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by Onionpie
Thu Jun 29, 2017 4:24 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Will I remain a virgin forever?
Replies: 7
Views: 4394

Re: Will I remain a virgin forever?

Hey Afte.rmath. I understand how tough it must be to feel that nobody is, or ever will be, attracted to you. But -- and I don't mean this in a patronizing way at all, simply that you haven't experienced it yet -- you will come to find that the world outside of high school is much bigger than we can ...
by Onionpie
Thu Jun 29, 2017 3:56 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Bloody discharge
Replies: 11
Views: 4734

Re: Bloody discharge

Hi gatesy08, it sounds like your doctor is in agreement with what we suggested may be going on here (that it's a side effect of your pill and nothing to worry about). Have you done anything to take care of yourself and let go of your anxiety around this at all? Do you have any strategies you can use...
by Onionpie
Thu Jun 29, 2017 3:40 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What do you wish you'd known about sex, sexuality, and relationships in high school?
Replies: 6
Views: 3835

Re: What do you wish you'd known about sex, sexuality, and relationships in high school?

dear younger self: - being attracted to/liking/having a crush on someone =/= compatible for a relationship - also, if you are not compatible, you do not have to try to force it!! - please, for the love of god, pee + wash before and after sex. You are going to regret not knowing this - find some bett...
by Onionpie
Wed Jun 21, 2017 8:37 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: School.......
Replies: 3
Views: 5092

Re: School.......

I personally am not good with using planners, and instead have a big huge calendar on my desk that I write in the due dates of my assignments on. That way it is there in my face and very clear, and I have a much better visual sense of the spacing and pacing of my assignments. I also use to-do lists,...
by Onionpie
Wed Jun 21, 2017 8:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Am I weird?
Replies: 1
Views: 2294

Re: Am I weird?

Hi confusedteen, welcome to Scarleteen! Your thoughts on this subject are not "weird" at all! Many people agree with your ideas around this. We even have a few articles here at Scarleteen about how "virginity" is kind of a useless, outdated, and sexist concept! Whether it's a goo...
by Onionpie
Wed Jun 21, 2017 7:57 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: What Do I do if I'm pregnant?
Replies: 11
Views: 4062

Re: What Do I do if I'm pregnant?

hi cherryxocola. The doctor CAN do a pregnancy test on your urine or blood samples, but that doesn't mean they WILL. Usually they have a list of regular things they run tests for. You can ask them about whether pregnancy is one of the things they test for. Furthermore, any results from your blood an...
by Onionpie
Sun May 07, 2017 9:14 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Oral, then kissing?
Replies: 3
Views: 2902

Re: Oral, then kissing?

Hi milkshake.angel. Welcome to Scarleteen! I personally don't think it's disgusting in the slightest; I mean, after all, they're all just bodily fluids and body parts! When it comes down to it, there really isn't much difference between saliva and, say, vaginal lubrication. And of course, if safer s...
by Onionpie
Sun May 07, 2017 8:35 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex makes me feel guilty
Replies: 4
Views: 1493

Re: Sex makes me feel guilty

Hey Angeldelight123. I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so crummy around this. I have a few articles to start you off that I think might help, and you can let me know if there was anything in any of them that really resonated with you or that you'd like to talk more about: When Sex "Just Happened...
by Onionpie
Sun May 07, 2017 8:24 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Precum
Replies: 4
Views: 1285

Re: Precum

I'm glad to hear that you're feeling less anxious than you used to. Getting in-person support from someone who's trained, like a school counsellor, will help you to manage any remaining anxiety, and you'll learn ways to handle it so that it doesn't get overwhelming. Stress absolutely can affect some...
by Onionpie
Sun May 07, 2017 8:13 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Precum
Replies: 4
Views: 1285

Re: Precum

Hi Jambo. I feel like we've discussed the ins and outs of pre-ejaculate with you pretty much as much as we possibly can. We've given you links to all of our articles on the subject, including on what factors are necessary for pregnancy to be a possibility. I just don't think that going over the info...
by Onionpie
Sun May 07, 2017 7:58 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: :( Not sure what to do
Replies: 3
Views: 833

Re: :( Not sure what to do

Hi MxSid! I hear you on the difficulties of getting into counselling, it's a shitty reality and I'm sorry you have to wait so long. I'd say the fact that you have been taking responsibility for your actions, and seriously thinking about ways to do better and make amends, is plenty of proof that you ...
by Onionpie
Sun May 07, 2017 7:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Pain, swelling, burning, itching!
Replies: 6
Views: 1445

Re: Pain, swelling, burning, itching!

Hey Fender909! I would second Mo's suggestion to go to a walk-in clinic (we can help find one near you if you're having trouble with that) but if you'd rather go to the ER, that will absolutely work too! It's certainly possible that your lowered immune system is making you more susceptible/making wh...
by Onionpie
Fri Apr 28, 2017 10:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Hpv
Replies: 6
Views: 1162

Re: Hpv

Hey FadedPassion. I'm glad to hear the good news! How are you feeling? Is there anything else we can do to support you right now?
by Onionpie
Fri Apr 28, 2017 10:29 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Boyfriend depressed?
Replies: 38
Views: 8351

Re: Boyfriend depressed?

Hi wildprincess. As someone who suffers from depression, I can say that in my own experience, during times of great stress and work overload, I do find myself feeling detached from and "less affectionate of" all of the people in my life. This feeling always goes away over time, it never la...
by Onionpie
Fri Apr 28, 2017 10:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to get over an unfulfilling sexual relationship?
Replies: 30
Views: 3403

Re: How to get over an unfulfilling sexual relationship?

Hey myriad. Although I know it can be hard not to dwell on those "what ifs", it's also important to recognise that 1. we will never know for sure, so we can "what if" for the rest of our lives and it will never help solve anything and 2. at this point, there is nothing you can do...
by Onionpie
Fri Apr 28, 2017 10:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Worried
Replies: 3
Views: 1308

Re: Worried

Okay, so you probably haven't started building a repertoire of coping strategies yet. Is that something you'd like to talk about with us here, and we can make some suggestions? We also have a lot of resources on our site for people struggling with anxiety: Anxiety and Other Mental Health Resources
by Onionpie
Thu Apr 27, 2017 10:14 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Worried
Replies: 1
Views: 1433

Re: Worried

Hi gatesy08. Please do not post more than one copy of a thread, as this goes against our user guidelines & agreements.
by Onionpie
Thu Apr 27, 2017 10:06 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Having sex in a corset?
Replies: 2
Views: 1526

Re: Having sex in a corset?

Since corsets, when formed and laced properly, don't really cause health risk, I doubt there would be any health risks involved in wearing one during sex (other than what you mentioned, and also potential discomfort since the item isn't really designed for physical exertion). I would, however, be co...
by Onionpie
Thu Apr 27, 2017 9:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Worried
Replies: 3
Views: 1308

Re: Worried

Hi gatesy08. Looking back at your previous posts, it's clear to me that all of your concerns around your use of birth control have been addressed for you already. Thus, it's looking to me like your anxiety around this isn't so much about the effectiveness of your pill use, and more about something e...
by Onionpie
Thu Apr 27, 2017 9:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to get over an unfulfilling sexual relationship?
Replies: 30
Views: 3403

Re: How to get over an unfulfilling sexual relationship?

Hey myriad. Although the concept of "normal" is pretty irrelevant when it comes to sex (and most things in the human experience, really) as everyone is so individual, and thus there kind of is no "normal" -- losing interest in sexual activity after masturbating is a pretty typica...
by Onionpie
Mon Jan 16, 2017 7:06 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Antibiotics and the pill
Replies: 5
Views: 1107

Re: Antibiotics and the pill

Absolutely. If both the clinic AND the leaflet say that particular antibiotic doesn't affect your pill, you're totally in the clear.
by Onionpie
Mon Jan 16, 2017 7:03 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: "The pregnancy panic companion" question
Replies: 8
Views: 1380

Re: "The pregnancy panic companion" question

Yup! That's correct :)
by Onionpie
Thu Jan 05, 2017 8:46 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Is Coming Out Worth it?
Replies: 27
Views: 5328

Re: Is Coming Out Worth it?

No problem at all, we're here to talk, so you can talk as much or as little as you want :) I'm sorry to hear that your whole family is totally against anything other than heterosexuality. That's a tough situation to be in. The fact that you're still remaining true to yourself and not only surviving ...
by Onionpie
Thu Jan 05, 2017 8:10 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Inability to climax is taking a toll on my relationship
Replies: 8
Views: 1368

Re: Inability to climax is taking a toll on my relationship

Hey junojagger, I hope you're alright with me adding my two cents in here! It's awesome that you guys feel comfortable enough with each other to communicate, and it sounds like you're pretty great at communicating. So you told him that it may help you if you get more feedback from him -- did you go ...
by Onionpie
Thu Jan 05, 2017 7:58 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Wish I could say bye to this UTI!
Replies: 4
Views: 830

Re: Wish I could say bye to this UTI!

Hey Jellowl! Glad to hear you managed to stave off that UTI -- they really are hell. As for tips to help keep them at bay in the future, you could try using pads that are made of natural materials, or even reusable ones (they'll save you money too!). All the methods listed in the UTI article Danny l...

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