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by BuddyBoi21
Wed May 11, 2022 7:34 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?
Replies: 17
Views: 3573

Re: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?

Hey Heather, So I read through the article and I get the general theme. I know it's not a reflection of me, it's just that the way I was rejected reminded me of my past polyamorous dynamic with my most recent ex. THAT on top of not really recieving a direct answer at the end of the night but rather ...
by BuddyBoi21
Wed May 11, 2022 11:56 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?
Replies: 17
Views: 3573

Re: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?

Hey Heather, I appreciate the check in and am totally down to hear your feedback! I also wanna add I'm now feeling the full extent of how last night went and it's definitely rejection unfortunately and it stings. I also forgot about the term "parallel polyamory" and what that usually entai...
by BuddyBoi21
Tue May 10, 2022 10:29 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?
Replies: 17
Views: 3573

Re: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?

Hey Mo, All of this makes sense. I eventually came to the decision to outright talk about my feelings because I didn't want these crush feelings to exist in the background while I still try to deepen my friendship with this specific person. I don't think it's looking great in terms of having access ...
by BuddyBoi21
Tue May 10, 2022 4:05 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?
Replies: 17
Views: 3573

Re: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?

Hey Mo, No, I wasn't outright looking for sexual or certain intimate relationships. I just wanted friends and got surprised with certain feelings. Thinking someone is cute and upon speaking to them more enjoying our interactions leading to a crush (or two rather). It's a bit distressing. I also very...
by BuddyBoi21
Mon May 09, 2022 3:00 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?
Replies: 17
Views: 3573

Re: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?

Hi, I just want to start out by saying while I appreciate the effort to be left with grounding techniques that I didn't really feel comfortable recieving them because I never confirmed that I wanted them. I understand the intent and appreciate the gesture but it didn't leave me feeling too great whi...
by BuddyBoi21
Sun Apr 24, 2022 6:45 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?
Replies: 17
Views: 3573

Re: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?

Hi Elise, I can' t give a full in depth response at the moment but I will say that your response touched on a bit of a point of grief. I do have friends but what makes this most recent relationship so specifically painful and feel complicated was that my most recent ex was also a close friend I've k...
by BuddyBoi21
Sun Apr 24, 2022 2:02 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?
Replies: 17
Views: 3573

Re: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?

Hi Urna, I guess? I personally feel like that all my problems are interconnected in a really complex, annoying, majorly screwed up way. Primarily, I feel as though I struggle with loving myself and I guess need to love myself first even though the systems in place and around me make it a thousand ti...
by BuddyBoi21
Sat Apr 16, 2022 9:06 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?
Replies: 17
Views: 3573

Re: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?

Hey Sofi, For starters, I think I want to have a strong idea of what I want before trying to involve myself with anyone in a "serious" romantic relationship. Also because I've had nightmare-ish/really invalidating therapy appointments I'm currently taking a long break from seeking a therap...
by BuddyBoi21
Fri Apr 15, 2022 8:17 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?
Replies: 17
Views: 3573

Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?

So I know I'm in no space to move on but I want to "give myself a chance". I have a lot of complex issues. I'm neurodivergent, have bipolar disorder and am trying to find the right meds, struggle to find stability both financially and in some other ways too. I made the decision to cut off ...
by BuddyBoi21
Tue Mar 08, 2022 12:29 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual Health Status Makes Me Feel Gross About My Body
Replies: 3
Views: 2639

Re: Sexual Health Status Makes Me Feel Gross About My Body

Hey Sam W,

I deeply appreciate you taking the time to drop these articles off. I'm doing my best to internalize these messages both from you and the articles you've left.

Hopefully, the feeling of shame will be easier to manage of this is to ever happen again.

Thanks!
by BuddyBoi21
Mon Mar 07, 2022 6:39 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual Health Status Makes Me Feel Gross About My Body
Replies: 3
Views: 2639

Sexual Health Status Makes Me Feel Gross About My Body

Hey, so I recently found out I had gotten oral gonorrhea. I got treated, notified all past partners, etc already so things are fine but I now I feel very gross about my body and about sex with partners. I feel even worse because of the circumstances under how and when this could've happened exactly ...
by BuddyBoi21
Sun Mar 06, 2022 7:50 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My most recent ex: Was I Acephobic or just incompatible?
Replies: 18
Views: 5759

Re: My most recent ex: Was I Acephobic or just incompatible?

Hey Sam W, I guess that makes sense. This is also understandable and just feels rough. I already have a hard time with finding possible romantic partners and then finding folks who reciprocate my feelings, etc. So falling back into the "almost relationship" pattern isn't going to feel fun ...
by BuddyBoi21
Fri Mar 04, 2022 12:46 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My most recent ex: Was I Acephobic or just incompatible?
Replies: 18
Views: 5759

Re: My most recent ex: Was I Acephobic or just incompatible?

Thank you Sam W! Also a sidenote: Alright so I think I'm kinda getting somewhere with why I felt my feelings were acephobic initially just by existing (but still feel a little bit antsy that they are). When I try and research what a queerplatonic relationship is, it's categorized as a non-romantic r...
by BuddyBoi21
Fri Mar 04, 2022 2:16 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My most recent ex: Was I Acephobic or just incompatible?
Replies: 18
Views: 5759

Re: My most recent ex: Was I Acephobic or just incompatible?

Hi Emily N, I appreciate this. I'm not sure if "restrictive" is the word I'd use to describe that feeling but it sure does feel anxiety-inducing lol. Yep, you understood correctly! At least that's as far as I'm aware. Once I started talking to other polyamorous/non-monogamous folks jealous...
by BuddyBoi21
Thu Mar 03, 2022 10:42 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My most recent ex: Was I Acephobic or just incompatible?
Replies: 18
Views: 5759

Re: My most recent ex: Was I Acephobic or just incompatible?

Hi Sofi, In regards to wanting these things that's fair enough. However, my ex did talk about how if you desired something intensely that it would be equivalent to a need. It's why it feels a little bit confusing when talking about something that (what it sounds like to me) is important to me versus...
by BuddyBoi21
Wed Mar 02, 2022 12:38 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My most recent ex: Was I Acephobic or just incompatible?
Replies: 18
Views: 5759

Re: My most recent ex: Was I Acephobic or just incompatible?

Hey Siân, This a very fair assessment of what's going on. However, I get really anxious and worried about enjoying physical intimacy "too much". I much rather roll with whatever my partner is comfortable with (as much as I comfortably can) because I'm scared of wanting more and hurting my ...
by BuddyBoi21
Tue Mar 01, 2022 11:32 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My most recent ex: Was I Acephobic or just incompatible?
Replies: 18
Views: 5759

Re: My most recent ex: Was I Acephobic or just incompatible?

Hi Sam, Honestly I feel like the "Would we still be a good fit" would come with an obvious answer as much as it hurts. I wanted it to work out so badly but even if it my ex had looked at me and said "Tell me why we should still be together" I don't think I'd have much of a leg to...
by BuddyBoi21
Tue Mar 01, 2022 3:23 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My most recent ex: Was I Acephobic or just incompatible?
Replies: 18
Views: 5759

Re: My most recent ex: Was I Acephobic or just incompatible?

Hey Mo, On your first point, I definitely remember you or one of the other staff members mentioning this before. Again, I feel (at least instinctually) frustrated with myself that I can't seem to be okay with less sex and/or (less of) other forms of physical affection. Sure I'm not too happy about i...
by BuddyBoi21
Tue Mar 01, 2022 2:42 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My most recent ex: Was I Acephobic or just incompatible?
Replies: 18
Views: 5759

Re: My most recent ex: Was I Acephobic or just incompatible?

Hey Sofi, So on the topic of vetting, I'm going to try and see if I can weed people out ahead of time so I can avoid doing that if I can help it. In general, I'm extremely low on energy/spoons to have to directly poke and prod the folks I'm seeking care from. Although I'm aware it's not guaranteed I...
by BuddyBoi21
Mon Feb 28, 2022 10:59 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My most recent ex: Was I Acephobic or just incompatible?
Replies: 18
Views: 5759

Re: My most recent ex: Was I Acephobic or just incompatible?

Thank you Sam!
Also I apologize about lacking the appropriate tags/CWs for this post. I hope you and the rest of the staff are well and I'll do my best to appropriately tag future replies. Thanks again <3
by BuddyBoi21
Sat Feb 26, 2022 4:15 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My most recent ex: Was I Acephobic or just incompatible?
Replies: 18
Views: 5759

My most recent ex: Was I Acephobic or just incompatible?

Okay so buckle in because everything that I will vent about here is very long and kinda messy. Also thank you to the staff here who's been seeing me post about my relationships for the last few years. Okay so if I'm being "nice and logical" to myself about how my most recent relationship e...
by BuddyBoi21
Tue Sep 28, 2021 10:52 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Coping with Jealousy and Envy in a Polycule?
Replies: 1
Views: 800

Coping with Jealousy and Envy in a Polycule?

Hi! Pease read everything before responding and if you need clarification just ask! So I'm very new to polyamory and recently discovered I'm polyamorous myself. I entered a queer platonic relationship with my temporary roommate and best friend of 3 years. Over the course of these months I've fallen ...
by BuddyBoi21
Sat May 15, 2021 1:04 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Breakups while Bipolar
Replies: 2
Views: 4798

Re: Breakups while Bipolar

Hey Carly, I see a therapist and a psychiatrist. I was finally able to meet with my psychiatrist and we're trying the medication that I felt very wary on in the past under these current circumstances in hopes my symptoms improve rather than worsen. Now that I'm not under as much stress from school a...
by BuddyBoi21
Wed May 12, 2021 10:46 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Breakups while Bipolar
Replies: 2
Views: 4798

Breakups while Bipolar

Hey y'all, So I deeply appreciate the advice I've been given thus far on coping with my breakup from last month. Big problem I've noticed is that it's triggered my bipolar symptoms so sure I allow myself to feel sad now but it alternates due to being bipolar I feel like. So instead of being consiste...
by BuddyBoi21
Fri Apr 30, 2021 10:43 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions
Replies: 26
Views: 8694

Re: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions

Hey Mo, Hopefully yes to answer your big question. I have bipolar disorder if that helps to give things more context. I also forgot to mention, while yes the medication part is frustrating I was talking more about that feeling of making the wrong decision. This annoying feeling that maybe if I suffe...

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