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by Mo
Fri Dec 02, 2022 5:40 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation
Replies: 1
Views: 24

Re: Masturbation

I think it's a good idea to refrain from doing that again, especially when it comes to looking at photos you find arousing when you're in class (whether or not those would count as pornographic or overtly sexual if someone else were to see them), but I don't think there's anything you really need to...
by Mo
Fri Dec 02, 2022 4:07 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Condom question
Replies: 5
Views: 92

Re: Condom question

It sounds like you're putting it on just fine! You want to be pinching the tip to be sure you aren't trapping air in there and you're leaving a little bit of room for semen; as long as you're pinching while rolling the majority of the condom down, this shouldn't be an issue.
by Mo
Fri Dec 02, 2022 3:58 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I think masturbating has become bad for my health but I can't stop
Replies: 1
Views: 33

Re: I think masturbating has become bad for my health but I can't stop

Hi skzly, good to see you again! I'm sorry that something this stressful is what's brought you back, though. Do you know whether you hold a lot of tension in your head, jaw, neck, etc. while masturbating? Sometimes people will be in the habit of clenching muscles pretty tightly during the masturbati...
by Mo
Tue Nov 29, 2022 3:26 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Obsessions After Sexual Abuse
Replies: 3
Views: 145

Re: Obsessions After Sexual Abuse

It sounds really frustrating that your therapist isn't wanting to talk to you specifically about sexual issues when that's the specific thing you wanted to see her for! These persistent thoughts sound very distracting and distressing, and I do think having professional guidance will be the best way ...
by Mo
Fri Nov 25, 2022 3:18 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bisexuality
Replies: 16
Views: 296

Re: Bisexuality

I do want to step in and highlight that I think it's pretty lousy of your husband to zero in on you saying something to him in the heat of the moment that you wouldn't normally say, something you've said just that one time in a high-stress moment, and tell you it's a "pattern" that could b...
by Mo
Tue Nov 22, 2022 3:37 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Open Thread for Support After LGBTQ Violence
Replies: 6
Views: 193

Re: Open Thread for Support After LGBTQ Violence

Oh gosh, can I just say how much I hate the "look at it from the other side?" response in this sort of situation? It isn't equivalent at all when one "side" is saying "please let us live our lives without being denied basic rights, harassed, or murdered" and the other i...
by Mo
Mon Nov 21, 2022 4:13 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I need penetration to reach orgasm and I'm unhappy about that
Replies: 15
Views: 431

Re: I need penetration to reach orgasm and I'm unhappy about that

I can understand that! When you've tried to take breaks from masturbation before, do you have a sense of what makes it difficult? The reason I ask is that sometimes if masturbation is a habit out of routine or boredom, vs an immediate feeling of arousal or desire, that can make it less likely to fee...
by Mo
Fri Nov 18, 2022 5:51 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I need penetration to reach orgasm and I'm unhappy about that
Replies: 15
Views: 431

Re: I need penetration to reach orgasm and I'm unhappy about that

Hi Anne, I just wanted to pop in and say that I really get it, in terms of the difficulties of sticking to that goal of enjoying masturbation without the goal of orgasm. Sometimes it can feel really fulfilling to just focus on pleasure, and sometimes it just winds up being frustrating or uncomfortab...
by Mo
Fri Nov 18, 2022 4:23 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Are women who sexual pictures of themselves on social media perpetuate the idea that is okay for men to enjoy the view
Replies: 4
Views: 189

Re: Are women who sexual pictures of themselves on social media perpetuate the idea that is okay for men to enjoy the v

I think questions like this are always going to be ones with no one clear answer, because people make choices around social media and what content to post or consume for a number of reasons and in a number of different contexts; one women's choices, feelings, and experiences in this area will be ver...
by Mo
Tue Nov 15, 2022 3:59 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Choosing pronouns
Replies: 7
Views: 374

Re: Choosing pronouns

I vastly prefer he/him pronouns; I feel like I "should" be happy with they/them pronouns as well, given that my gender is what's probably easiest simplified as "nonbinary/transmasc overlap" and I don't feel like A Man in any way, but I've spent a good bit of time trying out both ...
by Mo
Fri Nov 11, 2022 5:55 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 146
Views: 28288

Re: Accepting my sexuality

These things really are complicated!!! Sometimes I find it helpful to try and accept that there aren't always easy answers to questions like "do I have a crush on this person or do I want to be like them?" even though I'm a person who often wants to have those concrete answers. In all hone...
by Mo
Fri Nov 11, 2022 3:18 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Clarification Question
Replies: 13
Views: 4551

Re: Clarification Question

You're welcome!
by Mo
Fri Nov 11, 2022 3:17 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Turning Red
Replies: 3
Views: 3746

Re: Turning Red

This doesn't sound like something to worry about, although it's hard for us to know exactly what you're experiencing based on your description here. (That isn't about you not describing things well; it's just one of the downsides of using text to explain something we can't see.) I think a good appro...
by Mo
Fri Nov 04, 2022 2:16 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My bf broke up with me but not really?
Replies: 5
Views: 3647

Re: My bf broke up with me but not really?

I can definitely understand why you'd be angry and upset by this! It sounds like he was just not great at communicating at all, which can be extremely frustrating. I'm sorry to hear how things turned out.
by Mo
Tue Nov 01, 2022 2:31 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Trying to figure out my sexuality - what even is a relationship?
Replies: 5
Views: 4285

Re: Trying to figure out my sexuality - what even is a relationship?

I don't know if this is the case for you, but I've had some transfemme friends who described really struggling with friendships before they were out to people they knew because they didn't just want to be friends with other girls, they wanted to experience that friendship as "one of the girls&q...
by Mo
Mon Oct 31, 2022 3:23 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Gender identity questions
Replies: 7
Views: 5122

Re: Gender identity questions

I'm glad you're enjoying your new haircut! I have definitely had the experience of trying a new significantly shorter haircut and getting a lot of comments from people where it seemed like they were maybe trying to either fish for gender-identity-related information or tell me they didn't like it wi...
by Mo
Mon Oct 24, 2022 3:25 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Non-Relaxing/Hypertonic Pelvic Floor Resources?
Replies: 11
Views: 2987

Re: Non-Relaxing/Hypertonic Pelvic Floor Resources?

Hi sandpiper, I'm glad that being able to write all this out has been helpful for you, at the very least! And it's great to hear that things with your boyfriend are going well. It's good that you have another OBGYN appointment scheduled, even though it's so far in the future. You may have done this ...
by Mo
Mon Oct 24, 2022 2:53 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Making friends in college
Replies: 3
Views: 1845

Re: Making friends in college

I hope that's helpful!! I do want to say, too, that because of how weird and isolating the pandemic has made the last few years, I think connecting with other people is more difficult now for a lot of people than it maybe would have been recently! I know a lot of folks struggling with this now when ...
by Mo
Mon Oct 24, 2022 2:40 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Reconnecting With Someone
Replies: 68
Views: 15963

Re: Reconnecting With Someone

Oh gosh, I'm sorry to hear this and I get why it would feel so hurtful!! I'm glad you're keeping in mind that their behavior isn't a reflection on you; I think that's really important to hold on to. <3
by Mo
Tue Oct 18, 2022 4:17 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: itchyness after using dildo
Replies: 3
Views: 1185

Re: itchyness after using dildo

Hm! My first thought would be that it would be related to some ingredient in the lube; if you're able to switch brands, that's something that I think would be worth trying. It's possible that you aren't able to clean the dildo well enough and there's bacteria on it causing irritation, but I wouldn't...
by Mo
Tue Oct 18, 2022 3:49 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Grossed out by realistic pictures of genitals?
Replies: 5
Views: 1751

Re: Grossed out by realistic pictures of genitals?

You're welcome! :)
by Mo
Tue Oct 18, 2022 3:31 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Bad Wet Dreams
Replies: 1
Views: 1565

Re: Bad Wet Dreams

I can definitely understand why this would be uncomfortable for you!! Sadly, there really isn't anything you can do about these dreams; they are generally not something that one can control. You may find that the frequency of sexual dreams fades with time, though.
by Mo
Tue Oct 18, 2022 3:27 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Grossed out by realistic pictures of genitals?
Replies: 5
Views: 1751

Re: Grossed out by realistic pictures of genitals?

I'm glad you at least aren't feeling that discomfort with your own genitals! Honestly, I don't know that there's a specific way to reduce the grossness or discomfort you feel when you see pictures, but I also don't think you need to try and really force the issue. Body positivity doesn't have to mea...
by Mo
Tue Oct 18, 2022 2:56 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Grossed out by realistic pictures of genitals?
Replies: 5
Views: 1751

Re: Grossed out by realistic pictures of genitals?

Do you feel like that "gross" reaction is specifically tied to a sexual association with genitals? Or do they just seem gross or uncomfortable in a general sense?
by Mo
Tue Oct 18, 2022 2:50 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Ashamed by inexperince
Replies: 4
Views: 1809

Re: Ashamed by inexperince

Hi Deja, It sounds like this is causing you a lot of shame and stress, and I'm really sorry to hear that. I don't know if it helps to hear this, but these feelings are pretty common among people who haven't had a lot of sexual or relationship experience by their mid-20s. The flipside of this is that...

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