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by Robin
Wed Jan 23, 2019 9:23 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Urination During Intercourse
Replies: 1
Views: 2752

Re: Urination During Intercourse

Hi Dim, and welcome to the Scarleteen message boards. It's not possible for us to say for sure what's going on with your body. Sometimes, when a person feels like they're urinating during intercourse or other sexual activities, it can be what some people refer to as squirting (although that name is ...
by Robin
Wed Jan 23, 2019 8:48 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Moving Out
Replies: 9
Views: 5064

Re: Moving Out

Hi Kitter, I'm sorry to hear the tension has ramped up even more. Hearing you on how scary it is to think about moving out when you're not 100% clear on all that entails. Not sure if you've seen this article on our site. It's written mostly about people moving in together, but I think you might find...
by Robin
Wed Jan 23, 2019 8:27 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Obsessive thinking & constant fear
Replies: 7
Views: 5656

Re: Obsessive thinking & constant fear

Hi Holly, I don't know what Jacob meant, so I'll let them answer for themselves next time they come through. :) What I do know is: A lot of people find that a stressful event, or stress in general, can exacerbate mental health stuff. You were really alarmed by having a pregnancy risk; in my book, th...
by Robin
Wed Jan 16, 2019 6:45 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Condoms and Sex toys
Replies: 5
Views: 3978

Re: Condoms and Sex toys

You're welcome. :)
by Robin
Wed Jan 16, 2019 4:41 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Condoms and Sex toys
Replies: 5
Views: 3978

Re: Condoms and Sex toys

Hi DArwin,

Trojan's web site says there vibrating ring can be used with or without a condom.

If you still have questions, contacting Trojan, or checking out their web site, or reading the information sheet that came with the ring are probably your best options. :)
by Robin
Wed Jan 16, 2019 4:35 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Borderline paranoid hypochondria
Replies: 5
Views: 4808

Re: Borderline paranoid hypochondria

I'm so glad to hear your visit with your psychiatrist was helpful.

Here's some reading material on getting the most out of therapy:

Process This: Getting the Most Out of Therapy

Sound Counsel: About In-Person Counseling & Therapy
by Robin
Sun Jan 13, 2019 8:44 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Casual sex/Friends with benefits?
Replies: 6
Views: 4397

Re: Casual sex/Friends with benefits?

It sounds like you're pretty clear on what you want. You've mentioned several specific needs and wants, as well as a few things you might or might not end up wanting. Do you think you'd feel comfortable telling your wants and needs, just like you did here, to any of the friends you mentioned in your...
by Robin
Sun Jan 06, 2019 8:46 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: confused and hurt
Replies: 10
Views: 7728

Re: confused and hurt

It's totally understandable that this would feel unreal, and that it feels easier and safer not to think about it - that thinking about buying and using a pregnancy test makes it all feel too real. Unfortunately, and I am so very much not trying to be mean here, not thinking about something doesn't ...
by Robin
Sun Jan 06, 2019 8:34 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Relationship Changing: Need support / Navigating feelings
Replies: 15
Views: 8544

Re: Relationship Changing: Need support / Navigating feelings

Hi coolcats222,

This is some awesome self-awareness right here. *cheering you on*

How did it feel to do this journaling and reflecting?

You ask yourself some interesting questions: Just checking: Is there anything here that you'd like to discuss more or have someone else's feedback on?
by Robin
Sun Jan 06, 2019 7:46 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Youth Friendly - Low Cost- Sexual Health Resources?
Replies: 5
Views: 5247

Re: Youth Friendly - Low Cost- Sexual Health Resources?

No, the clinic doesn't have to tell your parents. In some states, healthcare providers are allowed to contact the parents if they think it's in the best interest of the patient. You can read more about that here and check to see if your state is one of those that allows this: https://www.guttmacher....
by Robin
Tue Jan 01, 2019 8:02 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I feel like a slut because of my identity
Replies: 21
Views: 7609

Re: I feel like a slut because of my identity

I also wanted to drop a couple of links here, pieces that might help you find some comfort and validate, even just a little, that you are, in fact, okay just the way you are. http://www.scarleteen.com/article/gender/how_do_i_behave_sexually_without_someone_thinking_im_a_slut http://www.scarleteen.co...
by Robin
Tue Jan 01, 2019 7:55 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I feel like a slut because of my identity
Replies: 21
Views: 7609

Re: I feel like a slut because of my identity

Hi Herstory, I'm so sorry to hear you're struggling so much. As you already know, there's *a lot* of misinformation floating around out there about bisexuality, and about polyamory too. People's ignorance makes them mean and cruel. This is *not* okay, and people who call themselves your friends or l...
by Robin
Tue Jan 01, 2019 7:39 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Mirena
Replies: 1
Views: 3840

Re: Mirena

Hi Kmcmizzle, When you've had the placement checked by your healthcare provider, have you felt comfortable asking them these questions? As your healthcare provider,they'll have the answers you're looking for. Plus, it's important for them to know that you're feeling less than comfortable with the bi...
by Robin
Sun Dec 30, 2018 7:41 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Spotting before period, is it normal?
Replies: 4
Views: 3768

Re: Spotting before period, is it normal?

Spotting before a period starts is totally normal. Our bodies aren't machines that do things exactly the same way every time. So, it's normal for periods to sometimes be longer or shorter than usual, lighter or heavier than usual, and it's normal for a period to start so slowly that it's basically j...
by Robin
Tue Dec 25, 2018 9:21 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: 15 and haven’t had an orgasm
Replies: 3
Views: 3608

Re: 15 and haven’t had an orgasm

Being worried about someone walking in on you or knocking on the door can definitely put a damper on arousal. It's hard for most people to relax and concentrate on themselves when they're keeping an ear or eye out for interruptions. That goes for all sorts of experiences - eating, sleeping, that sor...
by Robin
Sun Dec 23, 2018 9:56 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Losing my v-card
Replies: 6
Views: 4855

Re: Losing my v-card

Hi Roxfoxreal It sounds like you're thinking a lot about this and that you've gotten a lot of different opinions and experiences from your friends. You ask what our opinions are. My opinion? None of us can tell you what to do. More than that, the decision to do *any* sort of sexual activity for the ...
by Robin
Sun Dec 23, 2018 7:37 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to get myself wet without lube
Replies: 12
Views: 13963

Re: How to get myself wet without lube

Your Mom said that you grounded? Was that because of the masturbation, or because you were talking about it with your boyfriend, or because of something else? You've probably figured out that we here at Scarleteen don't think masturbation is embarrassing or bad. How do you feel about it after the co...
by Robin
Sun Dec 23, 2018 7:31 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: fears of ejaculating to fast
Replies: 5
Views: 3422

Re: fears of ejaculating to fast

Hi Saaaaaaaaaaaaam, A lot of people describe what you're talking about, that touching their breasts or thighs just feels like touching other parts of their body. Breasts and thighs are really sensitive for a lot of people, but not for everybody. It's not anything to worry about. It might change over...
by Robin
Sun Dec 23, 2018 7:21 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I want a threesome, bf doesn’t seem open to the idea
Replies: 7
Views: 5106

Re: I want a threesome, bf doesn’t seem open to the idea

Hi There, Here's an article all about talking about sex. Take a look: Be a Blabbermouth! The Whats, Whys and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner Another place to start with figuring out how to start the conversation could be to think about how you usually talk about things that are new or tough...
by Robin
Sun Dec 23, 2018 6:51 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Running away
Replies: 29
Views: 15772

Re: Running away

Hi SolarEclipse,

It sounds like the concern and reassurance you get from your boyfriend really helps you and feels good too.

How are you doing today?
by Robin
Sun Dec 16, 2018 9:38 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: The Wonderful World(s) of Porn and Masturbation
Replies: 7
Views: 4865

Re: The Wonderful World(s) of Porn and Masturbation

Hi BuddyBoi, There's a lot to unpack here. I'm going to riff a little on a few of the things you've said here. If I'm not picking up on the stuff that's important to you, definitely let us know. :) One thing that jumps out at me is how bad you're saying you felt at being sexually aroused while your ...
by Robin
Sun Dec 16, 2018 8:57 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: STI transmission
Replies: 3
Views: 2863

Re: STI transmission

Great. :)

If you have questions or stuf you want to discuss b after reading the article, come on back. :)
by Robin
Sun Dec 16, 2018 8:31 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Blue veins on boobs and thighs
Replies: 1
Views: 2868

Re: Blue veins on boobs and thighs

Hi Dragon15, The healthcare provider who prescribed your Nuvaring is the best person to ask about any changes you've noticed since starting the prescription. Your pharmacist is also a good person to ask. The information sheet in the Nuvaring package will also have info on known side effects. Here's ...
by Robin
Sun Dec 16, 2018 8:24 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Masturbation isn’t pleasureable for me.
Replies: 9
Views: 6914

Re: Masturbation isn’t pleasureable for me.

It sounds like you might still be feeling a little unsure about all of this. If you want to unpack it some more, we're here. :) I think the biggest thing, and Jacob and Heather both mentioned this, is that not all bodies do the same things or react the same ways - and that doesn't make anybody's bod...
by Robin
Fri Dec 14, 2018 11:46 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Pregnancy from sex before Nexplanon removal?
Replies: 1
Views: 4059

Re: Pregnancy from sex before Nexplanon removal?

Hi Calypso, For a lot of reasons, we don't answer questions about whether someone could or couldn't be pregnant. Here are our Pregnancy Scare Resources . I hope you can get ahold of your doc to get your question answered. Know that most healthcare providers have someone who can answer patient questi...