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by Alexa
Sun Jan 31, 2021 9:14 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: What's your favorite outfit?
Replies: 22
Views: 7625

Re: What's your favorite outfit?

Quarantine has really cemented my love for jumpsuits. They're soo comfy but they can also look so dressy if you wear the right one with the right jewelry, makeup, etc. I found a cute black one made of jersey material that's SUPER comfy -- this has become my house outfit -- and a couple that are silk...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 31, 2021 9:11 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Handling my relationship and my sexual identity
Replies: 3
Views: 1114

Re: Handling my relationship and my sexual identity

Hey SirenSong, Woof. I'm sorry, this is a tough one -- and just for the sake of openness, I have been in this situation before! It is hard. Sam asked some great questions. I think the is-this-a-dealbreaker-for-you one is extra important. The truth is, someone who wants to be with you so much that th...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 31, 2021 8:59 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Ejaculation
Replies: 1
Views: 459

Re: Ejaculation

Hey there, Not to be boring, but things that promote healthy orgasm & ejaculation are the kinds of things that generally improve health. Maintaining healthy blood circulation through exercise, eating energizing & nourishing foods, getting enough sleep, not smoking -- all of these things will...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 31, 2021 8:50 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Shaving
Replies: 3
Views: 2691

Re: Shaving

Hey there TS_6249, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I *have* to say it: you don't have to shave that hair! If you're concerned about hurting yourself, it might be a good moment to check in -- why do you feel like you have to remove your body hair? If this is something you're down to talk about, we should explo...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 31, 2021 8:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penis is too straight up with erection
Replies: 1
Views: 493

Re: Penis is too straight up with erection

Hey PinappleI, I'm sorry that you're having an experience that can be anxiety-inducing. <3 Thanks for coming to us to talk it out! First, it's worth saying that while you likely have completed the bulk of puberty, people with penises usually reach adult bodily maturity around 18 -- so your body may ...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 24, 2021 10:24 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Just sort of came out
Replies: 8
Views: 1318

Re: Just sort of came out

I so hear you. Talking around, hiding, or otherwise denying your sexuality can really make you feel conflicted & frankly, like crap. I've been there. Have you read our article Becoming Out ? It's such a good intro to exactly this kind of experience. One thing that I especially love to return to ...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 24, 2021 8:53 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Train myself to cry instead of getting angry.
Replies: 3
Views: 1095

Re: Train myself to cry instead of getting angry.

Hey Brianne, I'm glad you managed to cry a bit, and I hope it felt good! While there's no way to replicate the exact release you get from crying, it may be helpful to find other ways that help you channel/release your sad/frustrated/angry energies. By finding healthy ways to work through these feeli...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 24, 2021 8:42 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: rape aftermath
Replies: 22
Views: 1316

Re: rape aftermath

Hey deceptacon8199, We can definitely talk that out here. I want to start out by saying -- because I feel like you can never hear it enough -- that what happened to you is real, we believe you, and NONE of it was your fault. In my own experience, so much of the shame and guilt of survivorship can co...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 24, 2021 8:04 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Losing Virginity
Replies: 1
Views: 1192

Re: Losing Virginity

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 24, 2021 7:44 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Just sort of came out
Replies: 8
Views: 1318

Re: Just sort of came out

Hey SpicyLemon, I think we've all had those moments where we put something out into the ether -- a text, an Insta post, a discussion board response -- and had a mini-panic-moment immediately after because we've bared our soul a bit. I definitely know the feeling! When, how, & where you come out ...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 17, 2021 9:43 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I think I'm ready
Replies: 27
Views: 2621

Re: I think I'm ready

Peeing after sex is a great additional measure to flush away any bacteria that ends up in the urethra as a result of sexual activity. It's not an absolute necessity, but it's a good idea!
by Alexa
Sun Jan 17, 2021 8:55 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Drunk Sex = rape?
Replies: 2
Views: 825

Re: Drunk Sex = rape?

Hey DesSam, First, it's important to address this: no city is safe during COVID . Whether it is pervasive in your area in this exact moment does not change the fact that it is global in its reach, rapidly spreading, and that the world is not thoroughly vaccinated against it yet -- so parties are not...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 17, 2021 7:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: i cant find pleasure while fingering myself
Replies: 12
Views: 1608

Re: i cant find pleasure while fingering myself

I think we've given you the best advice we have on this, so here's a mini recap: ⋅ Penetrative sex alone often doesn't do it for folks with vaginas, so masturbating by penetrating yourself alone may be similarly anticlimactic. Try combining penetration with stimulating other parts of the b...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 10, 2021 9:53 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: i cant find pleasure while fingering myself
Replies: 12
Views: 1608

Re: i cant find pleasure while fingering myself

Hey there kaisedinuma, Some people have trouble feeling pleasure when they touch themselves without the aid of a sex toy or partner. If fingering yourself isn't pleasurable, consider trying out some DIY Sex Toys . I also wonder why this learning process around your body & pleasure, especially as...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 10, 2021 9:09 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Tips for Orgasming without peeing?!?
Replies: 3
Views: 2104

Re: Tips for Orgasming without peeing?!?

Hey bubbles, I think there is so much internalized shame & stigma around peeing and/or ejaculation during sex if you have a vagina. In my own experience, I sometimes (but not always) ejaculate during orgasm -- and when I do, it is also yellow and usually seems similar to or contains some urine. ...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 10, 2021 8:37 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is this possible?
Replies: 1
Views: 309

Re: Is this possible?

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 10, 2021 8:33 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Vaginal discharge dries crustily during masturbation
Replies: 1
Views: 451

Re: Vaginal discharge dries crustily during masturbation

Hey there latestarter, This kind of discharge is totally normal. When you masturbate, the amount of vaginal discharge you experience may temporarily increase. We have a great article about normal discharge vs. possible signs of infection or illness: Honorably Discharged: A Guide to Vaginal Secretion...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 10, 2021 8:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I tell if I'm pregnant on birth control?
Replies: 1
Views: 1369

Re: How do I tell if I'm pregnant on birth control?

Hey there, It sounds like your experience with birth control over the course of the last 3.5 years has been consistent, so I'm wondering why you are keeping such an ardent eye on whether or not you could be pregnant. Of course, any type of birth control can fail so it is worth it to keep an eye on y...
by Alexa
Wed Jan 06, 2021 11:39 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Sex drive in a COVID winter
Replies: 2
Views: 620

Sex drive in a COVID winter

Hey y'all. I'm someone who really cherishes my sexuality (obvs, since I'm here!) and it has been really hard sometimes to navigate how the pandemic has affected my sex drive. I'm locked inside, away from social/flirty situations; I'm wearing mostly sweatpants so I'm not super feeling myself (even th...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 03, 2021 8:43 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I'm happy he's gone
Replies: 1
Views: 612

Re: I'm happy he's gone

Hey BuddyBoi21, First -- I'm sorry for your loss. Facing tough questions like this is hard, even if you don't miss the person who has passed. You are certainly not the only person who has ever felt this way after a close relative died. Healing from toxic relationships with a deceased family member l...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 03, 2021 8:28 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: What now?..
Replies: 3
Views: 1078

Re: What now?..

Hey LovePineapples, It sounds like, in addition to working on how you treat your partner, you need to heal & find some forgiveness for yourself and your healing process. If you're suffering from these trust issues, the best way to heal your relationship with him (or any romantic partner) is goin...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 03, 2021 8:07 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Something missing?
Replies: 4
Views: 1147

Re: Something missing?

Hi Susan, I just want to reiterate that it's not weird at all to be feeling loneliness under these circumstances, despite talking to him every day. Talking to folks while knowing that you can't share physical space can be a very lonely feeling, indeed. I agree with Sofi that finding distanced "...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 03, 2021 8:04 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation (Again)
Replies: 7
Views: 1652

Re: Masturbation (Again)

Hey idk anymore, My best suggestions always revolve around finding communities of mutual interest. During a pandemic, that means things like finding subreddits, message boards, websites, etc. where you can meet people you have something in common with. In fact, we have a subreddit where you could po...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 03, 2021 7:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How long does sperm last?
Replies: 9
Views: 1340

Re: How long does sperm last?

Hey space egg, These are definitely not silly questions! To reiterate what Heather said earlier, washing your hands, using the same towel to dry, etc. are risk-free activities because sperm will not hang around on a towel waiting for an egg, if that makes sense. None of these things that you've ment...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 03, 2021 7:50 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Should I be worried?
Replies: 6
Views: 878

Re: Should I be worried?

Hey Digdawg,

I think taking it slow is a great idea. Assessing how you feel along the way could help you to find ways to cope with any pregnancy-related anxiety. We're always here if you want to talk through it further. :)

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