Also a year later (for reference, I turned 20 summer of 2023), I still stand by what I said. You make a really good point here - that no matter what, people under 18 will find their way into 18+ spaces - but I don't think you realize what that ultimately means in terms of the existence of 18+ spaces...

Yes, it does. I stopped paying attention to these topics for a while, sorry; I've been having severe sleep issues that we're in the process of diagnosing and seems to be turning out to be sleep apnea. It does make sense that the experience of being submissive or dominant is very varied, but... I fee...

So, I've posted here before, I know I've mentioned my boyfriend more than once. I love him a lot, and care about him, but I often feel guilty because he's always saying how much he loves me and that I'm "perfect", while on my end, I feel... there's several things I would like to change. Fi...

I have checked my spam folder; nothing. Interestingly, I'm subscribed to another thread on this site, and while I did actually get a bubble by the notification button on this site for that thread, I haven't gotten any for this thread - and I've gotten emails for neither. Which could just be that I a...

So, the thing about dominant/submissive vs. top/bottom is that people use them in lots of different ways; often top/bottom is used as a more socially acceptable version of sub/dom. From what I've gathered, top/bottom were originally terms used by gay men to show which side someone would rather be wh...

I'd like to start off with, I'm 19 and I haven't had sex yet, but I'm pretty definitely sure I'm a sub (or "bottom") because just the idea of me being dominant during sex is a major turnoff for me. I have a boyfriend who's 17 and we only know each other online (though we've been together f...

I swear I subscribed but I'm still not getting emails... I think that would probably work well, yes. I'll give it a shot, discuss it with one of my friends who's been helpful with coming up with good ways to ask for things and stuff like that. I haven't found any advice or resources, no. And I have ...

I think first I need to figure out what's going on with the new psychologist and stuff. Also I didn't respond for a few days because I thought that I subscribed to this topic, but apparently I wasn't; I should be subscribed now. And I think walking through the process could be helpful, but one of my...

Quick addition because I'm currently on mobile and can't find a way to edit my previous reply: I should specify that when I say "in practice, being suggested the things that have already been suggested a thousand times, forced on me in the past, and used as reasons to invalidate my feelings and...

Ironically, most ways people suggest of trying to learn how to self-regulate are among the things that trigger me to even think about. Possibly one of the worst, because so often teachers in special ed would tell me to self-regulate instead of addressing the legitimate concerns I was trying to expre...

My financial situation is such that I'm entirely reliant on my parents financially; I don't have a job or anything like that. However, I don't mind being treated with my parents' knowledge; they're aware of all the treatment I'm currently receiving and would probably know anyway due to various reaso...

Title, more or less. I have an issue being overwhelmed by choice when I Google things, and I've asked questions here before and it's familiar, so it's easier. I have pretty severe mental health issues but my parents and doctors probably don't know the extent because I'm afraid that telling them will...

I definitely agree with you that the whole pro-ship/anti-ship thing is like... there are plenty of toxic people on both sides. It's why I call myself "pro-fantasy" instead of "pro-ship", because while I initially felt pretty welcome in pro-ship spaces, I didn't feel welcome for l...

I've talked to him about it and calmed down significantly; yesterday was pretty hard in general for multiple reasons. He says that going to another person's house is "a definite possibility, if a little hard to do". Like I said, he's also on the spectrum, so I imagine such a change would b...

Okay so, this is more on topic because it relates back to my boyfriend, since I've been getting a better idea of his situation recently. Some backstory: I believe he got a laptop for his birthday this year or the year before, but it stopped working at some point. He was asking his parents to get it ...

I was *really* little at the time I was switched to the "more challenging" therapist, to the point that all I can remember of therapy before then is trying out different fidget toys and doing art projects. I don't think I was old enough for my parents to think of me as needing a challenge ...

Hi, it's me again. I've been reading on this site a lot lately, and sometimes I feel glad I know more stuff than many of people you get questions from (not as a superiority thing, just glad I'm informed), but other times there are things I think I've learned, that I then question if they're really t...

Yeah, I had about six sessions already; like I said they were supposed to be done close together, but covid. So hopefully I can do them all in succession this time. I actually really like my therapist - I've had her for a few years now, probably since I was 16 or 17, and I think I have a good rappor...

Honestly this has gotten way off topic, but since y'all are continuing to engage with me despite the derailment, I guess it's okay? I definitely understand with my head that one needs to be selfish sometimes, but it's hard to understand it with my heart. And it ties back to feeling like my needs are...

I think we've been doing pretty well recently, honestly; we could probably be doing better, but that's true of most things. I'm pretty sure I have expressed to him when I feel pressured, but I think my main problem is that I tend to keep quiet on certain things because I feel like if I express it no...

I absolutely agree with all of this stuff here from both of you. I know I felt so excluded being a minor online - I honestly made a lot of choices I would make differently now back then because of that, though with the knowledge and experiences I had at the time, it feels like those choices were... ...

Hi; sorry I took so long to respond; I had a bunch of things come up after I sent the last reply and then just completely forgot about this. I would say that most of the time when my boyfriend praises me I do feel happy first, though if I'm feeling particularly bad already my brain tends to find pro...

Hi, it's me again. I'm a pretty strong believer in youth rights, and also tend to participate in transformative fandom - fanfiction, fanart, the like. Lately, due to multiple reasons, there's been a large pushback in transformative fandom against minors who want to explore their sexuality through fa...

Sorry I took so long to respond; some of the people in my household got sick with Covid and it was my birthday, so I was really busy. I'll be sure to ask about his other relationships with his family, but I do know he has at least one brother who seems to be very cruel and combative - getting angry ...

Well, providing support for my boyfriend isn't exactly stressful - though sometimes it can be hard to come up with ideas for stuff to talk about when cheering him up - it's more that sometimes I'm just not up to it, because of my own mental health. Essentially, I usually don't need to regulate after...