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by Mo
Mon Nov 22, 2021 5:48 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Im struggling to cope with the fact im not 12 anymore
Replies: 13
Views: 186

Re: Im struggling to cope with the fact im not 12 anymore

They do have a page with some other resource directories if there's nothing specifically in your area, which you can find here . However, I know it can take a lot of energy to try and dig up resources. If you'd be comfortable leaving your town or postcode for us, we could try and see if we can find ...
by Mo
Sun Nov 21, 2021 11:59 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: boyfriend issue?
Replies: 13
Views: 211

Re: boyfriend issue?

I hope talking to your mom tonight goes well. Thanks for talking with me about your situation in chat today. And just to be clear, nothing you're saying here is too much for us, or is a burden. This is exactly what we're here to talk about and help with, so there's no need to worry or apologize for ...
by Mo
Sun Nov 21, 2021 11:57 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Plan B while on the pill
Replies: 3
Views: 67

Re: Plan B while on the pill

Because Plan B can cause irregular bleeding or otherwise disrupt your regular cycle, we can't know for sure if your withdrawal bleeding will happen when expected. It may be late or absent this month, or it may be present but lighter or heavier than usual. What we often recommend is that people who t...
by Mo
Sun Nov 21, 2021 11:40 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I cant masturbate
Replies: 6
Views: 169

Re: I cant masturbate

One thing I'd suggest, if you're open to it, would be to go ahead and get on a waitlist for therapy if you're able to. Waiting a month or more to receive care is frustrating, for sure, but making an appointment now still means you do have treatment on the horizon to look forward to, and it sounds li...
by Mo
Sun Nov 21, 2021 9:47 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: boyfriend issue?
Replies: 13
Views: 211

Re: boyfriend issue?

It's certainly okay if you don't want to remember or talk about everything he's done; it sounds like a lot of this is very upsetting. We only want you to share details here that you feel comfortable sharing with us. I do want to be very clear that these things you're describing, and that he's saying...
by Mo
Fri Nov 19, 2021 5:59 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Celebrating Small Victories
Replies: 3
Views: 75

Re: Celebrating Small Victories

Last week I bought a bunch of poster frames and framed/hung several pieces of art on my walls, some of which have been waiting for years to be displayed!! I feel silly that it took so long, but my apartment looks better now and I'm glad I finally got around to it.
by Mo
Fri Nov 19, 2021 5:46 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Was it my fault and am i being punished too harshly
Replies: 9
Views: 154

Re: Was it my fault and am i being punished too harshly

Do you think you'd be up for asking your mom again about seeing a therapist? We could try and connect you with some resources for finding care in your area, if you think doing some of that work and presenting it to her would make her more likely to agree to it. It definitely sounds like accessing so...
by Mo
Fri Nov 19, 2021 4:59 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sexual attraction / BDSM
Replies: 5
Views: 230

Re: Sexual attraction / BDSM

It might help if you want people you can talk about these things with people who might be open to those discussions in a general sense. It sounds from what you've said here that right now you're only talking about your interest in BDSM with people you're interested in; is that correct? A lot of peop...
by Mo
Fri Nov 19, 2021 4:53 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 61
Views: 807

Re: Masterbating

I'm sorry that hasn't been effective in stopping the pain! You may want to call in to the office to see if they have any other ideas for pain management before that appointment.
by Mo
Fri Nov 19, 2021 4:25 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Im not sure whats wrong with my body
Replies: 8
Views: 158

Re: Im not sure whats wrong with my body

I'm sorry that masturbation is feeling so frustrating right now. I do want to say that feeling frustrated or upset during any kind of sexual activity, whether that's partnered sex or masturbation, is unlikely to lead to pleasure, so if you find yourself feeling annoyed or frustrated, what I'd recomm...
by Mo
Fri Nov 19, 2021 3:52 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I not sure what happened
Replies: 9
Views: 145

Re: I not sure what happened

There really is no acceptable reason for someone to do this to a family member (or to a child at all, regardless of whether they're related). It sounds like neither of your parents treated this as seriously as they should have, although that certainly sounds like part of a larger pattern based on yo...
by Mo
Fri Nov 19, 2021 3:45 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Don't know what to do
Replies: 1
Views: 45

Re: Don't know what to do

Hi chrromie, welcome to Scarleteen. We'd be happy to point you towards some information! We do have some articles about genitals and sexual anatomy here (I don't want to make any assumptions about your body so I've included multiple options): Innies & Outies: The Penis, Testes and More Innies &a...
by Mo
Tue Nov 16, 2021 5:03 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 135
Views: 3878

Re: So there's a guy...

I'd say if you aren't feeling really sure and confident that you want to have sex with him, that's a pretty good reason to say no. Sex is always going to be best when everyone involved genuinely wants it and is excited to be having sex with that person in particular. It's definitely good that your p...
by Mo
Mon Nov 15, 2021 4:37 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 135
Views: 3878

Re: So there's a guy...

Sex is most likely to be a good experience when you go into it feeling secure in your desire for it; if you're having these very mixed feelings about it, then it sounds like now isn't the right time. It's good that you've made some progress! Have you looked into any of the other things Heather and S...
by Mo
Fri Nov 12, 2021 5:40 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 61
Views: 807

Re: Masterbating

It isn't likely that they'll see it if it isn't what the technicians are looking for, and given how small sperm are, I don't know that it's even possible. It's something you could ask about when you go in for the appointment, though! The technicians will be the best experts on what exactly they're l...
by Mo
Fri Nov 12, 2021 5:27 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Validity of identity?
Replies: 11
Views: 2703

Re: Validity of identity?

Something that was really validating for me, when I first came out, was that I had a couple friends who didn't know a lot about trans issues at all (this was in 2005, when mainstream awareness of trans people and the finer details of trans identities was minimal), but were 100% on board with using t...
by Mo
Fri Nov 05, 2021 4:35 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 57
Views: 787

Re: Just need some reassurance

Hi sky, I just wanted to pop in and share some thoughts if that's ok. :) First off, I'm so glad the initial meeting with this therapist went well, that's huge. I think it's great to come at this from a perspective of wanting to put in the effort so you can get better, and wanting to give yourself a ...
by Mo
Fri Nov 05, 2021 3:59 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How do I become interested in girls again?
Replies: 9
Views: 308

Re: How do I become interested in girls again?

If you have those other interests, then I think looking into activities or social groups focused around them could be worth a try. There's really no surefire way to meet people you're likely to share a mutual attraction with, so beyond putting yourself out there, as you have been doing, there isn't ...
by Mo
Tue Nov 02, 2021 4:28 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 61
Views: 807

Re: Masterbating

Can you try reminding him? It does sound like you have enough going on that it's important to go ahead and get in to see a doctor sooner rather than later. If it's hurting to retract your foreskin, it's best not to do that for now; it's something else you could talk to the doctor about.
by Mo
Tue Nov 02, 2021 3:59 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 61
Views: 807

Re: Masterbating

Did your dad not make an appointment for you once she called? It might feel awkward to talk about it, but it might help to talk to your dad directly, so that he understands you're noticing issues with your body that you'd like to get checked out.
by Mo
Tue Nov 02, 2021 3:25 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 61
Views: 807

Re: Masterbating

If you're noticing a strong and different smell, then checking in with your doctor may be a good next step. Do you have a regular physician you see for general checkups?
by Mo
Tue Nov 02, 2021 2:44 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Was it coercion if I ended up being turned on?
Replies: 5
Views: 134

Re: Was it coercion if I ended up being turned on?

So glad you've found these responses affirming, that's what we're here for. <3 I'm glad you're taking extra care of yourself right now; here's a nice roundup of some self-care ideas if you need some: Self-Care a La Carte We do also have a lot of articles and advice columns on our site that touch on ...
by Mo
Mon Nov 01, 2021 5:03 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 61
Views: 807

Re: Masterbating

Hi Kyleg2007, and welcome to Scarleteen. When it comes to maintaining an erection, it isn't always a sign of an issue, but factors like your health, stress levels, or even some medications you may be taking can make it more difficult. It can also happen that if it happens a few times and you're worr...
by Mo
Mon Nov 01, 2021 3:52 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Wanted: Libido
Replies: 3
Views: 136

Re: Wanted: Libido

That does sound pretty frustrating! I do think that trying to force it is unlikely to be very effective; if you're putting pressure on yourself to feel arousal, that's honestly going to make it less likely to show up. Your thought of giving yourself space is probably what I'd recommend; I wish I had...
by Mo
Mon Nov 01, 2021 2:47 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Was it coercion if I ended up being turned on?
Replies: 5
Views: 134

Re: Was it coercion if I ended up being turned on?

Hi Joey1998, and welcome to Scarleteen. I'm glad you found us, but sorry it's because this happened to you. What you're describing is definitely what I'd call coercion and sexual assault. You were clear that you didn't want to be sexual with this person, you turned him down and redirected him severa...

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