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by Mo
Fri May 07, 2021 4:33 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Minors & Sex
Replies: 8
Views: 100

Re: Minors & Sex

If you know of anyone else at your school who might be able to advise you, I think that would be wise at this point. It sounds tricky to wind up in this role working with a teenager when that wasn't your original job and hasn't been the focus of your training! Hopefully there's someone you can consu...
by Mo
Mon May 03, 2021 2:55 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Misshapen penis after masturbating???
Replies: 2
Views: 130

Re: Misshapen penis after masturbating???

What I'd advise is to just keep an eye on things and check in with a doctor if you do notice pain or that it isn't going away; it's probably also a good idea to either take a break from masturbating until this resolves itself or be very gentle for a bit. :)
by Mo
Fri Apr 30, 2021 3:53 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions
Replies: 26
Views: 627

Re: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions

It might be worth it to talk to the doctor who prescribed this medication to see if there are other options that might give you some of the benefits you're looking for without impacting your libido and other emotions. I don't know the specifics of the medication in question, but I know that there ar...
by Mo
Tue Apr 27, 2021 4:35 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Nexplanon Arm Implant
Replies: 13
Views: 197

Re: Nexplanon Arm Implant

Yep, you got it! The most important thing to keep in mind is that your implant is safely doing its job in the background even if you don't notice anything. :)
by Mo
Tue Apr 27, 2021 3:56 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Am I just victimizing myself?
Replies: 10
Views: 212

Re: Am I just victimizing myself?

I think it might be worth it to see the school counselor once, just to see if you wind up feeling more comfortable one on one. If you don't feel comfortable, you don't have to open up a whole bunch and don't have to keep seeing her, but if it does feel nice to talk to her, she might be a good resour...
by Mo
Mon Apr 26, 2021 5:08 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: pregnancy anxiety ocd
Replies: 8
Views: 500

Re: pregnancy anxiety ocd

I think the best thing you can do, moving forward, is focus on trying to address your anxiety when it's causing you a lot of distress; there really isn't anything about potential pregnancy risks we can discuss that we haven't said here or in other threads with you, or addressed in our pregnancy scar...
by Mo
Fri Apr 23, 2021 2:20 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to get over accidental anal fear
Replies: 6
Views: 250

Re: How to get over accidental anal fear

I'm glad to hear the situation has resolved itself!
by Mo
Fri Apr 23, 2021 2:12 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Emotional Stessors Related with My Abusive Ex
Replies: 12
Views: 863

Re: Emotional Stessors Related with My Abusive Ex

I hope you find them helpful! We're here if you need to talk again in the future.
by Mo
Fri Apr 23, 2021 2:09 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: How to make my breasts bigger? Please help!
Replies: 11
Views: 733

Re: How to make my breasts bigger? Please help!

It might help to keep in mind that there isn't only one body type that everyone prefers or is attracted to. There are guys out there who prefer larger breasts, some who prefer smaller, some who aren't as drawn to breasts as they are to other body parts, some who are happy with any kind of breasts at...
by Mo
Tue Apr 20, 2021 4:06 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Changing/unusual periods
Replies: 1
Views: 133

Re: Changing/unusual periods

Yep, it's very common for periods to change over time, for cycles to fluctuate, or to have different symptoms from one cycle to the next. None of that is unusual! We have some more in-depth info on menstruation here, which you may find helpful: On the Rag: A Guide to Menstruation.
by Mo
Mon Apr 19, 2021 5:01 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I literally can't feel any pleasure when I try to masturbate
Replies: 7
Views: 350

Re: I literally can't feel any pleasure when I try to masturbate

Masturbation is important for a lot of people, but there are some people who don't masturbate at all, or do sometimes but don't have particularly strong feelings about it, or who go through periods where they enjoy it and periods where they don't. If it isn't happening for you right now, then even i...
by Mo
Mon Apr 19, 2021 4:59 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Need some comfort
Replies: 34
Views: 664

Re: Need some comfort

Someone can be good in a lot of ways and still choose to act in ways that cause harm. He may not have been clearly thinking "I know, I'll do something terrible to hurt my partner!" in those moments, but he was still choosing to ignore you telling him no, and deciding to push past your boun...
by Mo
Mon Apr 19, 2021 4:24 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Need some comfort
Replies: 34
Views: 664

Re: Need some comfort

Yes, him trying to push for something you'd said no to is still coercion, even if you were okay with it eventually if you did go along with it. He was still making the choice to ignore your stated boundaries. Stocking up on fruit sounds like a good plan, as does finding a good outlet for all your fe...
by Mo
Mon Apr 19, 2021 3:51 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Need some comfort
Replies: 34
Views: 664

Re: Need some comfort

I'm so happy this is reassuring for you; that's what we're always hoping for! :) I hear you on not being comfortable officially reporting anything about this situation, but assuming your therapist would not be mandated to report (which it sounds like she would not, as it doesn't sound like you were ...
by Mo
Mon Apr 19, 2021 3:25 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Need some comfort
Replies: 34
Views: 664

Re: Need some comfort

It's pretty common to have these kinds of doubts, I think; a lot of people tend to second-guess themselves when they come to a realization about something like sexual coercion in a relationship. It's upsetting to realize it's happened to you, and sometimes it might feel "easier" to decide ...
by Mo
Mon Apr 19, 2021 2:23 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Need some comfort
Replies: 34
Views: 664

Re: Need some comfort

Because I saw you post a message about this in another thread: your first few posts here will go into moderation, so you won't see them until a volunteer approves them but they are going through! So don't worry if you don't see them appear eventually; we're able to see them. :)
by Mo
Mon Apr 19, 2021 2:22 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Need some comfort
Replies: 34
Views: 664

Re: Need some comfort

Hi flores2231, and welcome to Scarleteen. We're glad you found us, although I'm sorry it's because of a stressful and traumatic experience. It can be difficult to break up with someone even when we know it's going to be the best decision; it sounds like there have been some really positive aspects o...
by Mo
Fri Apr 16, 2021 3:01 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Casual sex as a virgin
Replies: 9
Views: 368

Re: Casual sex as a virgin

I'm glad apps sound like a good place to start! Apps can definitely be a mixed bag, and it's hard to know what to expect beforehand, but I do think they are a good choice to start with. If you have any further questions or thoughts about any of this, feel free to let us know!
by Mo
Tue Apr 13, 2021 5:05 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 22
Views: 506

Re: Exclusivity?

Not ridiculous at all! It's an important skill to learn, pushing through that nervousness and discomfort and starting those tough conversations anyway, but the nervousness itself is understandable. :)
by Mo
Tue Apr 13, 2021 4:38 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Casual sex as a virgin
Replies: 9
Views: 368

Re: Casual sex as a virgin

The question of where/how to find a partner can be tough to answer; so much of the process of finding partners (whether someone is looking for one-time casual sex, ongoing casual sexual relationships, or long-term romantic relationships) is going to come down to the luck of running into someone with...
by Mo
Tue Apr 13, 2021 3:54 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 22
Views: 506

Re: Exclusivity?

I'm definitely glad to hear you were able to start that conversation! I also struggle with this sort of thing, sometimes, so I know it can feel super intimidating.
by Mo
Mon Apr 12, 2021 4:02 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions
Replies: 26
Views: 627

Re: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions

It sounds like this most recent ex wasn't being as manipulative as the earlier ex was, but that some of the ways they communicated wound up being stressful or hurtful to you. Someone doesn't always have to be acting in bad faith to be incompatible; I think that can be a very painful thing to learn a...
by Mo
Fri Apr 02, 2021 4:34 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Trying to getting to know my vulva after ignoring it for years
Replies: 7
Views: 537

Re: Trying to getting to know my vulva after ignoring it for years

Hi there Elias, welcome to Scarleteen. :) While it's normal to feel an occasional itch around the vulva, the same way any part of the body might have a brief itchy feeling at random from time to time, a persistent itching, especially if it's paired with sensitive or sore areas or an unusual smell, i...
by Mo
Fri Apr 02, 2021 4:05 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Break-up
Replies: 9
Views: 744

Re: Break-up

I'm so glad to hear you're feeling better! Taking that time to enjoy your own company for a bit sounds like a wonderful plan. I hope your exams go well!
by Mo
Tue Mar 30, 2021 5:12 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: i need help with relationships
Replies: 9
Views: 323

Re: i need help with relationships

One thing that can be helpful, when talking to women or anyone else you feel tense around, is to come at the conversation from some sort of shared experience or interest. If you're meeting someone through a class, event, shared hobby, etc. that can be a topic to talk about in order to get a conversa...

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