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by Iwanthelp
Fri Aug 05, 2016 3:17 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Does this count as rape (Not my experience)
Replies: 7
Views: 1672

Re: Does this count as rape (Not my experience)

Posted a 'you shouldnt really do x' message then I logged like a wuss. Held it off for hours. my reward is going to cook spaghetti I suppose. At the moment I feel kinda...sad, a weird empty and detached. Plus denial because I don't want to admit this is something that's in my space, if I sit too lon...
by Iwanthelp
Fri Aug 05, 2016 11:11 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Does this count as rape (Not my experience)
Replies: 7
Views: 1672

Re: Does this count as rape (Not my experience)

Yeah, it's...a fucking mess, if this was some random person we could interact with or who explicitly identified it as not-good in his (probably skewed) accounts I imagine the rest would be taking a different tone or not falling for the 'grey area' bullshit. On top of that...He mentioned "Dude I...
by Iwanthelp
Fri Aug 05, 2016 10:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Does this count as rape (Not my experience)
Replies: 7
Views: 1672

Does this count as rape (Not my experience)

I moderate an online group and something came up that's disturbing me. I think one of the members inadvertently confessed to assaulting someone that didn't have the capacity for consent. I'll post a chatlog and bold points I find relevant, names are changed. On top of that I feel the story he's pres...
by Iwanthelp
Wed Jul 20, 2016 8:23 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Abuse, Calling Out and Privilege
Replies: 5
Views: 2105

Re: Abuse, Calling Out and Privilege

It sucks that people against minorities would try to twist a callout to support transphobia but that isn't your fault. If they didn't use this they would be using something else - fabricating bathroom scares comes to mind. Any backlash isn't your fault, he made a choice to behave in a shitty abusive...
by Iwanthelp
Mon Mar 14, 2016 8:47 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: It's really weighing me down a lot.
Replies: 43
Views: 6484

Re: It's really weighing me down a lot.

And if he didn't apply force is it still abuse? It's still abuse. I don't know how you stop self-blame effectively but something that helps me sometimes is to try avoid kicking myself for feeling bad, that tends to exarcebate the bad feelings. External validation can help with self-blame feelings, ...
by Iwanthelp
Mon Mar 14, 2016 7:31 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Not totally sure if it counts but here goes
Replies: 12
Views: 2972

Re: Not totally sure if it counts but here goes

Do you know which local authority you live in? That'd be very helpful to know, and you'll also need to know that. If you don't, putting your town/city in a search engine along with "local authority" should tell you. If you're comfortable saying here what town/city you live in, I'm also ha...
by Iwanthelp
Mon Mar 14, 2016 2:07 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Not totally sure if it counts but here goes
Replies: 12
Views: 2972

Re: Not totally sure if it counts but here goes

Can't edit posts so I'll prattle on for a bit I guess - the mum isn't really helpful, I point out I'm not talking to her until she admits she was wrong and she just uses the fact I didn't lock doors at various points as an excuse for what she did. Or "you could have went in the car". Had a...
by Iwanthelp
Sun Mar 13, 2016 11:16 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Not totally sure if it counts but here goes
Replies: 12
Views: 2972

Re: Not totally sure if it counts but here goes

Little update to say I am back home at the moment, parents (Don't want to type that but no other word works grammatically) are back tonight. I did get an email response but I'm not entirely sure what route to chase up first - a lot of links were dropped, recommendations appreciated. I'll quote the e...
by Iwanthelp
Fri Mar 04, 2016 11:08 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Not totally sure if it counts but here goes
Replies: 12
Views: 2972

Re: Not totally sure if it counts but here goes

I've emailed nas@nas.org.uk (National Autistic society email listed on a site, the initial automated response mentions it may be "3-5 working days" before they reply. The place/relatives I'm staying with isn't bad so I'm okay with a wait period really (Honestly, I get they're technically e...
by Iwanthelp
Fri Mar 04, 2016 6:19 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Not totally sure if it counts but here goes
Replies: 12
Views: 2972

Re: Not totally sure if it counts but here goes

Thanks. I'll try to hold off on the 'ask the police station' thing until I've contacted someplace else first - it seems like the best since when I can't explain myself I get frustrated and communication tanks so I see what you're getting at there. (and it tanks extra if I get a dismissive response) ...
by Iwanthelp
Fri Mar 04, 2016 3:35 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Not totally sure if it counts but here goes
Replies: 12
Views: 2972

Re: Not totally sure if it counts but here goes

Thanks for the response, the validation is nice. I veered off into rambling territory so I'll try to more succintly adress questions here. Can I first check with you if you're legally responsible for your own self or whether either of your parents or anyone else has any legal guardianship or Power o...
by Iwanthelp
Thu Mar 03, 2016 2:11 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Not totally sure if it counts but here goes
Replies: 12
Views: 2972

Not totally sure if it counts but here goes

If this doesn't count as abuse feel free to shuffle this thread into another section. Swearing and physical abuse mentions ahead. oh and self harm I guess. OP is in Scotland. I'm 23 and autistic, last week my mum said she was going on holiday for 9 days - I'm not very great at the whole independence...
by Iwanthelp
Fri Mar 13, 2015 3:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: No periods after abortion?
Replies: 3
Views: 829

Re: No periods after abortion?

Hm, thanks. That's a little less foreboding an answer than I thought I'd get, so that's looking a bit brighter I guess.
by Iwanthelp
Thu Mar 12, 2015 6:48 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: No periods after abortion?
Replies: 3
Views: 829

No periods after abortion?

This is a follow-up to http://www.scarleteen.com/bb/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=1314 , which should give an idea of how long its' been. So, yeah. My friend had an abortion since...before January 13th, I don't think any periods have happened since then. They aren't on contraceptive pills/jabs, just using...
by Iwanthelp
Wed Jan 14, 2015 5:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Abortion complications nearly killed a friend
Replies: 4
Views: 1396

Re: Abortion complications nearly killed a friend

Thanks for the advice. Even if it's not insta-sue material I'm glad to see some sort of 'here is a course of action that could be taken/options' illustrated out. Thanks a bunch for doing that.
by Iwanthelp
Tue Jan 13, 2015 5:43 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Abortion complications nearly killed a friend
Replies: 4
Views: 1396

Abortion complications nearly killed a friend

If you don't have/can't answer for the legal aspects, that's fine - but I'd like some sort of response if you can. To preface, friend is in England. My friend had an abortion - they told her the foetus had less weeks than it did, perhaps it looked a little more developed she wound up traumatized fro...

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