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by Mo
Tue Jan 19, 2021 5:56 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Accidentally cutting the inside of my genitals
Replies: 3
Views: 311

Re: Accidentally cutting the inside of my genitals

Yep, it's not likely to be a risky or dangerous injury at all. Genital tissue is very delicate but there's also a lot of bloodflow to the area as well, and minor cuts tend to heal pretty easily.
by Mo
Tue Jan 19, 2021 4:41 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Anxiety about potential relationship manifesting into a series of nightmares
Replies: 25
Views: 783

Re: Anxiety about potential relationship manifesting into a series of nightmares

It can sometimes feel like a lower intensity or pressure situation to hang out with a crush in a small group or even with one other person; this sounds like a good plan, especially since your friend's been so supportive. If your crush isn't able to join in the movie night, do you have a sense of how...
by Mo
Tue Jan 19, 2021 4:21 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Accidentally cutting the inside of my genitals
Replies: 3
Views: 311

Re: Accidentally cutting the inside of my genitals

Ouch, that does sound painful! The good news is that this sort of minor cut does tend to heal pretty well on its own as long as you can keep it clean. You're right that you don't want to put any sort of topical disinfectant on the cut; really all you need to do is make sure you're rinsing the area c...
by Mo
Mon Jan 18, 2021 5:04 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Anxiety about potential relationship manifesting into a series of nightmares
Replies: 25
Views: 783

Re: Anxiety about potential relationship manifesting into a series of nightmares

I'm so sorry to hear you've experienced so much bullying based on the crushes you've had; I can certainly understand, based on that, why you might be nervous about telling someone you're interested in them! I do think that the sort of bullying and teasing you've experienced is much more common in a ...
by Mo
Mon Jan 18, 2021 3:39 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: pain when i masturbate
Replies: 7
Views: 313

Re: pain when i masturbate

I do hope this time for experimentation will be helpful for you! One thing that's tricky about the figuring-things-out process of sex, whether that's sex with a partner or just with yourself, is that feelings of pressure, anxiety, or frustration are huge arousal killers, so if you find yourself feel...
by Mo
Mon Jan 18, 2021 3:18 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Toxic ex still haunts me
Replies: 13
Views: 609

Re: Toxic ex still haunts me

That's wonderful to hear! Thanks for letting us know.
by Mo
Fri Jan 15, 2021 4:36 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: dildos?
Replies: 2
Views: 303

Re: dildos?

The question of where to hide a dildo or other items you don't want anyone else to find is something that I think you'll be the best person to answer, since you have the best sense of how much privacy you have at home. If you have your own room, do parents or other family members often enter it or l...
by Mo
Tue Jan 12, 2021 4:17 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sexual desires
Replies: 1
Views: 182

Re: Sexual desires

Hi Nina_06, and welcome to Scarleteen. I'm sorry to say this, since you say you really like this guy, but he's acting in ways that are not at all okay or respectful to you; I don't think this is someone who's going to be safe to talk to in the long term. Any time someone not only doesn't accept a no...
by Mo
Mon Jan 11, 2021 5:41 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Anxiety about potential relationship manifesting into a series of nightmares
Replies: 25
Views: 783

Re: Anxiety about potential relationship manifesting into a series of nightmares

I'm glad your second hangout went well! I think setting up a regular time to socialize might be a great way for you to get to know each other better and deepen your connection, like you mentioned wanting. I wonder if, as time goes on, you'll find yourself feeling a little less nervous before these t...
by Mo
Mon Jan 11, 2021 5:12 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Toxic ex still haunts me
Replies: 13
Views: 609

Re: Toxic ex still haunts me

I think it would be okay to have that conversation over video, if it feels comfortable to you to have it that way. I can understand why it might feel hard to bring it up when something big and tragic happens, but it sounds like this is a source of ongoing stress for you, so I do think talking with h...
by Mo
Tue Jan 05, 2021 5:56 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Question About Conctrecption
Replies: 9
Views: 615

Re: Question About Conctrecption

That's what we're here for, to help you learn something new! :)
by Mo
Mon Jan 04, 2021 5:43 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation (Again)
Replies: 7
Views: 546

Re: Masturbation (Again)

It's good to hear that you've connected with someone new! I think Alexa's idea of finding communities related to interests or other things you might have in common with someone would be a good plan for next time you want to try branching out and making new connections with folks.
by Mo
Mon Jan 04, 2021 5:41 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How long does sperm last?
Replies: 9
Views: 393

Re: How long does sperm last?

I think talking about this specific anxiety with your therapist when you see them next is a great plan. :) I definitely get how having a longer than normal break between appointments can make stressful situations harder to deal with, but hopefully they'll have some helpful thoughts and strategies fo...
by Mo
Mon Jan 04, 2021 4:05 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I think I'm ready
Replies: 27
Views: 1272

Re: I think I'm ready

That sounds great! I'm glad you had a good time and things felt pretty comfortable after your initial nervousness. :)
by Mo
Fri Jan 01, 2021 5:28 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: i think i'm just not made for hookups
Replies: 3
Views: 251

Re: i think i'm just not made for hookups

I think taking some space from this guy and seeing how you feel after a little time has gone by makes a lot of sense. :) I'm glad talking about this has been helpful! I feel that way a lot, too; just processing my thoughts enough to put them into words can be a useful part of understanding how I fee...
by Mo
Fri Jan 01, 2021 5:00 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Should I be worried?
Replies: 6
Views: 201

Re: Should I be worried?

Hi there Digdawg, As long as you're still on a combination pill like you were when asking about late pills before, it is still the case that you have twelve hours until a pill can be considered late. It doesn't sound like you took your pill more than twelve hours late though, so you're all good on t...
by Mo
Tue Dec 29, 2020 6:39 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Struggling to masturbate!
Replies: 7
Views: 404

Re: Struggling to masturbate!

You're very welcome! Please let us know if you need to talk about this further or have any other questions. :)
by Mo
Tue Dec 29, 2020 6:38 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: questioning sexuality
Replies: 1
Views: 388

Re: questioning sexuality

Hi there, apismellifera, and welcome! Thanks for the kind words about Scarleteen. :) We're always happy to hear when we've been helpful. The questions you're asking here are important ones, but also not ones that are easy to give a concrete answer to, as you may imagine. If it helps, though, it's no...
by Mo
Fri Dec 25, 2020 5:49 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Sex in a serious relationship
Replies: 13
Views: 605

Re: Sex in a serious relationship

I do think that being exposed to a lot of different people and belief systems can go a long way towards countering some of those messages, so it sounds like your college experience has been and will probably continue to be helpful in that way. It makes me think about people I know who were raised wi...
by Mo
Fri Dec 25, 2020 4:30 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 2258

Re: Sexual outlets

Thanks for the update! Even if you didn't get the answer you wanted about therapy from your partner, it's great that you were able to have some good, productive conversations about that and other aspects of the relationship. It's great to hear that you're having luck with your new medication, too; I...
by Mo
Tue Dec 22, 2020 5:58 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Struggling to masturbate!
Replies: 7
Views: 404

Re: Struggling to masturbate!

It's definitely tough when masturbation winds up feeling frustrating, but it's definitely going to be a LOT harder for it to feel enjoyable if you're in that frustration zone, so I do think taking a break if you're getting stressed is going to be the way to go. It might mean you have some abbreviate...
by Mo
Tue Dec 22, 2020 5:08 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Insurance!!
Replies: 8
Views: 389

Re: Insurance!!

It sounds like your next steps would be to either contact her again to see if she has any openings (and, if you think it would be useful, to talk about the issue with the police to see if a conversation about what happened will help you trust her more again), or to check in with your future insuranc...
by Mo
Mon Dec 21, 2020 5:35 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Insurance!!
Replies: 8
Views: 389

Re: Insurance!!

I'm glad to hear that you've been able to move out and that you can find a therapist soon, those are both great pieces of news.
by Mo
Mon Dec 21, 2020 5:19 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I think I'm ready
Replies: 27
Views: 1272

Re: I think I'm ready

I haven't read Jen Gunter's book, but I have seen several of her blog posts about vaginal health and mythbusting (I know she has taken on some of the more harmful things that Goop has tried to sell for vaginal use/treatment) and they all seemed pretty good! I hope you find that helpful, and if you h...
by Mo
Mon Dec 21, 2020 5:04 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: About hook up
Replies: 3
Views: 248

Re: About hook up

Many regular family doctors will offer that testing, although there are likely other clinics that can offer testing as well. If you search for something like "STI testing clinic" or "sexual health clinic" in your area, that may turn up some options near you.

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