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by Mo
Tue Apr 20, 2021 4:06 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Changing/unusual periods
Replies: 1
Views: 51

Re: Changing/unusual periods

Yep, it's very common for periods to change over time, for cycles to fluctuate, or to have different symptoms from one cycle to the next. None of that is unusual! We have some more in-depth info on menstruation here, which you may find helpful: On the Rag: A Guide to Menstruation.
by Mo
Mon Apr 19, 2021 5:01 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I literally can't feel any pleasure when I try to masturbate
Replies: 7
Views: 101

Re: I literally can't feel any pleasure when I try to masturbate

Masturbation is important for a lot of people, but there are some people who don't masturbate at all, or do sometimes but don't have particularly strong feelings about it, or who go through periods where they enjoy it and periods where they don't. If it isn't happening for you right now, then even i...
by Mo
Mon Apr 19, 2021 4:59 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Need some comfort
Replies: 31
Views: 250

Re: Need some comfort

Someone can be good in a lot of ways and still choose to act in ways that cause harm. He may not have been clearly thinking "I know, I'll do something terrible to hurt my partner!" in those moments, but he was still choosing to ignore you telling him no, and deciding to push past your boun...
by Mo
Mon Apr 19, 2021 4:24 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Need some comfort
Replies: 31
Views: 250

Re: Need some comfort

Yes, him trying to push for something you'd said no to is still coercion, even if you were okay with it eventually if you did go along with it. He was still making the choice to ignore your stated boundaries. Stocking up on fruit sounds like a good plan, as does finding a good outlet for all your fe...
by Mo
Mon Apr 19, 2021 3:51 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Need some comfort
Replies: 31
Views: 250

Re: Need some comfort

I'm so happy this is reassuring for you; that's what we're always hoping for! :) I hear you on not being comfortable officially reporting anything about this situation, but assuming your therapist would not be mandated to report (which it sounds like she would not, as it doesn't sound like you were ...
by Mo
Mon Apr 19, 2021 3:25 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Need some comfort
Replies: 31
Views: 250

Re: Need some comfort

It's pretty common to have these kinds of doubts, I think; a lot of people tend to second-guess themselves when they come to a realization about something like sexual coercion in a relationship. It's upsetting to realize it's happened to you, and sometimes it might feel "easier" to decide ...
by Mo
Mon Apr 19, 2021 2:23 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Need some comfort
Replies: 31
Views: 250

Re: Need some comfort

Because I saw you post a message about this in another thread: your first few posts here will go into moderation, so you won't see them until a volunteer approves them but they are going through! So don't worry if you don't see them appear eventually; we're able to see them. :)
by Mo
Mon Apr 19, 2021 2:22 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Need some comfort
Replies: 31
Views: 250

Re: Need some comfort

Hi flores2231, and welcome to Scarleteen. We're glad you found us, although I'm sorry it's because of a stressful and traumatic experience. It can be difficult to break up with someone even when we know it's going to be the best decision; it sounds like there have been some really positive aspects o...
by Mo
Fri Apr 16, 2021 3:01 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Casual sex as a virgin
Replies: 9
Views: 230

Re: Casual sex as a virgin

I'm glad apps sound like a good place to start! Apps can definitely be a mixed bag, and it's hard to know what to expect beforehand, but I do think they are a good choice to start with. If you have any further questions or thoughts about any of this, feel free to let us know!
by Mo
Tue Apr 13, 2021 5:05 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 18
Views: 265

Re: Exclusivity?

Not ridiculous at all! It's an important skill to learn, pushing through that nervousness and discomfort and starting those tough conversations anyway, but the nervousness itself is understandable. :)
by Mo
Tue Apr 13, 2021 4:38 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Casual sex as a virgin
Replies: 9
Views: 230

Re: Casual sex as a virgin

The question of where/how to find a partner can be tough to answer; so much of the process of finding partners (whether someone is looking for one-time casual sex, ongoing casual sexual relationships, or long-term romantic relationships) is going to come down to the luck of running into someone with...
by Mo
Tue Apr 13, 2021 3:54 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 18
Views: 265

Re: Exclusivity?

I'm definitely glad to hear you were able to start that conversation! I also struggle with this sort of thing, sometimes, so I know it can feel super intimidating.
by Mo
Mon Apr 12, 2021 4:02 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions
Replies: 11
Views: 232

Re: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions

It sounds like this most recent ex wasn't being as manipulative as the earlier ex was, but that some of the ways they communicated wound up being stressful or hurtful to you. Someone doesn't always have to be acting in bad faith to be incompatible; I think that can be a very painful thing to learn a...
by Mo
Fri Apr 02, 2021 4:34 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Trying to getting to know my vulva after ignoring it for years
Replies: 5
Views: 241

Re: Trying to getting to know my vulva after ignoring it for years

Hi there Elias, welcome to Scarleteen. :) While it's normal to feel an occasional itch around the vulva, the same way any part of the body might have a brief itchy feeling at random from time to time, a persistent itching, especially if it's paired with sensitive or sore areas or an unusual smell, i...
by Mo
Fri Apr 02, 2021 4:05 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Break-up
Replies: 9
Views: 605

Re: Break-up

I'm so glad to hear you're feeling better! Taking that time to enjoy your own company for a bit sounds like a wonderful plan. I hope your exams go well!
by Mo
Tue Mar 30, 2021 5:12 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: i need help with relationships
Replies: 9
Views: 248

Re: i need help with relationships

One thing that can be helpful, when talking to women or anyone else you feel tense around, is to come at the conversation from some sort of shared experience or interest. If you're meeting someone through a class, event, shared hobby, etc. that can be a topic to talk about in order to get a conversa...
by Mo
Tue Mar 30, 2021 3:15 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Loneliness bites.
Replies: 9
Views: 1424

Re: Loneliness bites.

I've really appreciated hearing from a lot of friends lately the general sentiment of "I get that communication right now is hard for a lot of us, please don't assume I don't like you if you don't hear from me and I won't assume that about you either; when we can reconnect again I will be so ha...
by Mo
Fri Mar 26, 2021 4:58 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Excessive vaginal discharge
Replies: 5
Views: 556

Re: Excessive vaginal discharge

That does sound frustrating! It's certainly something you could bring up to a gynecologist just to be sure there isn't anything else going on, but since it doesn't sound like you have any other signs of a problem, you may just be experiencing some heavier-than-average (but otherwise normal) discharg...
by Mo
Fri Mar 26, 2021 4:47 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Quarantine, and Gender
Replies: 2
Views: 202

Re: Quarantine, and Gender

I've found that I'm doing a lot less when it comes to gender expression, in a way that's been kind of a bummer for me; because I'm masked when leaving the house, and because I only get out for errands or walks and not really to go anywhere for fun or to socialize, I haven't worn makeup very much in ...
by Mo
Mon Mar 22, 2021 4:02 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I ask...?
Replies: 13
Views: 401

Re: How do I ask...?

I do think the best way to find out what your boyfriend likes is to take things slow and get feedback from him. If I remember correctly, this will be his first time receiving oral sex as well, am I right? He may not know exactly what he prefers yet, so it's likely that the first time will involve so...
by Mo
Mon Mar 22, 2021 3:36 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: My nipples and clitoris aren’t sensitive at all
Replies: 5
Views: 1035

Re: My nipples and clitoris aren’t sensitive at all

While "normal" isn't an easy term to define, when it comes to sexual preferences, being interested in reading about BDSM certainly isn't uncommon, and having that interest doesn't necessarily means you will need it in order to be turned on or interested in sex with a partner. A lot of peop...
by Mo
Tue Mar 16, 2021 5:06 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Anxiety about potential relationship manifesting into a series of nightmares
Replies: 41
Views: 2482

Re: Anxiety about potential relationship manifesting into a series of nightmares

I can understand why you'd be looking forward to your mom being out of the house for a while, but it sounds like her stress at being back in school might manifest itself in ways that will make things tense in a different way than having her at home all the times does. For now it might be best to foc...
by Mo
Mon Mar 15, 2021 2:07 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Live chat
Replies: 2
Views: 403

Re: Live chat

It is online now! We are generally signed in and ready to go right at 2 but occasionally it'll take a minute or two.
by Mo
Tue Mar 09, 2021 4:51 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to deal with feeling sexually exploited
Replies: 3
Views: 375

Re: How to deal with feeling sexually exploited

It would be so nice if it was possible to forget or remove the impacts of trauma; it's so unfair that you have to carry this pain. Even if you aren't always feeling a lot of distress about the sexual coercion in your previous relationship, it sounds like the distress you do feel impacts your life qu...
by Mo
Tue Mar 09, 2021 4:08 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Pain while masturbating/penetration
Replies: 1
Views: 683

Re: Pain while masturbating/penetration

I'm sorry to hear this is causing you so much anxiety! If it helps, while I can understand your worry and frustration here, I don't think what you've described is necessarily a sign you're dealing with vaginismus or some other serious problem. You could certainly check in with a doctor or gynecologi...

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