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by Mo
Tue Aug 11, 2020 4:35 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: friend problems
Replies: 1
Views: 53

Re: friend problems

Hi theatreluvin, welcome back. :) This sounds like a frustrating and sad situation with your friend; I understand why you want to find a way to tell her that this guy is bad news and that she'd be better off without him. The tricky thing about this, though, is that there isn't a magic way to tell he...
by Mo
Tue Aug 11, 2020 3:44 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Prostate
Replies: 3
Views: 96

Re: Prostate

I don't have a specific video to recommend, but it looks like a general youtube search for how to locate the prostate will turn up several options that explain the process with visual aids that you might find more helpful than a static illustration.
by Mo
Tue Aug 11, 2020 3:34 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Assumptions + doubting my bi identity
Replies: 3
Views: 80

Re: Assumptions + doubting my bi identity

It is such a bummer to be away from in-person communities right now, but I'm glad you've at least found a positive space online; I know I've gotten a lot of support from my queer & trans online communities lately and I've been very thankful for them.
by Mo
Mon Aug 10, 2020 3:46 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: TW/ I can’t orgasm with my partner
Replies: 6
Views: 97

Re: TW/ I can’t orgasm with my partner

I wonder if it would be helpful to try and approach sex with the end goal being pleasure and intimacy, with orgasm being less of a goal and more something that's nice if it happens but doesn't signal failure if it doesn't? One tricky thing about orgasms is that stress and worry about not having one ...
by Mo
Mon Aug 10, 2020 3:23 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation doesn't feel that good anymore
Replies: 11
Views: 203

Re: Masturbation doesn't feel that good anymore

Hi Sky, You may have already seen this article on our site, but if not, I think it might be a helpful place to start tackling the shame you're feeling around masturbation: Undoing Sexual Shame . I also wanted to give a suggestion based on what you said about being being grossed out by your semen aft...
by Mo
Mon Aug 10, 2020 3:01 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Assumptions + doubting my bi identity
Replies: 3
Views: 80

Re: Assumptions + doubting my bi identity

One thing that's been helpful for me is having a lot of bisexual friends and figuring out that the idea of some sort of 50/50 attraction split, or being attracted to all genders the exact same amount and in the exact same way, just isn't reality for most bisexual people I know. It's also a very comm...
by Mo
Fri Aug 07, 2020 5:26 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Anyone have advice on talking to parents about relationships?
Replies: 4
Views: 77

Re: Anyone have advice on talking to parents about relationships?

I don't know that overcoming the feeling is something that's going to come just from yourself; it sounds like what you'd need to feel safe and comfortable discussing things like crushes or relationships with them is for them to stop making jokes or comments about not wanting you to date anyone, and ...
by Mo
Fri Aug 07, 2020 4:11 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: How did you 'figure out' your sexual identity?
Replies: 3
Views: 139

Re: How did you 'figure out' your sexual identity?

You may find it helpful or interesting to read a collection of interviews I did with a few people about how they figured out their sexual orientation after a period of questioning or confusion. I don't think there's any one way to find out; some people have a bit of a lightbulb-turning-on moment and...
by Mo
Fri Aug 07, 2020 3:52 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How can I tell if she likes me?
Replies: 8
Views: 151

Re: How can I tell if she likes me?

It looks like Sam touched on this in your other thread, but I think it may be helpful to ask your therapist for more or different techniques for dealing with compulsive or intrusive thoughts; they can so stressful and disruptive and it sounds like you might need some extra help in finding ways to co...
by Mo
Fri Aug 07, 2020 3:50 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: STD prevention while conceiving?
Replies: 3
Views: 140

Re: STD prevention while conceiving?

What I'd recommend you do, when you decide you're going to start trying to conceive, is checking in with your doctor; they'll have some thoughts about avenues to pursue and any health issues you'd need to keep in mind when trying to conceive. Sperm donations are thoroughly screened so there should b...
by Mo
Fri Aug 07, 2020 3:34 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Anyone have advice on talking to parents about relationships?
Replies: 4
Views: 77

Re: Anyone have advice on talking to parents about relationships?

I can definitely understand your frustrating with the jokes your parents make about not wanting you to date someone! Have you been able to talk to them about why you find those jokes frustrating or upsetting? Maybe you could say something like "these jokes and comments make me feel like I don't...
by Mo
Tue Aug 04, 2020 4:54 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Single During Quarantine
Replies: 5
Views: 331

Re: Single During Quarantine

I can 100% relate to that feeling of logically knowing something but having a harder time understanding and internalizing it emotionally. I do think that being aware of that is the first step towards internalizing it, so it's good that you're noticing it.
by Mo
Tue Aug 04, 2020 4:50 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Tips for patience while waiting to get a new boyfriend?
Replies: 5
Views: 127

Re: Tips for patience while waiting to get a new boyfriend?

Those all sound like great things to want from a relationship! I think your plans to focus on yourself & friendships for now, and to keep thinking about what you'd like from a romantic relationship, are excellent ones. :)
by Mo
Tue Aug 04, 2020 4:42 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Mom stuff
Replies: 7
Views: 272

Re: Mom stuff

Here are some articles on condom & other barrier use: All the Barriers! All the Time! & Condom Basics: A User's Manual , and here's an overview of other birth control options: Birth Control Bingo! . In terms of finding childcare, I'd ask around to see if any friends or coworkers know someone...
by Mo
Tue Aug 04, 2020 4:25 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Can't find my clit.
Replies: 11
Views: 299

Re: Can't find my clit.

Were you able to locate your clitoral hood? If you did find that, pulling it back or up slightly might reveal the clitoral glans. It can also be pretty small in an unaroused state, so if you checked things out with a mirror when you weren't aroused it may have been difficult to see, plus it would be...
by Mo
Tue Aug 04, 2020 4:20 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Female Substances Query?
Replies: 3
Views: 130

Re: Female Substances Query?

When people talk about "cumming," sometimes that refers to having an orgasm, and sometimes it refers to ejaculation. "Squirting" is a colloquial term for ejaculation when done by someone with a vulva (also called "female ejaculation" although not everyone with a vulva i...
by Mo
Tue Aug 04, 2020 4:02 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I like guys... I think. Am I polyamorous and/or bi?
Replies: 3
Views: 121

Re: I like guys... I think. Am I polyamorous and/or bi?

I can certainly understand the confusion that can come with trying to figure out the particulars of one's sexual orientation and gender at the same time! To be honest, when gender identities such as being genderfluid, bigender, nonbinary, etc. come into play, I think this is where "queer" ...
by Mo
Mon Aug 03, 2020 4:51 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Why can’t i use a tampon
Replies: 5
Views: 135

Re: Why can’t i use a tampon

I can understand a gynecologist visit seeming stressful if you're very private, for sure. Something to keep in mind, if you can, is that struggling to use a tampon isn't a failure or a sign that you're doing something wrong. If there is a physical underlying cause to the difficulty, that wouldn't be...
by Mo
Mon Aug 03, 2020 4:39 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Coming out as agender?
Replies: 9
Views: 1663

Re: Coming out as agender?

I don't think you have to experience euphoria, or that not experiencing it "means" anything about your identity. Sometimes hearing the right pronouns used for you feels weird or like a bit of a relief or like something else entirely, and any of those reactions are valid and just fine to ha...
by Mo
Mon Aug 03, 2020 4:35 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Mom stuff
Replies: 7
Views: 272

Re: Mom stuff

Hi there PartySarah, I don't have clear answers for all of your questions, but I wonder if there are other parents in your area that you know who might be able to give you some tips or recommendations for child care; do you know anyone you could ask about that? In terms of getting your child used to...
by Mo
Mon Aug 03, 2020 3:51 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Single During Quarantine
Replies: 5
Views: 331

Re: Single During Quarantine

I'm glad to hear you're doing positive things for yourself like staying connected to friends and support systems and keeping up with fun things! Plus I am so excited about your new cat of course. :) Things are so weird right now, for so many people, and in the US especially stuff is SO up in the air...
by Mo
Tue Jul 28, 2020 3:22 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: My feelings about my gender is changing rapidly
Replies: 22
Views: 740

Re: My feelings about my gender is changing rapidly

You're always allowed to change your mind if your feelings change. :) In terms of what choices to make about transition, that can certainly be a lot harder when you have competing desires. Do you do any regular journaling at all? I find that it can be easier to make larger choices when I can look ba...
by Mo
Tue Jul 28, 2020 3:12 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex just doesn't do it for me.
Replies: 7
Views: 337

Re: Sex just doesn't do it for me.

It's hard to know what to expect, in terms of how quickly you'll adjust to the new dose, but I think a month is a reasonable expectation to start with. Antidepressants can have very different effects on different people so it's tough to predict exactly how this transition will work for you. In terms...
by Mo
Tue Jul 28, 2020 2:34 pm
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: Navigating Dating Beyond the Binary
Replies: 2
Views: 274

Re: Navigating Dating Beyond the Binary

I'm so glad you found it helpful! :)

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