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by Jacob
Thu Aug 13, 2020 8:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: how would you handle this?
Replies: 5
Views: 57

Re: how would you handle this?

Ahah, I should have guessed that, thanks.

That sounds like it could be helpful, if your comfortable with it, and might make it easier to start the conversation with him afterwards or spot any red flags.
by Jacob
Thu Aug 13, 2020 8:27 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Physical distancing, emotional distance
Replies: 3
Views: 73

Re: Physical distancing, emotional distance

I'm glad he's been good with boundaries otherwise! Have you talked about it more since it happened? For me it's still a little unclear what he meant by saying that "it would be too hard for him to hold back"... that sounds a bit like he's saying he can't control his own actions, which he t...
by Jacob
Thu Aug 13, 2020 7:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: how would you handle this?
Replies: 5
Views: 57

Re: how would you handle this?

Hi again! It sounds like the type of approval you'd predict from him could be part of the problem! It's a strange type of homophobia when guys make women's relationships with eachother all about them . I don't think it'd be a bad idea to let him know this is something that concerns you. I don't thin...
by Jacob
Thu Aug 13, 2020 7:36 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: am I faking nipple sensitivity?
Replies: 2
Views: 32

Re: am I faking nipple sensitivity?

Hi! I think it's possible that we never really can fully 'know' our bodies. Some advice on the topic is probably a little misleading or unrealistic. Many types of touch on different parts of our body aren't going to feel the same every time, and you're right, I am going to say the brain can't be sep...
by Jacob
Thu Aug 13, 2020 6:35 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Basically angry people make me nervous help
Replies: 1
Views: 17

Re: Basically angry people make me nervous help

Hi aaa! Welcome to the boards! This sounds like it's been tough. I know I'm pretty sensitive to these things too, and even if I know someone is simply expressing anger in very minor (non-smashy) ways, it still scares me, and is deeply unpleasant. They might be letting off steam in a socially accepta...
by Jacob
Thu Aug 13, 2020 5:37 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: my mom wants to control my life!
Replies: 1
Views: 27

Re: my mom wants to control my life!

Hi Bikinksterboy! This is such a tough spot to be in, I think many many people have strained relationships with their parents when trying to establish independence. It can be very difficult for parents to allow or accept that their children have become adults, for a host of reasons... powerlessness ...
by Jacob
Thu Aug 13, 2020 5:12 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: ddl/lg
Replies: 3
Views: 441

Re: ddl/lg

bikinksterboy wrote:umm, I started the thread linked, not Cassie. What is the "original thread" that's being referred to, then?


Cassie responsded to your thread with a new question about her own experiences so Sam split it off to be Cassie's own thread.
by Jacob
Wed Aug 12, 2020 7:41 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Periods
Replies: 1
Views: 37

Re: Periods

Hi Indi! Yep, it's very common, especially if you don't have a heavy flow for 'brown discharge' to show up. Actually that's just what blood looks like after a while; the iron in the period oxidises and results in the brownish colour. Lots of people also have a varied or inconsistent periods and it i...
by Jacob
Wed Aug 12, 2020 7:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: how would you handle this?
Replies: 5
Views: 57

Re: how would you handle this?

Hi Crystal_River! That sounds like a great conversation to have had with your boyfriend. In personally don't think there's anything wrong with having some parts of your sexual more private than others, it makes sense to me that might be a slighly more difficult thing to talk about. It might take a b...
by Jacob
Wed Aug 12, 2020 7:16 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation doesn't feel that good anymore
Replies: 11
Views: 194

Re: Masturbation doesn't feel that good anymore

Hi Sky H! If you do a websearch of sexual health clinics they might and are likely to have a phone number or email address you can use to ask about privacy and getting hold of condoms. Local LGBT groups you can connect with online might also be a really good call! In terms of finding a good hiding p...
by Jacob
Wed Aug 12, 2020 6:19 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: a bit embarrassing
Replies: 1
Views: 27

Re: a bit embarrassing

Hi Sky! I think it's worth exploring things even if they do 'sound' odd or unfamiliar... lots of us have the kinds of sex that might be considered 'odd' but that doesn't mean they are odd. People's actual sex activities are way more varied than we are led to think... and some things that are treated...
by Jacob
Thu Aug 06, 2020 7:34 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: How did you 'figure out' your sexual identity?
Replies: 3
Views: 136

Re: How did you 'figure out' your sexual identity?

A big thing that helped me was getting rid of the 'default' identities I was sticking to because other people accused me of being 'not normal' before I had a chance to decide for myself. If you start off with 'I'm not gay!' because someone was homophobic, it makes things confusing. So a first step w...
by Jacob
Thu Aug 06, 2020 7:25 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Question about porn
Replies: 2
Views: 85

Re: Question about porn

Hi Contemplation! Thanks for asking this question, it's a good one! My answer is really similar to Heathers: There is probably some statistical study that links the two, but I don't think there is anything that proves that one leads to the other. But I've heard this said a lot, and as far as I can t...
by Jacob
Thu Aug 06, 2020 7:03 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Racialized Gender Dysphoria?
Replies: 5
Views: 238

Re: Racialized Gender Dysphoria?

Hi BuddyBoi! I'm so sorry you're having to contend with this at all. I think I just wanted to add that connecting with people with the aim of supporting eachother does involve the positive impact you will have on that connection too. You know that putting people down for being 'not black enough' or ...
by Jacob
Wed Aug 05, 2020 7:32 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Can't find my clit.
Replies: 11
Views: 295

Re: Can't find my clit.

So glad you made the progress you wanted to VltLei!
by Jacob
Thu Jul 23, 2020 6:18 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation
Replies: 3
Views: 405

Re: Masturbation

No problem! I'm very glad I could be helpful!
by Jacob
Thu Jul 23, 2020 6:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: My feelings about my gender is changing rapidly
Replies: 22
Views: 737

Re: My feelings about my gender is changing rapidly

Hi! I can relate to lots of this, it can be a whirlwind for the mind when different and changing aspects of our likes, dislikes, identities, bodies and sexualities are marked as 'masculine' or 'male' or 'feminine' or 'female' or 'gender-neutral' or 'agender'. I'm not seeing anything here that says y...
by Jacob
Thu Jul 23, 2020 5:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: was I raped?
Replies: 4
Views: 270

Re: was I raped?

No problem! I think the main thing I would focus on is reducing the self-criticism. By that I mean the actual thoughts behind the shame like "this is my fault", or "I am doing this wrong", or "I should have prevented it by doing x, y,z". It sounds like you want to open ...
by Jacob
Wed Jul 22, 2020 12:48 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: was I raped?
Replies: 4
Views: 270

Re: was I raped?

Hi Renata, I want to thank you so much for choosing here as a place ask your question. How you reacted to this was absolutely understandable and many others who have had experiences like this will recognize and identify with your reactions. Many of us form fantasies out of abusive things which were ...
by Jacob
Sat Jul 18, 2020 5:26 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation
Replies: 3
Views: 405

Re: Masturbation

Hi there, and welcome to scarleteen! Lots of people going through puberty have that feeling of wishing the fun things like orgasm and satisfaction from masturbation would hurry up and happen already! But experiences of puberty, and pelasure vary a lot , and it can take time time for the changes in y...
by Jacob
Fri Jul 17, 2020 4:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I can't read this guy. Help? (detailed)
Replies: 3
Views: 174

Re: I can't read this guy. Help? (detailed)

Hi ax! Welcome back! It's always so nice to catch somebody a few years later. So... Firstly I'm hearing a few things in your decription, that aren't super clear red flags on their own but do at least signal some incompatibility. However you're also describing a gut feeling that, for many of us, very...
by Jacob
Fri Jul 17, 2020 3:57 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Feel dirty because of fantasies
Replies: 1
Views: 179

Re: Feel dirty because of fantasies

Hi there cassie! Welcome to the site... I'm sorry this has been stressing you out. I will say that your fantasies and your mind are completely private and personal to you. It can be a little scary when something we weren't expecting or which feels unfamiliar appear in our fantasies, but it's ok... t...
by Jacob
Fri Jul 17, 2020 3:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I really do love my pill
Replies: 1
Views: 184

Re: I really do love my pill

Hi there! Indeed, as far as I'm aware, the nature of chemistry and the universal laws of physics have not changed since last year! Seeing as you already had the answer to this question I think it might be worth reminding yourself that when we find ourselves asking the sorts of questions which know t...
by Jacob
Wed Jul 15, 2020 10:41 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Can’t Feel Sexual Pleasure
Replies: 26
Views: 915

Re: Can’t Feel Sexual Pleasure

Hi Cat, just dropping in to say that wanting support in calming down makes total sense, it can be grounding just to be around other people... and that it's good you're open to asking him, as Sam suggested. Talking about things almost always a step in the right direction.
by Jacob
Wed Jul 15, 2020 10:11 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Raw Sex
Replies: 1
Views: 110

Re: Raw Sex

Hi there and welcome! I honestly wouldn't support the idea that condomless intercourse is a milestone that we should be waiting for in any sexual relatonship, simply because they pretty much always offer a barrier to the transmission of STIs. From a health point of view they're almost always a good ...

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