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by Mo
Tue Oct 27, 2020 3:55 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anxiety and fears
Replies: 29
Views: 580

Re: Anxiety and fears

A lot of other people definitely do feel the same way you do, or have similar fears about pregnancy! I'm glad that knowing you aren't alone in this is at least a little helpful. :) Sending your therapist a text or email before your session could be helpful. I've done that before when I knew I wanted...
by Mo
Mon Oct 26, 2020 3:34 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is there a good way to stay happy when people around me aren't?
Replies: 3
Views: 65

Re: Is there a good way to stay happy when people around me aren't?

I can certainly understand feeling uncomfortable around people who are expressing their anger, even when you feel the anger is justified. In online spaces, I don't know where you're seeing the bulk of this but muting or blocking people who are being angry (or are sharing content by angry people), us...
by Mo
Fri Oct 23, 2020 3:50 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anxiety and fears
Replies: 29
Views: 580

Re: Anxiety and fears

We can't know exactly why people are saying it's possible on different sites, but a lot of webpages just aren't moderated or checked for reliable information. Some people spread inaccurate information believing it's true because they've learned from unreliable sources; others might be repeating stor...
by Mo
Fri Oct 23, 2020 3:37 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Dysphoria getting worse, I don't know what to do
Replies: 5
Views: 169

Re: Dysphoria getting worse, I don't know what to do

Do you think it would be helpful if you did some research into what your insurance covers, and if there are providers in your area who take your insurance, and presented some names of therapists to your mom? Even if you aren't ready to look into it yourself, since it sounds like she has brought up t...
by Mo
Fri Oct 23, 2020 3:35 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex Hurts Really REALLY bad??
Replies: 13
Views: 711

Re: Sex Hurts Really REALLY bad??

Thanks for the update; I'm glad to hear that intercourse is feeling easier and more comfortable now, and I hope that as you and your partner get more used to it, it'll feel even better for both of you.
by Mo
Tue Oct 20, 2020 2:18 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: I need binding and packing advice
Replies: 12
Views: 182

Re: I need binding and packing advice

Hi there, BishoneninBloom! We have a pretty great guide to sizing & using a lot of gender expression items, including packers and binders, as part of our Trans Summer School series; you can find that article here: Trans Summer School: Gender Expression Gear . I think this will answer a lot of yo...
by Mo
Fri Oct 16, 2020 5:12 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I not feel like I suck?
Replies: 12
Views: 1390

Re: How do I not feel like I suck?

I hear you on being sick of social distancing! It's necessary but it's making a lot of things harder right now. I don't really have extra ideas for finding in-person connections besides what Sam and Siân mention above, but I just want to acknowledge that the current situation can make it much easier...
by Mo
Tue Oct 13, 2020 4:25 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I'm done
Replies: 5
Views: 478

Re: I'm done

I saw your apology right after I posted this response; I appreciate it, but I do still encourage you to look into some of these other ways to vent the feelings you're having.
by Mo
Tue Oct 13, 2020 4:23 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I'm done
Replies: 5
Views: 478

Re: I'm done

wolfcub, it's clear that this is a painful and frustrating situation for you, and that the current circumstances around coronavirus are making a lot of hard things even harder right now. I hope you can understand, though, that when you make a post here, someone takes the time to write out what I thi...
by Mo
Tue Oct 13, 2020 3:36 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Aromanticism
Replies: 1
Views: 112

Re: Aromanticism

Hi Raffles, I don't want to take up too much space in this thread, as someone who isn't aro, but something I've noticed, including when talking to an aromantic friend about their feelings and experiences, is that the way people define a "romantic" relationship or even romantic feelings var...
by Mo
Tue Oct 13, 2020 3:23 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Should I come out to my boyfriend?
Replies: 3
Views: 225

Re: Should I come out to my boyfriend?

I don't think there's one correct answer here, and you certainly aren't obligated to come out to your boyfriend (or anyone) if you don't want to, but I do think there's a lot of value in the sort of intimacy that talking about the finer details of one's identity can bring to a relationship. I think ...
by Mo
Mon Oct 12, 2020 5:08 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I'm worried about romantic attraction.
Replies: 12
Views: 225

Re: I'm worried about romantic attraction.

I think a desire for closeness, companionship, and a reciprocal love makes a lot of sense as a reason to want a relationship! A lot of people crave that sort of close intimacy with someone, and it certainly doesn't sound silly to me that you'd want that. In terms of letting your feelings develop int...
by Mo
Fri Oct 09, 2020 3:19 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Hickeys?
Replies: 4
Views: 316

Re: Hickeys?

Hickeys aren't dangerous, as a general rule; a hickey is a pretty minor bruise that's caused by burst blood vessels right under the skin. You don't even need to bite someone, necessarily; sucking a small area of delicate skin can be enough to cause a mark. If your boyfriend wanted to bite very hard,...
by Mo
Tue Oct 06, 2020 5:06 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: I'm having trouble not feeling guilt about my gender.
Replies: 15
Views: 448

Re: I'm having trouble not feeling guilt about my gender.

Hi BunsenBurn, and welcome to Scarleteen. I'm sorry that the way people have talked about men and masculinity has been so hurtful to you; I can understand why these experiences you've described here have been upsetting. I really feel you on the "I'm ashamed to be attracted to men" comments...
by Mo
Mon Oct 05, 2020 5:08 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: What Constitutes Dysphoria? Does it End?
Replies: 5
Views: 300

Re: What Constitutes Dysphoria? Does it End?

I do think it's pretty common for feelings of dysphoria to wax and wane a bit over time; some of that might depend on other feelings you have about your body or gender in the moment, or on the environment/community you're in. You might feel pretty differently about your body and how it's being perce...
by Mo
Mon Oct 05, 2020 3:30 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Getting shamed
Replies: 3
Views: 541

Re: Getting shamed

I think the fact that you aren't feeling a lot of guilt right now is something to pay attention to! It sounds like you're being thoughtful about this relationship, he's being very kind and considerate, and you've already had some pretty personal sexual communication that went well; there certainly a...
by Mo
Fri Sep 18, 2020 4:54 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: When you and your parent are different people
Replies: 10
Views: 1415

Re: When you and your parent are different people

I'm glad you have some goals in mind and have a good sense of what you're looking to take care of as you think about moving out! It definitely sounds like finding a place to live with friends or other roommates will be a big help in a lot of ways; your home seems like a very stressful place to be ri...
by Mo
Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:55 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4860

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

I think any sort of message where you say you'd be happy for her to get in touch but are leaving it up to her to reach out, like you've outlined here, is unlikely to feel like pressure. Like Sam mentioned above, I think just sticking to this invitation to reach out is going to be best for now; if sh...
by Mo
Wed Sep 16, 2020 5:26 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Been wondering for a long time...
Replies: 11
Views: 844

Re: Been wondering for a long time...

What I think can be helpful about journaling is that you will have a record of your thoughts over time and how they do or don't change. I find that sometimes it's hard to remember things I thought or felt in the past, and having a concrete record to refer back to can be useful when I'm contemplating...
by Mo
Wed Sep 16, 2020 2:10 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4860

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

I think it would be fine to send a message to her, or to other friends you have in the areas impacted by the fires, to say something like "I've been hearing about what's happening in your area, I just wanted to check in and I hope you're staying safe." It's important to keep in mind, thoug...
by Mo
Tue Sep 15, 2020 3:46 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: No Sexual Pleasure.
Replies: 9
Views: 929

Re: No Sexual Pleasure.

One other thought I want to throw out there, since you said rubbing your clitoris is overwhelming, is that you could try using some (or some more, if you're already using it) lubricant for that, or touching your clitoris more indirectly; some people find direct contact to be too much in almost every...
by Mo
Tue Sep 15, 2020 2:50 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Been wondering for a long time...
Replies: 11
Views: 844

Re: Been wondering for a long time...

It may be harder to run into people spontaneously right now due to covid, but that's certainly something that might be possible once we're able to socialize in close quarters again! A lot of people find dating apps or websites to be a helpful way to find potential partners, but plenty of people stil...
by Mo
Mon Sep 14, 2020 4:50 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Been wondering for a long time...
Replies: 11
Views: 844

Re: Been wondering for a long time...

One thing I think is very important to keep in mind, if and when you do try dating, is that anyone you date is going to be just a person, first and foremost, so they'll never be perfect. It can be easy to craft an internal narrative or dream of a partner who will be a 100% perfect match, with no pot...
by Mo
Mon Sep 14, 2020 4:15 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Boundaries, Privilege, and Anxiety
Replies: 5
Views: 1247

Re: Boundaries, Privilege, and Anxiety

To be honest, I don't see it as manipulative at all to say "our needs and boundaries seem incompatible here, so I think it's best if we don't continue a relationship" with someone. That doesn't necessarily mean two people have to become enemies, but it may mean they aren't going to make gr...
by Mo
Mon Sep 14, 2020 3:46 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Girth or Length?
Replies: 5
Views: 1169

Re: Girth or Length?

I'm going to assume you're talking about girth & length in regards to penis size, here; if I'm wrong, please correct me! There really isn't a "better" when it comes to any aspect of penis size or shape. Some people have preferences for a certain girth or length but many people either d...

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