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by Mo
Tue Jan 31, 2023 5:02 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: 24 and never been able to induce any pleasure at all
Replies: 15
Views: 11052

Re: 24 and never been able to induce any pleasure at all

Glad we could be here as a place for you to talk about all this! :) If it helps at all, you aren't at all alone in having this frustration. We get a lot of folks here who struggle to feel pleasure during masturbation, and it's something that I think people can feel really isolated about as it isn't ...
by Mo
Tue Jan 24, 2023 5:44 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Why does birth control efficacy go down over several years of use?
Replies: 3
Views: 18223

Re: Why does birth control efficacy go down over several years of use?

Weird! The fact that this isn't a peer-reviewed study makes me a little concerned (as does the fact that major news outlets very very rarely represent the results of studies in a factual or reasonable way and tend towards sensationalist headlines). I am really not sure that it makes sense to use tha...
by Mo
Tue Jan 24, 2023 4:45 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Why does birth control efficacy go down over several years of use?
Replies: 3
Views: 18223

Re: Why does birth control efficacy go down over several years of use?

I don't have a subscription so can't see past the paywall, but it sounds like what the article is stating is that it isn't that birth control methods themselves become less effective, but that people become more lax with keeping up with those methods over time. "Typical use" covers all the...
by Mo
Tue Jan 24, 2023 4:33 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Partner dealing with dysphoria
Replies: 3
Views: 14074

Re: Partner dealing with dysphoria

It's so hard when you want to help a partner or other loved one and there isn't much you can do. :( It sounds like what you're doing now, being affirming and offering distractions when you can, is all the right stuff to be doing! I can definitely understand why this would feel scary and upsetting fo...
by Mo
Mon Jan 23, 2023 6:09 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Can healthy relationships have “intensity”?
Replies: 3
Views: 2235

Re: Can healthy relationships have “intensity”?

Well, I think there's an important line to draw between intense feelings and obsessive ones. You can have very strong feelings for someone and think about them all the time without that being unhealthy; however, it certainly can get to a point where it's unhealthy. I'm hesitant to lay out some speci...
by Mo
Tue Jan 17, 2023 3:13 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Condom Just Broke
Replies: 14
Views: 4360

Re: Condom Just Broke

Here's that lube article: Lube 101: A Slick Little primer. Hopefully that's helpful!

Also, I think it's great that you're recognizing that continuing to take pregnancy tests might do more harm than good. It does sound like avoiding another test for now is a good idea!
by Mo
Tue Jan 17, 2023 3:08 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Condom Just Broke
Replies: 14
Views: 4360

Re: Condom Just Broke

Here's a link to our basic guide for condom use, which goes over proper usage and storage procedure: Condom Basics: A User's Manual. Using and storing condoms properly will make it much less likely for one to break in the future.
by Mo
Fri Jan 13, 2023 5:13 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: tried and failed
Replies: 13
Views: 1815

Re: tried and failed

It's so frustrating when products are behind doors like that! I can really understand why you might not feel comfortable asking someone to unlock it for you, but you're certainly allowed to do so and if an employee were to give you a hard time or ask you why you need it, that would be really inappro...
by Mo
Fri Jan 13, 2023 4:41 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bleeding after losing virginity
Replies: 3
Views: 3350

Re: Bleeding after losing virginity

Hi there Cocopops, welcome to Scarleteen. It sounds like the bleeding you're noticing is pretty light now, mostly just spotting, and if that's the case I think it's okay to hold off on seeing a doctor for now. I'd advise that you not engage in any sexual activity until well after the bleeding's stop...
by Mo
Tue Jan 10, 2023 5:45 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: just want to talk about me being a trans girl
Replies: 21
Views: 12206

Re: just want to talk about me being a trans girl

Hopefully, the doctor you have a referral to can answer some of your HRT questions. Going in for an appointment definitely doesn't mean you must start HRT, or that you have to do so right away, but it may help clarify some things for you. We do also have an article with some information on that here...
by Mo
Mon Jan 09, 2023 3:42 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I'm a virgin and I'm scared to insert a finger
Replies: 9
Views: 45360

Re: I'm a virgin and I'm scared to insert a finger

It sounds like you weren't feeling very aroused when you tried inserting your finger, which I think may have been part of why you were having some difficulty with it. Any sort of vaginal entry (whether that's with a finger, a partner's penis, or a toy) is going to be much easier and more comfortable...
by Mo
Mon Jan 09, 2023 3:23 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 1388522

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Oh gosh, I don't know what was in the policies you had to sign, and there may have been something in there that said she could discuss what you said in a session with other people, but if that's the case I don't think it was ethical to go ahead with the session without verbally discussing it with yo...
by Mo
Fri Jan 06, 2023 5:56 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: trouble with stimulation
Replies: 1
Views: 2673

Re: trouble with stimulation

What you're experiencing isn't unusual; some folks do find that they get oversensitive after some clitoral stimulation. Less direct contact is often something we'll recommend here; it sounds like that isn't really working but it could be worth continuing to experiment with. I don't know if you're al...
by Mo
Tue Jan 03, 2023 5:55 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Question regarding orgasms
Replies: 1
Views: 1215

Re: Question regarding orgasms

It's hard to know exactly what that feeling meant, but sometimes it does indeed indicate a need to urinate, especially if you're going into sex with a full bladder. One way to be less worried about urinating during sex is to be sure you pee right beforehand! It's going to be pretty unlikely to occur...
by Mo
Mon Jan 02, 2023 5:47 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Positive New Year's Goals
Replies: 5
Views: 3843

Positive New Year's Goals

I've never been one for official "resolutions" for the new year, but I do find it helpful to give myself a little time for reflection at the beginning of a year and set some general goals or intentions for the months ahead. For 2023, I'm hoping to focus on my photography hobby a bit more s...
by Mo
Fri Dec 23, 2022 5:49 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 1388522

Re: Accepting my sexuality

I know this time of year can make family difficulties a lot more stressful. There can be a lot of pressure to do everything the "right" way, or take part in traditions you don't enjoy or feel connected to because that's just the way things are, etc. It can add a lot of strain on relationsh...
by Mo
Fri Dec 23, 2022 5:45 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: First Pap Smear--Arousal??
Replies: 1
Views: 1044

Re: First Pap Smear--Arousal??

Hi there, welcome to Scarleteen! I'm glad our article on first pap smears was helpful to read! Hopefully it will go smoothly for you. :) These exams are very clinical in tone, so it's very likely that you won't experience any arousal, but if you do find yourself feeling aroused, that doesn't mean yo...
by Mo
Fri Dec 23, 2022 5:24 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I'm trans- should I even bother with having sex?
Replies: 1
Views: 3182

Re: I'm trans- should I even bother with having sex?

So, I do want to gently push back on the idea of something being "just touching" and not sex. Sex encompasses so many things; often times people consider intercourse to be "real" sex and everything else to be just foreplay or something else, but that really isn't sound. Plenty of...
by Mo
Fri Dec 23, 2022 4:33 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Dealing with mixed feelings after being dumped
Replies: 5
Views: 2444

Re: Dealing with mixed feelings after being dumped

If it helps to hear from someone who did reconnect with someone after a "I really can't focus on dating right now and it isn't fair to you to string you along, so even though I do like you a lot I need to break up with you" conversation, I'm happy to share how that went down for me. I was ...
by Mo
Fri Dec 23, 2022 4:21 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: My boyfriend's parents don't take his depression seriously
Replies: 21
Views: 7519

Re: My boyfriend's parents don't take his depression seriously

It really does sound like you're in a place where the support you're getting isn't quite enough or what you need, and I can see how this would be really difficult for you! I don't know if this is something you've looked into or considered, but I wonder if a therapist who focuses on autistic patients...
by Mo
Tue Dec 20, 2022 5:58 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: my bf accidentally violated my sexual boundaries
Replies: 10
Views: 6229

Re: my bf accidentally violated my sexual boundaries

I just meant to indicate that it was something he seems to have intended as teasing that didn't land that way for you, sorry it was unclear.
by Mo
Tue Dec 20, 2022 4:10 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: my bf accidentally violated my sexual boundaries
Replies: 10
Views: 6229

Re: my bf accidentally violated my sexual boundaries

You know, while teasing is okay and even fun in some relationships, it's okay if you don't like it! It doesn't have to be part of any relationship, and it isn't weird or wrong of you to not enjoy it. I know that early on in my relationship with my partner, they teased me about a few things I was ver...
by Mo
Tue Dec 20, 2022 4:06 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Feeling anxious
Replies: 14
Views: 5823

Re: Feeling anxious

I don't know if this is helpful, but something that I have found comforting, at least, is talking with partners or close friends who have those same sorts of fears, that if people saw the worst parts of them they'd be turned off and not interested. And of course my reaction to those people is to thi...
by Mo
Fri Dec 09, 2022 4:08 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation
Replies: 12
Views: 7061

Re: Masturbation

I will say, too, that even if the therapist doesn't specialize in sexuality-related issues, she still may have some thoughts about dealing with intrusive thoughts in general that would apply to your situation.
by Mo
Tue Dec 06, 2022 3:12 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: I Letf My Pills In a Hot Car
Replies: 6
Views: 2804

Re: I Letf My Pills In a Hot Car

If you followed the instructions for the earlier test, you can trust those results (the initial results, not what you saw when you went back to look hours later). You can take another test if you think it would be helpful, but it's good to keep in mind that sometimes people find that taking addition...

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