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by Mo
Tue Oct 04, 2022 3:01 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Condom confusion
Replies: 10
Views: 122

Re: Condom confusion

Ultimately we really can't speak to why Planned Parenthood frames it that way! We'd classify this as indirect transfer, in the same no-risk category as the initial scenario you asked about. Putting a condom on inside out makes it harder to put on properly and securely, and having to try and roll it ...
by Mo
Tue Oct 04, 2022 2:35 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My bf broke up with me but not really?
Replies: 1
Views: 33

Re: My bf broke up with me but not really?

I think these two statements you made above are really telling: "I can’t date someone who isn’t enjoying it and thinks that talking to me every day is too much. I’ll feel bad if I continue to date a guy who said all those things and didn’t even apologize." Those are very valid feelings to ...
by Mo
Tue Oct 04, 2022 2:23 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Throuple Sex Insecurities and Worries
Replies: 4
Views: 47

Re: Throuple Sex Insecurities and Worries

I can understand that! It sounds like maybe you don't feel like a part of things as much when your partners are having intercourse. Maybe you can talk about the way that you could be involved in that, or if there are things other than intercourse that you could all do together. I do think it might b...
by Mo
Mon Oct 03, 2022 2:43 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Condom confusion
Replies: 10
Views: 122

Re: Condom confusion

We've got a bunch of information about how pregnancy can happen, and why it can't happen in other ways, all collected here: Pregnancy Scare Resources ; you'll find your answer in the articles there! As a general rule, we don't delete posts on our message boards; that's part of the site guidelines yo...
by Mo
Fri Sep 30, 2022 4:52 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Does anyone else like to reaffirm that masturbation is normal/healthy before doing it?
Replies: 1
Views: 110

Re: Does anyone else like to reaffirm that masturbation is normal/healthy before doing it?

This isn't the sort of thing we can really say is "normal" or not, because "normal" is kind of meaningless when it comes to issues of sexuality, and people having this same impulse aren't necessarily going to talk about it, so we can't know how common it is. I will say, though, t...
by Mo
Fri Sep 30, 2022 3:31 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 102
Views: 12610

Re: Accepting my sexuality

To touch on the lovely day you had being alone, I first want to say I'm really glad you had that experience. It sounds genuinely wonderful! I don't think that this means you can only be happy when you're alone, though. I wonder if the happiness and freedom you felt were just as much about being away...
by Mo
Fri Sep 30, 2022 2:38 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: are my crushes normal?
Replies: 2
Views: 116

Re: are my crushes normal?

It definitely isn't unusual for people your age to get crushes on adults! I don't think there's anything weird or wrong about it at all. It does seem to be a sort of crush that some people are more inclined to than others, but I think that's often more about personal preferences or being drawn to ma...
by Mo
Tue Sep 27, 2022 4:38 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My boyfriend thinks I like him too much
Replies: 11
Views: 577

Re: My boyfriend thinks I like him too much

It is sad! And by all means, if looking back on things you think there's some of this you haven't mentioned to him, you certainly could. But from an outside perspective it's sounding less like you haven't been clear enough and more like it just isn't something he wants to do. If you do wind up endin...
by Mo
Tue Sep 27, 2022 4:05 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: What should I have prepared going into my first counselling session where I'll be talking about gender dysphoria?
Replies: 5
Views: 155

Re: What should I have prepared going into my first counselling session where I'll be talking about gender dysphoria?

Hi CodingSocks, and welcome to Scarleteen. I think a lot of this will depend on the practitioner you're seeing, and their general approach to any sort of gender-affirming care, but my general advice is to do some brainstorming beforehand and set out whatever narrative feels most comprehensive and co...
by Mo
Tue Sep 27, 2022 3:57 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My boyfriend thinks I like him too much
Replies: 11
Views: 577

Re: My boyfriend thinks I like him too much

You know, sometimes I think it can be helpful to frame a conversation not as "do this or we'll break up," but as "I need this to feel cared for in a relationship. Is that something you're willing to do?" It's less about giving an ultimatum and more about stating your wishes and s...
by Mo
Tue Sep 27, 2022 3:50 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: 15 pregnant and he left
Replies: 1
Views: 95

Re: 15 pregnant and he left

Hi there crunchyic3, welcome to Scarleteen. I'm sorry you're dealing with such a stressful situation without the support of the guy you were in a relationship with; that sounds very painful. He's wrong that it "doesn't matter" because he's being deployed, though. For one thing, whether he'...
by Mo
Mon Sep 26, 2022 4:37 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I need help with my sexuality
Replies: 1
Views: 115

Re: I need help with my sexuality

Hi there, Turtleddragon7, and welcome to Scarleteen. We can't really tell you whether you're a lesbian or not; that's not something anyone can determine for someone else. What I'm hearing you say is that aroace lesbian sounds like the best or closest way to describe how you're feeling right now (cor...
by Mo
Mon Sep 26, 2022 2:04 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Scheduling a time
Replies: 4
Views: 126

Re: Scheduling a time

Hi Raffles,
I'll be the one working the chat shift from 2-5 Pacific on Friday! You're welcome to come in during that time. It's fine if you take a while to respond or if you ask for something to be rephrased so it's easier to understand; that's no problem at all.
by Mo
Tue Sep 20, 2022 3:21 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: partner always stops before i’m ready to
Replies: 1
Views: 208

Re: partner always stops before i’m ready to

It's true that the only way to figure out what's happening here, and to ask for the kind of sex you want, is going to be to talk to your boyfriend about it. I get that it can be really intimidating to do, especially if you don't have a lot of practice in talking about sex or other sensitive topics w...
by Mo
Tue Sep 20, 2022 3:17 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Vibrator & Partnered Sex
Replies: 10
Views: 312

Re: Vibrator & Partnered Sex

I don't think that's a silly question at all! I don't know that there's an easy answer to it, but I don't think it's weird and silly to ask. Whether someone who's homosexual could enjoy sex with a different-gender partner if a vibrator was used is something that will vary a lot from person to person...
by Mo
Mon Sep 19, 2022 3:23 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: HSV1 question
Replies: 1
Views: 156

Re: HSV1 question

Hi Dannie,
I know I addressed this question for you in chat, but if you have any further questions or follow-ups, feel free to let us know. :)
by Mo
Fri Sep 16, 2022 4:01 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Did I fall foul of misinformation?
Replies: 20
Views: 649

Re: Did I fall foul of misinformation?

My understanding is that HPV transmission through manual sex is unlikely, but not impossible. We really can't know the STI status of this guy, and even if he did have HPV that doesn't mean you would have contracted it. Ultimately this isn't something we can know for sure, and I know that's stressful...
by Mo
Tue Sep 13, 2022 5:08 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: my girl bestfriend
Replies: 1
Views: 241

Re: my girl bestfriend

Hi there euphoria.

Is this the same friend you've mentioned a few times on here before? I know you'd mentioned in a previous post that you worried the two of you were drifting apart. Are you still feeling that way? And is it something you've talked with her about since the last time you posted here?
by Mo
Fri Sep 09, 2022 4:14 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What would you tell your past self about sex?
Replies: 4
Views: 651

What would you tell your past self about sex?

Sometimes I wish I could open up a little portal to the past and send my younger self a letter with some information I wish I'd known or thought about when it comes to sex and relationships. What sort of thing would you choose to say, if you had that ability? There are two main things I'd want to te...
by Mo
Tue Sep 06, 2022 2:50 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: frustrated
Replies: 3
Views: 206

Re: frustrated

Carly has a good point in your other thread that feelings of frustration generally put a huge damper on things, and make orgasm pretty difficult, so if you find yourself getting frustrated during masturbation, I think it may be helpful to decide at that point to stop and do something else for a bit....
by Mo
Tue Sep 06, 2022 2:24 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Any tips for developing a crush on someone?
Replies: 5
Views: 316

Re: Any tips for developing a crush on someone?

Hi there Dennis91, and welcome to Scarleteen. We really can't give you tips on this, sadly! Developing feelings of attraction for someone else is one of those things that people tend to do at their own pace. Some folks develop feelings very quickly and easily, and for others it takes longer. I will ...
by Mo
Mon Sep 05, 2022 3:48 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Am I bisexual or just a lesbian struggling with comphet?
Replies: 6
Views: 442

Re: Am I bisexual or just a lesbian struggling with comphet?

It's really interesting to see you say you're into the idea of this guy being a man due to how that fits in better with the sort of couple-y stuff you see out in the world. I pretty often hear young women say (both in talking with folks here at Scarleteen and in my own personal life) that it took th...
by Mo
Mon Aug 29, 2022 4:44 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: am I edging myself?
Replies: 7
Views: 366

Re: am I edging myself?

I think forcing yourself isn't likely to feel great, but it could be something to think about, when you get that impulse to pull the vibrator away. Not to make yourself keep going, but maybe to experiment with waiting a few more seconds to stop, even, or just to evaluate how you're feeling in that m...
by Mo
Mon Aug 29, 2022 4:36 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Friends and mental illness
Replies: 13
Views: 467

Re: Friends and mental illness

This might feel more like asking for accommodations than you're comfortable with, so apologies if that's the case, but there are times when I've found it helpful to say something that doesn't go into any real detail about my situation but sets some sort of expectation for the social time I'm going t...
by Mo
Fri Aug 26, 2022 4:30 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Stressed about sex
Replies: 1
Views: 359

Re: Stressed about sex

Hi Miracle, and welcome to Scarleteen. The big thing that jumps out at me here is that it sounds like you have a lot of things you feel worried or anxious about, when it comes to figuring out where things stand with this guy or being sexual with him. It might be helpful to think about taking this al...

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