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by Alexa
Sun Jan 17, 2021 9:43 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I think I'm ready
Replies: 27
Views: 1272

Re: I think I'm ready

Peeing after sex is a great additional measure to flush away any bacteria that ends up in the urethra as a result of sexual activity. It's not an absolute necessity, but it's a good idea!
by Alexa
Sun Jan 17, 2021 8:55 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Drunk Sex = rape?
Replies: 2
Views: 310

Re: Drunk Sex = rape?

Hey DesSam, First, it's important to address this: no city is safe during COVID . Whether it is pervasive in your area in this exact moment does not change the fact that it is global in its reach, rapidly spreading, and that the world is not thoroughly vaccinated against it yet -- so parties are not...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 17, 2021 7:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: i cant find pleasure while fingering myself
Replies: 12
Views: 694

Re: i cant find pleasure while fingering myself

I think we've given you the best advice we have on this, so here's a mini recap: ⋅ Penetrative sex alone often doesn't do it for folks with vaginas, so masturbating by penetrating yourself alone may be similarly anticlimactic. Try combining penetration with stimulating other parts of the b...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 10, 2021 9:53 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: i cant find pleasure while fingering myself
Replies: 12
Views: 694

Re: i cant find pleasure while fingering myself

Hey there kaisedinuma, Some people have trouble feeling pleasure when they touch themselves without the aid of a sex toy or partner. If fingering yourself isn't pleasurable, consider trying out some DIY Sex Toys . I also wonder why this learning process around your body & pleasure, especially as...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 10, 2021 9:09 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Tips for Orgasming without peeing?!?
Replies: 3
Views: 406

Re: Tips for Orgasming without peeing?!?

Hey bubbles, I think there is so much internalized shame & stigma around peeing and/or ejaculation during sex if you have a vagina. In my own experience, I sometimes (but not always) ejaculate during orgasm -- and when I do, it is also yellow and usually seems similar to or contains some urine. ...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 10, 2021 8:37 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is this possible?
Replies: 1
Views: 109

Re: Is this possible?

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 10, 2021 8:33 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Vaginal discharge dries crustily during masturbation
Replies: 1
Views: 91

Re: Vaginal discharge dries crustily during masturbation

Hey there latestarter, This kind of discharge is totally normal. When you masturbate, the amount of vaginal discharge you experience may temporarily increase. We have a great article about normal discharge vs. possible signs of infection or illness: Honorably Discharged: A Guide to Vaginal Secretion...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 10, 2021 8:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I tell if I'm pregnant on birth control?
Replies: 1
Views: 113

Re: How do I tell if I'm pregnant on birth control?

Hey there, It sounds like your experience with birth control over the course of the last 3.5 years has been consistent, so I'm wondering why you are keeping such an ardent eye on whether or not you could be pregnant. Of course, any type of birth control can fail so it is worth it to keep an eye on y...
by Alexa
Wed Jan 06, 2021 11:39 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Sex drive in a COVID winter
Replies: 2
Views: 145

Sex drive in a COVID winter

Hey y'all. I'm someone who really cherishes my sexuality (obvs, since I'm here!) and it has been really hard sometimes to navigate how the pandemic has affected my sex drive. I'm locked inside, away from social/flirty situations; I'm wearing mostly sweatpants so I'm not super feeling myself (even th...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 03, 2021 8:43 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I'm happy he's gone
Replies: 1
Views: 268

Re: I'm happy he's gone

Hey BuddyBoi21, First -- I'm sorry for your loss. Facing tough questions like this is hard, even if you don't miss the person who has passed. You are certainly not the only person who has ever felt this way after a close relative died. Healing from toxic relationships with a deceased family member l...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 03, 2021 8:28 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: What now?..
Replies: 3
Views: 188

Re: What now?..

Hey LovePineapples, It sounds like, in addition to working on how you treat your partner, you need to heal & find some forgiveness for yourself and your healing process. If you're suffering from these trust issues, the best way to heal your relationship with him (or any romantic partner) is goin...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 03, 2021 8:07 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Something missing?
Replies: 4
Views: 379

Re: Something missing?

Hi Susan, I just want to reiterate that it's not weird at all to be feeling loneliness under these circumstances, despite talking to him every day. Talking to folks while knowing that you can't share physical space can be a very lonely feeling, indeed. I agree with Sofi that finding distanced "...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 03, 2021 8:04 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation (Again)
Replies: 7
Views: 546

Re: Masturbation (Again)

Hey idk anymore, My best suggestions always revolve around finding communities of mutual interest. During a pandemic, that means things like finding subreddits, message boards, websites, etc. where you can meet people you have something in common with. In fact, we have a subreddit where you could po...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 03, 2021 7:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How long does sperm last?
Replies: 9
Views: 393

Re: How long does sperm last?

Hey space egg, These are definitely not silly questions! To reiterate what Heather said earlier, washing your hands, using the same towel to dry, etc. are risk-free activities because sperm will not hang around on a towel waiting for an egg, if that makes sense. None of these things that you've ment...
by Alexa
Sun Jan 03, 2021 7:50 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Should I be worried?
Replies: 6
Views: 201

Re: Should I be worried?

Hey Digdawg,

I think taking it slow is a great idea. Assessing how you feel along the way could help you to find ways to cope with any pregnancy-related anxiety. We're always here if you want to talk through it further. :)
by Alexa
Sun Dec 20, 2020 8:19 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Kids Kondoms
Replies: 5
Views: 670

Re: Kids Kondoms

Hey there idk anymore, If external condoms don't fit your penis well, I would recommend your partner using internal condoms. They can be inserted into the vagina as-is, or you can remove the ring and insert them into the anus as well. This will protect you both without anything being tailored to you...
by Alexa
Sun Dec 20, 2020 8:13 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: What's The Point
Replies: 6
Views: 544

Re: What's The Point

Hey idk anymore,

If you don't want to share this with your therapist, I would recommend checking in with other professionals, like those at the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-8255. They have a lot of experience helping folks through self-harm.
by Alexa
Sun Dec 20, 2020 8:12 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Can't orgasm ever since I was abused
Replies: 11
Views: 561

Re: Can't orgasm ever since I was abused

Hey LovePineapples! Please do think about what Sian said and the article she shared. We're always here to chat through it! Here's a section on trust from that same article, since you've spoken about his trouble with trusting: Trust: Is my friend or partner trustworthy, and do I trust them? Can they ...
by Alexa
Sun Dec 20, 2020 8:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: About hook up
Replies: 3
Views: 249

Re: About hook up

Hey Pan, It is not wrong to see a sex worker, and you are not a bad person for seeking the help of a sex worker. Using condoms every time is a great way to protect yourself from STIs! It isn't guaranteed, however -- there is still some chance that you can transmit STIs when using condoms. That's why...
by Alexa
Sun Dec 13, 2020 9:38 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I’m in love with two girls at the same time online - what to do?
Replies: 51
Views: 3157

Re: I’m in love with two girls at the same time online - what to do?

Just here to validate that it's hard to find the "right time" to re-establish boundaries or have a defining-the-relationship convo with someone! The best we can do is get to know our wants/needs as well as possible and express them with care <3
by Alexa
Sun Dec 13, 2020 9:33 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Using Quarantine/Staying at Home To Explore Identity
Replies: 2
Views: 1309

Re: Using Quarantine/Staying at Home To Explore Identity

That's awesome, bikinksterboy. I also feel like I've had the time to try things out with my appearance/presentation -- and to do so privately, since I'm not leaving the house much. I've really enjoyed it and I think it's made me more comfortable in my body overall.
by Alexa
Sun Dec 13, 2020 9:31 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I can’t find my clit and I don’t feel any sexual pleasure when I try to masturbate
Replies: 10
Views: 924

Re: I can’t find my clit and I don’t feel any sexual pleasure when I try to masturbate

In my experience, when I have trouble getting out of my head, it's been helpful to have on some background music or something -- something that's minorly distracting, but that I don't have to pay much attention to (like porn). I have ADHD, so having some minor stimulation for my brain helps me enjoy...
by Alexa
Thu Dec 10, 2020 3:07 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I’m in love with two girls at the same time online - what to do?
Replies: 51
Views: 3157

Re: I’m in love with two girls at the same time online - what to do?

I just want to reaffirm that it is not unempathic or cold to have boundaries! And, as Heather said, "forgetting boundaries" is not an excuse -- they are important and we need to set reminders for ourselves/rework our habits to meet people where they're at, comfortably. These things also go...
by Alexa
Sun Dec 06, 2020 8:08 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I’m in love with two girls at the same time online - what to do?
Replies: 51
Views: 3157

Re: I’m in love with two girls at the same time online - what to do?

Hey Sabine, A fellow non-monogamous person here -- just wanted to throw my two cents in! I'm hearing a lot of comparisons between California and Irish girl, wondering which one is a better fit, who should get more of your time, etc. It's important to remember that in nonmonogamy, we are not burdened...
by Alexa
Sun Dec 06, 2020 7:54 am
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: Am I Ready To Have A Baby?
Replies: 4
Views: 1983

Re: Am I Ready To Have A Baby?

Hey eatyourgreens, THIS: I kind of thought I had to know and be sure before talking about it with others. This is a realization I have all the time when I'm trying to make difficult choices! It's so good to use your support network to air out thoughts, concerns, dreams, plans -- all of it. I hope do...

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