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by Alexa
Fri Sep 25, 2020 12:11 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Girth or Length?
Replies: 5
Views: 1169

Re: Girth or Length?

Hey TS_6249, Sorry to be a broken record, but the positions that work best and are comfiest are gonna depend on you and your partner(s). Communicating openly about when they are or aren't comfortable and what feels best to you both is going to be the best way to know what kinds of positions suit you.
by Alexa
Fri Sep 25, 2020 12:09 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Quick Query
Replies: 8
Views: 1224

Re: Quick Query

Hey GS_6,

You can find more information about texting here -- it is always available.

Information about when our chat is live is here.

I'm working on getting you information about private boards as well, but these two avenues work very well!
by Alexa
Fri Sep 25, 2020 11:15 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation doesn't feel that good anymore (update)
Replies: 9
Views: 1120

Re: Masturbation doesn't feel that good anymore (update)

Hey Sky H,

Great! Let us know if it helps.
by Alexa
Fri Sep 25, 2020 9:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Not feeling good about myself
Replies: 7
Views: 1158

Re: Not feeling good about myself

Hey Daisy, I'm glad you found us! It sounds like you're starting from a strong place -- you had pleasurable, consensual experiences with two people. I hear you wanting your privacy -- have you talked with each boy about wanting to keep your histories private? Are there other reasons you feel regretf...
by Alexa
Sun Sep 20, 2020 7:56 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Coming out as agender?
Replies: 21
Views: 3232

Re: Coming out as agender?

I'm really sorry that you had such an awful experience. That's not fair and you didn't deserve it. I would hate to set up a dichotomy where you expect to either be rejected or misgendered by the people you come out to. I know that our bad experiences can make us fear that those are our only options,...
by Alexa
Sun Sep 20, 2020 7:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Black lump on labia minora
Replies: 2
Views: 278

Re: Black lump on labia minora

Hey kumarakadp, Welcome to the boards! Unfortunately, we are not able to make diagnosis over the internet. So the short answer is that making an appointment with your healthcare provider is a great next step. In person, they will be able to give you way more info. Maybe it's an ingrown hair? Maybe i...
by Alexa
Sun Sep 20, 2020 7:16 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How to stop wanting to be loved
Replies: 15
Views: 1417

Re: How to stop wanting to be loved

I can say with absolute certainty that nobody's love is worthless . And that certainty derives from the fact that no one person is worthless. I'm sorry that your mom said that to you and made you feel like you shouldn't give your love freely as felt good to you. I am also someone who has loved very ...
by Alexa
Sun Sep 20, 2020 7:06 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I like bodies but not genitals. What's the deal?
Replies: 3
Views: 1501

Re: I like bodies but not genitals. What's the deal?

Hey dudehelp, I just want to start out by saying that there is no normal way to be attracted to bodies, and the attractions you've mentioned (primarily to bellies) make total sense. Stomachs are great! Genital attraction, or lack thereof, is different for everyone as well. You mentioned that you fee...
by Alexa
Sun Sep 06, 2020 8:08 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: What's "Real Sex?" (Seriously.)
Replies: 14
Views: 11218

Re: What's "Real Sex?" (Seriously.)

Sex is and should be defined by the participants of the act(ions) and can be whatever they decide is sex.


I *love* this, sunadonis!
by Alexa
Sun Sep 06, 2020 8:05 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Lackluster Orgasm?
Replies: 9
Views: 634

Re: Lackluster Orgasm?

I just want to reassure you that there isn't one "right" way to experience arousal. A lot of people experience pleasure from clitoral stimulation primarily or alone. As for subtle versus intense arousal, I think that's pretty subjective and you're not experiencing arousal the "wrong w...
by Alexa
Sun Sep 06, 2020 7:35 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: LGBT books/movies that don't end in tragedy
Replies: 25
Views: 12052

Re: LGBT books/movies that don't end in tragedy

I don't think I saw Booksmart here -- it's SO good and cute!!! And on Hulu!
by Alexa
Sun Sep 06, 2020 7:33 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: LGBT Films Centering People of Color
Replies: 1
Views: 329

Re: LGBT Films Centering People of Color

Oooh, great question, asunflower!

The films that come to mind for me are Pariah (2011), Moonlight (2016), and Tangerine (2015). These are definitely not happy-go-lucky films, though -- so I'd love to hear other folks' suggestions!
by Alexa
Sun Sep 06, 2020 7:30 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Sisters before misters...?
Replies: 4
Views: 448

Re: Sisters before misters...?

Hi Hel, It sounds like you like this guy, and also like you get along well with your new friend. I'm glad! But I'm seeing that this girl's feelings might be making you feel like you are in competition with her for his affections. Can you say a little bit more about where that competitive feeling com...
by Alexa
Sun Sep 06, 2020 7:07 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: What do you think love is?
Replies: 1
Views: 443

Re: What do you think love is?

Hey girlplayer, This is *such* a good question. I think the answer is so individual, too -- how I experience love may feel different from how you do. Our founder, Heather Corinna, wrote this awesome Love Letter to look at what love means. Here is a great excerpt from that letter: If you're asking me...
by Alexa
Sun Sep 06, 2020 6:59 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Roommate might be pregnant?
Replies: 3
Views: 559

Re: Roommate might be pregnant?

Hi Hel,

Okay! If you want to talk more about that discomfort, we are still here to think through it together.
by Alexa
Sun Aug 30, 2020 8:30 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: bump in my vagina?
Replies: 3
Views: 500

Re: bump in my vagina?

Hi strawberryeyes, That bump isn't anything to worry about -- it sounds like you've found your clitoris! Our article Innies & Outies: The Vagina, Clitoris, Uterus, and More has a great introduction to the clit. Here's an excerpt: Looking at the vestibule, between those inner labia from the top d...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 30, 2020 7:29 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Thinking about pursuing a poly/open relationship because of akwardness around my transition as well as other stuff.
Replies: 4
Views: 370

Re: Thinking about pursuing a poly/open relationship because of akwardness around my transition as well as other stuff.

Hey Kittypink, Polyamory & open relationships can be beautiful things -- that's how I have chosen to live my life & I'm always down to talk about why. However! I would never recommend choosing polyamory because you're in a place of self-deprecation. You are a whole and beautiful and wonderfu...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 30, 2020 7:22 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex and Feelings can be confusing
Replies: 20
Views: 1631

Re: Sex and Feelings can be confusing

Hey Buddyboi, I get the fixation on whether things are going to end, and I agree with Jacob that it's important to listen to what those feelings are telling you -- even if that doesn't mean ending your relationship. Those kinds of feelings can be very important moments for figuring out your needs in...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 16, 2020 9:32 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Stopped feeling anything while masturbating vaginally:(
Replies: 5
Views: 212

Re: Stopped feeling anything while masturbating vaginally:(

Hi User0811, First, I want to say that I'm sorry that you are living with PTSD and that it's affecting your relationship to your body. I know that can be so hard to navigate. I want to affirm that you did not do anything wrong, and certainly didn't "vandalize" your own sexual desires! PTSD...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 16, 2020 6:52 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Handjob Pre-Cum
Replies: 2
Views: 622

Re: Handjob Pre-Cum

Hi there Lola43, What you're describing (manual sex) does not present a pregnancy risk, and is low STI risk. I would recommend reading over our guide, Can I Get Pregnant or Get or Pass On an STI From That? . Maybe even read it/share it with your partner! It sounds like this topic carries a lot of an...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 16, 2020 6:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bleeding after losing virginity
Replies: 5
Views: 781

Re: Bleeding after losing virginity

Hi Liltimmyt, We don't mean to worry you; just to make sure you're aware of what to look for when getting STI tested/asking your partners about their testing history. We have an article that outlines which STIs can be detected by which tests (e.g. swab, blood): Testing, Testing . If you're worried a...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 16, 2020 6:32 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Inserting tampon after shower
Replies: 1
Views: 403

Re: Inserting tampon after shower

Hi there, MuchShy! It makes sense that if you wash away your menstrual blood, it will be harder to insert a tampon (the menstrual blood usually acts as lubricant for the tampon for a painless insertion). I would recommend one of two things: either use a little bit of lube to insert the tampon after ...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 09, 2020 9:00 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: STD prevention while conceiving?
Replies: 3
Views: 765

Re: STD prevention while conceiving?

Hi CatMommy, It's hard to say whether different STIs would survive via the "turkey-baster" route, and it is also dependent on whether the ejaculate remains at body temperature between ejaculation and insemination, so I would still recommend the precautions that Mo referenced. Further, I ha...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 09, 2020 8:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Mystery clit
Replies: 3
Views: 241

Re: Mystery clit

Hi Annabanane, Yes, varying clit size is normal! It is also perfectly normal for more of the clitoris to be internal than externally visible. It sounds like you know how to make your body feel good, and that's what's most important! Also, to your earlier question -- yes, is it possible for you to fe...
by Alexa
Sun Aug 09, 2020 8:50 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation, antidepressants, stopping period, not a boy but want a penis, etc
Replies: 1
Views: 135

Re: Masturbation, antidepressants, stopping period, not a boy but want a penis, etc

Hey Lande! I'm going to do my best to address all of this! <3 1. Admittedly, washing your hands thoroughly is going to be your best bet. There are some soaps out there that are specifically advertised as "odor-neutralizing" that may be helpful, but I haven't used them myself so I can't att...

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