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by Mo
Fri Nov 25, 2022 3:18 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bisexuality
Replies: 16
Views: 219

Re: Bisexuality

I do want to step in and highlight that I think it's pretty lousy of your husband to zero in on you saying something to him in the heat of the moment that you wouldn't normally say, something you've said just that one time in a high-stress moment, and tell you it's a "pattern" that could b...
by Mo
Tue Nov 22, 2022 3:37 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Open Thread for Support After LGBTQ Violence
Replies: 6
Views: 162

Re: Open Thread for Support After LGBTQ Violence

Oh gosh, can I just say how much I hate the "look at it from the other side?" response in this sort of situation? It isn't equivalent at all when one "side" is saying "please let us live our lives without being denied basic rights, harassed, or murdered" and the other i...
by Mo
Mon Nov 21, 2022 4:13 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I need penetration to reach orgasm and I'm unhappy about that
Replies: 13
Views: 286

Re: I need penetration to reach orgasm and I'm unhappy about that

I can understand that! When you've tried to take breaks from masturbation before, do you have a sense of what makes it difficult? The reason I ask is that sometimes if masturbation is a habit out of routine or boredom, vs an immediate feeling of arousal or desire, that can make it less likely to fee...
by Mo
Fri Nov 18, 2022 5:51 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I need penetration to reach orgasm and I'm unhappy about that
Replies: 13
Views: 286

Re: I need penetration to reach orgasm and I'm unhappy about that

Hi Anne, I just wanted to pop in and say that I really get it, in terms of the difficulties of sticking to that goal of enjoying masturbation without the goal of orgasm. Sometimes it can feel really fulfilling to just focus on pleasure, and sometimes it just winds up being frustrating or uncomfortab...
by Mo
Fri Nov 18, 2022 4:23 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Are women who sexual pictures of themselves on social media perpetuate the idea that is okay for men to enjoy the view
Replies: 4
Views: 152

Re: Are women who sexual pictures of themselves on social media perpetuate the idea that is okay for men to enjoy the v

I think questions like this are always going to be ones with no one clear answer, because people make choices around social media and what content to post or consume for a number of reasons and in a number of different contexts; one women's choices, feelings, and experiences in this area will be ver...
by Mo
Tue Nov 15, 2022 3:59 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Choosing pronouns
Replies: 7
Views: 268

Re: Choosing pronouns

I vastly prefer he/him pronouns; I feel like I "should" be happy with they/them pronouns as well, given that my gender is what's probably easiest simplified as "nonbinary/transmasc overlap" and I don't feel like A Man in any way, but I've spent a good bit of time trying out both ...
by Mo
Fri Nov 11, 2022 5:55 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 139
Views: 24100

Re: Accepting my sexuality

These things really are complicated!!! Sometimes I find it helpful to try and accept that there aren't always easy answers to questions like "do I have a crush on this person or do I want to be like them?" even though I'm a person who often wants to have those concrete answers. In all hone...
by Mo
Fri Nov 11, 2022 3:18 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Clarification Question
Replies: 13
Views: 3223

Re: Clarification Question

You're welcome!
by Mo
Fri Nov 11, 2022 3:17 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Turning Red
Replies: 3
Views: 2645

Re: Turning Red

This doesn't sound like something to worry about, although it's hard for us to know exactly what you're experiencing based on your description here. (That isn't about you not describing things well; it's just one of the downsides of using text to explain something we can't see.) I think a good appro...
by Mo
Fri Nov 04, 2022 2:16 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My bf broke up with me but not really?
Replies: 5
Views: 2606

Re: My bf broke up with me but not really?

I can definitely understand why you'd be angry and upset by this! It sounds like he was just not great at communicating at all, which can be extremely frustrating. I'm sorry to hear how things turned out.
by Mo
Tue Nov 01, 2022 2:31 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Trying to figure out my sexuality - what even is a relationship?
Replies: 5
Views: 2958

Re: Trying to figure out my sexuality - what even is a relationship?

I don't know if this is the case for you, but I've had some transfemme friends who described really struggling with friendships before they were out to people they knew because they didn't just want to be friends with other girls, they wanted to experience that friendship as "one of the girls&q...
by Mo
Mon Oct 31, 2022 3:23 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Gender identity questions
Replies: 7
Views: 3788

Re: Gender identity questions

I'm glad you're enjoying your new haircut! I have definitely had the experience of trying a new significantly shorter haircut and getting a lot of comments from people where it seemed like they were maybe trying to either fish for gender-identity-related information or tell me they didn't like it wi...
by Mo
Mon Oct 24, 2022 3:25 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Non-Relaxing/Hypertonic Pelvic Floor Resources?
Replies: 11
Views: 2339

Re: Non-Relaxing/Hypertonic Pelvic Floor Resources?

Hi sandpiper, I'm glad that being able to write all this out has been helpful for you, at the very least! And it's great to hear that things with your boyfriend are going well. It's good that you have another OBGYN appointment scheduled, even though it's so far in the future. You may have done this ...
by Mo
Mon Oct 24, 2022 2:53 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Making friends in college
Replies: 3
Views: 1390

Re: Making friends in college

I hope that's helpful!! I do want to say, too, that because of how weird and isolating the pandemic has made the last few years, I think connecting with other people is more difficult now for a lot of people than it maybe would have been recently! I know a lot of folks struggling with this now when ...
by Mo
Mon Oct 24, 2022 2:40 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Reconnecting With Someone
Replies: 68
Views: 15050

Re: Reconnecting With Someone

Oh gosh, I'm sorry to hear this and I get why it would feel so hurtful!! I'm glad you're keeping in mind that their behavior isn't a reflection on you; I think that's really important to hold on to. <3
by Mo
Tue Oct 18, 2022 4:17 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: itchyness after using dildo
Replies: 3
Views: 885

Re: itchyness after using dildo

Hm! My first thought would be that it would be related to some ingredient in the lube; if you're able to switch brands, that's something that I think would be worth trying. It's possible that you aren't able to clean the dildo well enough and there's bacteria on it causing irritation, but I wouldn't...
by Mo
Tue Oct 18, 2022 3:49 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Grossed out by realistic pictures of genitals?
Replies: 5
Views: 1324

Re: Grossed out by realistic pictures of genitals?

You're welcome! :)
by Mo
Tue Oct 18, 2022 3:31 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Bad Wet Dreams
Replies: 1
Views: 1154

Re: Bad Wet Dreams

I can definitely understand why this would be uncomfortable for you!! Sadly, there really isn't anything you can do about these dreams; they are generally not something that one can control. You may find that the frequency of sexual dreams fades with time, though.
by Mo
Tue Oct 18, 2022 3:27 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Grossed out by realistic pictures of genitals?
Replies: 5
Views: 1324

Re: Grossed out by realistic pictures of genitals?

I'm glad you at least aren't feeling that discomfort with your own genitals! Honestly, I don't know that there's a specific way to reduce the grossness or discomfort you feel when you see pictures, but I also don't think you need to try and really force the issue. Body positivity doesn't have to mea...
by Mo
Tue Oct 18, 2022 2:56 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Grossed out by realistic pictures of genitals?
Replies: 5
Views: 1324

Re: Grossed out by realistic pictures of genitals?

Do you feel like that "gross" reaction is specifically tied to a sexual association with genitals? Or do they just seem gross or uncomfortable in a general sense?
by Mo
Tue Oct 18, 2022 2:50 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Ashamed by inexperince
Replies: 4
Views: 1364

Re: Ashamed by inexperince

Hi Deja, It sounds like this is causing you a lot of shame and stress, and I'm really sorry to hear that. I don't know if it helps to hear this, but these feelings are pretty common among people who haven't had a lot of sexual or relationship experience by their mid-20s. The flipside of this is that...
by Mo
Mon Oct 17, 2022 3:05 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: The joy of small projects
Replies: 2
Views: 986

Re: The joy of small projects

My mind immediately went to my knitting and handspinning projects! I can see my progress after every time I sit down to work on them, and when I'm done I have a lovely finished object. I started a new spinning project last night and I've been looking forward to working on it all day. I write a lot o...
by Mo
Fri Oct 14, 2022 2:44 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Advice for stepping away from porn use
Replies: 16
Views: 8527

Re: Advice for stepping away from porn use

Thanks so much for providing this update! I'm glad to hear that you have a better understanding of exactly what the issue was. I hope you wind up having a good appointment with this new therapist, too!
by Mo
Fri Oct 14, 2022 2:32 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I can only get off to some niche fetishes, but I also wanna be able to get off to vanilla stuff
Replies: 7
Views: 1030

Re: I can only get off to some niche fetishes, but I also wanna be able to get off to vanilla stuff

I don't want to put words in Sam's mouth, but I think what she's talking about is that sometimes, when people have orgasm as the ultimate goal of sex or masturbation, the pressure to orgasm can actually make the entire process more stressful and frustrating, plus that kind of pressure or stress make...
by Mo
Tue Oct 11, 2022 4:50 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Clitrous size and look
Replies: 3
Views: 826

Re: Clitrous size and look

You're welcome! Happy to help.

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