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by IrisEnfys
Sat Jan 23, 2021 7:01 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Train myself to cry instead of getting angry.
Replies: 3
Views: 5694

Re: Train myself to cry instead of getting angry.

Heather, I don't think this was always the case for me. As far as I can remember I used to cry more easily, and don't know when I started getting angry 99 out of 100 times instead of crying. I don't know if I have any barriers, but did manage to cry today when I was angry, so I may be making progres...
by IrisEnfys
Sat Jan 23, 2021 2:44 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Train myself to cry instead of getting angry.
Replies: 3
Views: 5694

Train myself to cry instead of getting angry.

I personally get angry and scream when upset frequently when I want to cry, but I constantly feel my tear ducts are full of ice blocking my tears when I want to cry so I get angry instead. Does anyone have ideas on how to retrain myself to cry instead of being angry when I get upset?
by IrisEnfys
Tue Oct 27, 2020 6:28 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is there a good way to stay happy when people around me aren't?
Replies: 3
Views: 2220

Re: Is there a good way to stay happy when people around me aren't?

Most of it is not from online anymore, though it used to be mostly online. I've become a much happier person since I've spent less time online and more time working on music. I have tried to tell my family members to be less angry and acidic, and hope it works. I will ask my parents about taking wal...
by IrisEnfys
Mon Oct 26, 2020 2:48 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is there a good way to stay happy when people around me aren't?
Replies: 3
Views: 2220

Is there a good way to stay happy when people around me aren't?

For years, I've been very sensitive to other people's anger especially when they yell and use profanity. When online if I constantly see people expressing anger and hate, even if justified, it makes my mood more sour and makes me feel angry and hateful. For me anger and hate are as contagious as mea...
by IrisEnfys
Mon Oct 19, 2020 12:50 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I want advice about my new love
Replies: 5
Views: 3000

Re: I want advice about my new love

Hey Sam W. I will keep your suggestion in mind and not use a commission to get closer. It's a silly idea, as love should ideally be free and not dependent on person paying the other. I'll consider joining or setting up a group chat with some mutual friends we have on Instagram, because I feel that i...
by IrisEnfys
Mon Oct 19, 2020 12:15 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I want advice about my new love
Replies: 5
Views: 3000

Re: I want advice about my new love

I will look back at the old articles. Thank you and the others in that thread for helping me by giving me advice that is applicable to not just one situation, but really infinite situations. I do need to have a conversation with someone if I want to have a personal relationship, which I will do even...
by IrisEnfys
Sat Oct 17, 2020 3:55 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I want advice about my new love
Replies: 5
Views: 3000

I want advice about my new love

Yesterday, I fell in love with a girl, and it's Cupid himself fired an arrow at me and it struck perfectly because I'm so suddenly in love with her. I'm even losing interest in pursuing my other crush who I've wanted to be mine since February, because I'm so in love. There some reasons she's a bette...
by IrisEnfys
Thu Oct 15, 2020 4:52 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Is it a problem to never masturbate?
Replies: 3
Views: 2812

Re: Is it a problem to never masturbate?

Thank you for the advice, Heather! I am seeing an OCD therapist, and we will enter a new stage of treatment for my OCD soon, so that is great for me.
by IrisEnfys
Wed Oct 14, 2020 1:31 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Is it a problem to never masturbate?
Replies: 3
Views: 2812

Is it a problem to never masturbate?

I never masturbate because I never feel like it. Recently I've been having recurrent sexual thoughts and images that disgust me I believe are caused by OCD, but have also been told masturbating will help and I may have these thoughts because I'm sexually frustrated. Are there any mental or physical ...
by IrisEnfys
Mon May 04, 2020 10:15 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can't tell if I'm bi or gay because of a celebrity crush...
Replies: 5
Views: 2820

Re: Can't tell if I'm bi or gay because of a celebrity crush...

I understand, Sam W. I have a very active and creative imagination, and it's been getting more complex as I've grown up due to me learning new things. I thank you and al for your help.
by IrisEnfys
Mon May 04, 2020 8:39 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can't tell if I'm bi or gay because of a celebrity crush...
Replies: 5
Views: 2820

Re: Can't tell if I'm bi or gay because of a celebrity crush...

I don't really want a relationship with him like I want a relationship with the girl I actually have a crush on, and am not really interested in pursuing someone like him at all. I've never really wanted to pursue a relationship with a male like I've wanted to be in a relationship with females, so I...
by IrisEnfys
Sun May 03, 2020 6:59 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can't tell if I'm bi or gay because of a celebrity crush...
Replies: 5
Views: 2820

Can't tell if I'm bi or gay because of a celebrity crush...

So, this feels awkward for me, but I'm a 17 year old girl who used to identify as lesbian, but feel that may not be accurate because of fantasies about a male celebrity. I keep having dreams where we have sex (usually him giving me oral sex before having intercourse with me, even though I don't usua...
by IrisEnfys
Thu Apr 30, 2020 9:59 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: POSITIVE TOPIC
Replies: 9
Views: 8608

Re: POSITIVE TOPIC

I've found new music I love, and am constantly improving my voice and keyboard talents myself so I can be a professional singer soon! I also have new things to entertain myself with that aren't electronic courtesy of my absolutely awesome mom, like an Avengers Endgame themed puzzle and the book &quo...
by IrisEnfys
Wed Mar 18, 2020 2:18 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Deeply In Love With A Young Adult
Replies: 9
Views: 3919

Re: Deeply In Love With A Young Adult

These articles were helpful, and I'm thankful for them and this site! Now, I may not be going to camp at all because COVID-19 might be very serious, but I will be okay. I'll still keep contact with her on social media, and am hopeful towards the future. We're both doing fine despite the fact that I'...
by IrisEnfys
Tue Mar 03, 2020 2:46 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How are you nuturing your relationship with yourself right now?
Replies: 2
Views: 1734

Re: How are you nuturing your relationship with yourself right now?

I've been taking naps to music for less than an hour once or maybe twice on days I feel tired and trying to control my anger with methods like naming things I can see or just thinking "bug off" when I have annoying intrusive thoughts due to OCD. I don't nap every day, but napping does make...
by IrisEnfys
Tue Mar 03, 2020 12:40 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Deeply In Love With A Young Adult
Replies: 9
Views: 3919

Re: Deeply In Love With A Young Adult

Hi Sam W! I don't want to objectify her or become intoxicated with love for her, and I'm not centering my life around her loving me back. I'm focusing on making friends, building skills and other things that are productive, or at least trying to do those things. Sometimes, the feelings do fluctuate ...
by IrisEnfys
Mon Mar 02, 2020 6:57 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Deeply In Love With A Young Adult
Replies: 9
Views: 3919

Re: Deeply In Love With A Young Adult

Hey rubyted (Nice to see another person who knows ASL on the site, I'm learning it and hope to become fluent one day)! Yeah, I wouldn't have sex with her until I was 18 because it's illegal in my state, and know how to get people to help me out if the relationship becomes emotional/physically/sexual...
by IrisEnfys
Sun Mar 01, 2020 5:32 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: What is one thing you learned about sex & yourself this year?
Replies: 18
Views: 14360

Re: What is one thing you learned about sex & yourself this year?

I realized I was bisexual, and now can't stop fantasizing about sexual things even though I identified as ace last year and don't know how to get a partner. I also discovered I love the movie Titanic and can give people migraines with my voice if I sing badly (Oops).
by IrisEnfys
Sun Mar 01, 2020 1:52 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Deeply In Love With A Young Adult
Replies: 9
Views: 3919

Re: Deeply In Love With A Young Adult

I'm not too jealous of her boyfriend/potential boyfriend (before her and her last boyfriend broke up, I even fantasized about going to their wedding. I wasn't in love with her at that point, but even now I'd go to her wedding if she invited me.) and think I know how to leave an abusive situation. If...
by IrisEnfys
Sat Feb 29, 2020 7:09 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Deeply In Love With A Young Adult
Replies: 9
Views: 3919

Deeply In Love With A Young Adult

Dear Scarleteen I'm 16, 17 in less than a month, and have a strong crush on a 26 year old woman I met online. She had a boyfriend when we met, and I didn't fall in love with her until after they broke up a week or two ago. I've told two of my friends about my crush on her, and they don't think it's ...

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