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by Amanda F.
Mon Jul 27, 2020 11:41 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: My feelings about my gender is changing rapidly
Replies: 22
Views: 740

Re: My feelings about my gender is changing rapidly

Also, I think you might like this: an interview with Jiz Lee, a nonbinary porn star. They've even written a book about their experience.

An Interview With Jiz Lee
by Amanda F.
Mon Jul 27, 2020 11:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: My feelings about my gender is changing rapidly
Replies: 22
Views: 740

Re: My feelings about my gender is changing rapidly

Your gender changing in response to some outside stimulus (e.g. porn) is totally valid, because your gender is something that you only YOU experience. It doesn't have to be static. There are a number of people who identify as genderfluid/genderqueer and they, like you, feel that their gender changes...
by Amanda F.
Sat Jul 25, 2020 2:06 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can't get to my clit.
Replies: 1
Views: 213

Re: Can't get to my clit.

Hi skins, and welcome to the boards. What you're describing is actually pretty common. Many people have small clits that hide under their hoods. When you become aroused, the clit fills with blood and can actually swell up and become more visible/accessible. Getting aroused also makes your clit more ...
by Amanda F.
Sat Jul 25, 2020 1:53 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Learning From My Cat About Trauma + Self-Worth
Replies: 5
Views: 449

Re: Learning From My Cat About Trauma + Self-Worth

As a fellow cat enthusiast, this brings joy to my heart - for both of you <3
by Amanda F.
Fri Jul 24, 2020 3:01 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I'm not sure what turns me on
Replies: 7
Views: 555

Re: I'm not sure what turns me on

Hi amusicfan,

There's an article here with some suggestions for exploring your body in different ways, which might be applicable here too!

https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advi ... ensitivity
by Amanda F.
Fri Jul 24, 2020 2:57 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: My feelings about my gender is changing rapidly
Replies: 22
Views: 740

Re: My feelings about my gender is changing rapidly

Hi transfemandgay, I'm curious how you feel innately about gender. You've mentioned wanting to be seen as a hot femboy, or seen as girly, which are both presentations of gender, and related to but not quite the same as your personal internal experience of gender (like Heather mentioned earlier). Wha...
by Amanda F.
Fri Jul 24, 2020 2:40 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: why isn't kissing nice?
Replies: 7
Views: 496

Re: why isn't kissing nice?

Hi monsoonjack, It sounds like you have a pretty good sense of what you want and don't want at this point in the relationship, which is great. Just to echo Sam, it's completely fine if kissing isn't a thing you enjoy or even want to do. I'm glad you like seeing your girlfriend happy - that's a mark ...
by Amanda F.
Sat Jul 11, 2020 1:39 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: My friend
Replies: 7
Views: 313

Re: My friend

Per Sam's suggestion, what are some ways you think you might be able to do those things (give her space; help her with resources)? Would you like to brainstorm some things together?
by Amanda F.
Sat Jul 04, 2020 4:02 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I Can't Use A Tampon
Replies: 5
Views: 224

Re: I Can't Use A Tampon

Hi A.Fiend1983, and welcome to the boards. That does sound frustrating - I'm sorry your day had been ruined. Let's see if we can figure this out together. Another user just recently asked the same exact question, and we talked about it in this thread here. Would you give this thread a read and let m...
by Amanda F.
Sat Jul 04, 2020 3:58 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Transmission through urine?
Replies: 1
Views: 471

Re: Transmission through urine?

Hi Katagat, and welcome to the boards. This seems pretty unlikely, for a couple of reasons. First, most infections you're probably worried about aren't transmitted through urine. Most STIs are associated with the genitals, and won't be transmitted through a small amount of urine that ends up on the ...
by Amanda F.
Sat Jul 04, 2020 3:49 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?
Replies: 33
Views: 1260

Re: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?

Those are real concerns/struggles you're feeling, and there might just not be too much you can do to change things right now. Because of the pandemic, people may simply be less willing to try and start up long-distance relationships right now. There's a lot of uncertainty for everyone. That doesn't ...
by Amanda F.
Wed Jul 01, 2020 9:38 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 1924

Re: Sex and all the complications

It's hard because it mostly revolves around changed language. I can't stand to listen to actual/medical terms applied to me and to my body without getting heavily dysphoric. All comfortable conversations I've head, comments I read and stuff like that where the language was changed or impossible sce...
by Amanda F.
Wed Jul 01, 2020 9:29 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Question
Replies: 1
Views: 161

Re: Question

Hi sky, This one is pretty easy - you don't do anything! You just say "Thanks, but I'm not interested in doing [X] right now." It's up to you whether you feel like explaining. You can give a reason, but you don't have to. You may have heard the phrase "'No' is a complete sentence.&quo...
by Amanda F.
Tue Jun 30, 2020 7:17 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?
Replies: 33
Views: 1260

Re: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?

HI Sabine, Those plans sound good! As for the Danish girl, there's no way to know what she wants except to just ask. I totally hear you on the fear of being ghosted - that's a reasonable concern, especially these days. But if you don't ask her how she feels or whether she'd be interested in some kin...
by Amanda F.
Tue Jun 30, 2020 7:06 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Struggling to insert a tampon
Replies: 3
Views: 483

Re: Struggling to insert a tampon

Hi tearsforfears, Can I ask if you're able, or if you've tried, to insert a finger into yourself first? Trying to figure out where to go with the tampon won't give you much feedback to know if you're in the right spot or how relaxed you are. If you start with a finger (and you can use lube to help y...
by Amanda F.
Sat Jun 27, 2020 1:56 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Several months into Covid and social distancing, how is everyone doing?
Replies: 11
Views: 1130

Re: Several months into Covid and social distancing, how is everyone doing?

I'm feeling upset about the way things are going in the US. Many states have decided to reopen and cases are on the rise again, which makes it seem like this is just going to continue dragging onward. I'm trying to find safe ways to bring elements of my social life back online, like seeing friends f...
by Amanda F.
Sat Jun 20, 2020 6:01 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: My dad’s overstepping... A LOT
Replies: 17
Views: 731

Re: My dad’s overstepping... A LOT

You sound like you've really got your dad figured out, theatreluvin. I'm sorry that you've had to be the mature one in the relationship lately. It's a bummer that as you grow into an adult, your dad can't be an adult mentor for you but is instead acting in pretty immature and inappropriate ways (and...
by Amanda F.
Sat Jun 20, 2020 5:49 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Comfort during sex
Replies: 9
Views: 1724

Re: Comfort during sex

Hi pinkcities, in reference to your first question, I also wanted to share this article with you! The Sex Goddess Blues: Building Sexual Confidence, Busting Perfectionism Now, about your libido. First off, it's healthy to have a high libido (just as it's also healthy to have a lower one), so althoug...
by Amanda F.
Sat Jun 20, 2020 5:29 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex and Feelings can be confusing
Replies: 9
Views: 494

Re: Sex and Feelings can be confusing

I'm really glad to hear that the conversations you've been having are positive, reassuring, and productive. That's wonderful! It sounds to me like you're both handling this really well and I agree that it's likely the pandemic has had some very big effects on each of you. I feel like some of the res...
by Amanda F.
Thu Jun 18, 2020 11:47 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex and Feelings can be confusing
Replies: 9
Views: 494

Re: Sex and Feelings can be confusing

Hi BuddyBoi21, Libido (desire for sex) is definitely an aspect of compatibility that is important in any relationship, and I think it's good that you're taking your need for sex seriously. Recognizing that this is so important to you is healthy, and it's okay to be asking questions about the relatio...
by Amanda F.
Wed Jun 17, 2020 11:16 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Hair and Presentation
Replies: 18
Views: 2118

Re: Hair and Presentation

Okay. We'll be here, and thinking of you!
by Amanda F.
Wed Jun 17, 2020 11:15 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: First Time Fears
Replies: 9
Views: 540

Re: First Time Fears

Nice - games are such a good distraction. I love Spider Solitaire!

We're here if you have other questions or would like to discuss other ways of managing that anxiety. :)
by Amanda F.
Tue Jun 16, 2020 7:58 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: First Time Fears
Replies: 9
Views: 540

Re: First Time Fears

I'm so glad that you have a good, judgment-free relationship with your mom. That's great!

Do you have other methods of dealing with your anxiety when it comes up?
by Amanda F.
Tue Jun 16, 2020 7:54 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Hair and Presentation
Replies: 18
Views: 2118

Re: Hair and Presentation

Hi Raffles, I'm glad you got some positive news from the doctor, in that it's likely to grow back once things calm down. Awkward hair can definitely be cute hair! I'm sorry your dad didn't validate your frustration. This is a big deal to you, as I think it would be for just about everyone. Hair is a...
by Amanda F.
Tue Jun 16, 2020 7:46 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Feeling like I shouldn’t contact friends
Replies: 9
Views: 487

Re: Feeling like I shouldn’t contact friends

Thanks for your great suggestions, alanajoy, and welcome to the boards! :)

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