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by Bubbles
Tue Mar 17, 2020 6:17 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Navigating Romantic Feelings and Friendships with Anxiety
Replies: 15
Views: 681

Re: Navigating Romantic Feelings and Friendships with Anxiety

That event she was playing at on Friday has been cancelled because of Covid-19 so now I don't know how I'm going to tell her. I won't see her at uni either because in-person classes have been closed for the semester too, along with all clubs... I really, really want to tell her how I feel, this is c...
by Bubbles
Tue Mar 17, 2020 9:39 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Navigating Romantic Feelings and Friendships with Anxiety
Replies: 15
Views: 681

Re: Navigating Romantic Feelings and Friendships with Anxiety

I'm not sure I do know the dynamics of our friendship. Our friendship has taken a lot of twists and turns and I can never figure out why, I don't even know how to describe how confusing it is. When I think things are going well, she suddenly doesn't respond to my messages for 2 weeks, and sometimes ...
by Bubbles
Tue Mar 17, 2020 7:47 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Navigating Romantic Feelings and Friendships with Anxiety
Replies: 15
Views: 681

Re: Navigating Romantic Feelings and Friendships with Anxiety

That makes sense. Do you think that's something I could ask her about, after I tell her how I feel about her? How she thinks we should proceed with our friendship at that point? Also is it likely she won't want to be friends afterwards? I'm a little worried about that. Also, you've probably been ask...
by Bubbles
Tue Mar 17, 2020 7:25 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Navigating Romantic Feelings and Friendships with Anxiety
Replies: 15
Views: 681

Re: Navigating Romantic Feelings and Friendships with Anxiety

Thanks Sam, you've helped a lot. :)

If I tell K about my feelings for her, do you know how I can go about keeping our friendship in-tact in the process and the time afterwards? (Assuming she doesn't feel the same way about me)
by Bubbles
Mon Mar 16, 2020 11:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Navigating Romantic Feelings and Friendships with Anxiety
Replies: 15
Views: 681

Re: Navigating Romantic Feelings and Friendships with Anxiety

That's definitely not the reason I'm trying to remain friends with K. She's really cool and I feel like I can relate to her more than nearly anyone I've ever met. If we were really good friends, I totally would be fine if she never had feelings for me. I spend more time worrying about the health of ...
by Bubbles
Mon Mar 16, 2020 10:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Navigating Romantic Feelings and Friendships with Anxiety
Replies: 15
Views: 681

Re: Navigating Romantic Feelings and Friendships with Anxiety

Hi Sam, If telling K about my feelings would make her more distant, wouldn't that imply that she would want to be more distant if she knew I had feelings for her? In other words, if that's the case, then the only reason she's not more distant already is just because she doesn't know the truth? Doesn...
by Bubbles
Sun Mar 15, 2020 9:16 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Navigating Romantic Feelings and Friendships with Anxiety
Replies: 15
Views: 681

Re: Navigating Romantic Feelings and Friendships with Anxiety

Oh, I actually said I have *not* made a lot of progress with therapy. My therapist doesn't have a whole lot to say about it. She doesn't think I should just let my friendships slip away because they mean so much to me. She says even though people may find it harder to hang out sometimes (Like after ...
by Bubbles
Sun Mar 15, 2020 9:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Navigating Romantic Feelings and Friendships with Anxiety
Replies: 15
Views: 681

Navigating Romantic Feelings and Friendships with Anxiety

Hi again Scarleteen. I haven't been here in a while but I really need advice with something? I should give some background first. I'm sorry if this is a bit long. Last time I was here I talked a bit about how I struggle a lot with depression/self-harm and anxiety. I've been in therapy for over 2 yea...
by Bubbles
Thu Nov 29, 2018 11:06 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Age in Relationships
Replies: 6
Views: 3058

Re: Age in Relationships

Yeah that makes sense. Is there an age gap that's totally safe though where it's unlikely age would be the source of any issues at all? Would a 2 or 3 year age gap be safe from that stuff? Or is there definitively no problem-free (In terms of issues caused by age) age gap?
by Bubbles
Thu Nov 29, 2018 10:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Libido Stress
Replies: 13
Views: 3559

Re: Libido Stress

I try to be open about everything with my therapist but from what I gather, they don't think my situation is something that will resolve quickly. She said my 6 mental illnesses could take around a year to treat, each, but probably longer, and we're not even that far yet. And medication didn't work, ...
by Bubbles
Thu Nov 29, 2018 10:44 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Age in Relationships
Replies: 6
Views: 3058

Re: Age in Relationships

Oh okay. So as a hypothetical example, if one person was something like... 22, and the other was around 27-ish maybe, would that be reasonably normal or a bit of a stretch? I totally get what you mean about the teen thing. I read a post here about someone who was 13 with a guy who was 18 and that ma...
by Bubbles
Thu Nov 29, 2018 9:47 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Age in Relationships
Replies: 6
Views: 3058

Age in Relationships

I just read the Scarleteen article "What's Age Got To Do With It?" and realised it's not something I thought about much since I haven't really socialised since finishing high school, where there were grade levels and everyone was sorted by age anyway. I imagine only considering people the ...
by Bubbles
Mon Nov 26, 2018 10:37 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Libido Stress
Replies: 13
Views: 3559

Re: Libido Stress

Hi Sam. Sorry for my communication blackout. My ability to function socially is waning. Yes, I've been seeing psychologists for about 5 months now I think. I've talked about some of this stuff yeah, but I've got a lot of mental health issues to work through (They diagnosed 6 before I even brought up...
by Bubbles
Fri Nov 09, 2018 8:12 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Libido Stress
Replies: 13
Views: 3559

Re: Libido Stress

I feel kind of embarassed now if I came across that way; I can control it, I don't just like... act on those thoughts compulsively even if I'm in public or something, but yeah maybe it was too habitual. I've avoided it for almost a week now though so I'll carry on and see if anything changes. I gues...
by Bubbles
Wed Nov 07, 2018 4:24 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: How has your gender expression evolved?
Replies: 15
Views: 7587

Re: How has your gender expression evolved?

I hope this doesn't sound silly, but I stopped wearing shorts. My school has this dress code where you could only wear either knee-length shorts (Which were only for "boys" according to the school), skirts (Which were only for "girls" according to the school), or these thick, lon...
by Bubbles
Wed Nov 07, 2018 4:16 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: What is one thing you learned about sex & yourself this year?
Replies: 18
Views: 8289

Re: What is one thing you learned about sex & yourself this year?

I've learned how much I don't know about myself! That may sound... not very helpful, but it's actually encouraged me to think about things that I kind of shyed away from for a long time, so I can start adressing them, which is good! At the very least I feel more honest with myself in terms of gender...
by Bubbles
Wed Nov 07, 2018 3:56 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: For Trans and Otherwise Gender Nonconforming Users Who are Feeling Scared/stressed Right Now
Replies: 1
Views: 4694

Re: For Trans and Otherwise Gender Nonconforming Users Who are Feeling Scared/stressed Right Now

I don't understand how this is happening; the world feels like some kind of fictional dystopia sometimes. This is really personal stuff that, outside of certain medical examinations, is nobody else's business. Why do so many people support this administration? Why don't they care? I hope things impr...
by Bubbles
Tue Nov 06, 2018 9:13 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Libido Stress
Replies: 13
Views: 3559

Re: Libido Stress

I don't think I communicated the problem so well before actually, sorry. It's not so much that sexual thoughts and feelings are present all the time, but rather that they're there frequently, multiple times a day, and they make me uncomfortable. I can't explain why, but for some seemingly arbitrary ...
by Bubbles
Tue Nov 06, 2018 9:38 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Libido Stress
Replies: 13
Views: 3559

Re: Libido Stress

I'll read the article, thank you. I've never seen it before. If I step back from it, nothing really changes. My thoughts and arousal just keep on distressing me until I usually give in, just to get a few hours of peace. Even after a week of avoiding it, nothing seems to improve. I don't want to have...
by Bubbles
Tue Nov 06, 2018 9:12 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Libido Stress
Replies: 13
Views: 3559

Re: Libido Stress

Hey Sam. That's a difficult question to answer. I don't think that sex is bad, and even though I'm gray-asexual I think I might like to try it some day if a partner asked me, but... yes, it definitely causes me discomfort about how I think about myself. I often feel varying degrees of guilt or shame...
by Bubbles
Tue Nov 06, 2018 3:38 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Libido Stress
Replies: 13
Views: 3559

Libido Stress

Hey again Scarleteen. (I was danny101 before but I changed my name :) ) I know that there's nothing wrong with having a high sex drive but... I feel like I just get annoyed by mine. I could masturbate and it would go away for a while, but then it would just be back again in an hour or less. Then I c...
by Bubbles
Tue Nov 06, 2018 3:15 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Trying to be Friends but Failing
Replies: 6
Views: 2682

Re: Trying to be Friends but Failing

I could be wrong, but considering that he usually wants things to be sexual whenever he's with you, and that he ghosts you when it is more about... just friendship, kind of suggests he only wants the sex part and not the friend part, regardless of what he claimed. If you find after another attempt o...
by Bubbles
Fri Jul 27, 2018 2:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Gender Confusion
Replies: 8
Views: 3181

Re: Gender Confusion

I totally resonate with everything you just said! With how I was confusing myself with the anatomy stuff (But I'm not confused about it anymore, I get that genitals don't matter. Thank you for clarifying it and also saying I don't need to feel embarassed), and also your lunch analogy is really infor...
by Bubbles
Wed Jul 25, 2018 10:30 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Gender Confusion
Replies: 8
Views: 3181

Re: Gender Confusion

You're right, I didn't mean to get caught up with the whole genitals thing, what you said totally makes sense. The person is all that matters, not their anatomy, I guess I was just figuring it out still but I'm not confused about it anymore. I didn't mean to seem like I'm fixated on the subject haha...
by Bubbles
Wed Jul 25, 2018 1:58 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Gender Confusion
Replies: 8
Views: 3181

Re: Gender Confusion

Sorry that I'm not doing a very good job at describing things hah, I'm still sorta confused. Being gray ace/demi makes it harder for me to tell too much because it filters a lot of sexuality out sometimes. Maybe I should just forget about it and not bother with a label?

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