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by Mo
Mon Jul 04, 2022 4:20 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masochism versus self-harm?
Replies: 3
Views: 80

Re: Masochism versus self-harm?

I'm definitely glad you have a therapist you feel comfortable talking to about this! I agree with Elise that it's fine that you didn't disclose the bruising to the healthcare practitioner you saw earlier, since you know there's already someone who's aware of the situation and looking out for you.
by Mo
Tue Jun 28, 2022 2:30 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fetish and losing virginity
Replies: 3
Views: 151

Re: Fetish and losing virginity

Hi there Jeffsoup, and welcome to Scarleteen. One thing to keep in mind is that it's very common for people to have sexual desires and interests that they enjoy exploring through sexual media or masturbation that they either don't want to explore with someone else during partnered sex or don't feel ...
by Mo
Tue Jun 28, 2022 2:18 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: First time masturbate
Replies: 1
Views: 120

Re: First time masturbate

Hi there, I see I just answered this question over text but wanted to respond here too; if you're noticing bleeding during masturbation (unless you're currently menstruating and are noticing menstrual blood), then that may be a sign you've been too rough or slightly injured yourself. What I'd do is ...
by Mo
Fri Jun 24, 2022 3:38 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I feel left behind
Replies: 3
Views: 118

Re: I feel left behind

The fact that you're noticing some confidence (and that other people notice it as well!!) is a great sign. :) I wonder if you feel like it would be possible to start opening up a little to bit to some of your friends about how you're feeling. Maybe just start with one or two close people and share a...
by Mo
Mon Jun 20, 2022 4:54 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 28
Views: 1025

Re: Accepting my sexuality

I'm so glad our Pride celebration was good for you to see! We know a lot of folks aren't in places where they can attend Pride events or be open about who they are and it's great to hear that what we're doing is reaching folks. <3 Also, I would love to see your guinea pigs with their rainbow of vegg...
by Mo
Mon Jun 20, 2022 2:35 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Hello
Replies: 4
Views: 173

Re: Hello

Hi there! I'm sorry chat wasn't open when you were here earlier! In case you see this now, chat's open for the next two and a half hours (until 5pm Pacific time). Our regular hours are here , just in case you don't have that info, but sometimes we do wind up understaffed during a regular shift time ...
by Mo
Fri Jun 17, 2022 4:26 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Penetration during Masturbation Hurts??
Replies: 1
Views: 183

Re: Penetration during Masturbation Hurts??

Hi there lilfrog, and welcome to Scarleteen. One of the key components of any kind of vaginal entry is feeling very relaxed and aroused; it sounds like that's been no problem with partners in the past, but it's possible that you're attempting to use your toy before you're feeling aroused enough for ...
by Mo
Fri Jun 17, 2022 3:33 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What will testosterone do to my sex drive?
Replies: 4
Views: 244

Re: What will testosterone do to my sex drive?

While I can't speak to whether any changes in your sexual thoughts or feelings after starting T will set off your OCD or not, I can say from my own experiences that the "intensifying" effects on my sexual feelings, while definitely present, were pretty short-lived. It's something I got use...
by Mo
Tue Jun 14, 2022 4:25 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Lightbulb moments in media
Replies: 3
Views: 179

Re: Lightbulb moments in media

There is something funny about looking back and seeing what seem to be HUGE obvious signs in retrospect that weren't obvious at all at the time.
by Mo
Tue Jun 14, 2022 4:16 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Male Validation & Cognitive Dissonance
Replies: 5
Views: 163

Re: Male Validation & Cognitive Dissonance

Do you have a sense of what would make you feel desired by men in a way that feels positive to you? I hear you on wanting to feel desirable, and I don't think that's an unreasonable feeling to have at all. It sounds like you don't want to feel sexualized by male friends; is there something in partic...
by Mo
Tue Jun 14, 2022 3:31 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Reconnecting With Someone
Replies: 53
Views: 4057

Re: Reconnecting With Someone

Oh gosh, I really feel you on not wanting to do close-quarters Pride events (or any events!!) indoors right now; it really bums me out that so few Pride events in many areas (including my own) are not taking covid precautions very seriously.
by Mo
Tue Jun 14, 2022 2:08 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Communication Issues
Replies: 2
Views: 148

Re: Communication Issues

I'm glad to hear that you resolved things! Sometimes friends who genuinely care about each other can have different communication styles and different levels of contact/communication that they consider ideal, and it can be a challenge to navigate a healthy relationship with those differences in mind...
by Mo
Mon Jun 13, 2022 4:31 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Losing virginity
Replies: 15
Views: 595

Re: Losing virginity

Hi there, Emm5, and welcome to Scarleteen. It's hard to answer questions about virginity, because it's more of a cultural concept than a medical one; there's no one universally-agreed-upon definition of what virginity means. If to you, "virginity" means "I have never had vaginal sex,&...
by Mo
Mon Jun 13, 2022 3:19 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Lightbulb moments in media
Replies: 3
Views: 179

Lightbulb moments in media

Have you ever had an experience of watching/reading something and come across a scene, character interaction, general vibe, or something else that helped part of your identity click into place? I believe I've shared this on here before, several years ago, but as goofy as it is, the movie But I'm a C...
by Mo
Fri Jun 10, 2022 3:31 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sexual guilt
Replies: 4
Views: 367

Re: Sexual guilt

Hi there quick.sylver, I wonder if you'd find this article about sexual shame helpful at all: Undoing Sexual Shame . The author of the article came from a religious background that instilled a lot of those feelings of shame, but I think she does a good job of discussing how to try and unravel those ...
by Mo
Fri Jun 10, 2022 3:12 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I don't know if i had consensual sex.
Replies: 2
Views: 234

Re: I don't know if i had consensual sex.

Hi keszj, It sounds like this was a painful and upsetting experience, one that's really weighing on you, and I'm sorry that it happened. The first big thing I want to state is that even though you never said no to anything, I'm hearing a complete absence of a YES, or even of any sort of discussion b...
by Mo
Tue Jun 07, 2022 3:58 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Never orgasmed
Replies: 11
Views: 463

Re: Never orgasmed

I'm glad privacy doesn't seem to be an issue, I'm sure that's helpful. It sounds like you may just need some more time to experiment and find some combination of fantasy, media, and touch that works for you. If you find yourself losing arousal, or feeling frustrated, it may be better to just hit pau...
by Mo
Fri Jun 03, 2022 5:02 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: my sexual desires are problematic
Replies: 1
Views: 313

Re: my sexual desires are problematic

Hi there hijklmnop, and welcome to Scarleteen. I want to acknowledge first thing that it sounds like all these desires and feelings are causing you a lot of distress, and I'm really sorry to hear that. The second thing, though, is that these desires you're describing--being turned on by thoughts of ...
by Mo
Mon May 30, 2022 4:57 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Feeling so numb
Replies: 1
Views: 112

Re: Feeling so numb

I'm sorry this feeling has been so stressful for you! I do want to say, too, that right now, with the ongoing pandemic and a lot of social and political upheaval in many places, I don't think it's surprising that you're struggling a bit more with feeling numb. I wish it wasn't such a common thing ri...
by Mo
Mon May 30, 2022 4:46 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Preparing for a difficult conversation
Replies: 21
Views: 817

Re: Preparing for a difficult conversation

I'm glad to hear the conversation with A went well and felt productive! That's great to hear. We're certainly happy to offer help and support around planning the conversation with B if you feel like we could be helpful there.
by Mo
Mon May 30, 2022 3:14 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Am I really a lesbian?
Replies: 3
Views: 414

Re: Am I really a lesbian?

Hi there anonymous13234, I hope it's okay to jump in and share some thoughts here. :) I don't think that these moments where you're feeling an urge to make yourself attractive to men mean you aren't a lesbian. Regardless of sexual orientation, most women get a lot of messaging about the importance o...
by Mo
Fri May 27, 2022 3:45 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: What happend?
Replies: 7
Views: 253

Re: What happend?

When you say he's mostly respectful, have there been any moments where he hasn't been respectful that really stood out or have caused you any lingering worries? It may be helpful to have a conversation with him in which you talk about what you might need during sex to feel confident that he's paying...
by Mo
Fri May 27, 2022 2:39 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Virgin
Replies: 8
Views: 407

Re: Virgin

It really isn't strange for a clitoris to get hard and visibly larger when aroused! I'm sorry this is causing you a lot of distress, but this isn't something that's unusual, and I would certainly hope your partner wouldn't have any sort of issue with it. If they did, that would be a pretty lousy rea...
by Mo
Tue May 24, 2022 4:00 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Seeking out information/where to go from here
Replies: 5
Views: 314

Re: Seeking out information/where to go from here

That makes a lot of sense! I think it's great that you know this about yourself. :) I wonder if searching for something like "single/unpartnered by choice" would turn up any helpful results for you? It sounds like you're looking for other folks who are making the same deliberate choice, so...
by Mo
Fri May 20, 2022 5:20 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penetration just wont happen and sensory issues suck
Replies: 3
Views: 409

Re: Penetration just wont happen and sensory issues suck

Hi there BatsNCats, and welcome to Scarleteen. Since you mention it feeling like your hymen is causing some difficulty in inserting more than just one finger, I'm curious about whether you've ever talked to a doctor about it or had a gynecological exam. If you haven't done that, that's what I'd reco...

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