replies: 14
Views: 11978

Re: What's "Real Sex?" (Seriously.)

This definitely bothers me a lot, well it bothered me a lot more until I came on here and you all helped me see that sex is not just PIV intercourse but a range of activities. I felt good about that because while I haven’t had sex with anyone yet, I know I don’t enjoy penetration and I thought that ...
by thewrit3r
Tue Aug 14, 2018 5:19 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Bi the way
Replies: 4
Views: 6049

Re: Bi the way

Hi again, I can’t believe I’m going back to this, but here I am haha. I’ve been thinking a lot about my sexuality because I feel like it keeps changing! There’s a large part of me that feels like I’m a “fake” bisexual - that I want to be bisexual because it opens my dating pool, but I don’t want to ...

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