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- by Redskies
- Fri Nov 17, 2017 2:02 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: i'm scared of my vagina // i hate having a vagina
- Replies: 16
- Views: 9859
I think I'm grasping what you're saying. Even if the way you're feeling were weird, it's certainly not unusual for people to have all kinds of individual, challenging or hurtful feelings about our bodies. Too, any kind of entryway into our body can easily feel a good deal more personal and vulnerabl...
- by Redskies
- Thu Nov 16, 2017 10:59 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Pill
- Replies: 8
- Views: 3793
Allybannsiders, Heather set a clear limit with you yesterday about pill questions, asking you to take them to your pharmacist or healthcare provider rather than us, and letting you know that we wouldn't be answering them any further, as we've already given you all the answers we possibly can. Other ...
- by Redskies
- Wed Sep 27, 2017 12:00 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Being silly
- Replies: 1
- Views: 1608
We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
- by Redskies
- Wed Sep 27, 2017 11:57 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Accuracy of a pregnancy test?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 1708
The company of the make of test that your girlfriend took will be the best source for information about that specific test. It sounds like that's who you asked, so you already have that information. In your previous thread with us, you were already very aware that the worries and concerns you have a...
- by Redskies
- Wed Sep 27, 2017 10:32 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Masturbation as a trigger
- Replies: 18
- Views: 6251
Hi, Reader! I wanted to pop in with a few thoughts about the internalised homophobia you mentioned. For anything about us that's often treated negatively or dismissively by the general world, it's really really common to internalise some of that negativity, even if our own personal circles are okay ...
- by Redskies
- Tue Sep 19, 2017 1:11 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Advice on not worrying about what people think
- Replies: 2
- Views: 2782
I think thewrit3r's advice here is really solid. Would you like to do some of that unpacking here with us, Introvert? For what it's worth, I think that while it's obviously very uncomfortable and unsettling to realise that we're having thoughts and feelings that are connected to some kind of general...
- by Redskies
- Thu Sep 14, 2017 9:03 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Associating Foreplay with Bad Feelings?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 2207
Would you like any help or support in dealing with the sad feelings or other feelings you have around this? Like Heather said, a lot of it is likely about time; but we're also happy to talk with you about any of it if you feel like having somewhere to talk and process, and someone to listen, would b...
- by Redskies
- Thu Sep 14, 2017 8:55 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: "Adjusting" my sexual "needs"?
- Replies: 11
- Views: 5592
I can't say for certain whether there are actually more people who want a meaningful sexual relationship without a deep emotional/practical commitment than you think there are, because I can't see inside your head at what number you're thinking :) But going off what you've said, it sounds like you t...
- by Redskies
- Thu Sep 14, 2017 8:07 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: sexuality stress
- Replies: 65
- Views: 16303
I'm really sorry to hear that. I hope you know that their decision isn't a referendum on your orientation, and certainly not on the reality or legitimacy of your orientation. Nor is it a comment on how deserving you are of help. I personally sympathise with finding it difficult to get appropriate he...
- by Redskies
- Thu Aug 31, 2017 9:09 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: sexuality stress
- Replies: 65
- Views: 16303
You're so welcome. Okay, so it sounds like backing up a bit and making sure you know about some healthy strategies for dealing with flashbacks and/or memories, and for caring for yourself afterwards, would be a good idea! They're often called "grounding" strategies because they're things t...
- by Redskies
- Thu Aug 31, 2017 7:38 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Please Help! Problem w/ Vaginal Opening!
- Replies: 5
- Views: 4133
We're not staffed 24/7, so messageboard users will sometimes need to wait a few hours for a staff/volunteer to be available to respond. You're not being a bother: it's simply about whether one of us is available or not. We do always do our very best to read everything all of our users write :) Like ...
- by Redskies
- Thu Aug 31, 2017 6:52 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: When to test?
- Replies: 5
- Views: 3378
You're welcome! 21 days after the most recent risk should give an accurate result, yes, so that'd be a reasonable point to re-test if you felt that re-testing was necessary. Yep, you can post again on this thread if you have any more questions - or a new thread for a new topic, if you prefer. Do be ...
- by Redskies
- Wed Aug 30, 2017 10:16 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: sexuality stress
- Replies: 65
- Views: 16303
Telling one person in writing is still telling a person, and that usually feels like a big deal at this stage of things, so, props to you! Too, it's really common to have a bunch of confusing or awkward or conflicting feelings at this point. There's no need to try to go any faster than feels comfort...
- by Redskies
- Wed Aug 30, 2017 9:21 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Frustrated
- Replies: 5
- Views: 2887
I'm sorry to hear things have been like this with your boyfriend, and I'm not surprised that you feel frustrated and ignored. It's sounding like you already have tried a lot to fix the situation. The thing is, for any relationship problem or issue, it needs both people to take action, and to continu...
- by Redskies
- Wed Aug 30, 2017 8:56 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Please Help! Problem w/ Vaginal Opening!
- Replies: 5
- Views: 4133
Welcome to the boards! And thanks for being so conscientious about the Terms and Conditions :) Okay, let's see what we can do to help you figure out what's what with your body :) The best place to start, I think, is with Innies & Outies: The Vagina, Clitoris, Uterus and More . Does that help fil...
- by Redskies
- Wed Aug 30, 2017 8:17 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: When to test?
- Replies: 5
- Views: 3378
Welcome to the boards! When you take a pregnancy test, you always want to follow the instructions that come with that particular test - that'll include information about the earliest time that particular test can give a reliable result. Generally, you can test from any point once your period is late...
- by Redskies
- Tue Aug 29, 2017 2:03 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: sexuality stress
- Replies: 65
- Views: 16303
Oh, I'm so sorry to hear your meeting was cancelled. I hear you when you say how hard it's been to try to find any help and how you've had bad experiences; this delay on top of that is just really rough. Have you been able to re-schedule it? Congratulations on coming out! How do you feel that went? ...
- by Redskies
- Tue Aug 29, 2017 1:21 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Depression and oral contraceptives
- Replies: 10
- Views: 4262
For concerns and questions about side-effects of a medication, specific to your own health and circumstances, the best person to talk to is your doctor. They're a medical specialist, so they have particular knowledge of the medications and of your health needs. You're right that no-one can know for ...
- by Redskies
- Tue Aug 29, 2017 12:09 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: sex and periods
- Replies: 3
- Views: 2464
You're welcome. Do you need any information or support about the abuse, or about any concerns or difficulties you have because of the abuse? For the pregnancy-related part of your question: We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not...
- by Redskies
- Tue Aug 29, 2017 11:59 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Depression and oral contraceptives
- Replies: 10
- Views: 4262
Good to hear that you're getting this checked with your doctors! It's important to rule out a range of possible physical causes for low mood, and to get mental healthcare, so it's excellent that you're already doing all of that. I said what I did earlier about not advising switching pills because yo...
- by Redskies
- Tue Aug 29, 2017 8:37 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: His past
- Replies: 8
- Views: 4007
thewrit3r has said some really compassionate and wise things here :) ICantThink, It's sounding like you're having a really tough time with how you feel about yourself, and that you don't like or value yourself very much. Do I have that right? If we don't like or value our own self very much, it tend...
- by Redskies
- Tue Aug 29, 2017 7:48 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: I get no pleasure from Clitoral stimulation
- Replies: 7
- Views: 48137
Welcome to the boards! thewrit3r is correct that there's no "strange" way to masturbate, and that there's a really really broad variety of ways that people do. How you masturbate is definitely not as unusual as you think it is, and there are anatomical reasons for that! The clitoris is act...
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