This is going to be extremely straightforward. My dad died last week and I'm okay with it. We had a terrible relationship before he died and the only thing I really grieved was not being able to have that healthy father-child relationship. Am I the only person who has felt a sense of relief/happines...

Hey everyone, Mo I did talk to my partner about this and they still don't consider therapy a priority right now. We've been having much more productive conversations about quality time and trying to sexually explore while everything sucks. They're more open to car sex and I guess I've gotten used to...

Yeah, I can see where you're coming from on that. From my end I feel it would make things worse and I think I'd cope in an unhealthy manner (isolating and doing nothing but work to avoid assessing the feelings regarding breaking up and overall going back to being single and avoiding dating). Like su...

Hi Sofi, So my partner and I, in both past and recent discussions, have established that relationship remain monogamous. The primary reasons why are because we both want to try and resolve any issues within the relationship before involving anyone else. They aren't dismissive at all. We've just come...

Hi Alexa, I just want to specify this is primarily a Me issue with feeling as though I can't say things to my partner. I have said things in the beginning of our relationship that have triggered their own trauma or have simply worded things horribly that have upset them before. I don't feel like I'm...

Hey Siân, So my partner started their new job recently and I'll be working more so we fell into a routine of calling each other when our schedules allow it and we talk about work or how our days went. I've been stressed because of the start of the holiday season which means more hours at my job. Plu...

Hi Siân, So yes, all of this makes sense and I highly agree! After reaching out to broader suppirt group to vent more about this and allowing myself to be more vulnerable in regards to these feelings, I've come to gather a few things. 1. Obviously mine and my partner's sex drives are both influenced...

A quick update: So we did work something out but I have a problem. I want more sex and I guess I accepted or internalized along the progression of our relationship that I can't get enough of the sex I want from my partner. We agreed to trying to schedule sexting, something I thought wasn't even poss...

Hi Mo, Yes they do. They let me know that they're stressed and that unfortunately the primary things keeping them from being interested in sex (like their brain says yes but their body says no or they're simply too stressed altogether to even think about sex) are all out of either one of our control...

Hi Sofi, So you were very right for me to check in with my partner on the chat rooms and such. They weren't comfortable with the idea because I was talking about interacting with accounts from friends/people I knew. Their headspace in response was a very cisheteronormative "I'm a prude so my 'b...

Hey Sofi, I'm open to it for sure! I don't think my partner would mind but I will definitely check in with them. As for my partner's boundaries I have been. I do talk to them about how our sexual needs clash though because aside from enjoying sexual pleasure it's one of the many physical ways I like...

Hi Sofi! I really appreciate the input here a lot and appreciate the support about how I feel with everything going on right now. My partner and I have been keeping an open line about how I've been feeling in terms of how to go about that validation. I'm very aware of the porn industry's "main&...

Hey all, Everything is dumpster fire but lets talk about sexy stuff! I need help with two main things: 1. Does anyone know any dom terms in the nurturing side of dominance that can substitue "Daddy"? 2. Do you have any good outlets for masturbation aside from porn? Like maybe adult video g...

Hey Siân,

Thank you for reassuring this for me!
I really appreciate y'alls help and I hope y'all are taking care of yourselves <3

Hey Heather, I guess I lean toward no to answer your first question. I sometimes think about peoples' theories on why we may or may not be kinky in some way. And again, the kinkshaming for this particular kink definitely doesn't help me at all. As for my sex life I think I wanna work on talking to m...

Alright folks! So I made a great discovery that I was hoping wouldn't be true for a long time...I think I have a light CGL kink. I was masturbating earlier and thought about my partner moaning a lot and acting very submissive while calling me a specific title during sex. I came REALLY hard in respon...

Hey y'all, So I have some updates: I found out that if I buckle down I really will graduate college in Fall of 2021! The "bad" news is that being a full time student again means I'll be at home longer than I would like. I've been managing as best as I can at home. I now eat in my room and ...

Hey you two! I just wanted to let y'all know that both of your words have been greatly appreciated. Just to update, my therapy appointment went well and I'm currently trying to delve more into my relationships with my parents, their actions and boundaries. I'll put more in another post I made talkin...

Hey Siân, I'm definitely going to discuss this in mt next therapy appointment. My therapist is aware of how awful my situation with my father was leading up to hin finally being removed from our home with how sick he was getting. We're all literally waiting for him to die at this point. I cut him of...

Hey so this may be kind of long. I need validation that this sort of intuition of a hypothetical situation is both reasonable and believable. I had a project recently where I told my coming out story. There were a lot of traumatic things that happened particularly with my father but during the proce...

Hey ag13, I think the biggest thing that stuck out to me was making sure I take time away from looking at people in social media if I'm comparing myself. Also being at home a lot during current circumstances doesn't help the best either. I'll be sure to check i with myself more on that. Also thank y...

Hey so as the title implies I wanna feel (more) sexy! Like have confidence in my personal sense of sexual appeal if that makes sense? Anyway, lately I've been online and looking through social media apps. When I see big influencers (and yes quite a few of them are cis[het] men) I think I want to loo...

Thank you so much Amanda! I'm planning things out and there's a chance I'll move out closer to a year than 6 months because I realized I'm super close to finishing my degree and I'm really tired of being in school. Hopefully after I graduate I can get a new job that pays more so that when I do move ...

Hey Mo, I completely agree! I trust I'll still speak to my mom, I just need space is all. Thanks for reassuring me on my loose plans. I'n still very nervous about everything but I'm doing what I can to keep my head up when possible through this less than favorable circumstance. Thank you for the sup...

Hey Amanda, Financial literacy would help a lot! Also just developing a schedule and some basics on cooking and a moving out checklist would be great too. I currently am looking to move into a place with some older friends for $500 in a room. I'm also open to roommates and asking around for apartmen...