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by sky
Sun Jul 30, 2023 10:15 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 1111285

Re: unsure what to make of this

It would be nice to say the words maybe yeah. I hate talking about any of this sometimes because I feel like it wasn’t bad and let it go and then if I go to therapy I don’t know how to talk to them and I don’t know how to heal because all I do is blame myself. Every negative experience I have had wi...
by sky
Sat Jul 29, 2023 1:22 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 1111285

Re: unsure what to make of this

Yes, it’s the only place who tests for herpes near me without insurance I’ve looked, a lot. He’s earned my trust because I’ve seen him around so many people and he’s always sweet and gentle. Also, my friend wouldn’t associate with an abuser or shitty person. It’s the words and the idea that it’s wha...
by sky
Sat Jul 29, 2023 9:19 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 1111285

Re: unsure what to make of this

I do not mind the list! It helped me too actually :) I lost insurance before I got tested and planned parenthood is hundreds to get tested. So I have to wait until I get insurance again to get tested. I’m 99% certain it’s not herpes. Regarding weekend activities, It’s like anything has alcohol anymo...
by sky
Sat Jul 29, 2023 1:19 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 1111285

Re: unsure what to make of this

I really just need to get this all out. So I just came back from a friends house, she usually tells me when she’s going to drink so that I can decide if I want to come or not because I usually don’t go when they are drinking. We made plans and they decided last minute to drink and they asked if it w...
by sky
Thu Jul 27, 2023 12:53 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 1111285

Re: unsure what to make of this

It was never confirmed herpes. Genital psoriasis is more fitting to everything happening.

Yes I get you, sorry if I crossed a boundary. I feel so like broken and used, I wish I could forget it all or go back and not let any of it happen, with being molested or dating him or anything like that.
by sky
Thu Jul 27, 2023 12:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 1111285

Re: unsure what to make of this

I’m gonna try to make this make as much sense as I can. Can I act like the sexual things with him didn't happen? Like do I have to tell a future partner about that kind of sex we had even though it was oral and manual and direct genital contact once that I didn’t say was okay, I asked for a condom t...
by sky
Wed Jul 26, 2023 10:53 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 1111285

Re: unsure what to make of this

I honestly just feel dumb. I defended him for so long. He made me so afraid one night and I just apologized and took the blame because I had watched porn before we met and he was angry that I saw another penis and he was so mad like so mad, then I let him meet my family. I thought that was something...
by sky
Tue Jul 25, 2023 9:04 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 1111285

Re: unsure what to make of this

So that article last night has been sitting with me all day. I realized that my ex sexually abused me. I didn’t think it was bad enough but it was bad. No matter how I flip it in my brain I felt pressured. I still feel bad for telling people and like making him look bad which is stupid that I’m hold...
by sky
Tue Jul 25, 2023 9:16 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 1111285

Re: unsure what to make of this

I understand you, fully. Thank you.

When it comes to everything I hate being alone but I am safe right now and that’s a good feeling to have. I don’t have someone to coax me or anything and that’s a nice feeling to have
by sky
Tue Jul 25, 2023 1:12 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 1111285

Re: unsure what to make of this

Just coming to add- I can’t fall asleep my mind is wandering too much so I come here for support to calm my mind down and I read the things written under the topics I somehow missed this one in relationships, the no grey area journey healing to sexual assault article. Actually almost cried. It hit s...
by sky
Mon Jul 24, 2023 9:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 1111285

Re: unsure what to make of this

I understand you fully. I think part of my problem is I have been told a lot by people in my life, that sexual attraction is very important and if you don’t have sex with them you don’t know how the relationship will be because the connection during sex is really important. If you don’t like having ...
by sky
Sun Jul 23, 2023 2:54 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 1111285

Re: unsure what to make of this

I’ve used those that on my friends yes, said that I was too tired of didn’t feel good or was in pain and they always have been nice about it. I always tell them before we meet but I usually end up doing stuff anyways because I feel aroused or guilty for wasting their time meeting me so I put out in ...
by sky
Sun Jul 23, 2023 9:06 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 1111285

Re: unsure what to make of this

Thanks for the reply! Everyone who’s been talking to me! :) We can go through scripts, that’s a great idea actually. As far as what I think is gonna happen if I tell them I don’t wanna have sex, there’s a few things. If we’re kissing and touching and stuff and then I stop it because it’s moving fast...
by sky
Sat Jul 22, 2023 3:08 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 1111285

Re: unsure what to make of this

I really don’t believe that to be true, that I have value beyond having sex. I gotta delete these apps and try not to push it. I just don’t know how I’m gonna meet someone if I’m not on dating apps. I also don’t know how to communicate I’m not ready for sex and I’m also very scared to communicate th...
by sky
Fri Jul 21, 2023 9:50 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 1111285

Re: unsure what to make of this

Okay! No rush/worries :) I also wanted to add something, a lot of the free things are inside and it’s literally people dying for long time sun exposure and just super uncomfortable here. Also, I don’t drink or smoke and I feel that takes a lot of dates off the board, so it’s like people wanna go to ...
by sky
Thu Jul 20, 2023 3:47 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 1111285

Re: unsure what to make of this

Define platonic friendships? Because I desperately want to hold hands with someone and maybe kiss them. For sure hold hands and hugs where they rub my head. I know this is just probably trauma talking but I really don’t know how to not have it turn into sex. I just start feeling all these things in ...
by sky
Thu Jul 20, 2023 2:20 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 1111285

Re: unsure what to make of this

I don’t think I want to send him a message because I think that no matter how I met up with him, or anyone for that matter, I would start something sexual and I really don’t want to do that with someone so fast like I have in the past, it always led to guilt and it’ll be really awkward for him to re...
by sky
Thu Jul 20, 2023 1:43 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 1111285

Re: unsure what to make of this

So a few things about your response Heather- I was always taught that girls don’t ask boys out and when I had in the past like in elementary like asked a boy do you wanna go out with me and they’d say yes I’d be like yay I have a boyfriend and some of my family would be like oh you asked him out don...
by sky
Thu Jul 20, 2023 9:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 1111285

Re: unsure what to make of this

I don’t know if she would share the sexual bits with her boyfriend, I don’t think so? I don’t know I feel about this dynamic in our friendship, I really only have one friend I can talk to regarding stuff like this and she’s online and like 10 years older then me and on the ace spec and it’s been yea...
by sky
Thu Jul 20, 2023 8:41 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 1111285

Re: unsure what to make of this

She does know, I told her awhile ago, and of course she told her boyfriend which annoyed me and now I’m sure the guy I have a thing for knows too but I try not to think about it, the fact that he probably knows. As far as talking to her about it, I don’t really feel comfortable with it just due to t...
by sky
Thu Jul 20, 2023 12:19 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unsure what to make of this
Replies: 37
Views: 1111285

unsure what to make of this

Hey, I have been trying so hard to isolate from my friends because like even when I do see them, I feel so sad after even though I had fun and I feel like I am just a pest on here. I don’t feel comfortable talking to my friends about this because I don’t feel they understand me so I’m going to come ...
by sky
Tue May 10, 2022 8:06 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: …hey
Replies: 3
Views: 843

Re: …hey

So, I ended up texting him last night. He asked about my grandparents and I filled him in and told him I missed him so much and life kinda sucks without him but I know that it’s best for both of us to move on. I was seeing a therapist but it was $90 and we didn’t connect. I didn’t like her at all so...
by sky
Mon May 09, 2022 7:19 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: …hey
Replies: 3
Views: 843

…hey

Hi. I know we’ve talked about this prior and like I don’t even know why I’m here again. I just am lonely. I want someone else in my life so bad. I know no one is perfect and everyone has like red flags and I broke up with someone I love because of them. That’s not right. He thought I was attractive ...
by sky
Thu Feb 24, 2022 3:03 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 289
Views: 43177

Re: Just need some reassurance

Heather told me everything. I know you all know. Let’s not talk about it. I’m not mad at Heather I’m simply just mad at the situation, I don’t know if mad is the way I feel because I’m not good at emotions but I’m definitely not happy!! Also if anyone please wants to explain how those men didn’t lov...
by sky
Thu Feb 24, 2022 8:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 289
Views: 43177

Re: Just need some reassurance

It feels so shitty complaining and talking about my life with everything happening in the world..

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