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by Mo
Fri Oct 22, 2021 3:16 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Dating someone older
Replies: 3
Views: 125

Re: Dating someone older

You say it isn't a big deal, but I don't think that's necessarily true! Having sex for the first time may not be a big deal to everyone but it certainly can be, and if it is for you, it's important to acknowledge and respect that. What I'm hearing is that you don't feel ready for sex with her just y...
by Mo
Tue Oct 19, 2021 2:35 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: More questions
Replies: 5
Views: 176

Re: More questions

The best advice we can give is to take some time experimenting when you masturbate, to see if different kinds of touch, a different level of intensity, thinking about something new or different, etc. will make a difference. There's no one best way that works for everyone, so we can't give specific t...
by Mo
Mon Oct 18, 2021 2:40 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Unhealthy Infatuation?
Replies: 7
Views: 162

Re: Unhealthy Infatuation?

You're doing the right thing, even though it's painful. It is a bummer that you're having to step up and be the one to set better boundaries with this teacher; that should be her responsibility as the adult in this situation. Be extra kind to yourself for a bit, and I hope the hurt you're feeling fr...
by Mo
Fri Oct 15, 2021 2:38 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: attracted to gay guys?
Replies: 3
Views: 168

Re: attracted to gay guys?

Hi there mossypebble, and welcome to Scarleteen. First off, it's not at all unusual or strange to be interested in mlm romantic or sexual content in the way you describe. That's the easy answer to your post and I want to make sure I say that up front. :) The harder question to answer is whether this...
by Mo
Fri Oct 08, 2021 4:56 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 105
Views: 2460

Re: So there's a guy...

I don't think you can know if this guy knows you're interested in him or not! A lot of people have a hard time noticing when someone else is expressing their interest in a roundabout way. There really isn't going to be a way to know for sure unless one of you brings it up directly. It can feel safer...
by Mo
Fri Oct 08, 2021 4:37 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation troubles
Replies: 14
Views: 458

Re: Masturbation troubles

You may also find this article, which talks about the broad range of attributes that make up someone's sexuality, helpful: Sexuality: WTF Is It, Anyway?
by Mo
Fri Oct 08, 2021 4:04 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation questions
Replies: 13
Views: 523

Re: Masturbation questions

Something to keep in mind about masturbation is that there isn't really a "right" way to do it, just what's right for you. If it turns out you and your friend masturbate differently, that won't mean that one of you is doing something weird or dumb or that you aren't doing it correctly. If ...
by Mo
Tue Oct 05, 2021 5:16 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Worried I may have given my partner herpes
Replies: 1
Views: 145

Re: Worried I may have given my partner herpes

Hi WayneB96, and welcome to Scarleteen. I can understand why this would be a stressful situation! Have you talked to your partner at all about your cold sores and been careful about not kissing her or sharing drinks when you have an outbreak or feel one coming on? If that's a conversation you've alr...
by Mo
Tue Oct 05, 2021 4:20 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: period questions t_t
Replies: 9
Views: 332

Re: period questions t_t

Good to hear it! Glad we could help.
by Mo
Mon Oct 04, 2021 5:08 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Morning after pill and bleeding
Replies: 1
Views: 163

Re: Morning after pill and bleeding

Hi there yiamdi, and welcome to Scarleteen. It's very common for bleeding or cycle irregularities to be a side effect of emergency contraception. We can't know exactly what's causing this bleeding, of course, but it's very likely that what you're experiencing is a side effect of the EC. What we do r...
by Mo
Mon Oct 04, 2021 2:37 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: New here with a couple questions
Replies: 4
Views: 282

Re: New here with a couple questions

If you're looking for a few other things to try, in terms of DIY sex toys or things that can function as sex toys, we do have an article you may find helpful: D.I.Y. Sex Toys: Self-Love Edition . I do want to say, though, that if you're using the bristles of the toothbrush directly on your clitoris,...
by Mo
Fri Oct 01, 2021 4:11 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Imbalance in friendships
Replies: 15
Views: 604

Re: Imbalance in friendships

While it is possible to have positive experiences with therapists, it's not always easy for any one person to find a therapist whose approach and general vibe is a good match for them. Not every therapeutic approach will work for everyone and some therapists are more flexible than others. It definit...
by Mo
Fri Oct 01, 2021 2:44 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Is it worth trying?
Replies: 10
Views: 489

Re: Is it worth trying?

I do want to check in and make sure you've all talked about how you're handling birth control and safer sex practices; any time someone has multiple partners it is vital to have good communication and responsibility around safer sex. Is that something you've discussed in detail with everyone?
by Mo
Tue Sep 28, 2021 4:58 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Coping with Jealousy and Envy in a Polycule?
Replies: 1
Views: 210

Re: Coping with Jealousy and Envy in a Polycule?

Hi there, BuddyBoi. I'm sorry you're feeling stressed and insecure about some aspects of this relationship. Are there any things in particular your partner could do for you that you think would help you feel more secure or valued? I wonder if there are ways she could commit to spending time with you...
by Mo
Tue Sep 28, 2021 2:36 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Too busy to take care of myself sexually
Replies: 4
Views: 462

Re: Too busy to take care of myself sexually

One thing you may want to try is setting up some sort of system where you can have a "knock first, please" sign of some sort on the door. When I was in college, a lot of people had small whiteboards on their doors where friends could leave messages and they would draw a certain design or p...
by Mo
Mon Sep 27, 2021 4:27 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Porn addiction
Replies: 14
Views: 382

Re: Porn addiction

I definitely hear you on not liking the weird "masturbation is bad" messaging of online spaces like the nofap reddit! I don't think that's a helpful or healthy approach to handling masturbation even if you want to cut down for other reasons. There is a lot of talk about "addiction&quo...
by Mo
Mon Sep 27, 2021 3:26 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penis Size
Replies: 24
Views: 597

Re: Penis Size

I think, too, that some people have the thought that there's a "best" size or shape for a penis to be, in terms of what partners will enjoy. Just like there's no "most attractive" person, though, there's no "best" type of penis, either! People have all sorts of preferen...
by Mo
Mon Sep 27, 2021 3:24 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: std question
Replies: 3
Views: 211

Re: std question

That all sounds great! If you want a helpful resource for information on safer sex practices and getting tested, this article has a great overview: Safe, Sound & Sexy: A Safer Sex How-To
by Mo
Mon Sep 27, 2021 3:21 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I think my partner is emotionally abusive
Replies: 9
Views: 370

Re: I think my partner is emotionally abusive

It does sound like your partner's struggling to deal with conflict in a way that's not abusive, but I don't think the way for him to get better at it is for him to remain in a relationship where he's able to continue that abuse. I don't think putting yourself at continued risk of abuse is likely to ...
by Mo
Fri Sep 24, 2021 4:37 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penis Size
Replies: 24
Views: 597

Re: Penis Size

Many people are able to retract their foreskins by that age, but not everyone can, and it isn't necessarily a sign of a problem. It sounds like it isn't painful for you, which is a good sign. If it ever does become painful or uncomfortable, it's something you could discuss with your doctor.
by Mo
Fri Sep 24, 2021 3:55 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I can't get aroused whilst masturbating
Replies: 1
Views: 166

Re: I can't get aroused whilst masturbating

Hi Pips, and welcome to Scarleteen. First off, I promise we will not judge you for reading fanfiction!! It's not like none of us here do that. :) When you're trying to masturbate, are you doing it when you're already feeling aroused, like when you read fanfic you find arousing? Or are you trying to ...
by Mo
Mon Sep 20, 2021 4:14 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 105
Views: 2460

Re: So there's a guy...

There isn't a guaranteed way you and your sister can assert your independence from each other (and your parents) without your parents freaking out or having a negative reaction, but I think it's important to assert that anyway, if you can. When they indicate that they expect you to do things togethe...
by Mo
Mon Sep 13, 2021 4:49 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 105
Views: 2460

Re: So there's a guy...

It's so true! Friendships and all kinds of relationships can be really tough, and I know the isolation of the pandemic has made maintaining friendships harder for a lot of people. I think it's worth putting in the effort to connect with people when you can, but it's also good to acknowledge that it ...
by Mo
Mon Sep 13, 2021 2:39 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Question about sperm
Replies: 3
Views: 523

Re: Question about sperm

One thing to keep in mind is that sperm aren't bacteria; cross-contamination isn't something that happens with sperm. We do find that a lot of people are worried about sperm behaving in very bacteria-like ways, so it may help to remember that they just can't do the same things bacteria can.
by Mo
Fri Sep 10, 2021 5:08 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 105
Views: 2460

Re: So there's a guy...

I think taking it slow is a good plan! It can be hard to see someone working hard and not taking time for themselves, for sure. It can be a tricky thing to talk about, since some folks don't have the option of cutting down on work or are prioritizing it for a valid reason even if it causes some stre...

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