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by BuddyBoi21
Sat Jan 02, 2021 8:07 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I'm happy he's gone
Replies: 1
Views: 405

I'm happy he's gone

This is going to be extremely straightforward. My dad died last week and I'm okay with it. We had a terrible relationship before he died and the only thing I really grieved was not being able to have that healthy father-child relationship. Am I the only person who has felt a sense of relief/happines...
by BuddyBoi21
Thu Dec 24, 2020 6:52 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 2543

Re: Sexual outlets

Hey everyone, Mo I did talk to my partner about this and they still don't consider therapy a priority right now. We've been having much more productive conversations about quality time and trying to sexually explore while everything sucks. They're more open to car sex and I guess I've gotten used to...
by BuddyBoi21
Tue Nov 24, 2020 4:20 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 2543

Re: Sexual outlets

Yeah, I can see where you're coming from on that. From my end I feel it would make things worse and I think I'd cope in an unhealthy manner (isolating and doing nothing but work to avoid assessing the feelings regarding breaking up and overall going back to being single and avoiding dating). Like su...
by BuddyBoi21
Tue Nov 24, 2020 1:14 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 2543

Re: Sexual outlets

Hi Sofi, So my partner and I, in both past and recent discussions, have established that relationship remain monogamous. The primary reasons why are because we both want to try and resolve any issues within the relationship before involving anyone else. They aren't dismissive at all. We've just come...
by BuddyBoi21
Mon Nov 23, 2020 10:11 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 2543

Re: Sexual outlets

Hi Alexa, I just want to specify this is primarily a Me issue with feeling as though I can't say things to my partner. I have said things in the beginning of our relationship that have triggered their own trauma or have simply worded things horribly that have upset them before. I don't feel like I'm...
by BuddyBoi21
Sat Nov 21, 2020 4:02 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 2543

Re: Sexual outlets

Hey Siân, So my partner started their new job recently and I'll be working more so we fell into a routine of calling each other when our schedules allow it and we talk about work or how our days went. I've been stressed because of the start of the holiday season which means more hours at my job. Plu...
by BuddyBoi21
Fri Nov 13, 2020 10:58 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 2543

Re: Sexual outlets

Hi Siân, So yes, all of this makes sense and I highly agree! After reaching out to broader suppirt group to vent more about this and allowing myself to be more vulnerable in regards to these feelings, I've come to gather a few things. 1. Obviously mine and my partner's sex drives are both influenced...
by BuddyBoi21
Thu Nov 12, 2020 2:23 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 2543

Re: Sexual outlets

A quick update: So we did work something out but I have a problem. I want more sex and I guess I accepted or internalized along the progression of our relationship that I can't get enough of the sex I want from my partner. We agreed to trying to schedule sexting, something I thought wasn't even poss...
by BuddyBoi21
Thu Nov 12, 2020 12:04 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 2543

Re: Sexual outlets

Hi Mo, Yes they do. They let me know that they're stressed and that unfortunately the primary things keeping them from being interested in sex (like their brain says yes but their body says no or they're simply too stressed altogether to even think about sex) are all out of either one of our control...
by BuddyBoi21
Tue Nov 10, 2020 4:21 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 2543

Re: Sexual outlets

Hi Sofi, So you were very right for me to check in with my partner on the chat rooms and such. They weren't comfortable with the idea because I was talking about interacting with accounts from friends/people I knew. Their headspace in response was a very cisheteronormative "I'm a prude so my 'b...
by BuddyBoi21
Thu Nov 05, 2020 2:12 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 2543

Re: Sexual outlets

Hey Sofi, I'm open to it for sure! I don't think my partner would mind but I will definitely check in with them. As for my partner's boundaries I have been. I do talk to them about how our sexual needs clash though because aside from enjoying sexual pleasure it's one of the many physical ways I like...
by BuddyBoi21
Wed Nov 04, 2020 12:09 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 2543

Re: Sexual outlets

Hi Sofi! I really appreciate the input here a lot and appreciate the support about how I feel with everything going on right now. My partner and I have been keeping an open line about how I've been feeling in terms of how to go about that validation. I'm very aware of the porn industry's "main&...
by BuddyBoi21
Tue Nov 03, 2020 12:52 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 2543

Sexual outlets

Hey all, Everything is dumpster fire but lets talk about sexy stuff! I need help with two main things: 1. Does anyone know any dom terms in the nurturing side of dominance that can substitue "Daddy"? 2. Do you have any good outlets for masturbation aside from porn? Like maybe adult video g...
by BuddyBoi21
Sat Oct 31, 2020 10:19 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What gets me off makes me nervous
Replies: 5
Views: 714

Re: What gets me off makes me nervous

Hey Siân,

Thank you for reassuring this for me!
I really appreciate y'alls help and I hope y'all are taking care of yourselves <3
by BuddyBoi21
Thu Oct 22, 2020 10:10 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What gets me off makes me nervous
Replies: 5
Views: 714

Re: What gets me off makes me nervous

Hey Heather, I guess I lean toward no to answer your first question. I sometimes think about peoples' theories on why we may or may not be kinky in some way. And again, the kinkshaming for this particular kink definitely doesn't help me at all. As for my sex life I think I wanna work on talking to m...
by BuddyBoi21
Wed Oct 21, 2020 10:01 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What gets me off makes me nervous
Replies: 5
Views: 714

What gets me off makes me nervous

Alright folks! So I made a great discovery that I was hoping wouldn't be true for a long time...I think I have a light CGL kink. I was masturbating earlier and thought about my partner moaning a lot and acting very submissive while calling me a specific title during sex. I came REALLY hard in respon...
by BuddyBoi21
Tue Oct 20, 2020 9:41 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: When you and your parent are different people
Replies: 10
Views: 2121

Re: When you and your parent are different people

Hey y'all, So I have some updates: I found out that if I buckle down I really will graduate college in Fall of 2021! The "bad" news is that being a full time student again means I'll be at home longer than I would like. I've been managing as best as I can at home. I now eat in my room and ...
by BuddyBoi21
Tue Oct 20, 2020 9:27 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Validation of Trauma and Intuition
Replies: 6
Views: 880

Re: Validation of Trauma and Intuition

Hey you two! I just wanted to let y'all know that both of your words have been greatly appreciated. Just to update, my therapy appointment went well and I'm currently trying to delve more into my relationships with my parents, their actions and boundaries. I'll put more in another post I made talkin...
by BuddyBoi21
Fri Oct 16, 2020 10:58 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Validation of Trauma and Intuition
Replies: 6
Views: 880

Re: Validation of Trauma and Intuition

Hey Siân, I'm definitely going to discuss this in mt next therapy appointment. My therapist is aware of how awful my situation with my father was leading up to hin finally being removed from our home with how sick he was getting. We're all literally waiting for him to die at this point. I cut him of...
by BuddyBoi21
Thu Oct 15, 2020 8:16 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Validation of Trauma and Intuition
Replies: 6
Views: 880

Validation of Trauma and Intuition

Hey so this may be kind of long. I need validation that this sort of intuition of a hypothetical situation is both reasonable and believable. I had a project recently where I told my coming out story. There were a lot of traumatic things that happened particularly with my father but during the proce...
by BuddyBoi21
Mon Sep 28, 2020 10:46 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: In the midst of dysphoria and body image struggles, what can I do to help myself feel sexy?
Replies: 2
Views: 1656

Re: In the midst of dysphoria and body image struggles, what can I do to help myself feel sexy?

Hey ag13, I think the biggest thing that stuck out to me was making sure I take time away from looking at people in social media if I'm comparing myself. Also being at home a lot during current circumstances doesn't help the best either. I'll be sure to check i with myself more on that. Also thank y...
by BuddyBoi21
Sat Sep 26, 2020 7:42 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: In the midst of dysphoria and body image struggles, what can I do to help myself feel sexy?
Replies: 2
Views: 1656

In the midst of dysphoria and body image struggles, what can I do to help myself feel sexy?

Hey so as the title implies I wanna feel (more) sexy! Like have confidence in my personal sense of sexual appeal if that makes sense? Anyway, lately I've been online and looking through social media apps. When I see big influencers (and yes quite a few of them are cis[het] men) I think I want to loo...
by BuddyBoi21
Wed Sep 23, 2020 12:30 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: When you and your parent are different people
Replies: 10
Views: 2121

Re: When you and your parent are different people

Thank you so much Amanda! I'm planning things out and there's a chance I'll move out closer to a year than 6 months because I realized I'm super close to finishing my degree and I'm really tired of being in school. Hopefully after I graduate I can get a new job that pays more so that when I do move ...
by BuddyBoi21
Fri Sep 18, 2020 8:50 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: When you and your parent are different people
Replies: 10
Views: 2121

Re: When you and your parent are different people

Hey Mo, I completely agree! I trust I'll still speak to my mom, I just need space is all. Thanks for reassuring me on my loose plans. I'n still very nervous about everything but I'm doing what I can to keep my head up when possible through this less than favorable circumstance. Thank you for the sup...
by BuddyBoi21
Fri Sep 18, 2020 1:58 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: When you and your parent are different people
Replies: 10
Views: 2121

Re: When you and your parent are different people

Hey Amanda, Financial literacy would help a lot! Also just developing a schedule and some basics on cooking and a moving out checklist would be great too. I currently am looking to move into a place with some older friends for $500 in a room. I'm also open to roommates and asking around for apartmen...

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