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by Redskies
Fri Nov 17, 2017 2:02 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: i'm scared of my vagina // i hate having a vagina
Replies: 16
Views: 5676

Re: i'm scared of my vagina // i hate having a vagina

I think I'm grasping what you're saying. Even if the way you're feeling were weird, it's certainly not unusual for people to have all kinds of individual, challenging or hurtful feelings about our bodies. Too, any kind of entryway into our body can easily feel a good deal more personal and vulnerabl...
by Redskies
Thu Nov 16, 2017 10:59 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Pill
Replies: 8
Views: 1817

Re: Pill

Allybannsiders, Heather set a clear limit with you yesterday about pill questions, asking you to take them to your pharmacist or healthcare provider rather than us, and letting you know that we wouldn't be answering them any further, as we've already given you all the answers we possibly can. Other ...
by Redskies
Wed Sep 27, 2017 12:00 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Being silly
Replies: 1
Views: 614

Re: Being silly

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Redskies
Wed Sep 27, 2017 11:57 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Accuracy of a pregnancy test?
Replies: 1
Views: 769

Re: Accuracy of a pregnancy test?

The company of the make of test that your girlfriend took will be the best source for information about that specific test. It sounds like that's who you asked, so you already have that information. In your previous thread with us, you were already very aware that the worries and concerns you have a...
by Redskies
Wed Sep 27, 2017 10:32 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation as a trigger
Replies: 18
Views: 2643

Re: Masturbation as a trigger

Hi, Reader! I wanted to pop in with a few thoughts about the internalised homophobia you mentioned. For anything about us that's often treated negatively or dismissively by the general world, it's really really common to internalise some of that negativity, even if our own personal circles are okay ...
by Redskies
Tue Sep 19, 2017 1:11 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Advice on not worrying about what people think
Replies: 2
Views: 1651

Re: Advice on not worrying about what people think

I think thewrit3r's advice here is really solid. Would you like to do some of that unpacking here with us, Introvert? For what it's worth, I think that while it's obviously very uncomfortable and unsettling to realise that we're having thoughts and feelings that are connected to some kind of general...
by Redskies
Thu Sep 14, 2017 9:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Associating Foreplay with Bad Feelings?
Replies: 3
Views: 1012

Re: Associating Foreplay with Bad Feelings?

Would you like any help or support in dealing with the sad feelings or other feelings you have around this? Like Heather said, a lot of it is likely about time; but we're also happy to talk with you about any of it if you feel like having somewhere to talk and process, and someone to listen, would b...
by Redskies
Thu Sep 14, 2017 8:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: "Adjusting" my sexual "needs"?
Replies: 11
Views: 2878

Re: "Adjusting" my sexual "needs"?

I can't say for certain whether there are actually more people who want a meaningful sexual relationship without a deep emotional/practical commitment than you think there are, because I can't see inside your head at what number you're thinking :) But going off what you've said, it sounds like you t...
by Redskies
Thu Sep 14, 2017 8:07 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: sexuality stress
Replies: 65
Views: 7415

Re: sexuality stress

I'm really sorry to hear that. I hope you know that their decision isn't a referendum on your orientation, and certainly not on the reality or legitimacy of your orientation. Nor is it a comment on how deserving you are of help. I personally sympathise with finding it difficult to get appropriate he...
by Redskies
Thu Aug 31, 2017 9:09 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: sexuality stress
Replies: 65
Views: 7415

Re: sexuality stress

You're so welcome. Okay, so it sounds like backing up a bit and making sure you know about some healthy strategies for dealing with flashbacks and/or memories, and for caring for yourself afterwards, would be a good idea! They're often called "grounding" strategies because they're things t...
by Redskies
Thu Aug 31, 2017 7:38 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Please Help! Problem w/ Vaginal Opening!
Replies: 5
Views: 2091

Re: Please Help! Problem w/ Vaginal Opening!

We're not staffed 24/7, so messageboard users will sometimes need to wait a few hours for a staff/volunteer to be available to respond. You're not being a bother: it's simply about whether one of us is available or not. We do always do our very best to read everything all of our users write :) Like ...
by Redskies
Thu Aug 31, 2017 6:52 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: When to test?
Replies: 5
Views: 1716

Re: When to test?

You're welcome! 21 days after the most recent risk should give an accurate result, yes, so that'd be a reasonable point to re-test if you felt that re-testing was necessary. Yep, you can post again on this thread if you have any more questions - or a new thread for a new topic, if you prefer. Do be ...
by Redskies
Wed Aug 30, 2017 10:16 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: sexuality stress
Replies: 65
Views: 7415

Re: sexuality stress

Telling one person in writing is still telling a person, and that usually feels like a big deal at this stage of things, so, props to you! Too, it's really common to have a bunch of confusing or awkward or conflicting feelings at this point. There's no need to try to go any faster than feels comfort...
by Redskies
Wed Aug 30, 2017 9:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Frustrated
Replies: 5
Views: 1272

Re: Frustrated

I'm sorry to hear things have been like this with your boyfriend, and I'm not surprised that you feel frustrated and ignored. It's sounding like you already have tried a lot to fix the situation. The thing is, for any relationship problem or issue, it needs both people to take action, and to continu...
by Redskies
Wed Aug 30, 2017 8:58 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Depression and oral contraceptives
Replies: 10
Views: 1731

Re: Depression and oral contraceptives

You're welcome!
by Redskies
Wed Aug 30, 2017 8:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Please Help! Problem w/ Vaginal Opening!
Replies: 5
Views: 2091

Re: Please Help! Problem w/ Vaginal Opening!

Welcome to the boards! And thanks for being so conscientious about the Terms and Conditions :) Okay, let's see what we can do to help you figure out what's what with your body :) The best place to start, I think, is with Innies & Outies: The Vagina, Clitoris, Uterus and More . Does that help fil...
by Redskies
Wed Aug 30, 2017 8:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Depression and oral contraceptives
Replies: 10
Views: 1731

Re: Depression and oral contraceptives

Sounds like your best move, then, is to have a talk with your doctor about what you read and what you're thinking :)
by Redskies
Wed Aug 30, 2017 8:17 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: When to test?
Replies: 5
Views: 1716

Re: When to test?

Welcome to the boards! When you take a pregnancy test, you always want to follow the instructions that come with that particular test - that'll include information about the earliest time that particular test can give a reliable result. Generally, you can test from any point once your period is late...
by Redskies
Tue Aug 29, 2017 2:03 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: sexuality stress
Replies: 65
Views: 7415

Re: sexuality stress

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear your meeting was cancelled. I hear you when you say how hard it's been to try to find any help and how you've had bad experiences; this delay on top of that is just really rough. Have you been able to re-schedule it? Congratulations on coming out! How do you feel that went? ...
by Redskies
Tue Aug 29, 2017 1:21 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Depression and oral contraceptives
Replies: 10
Views: 1731

Re: Depression and oral contraceptives

For concerns and questions about side-effects of a medication, specific to your own health and circumstances, the best person to talk to is your doctor. They're a medical specialist, so they have particular knowledge of the medications and of your health needs. You're right that no-one can know for ...
by Redskies
Tue Aug 29, 2017 12:09 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: sex and periods
Replies: 3
Views: 1253

Re: sex and periods

You're welcome. Do you need any information or support about the abuse, or about any concerns or difficulties you have because of the abuse? For the pregnancy-related part of your question: We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not...
by Redskies
Tue Aug 29, 2017 11:59 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Depression and oral contraceptives
Replies: 10
Views: 1731

Re: Depression and oral contraceptives

Good to hear that you're getting this checked with your doctors! It's important to rule out a range of possible physical causes for low mood, and to get mental healthcare, so it's excellent that you're already doing all of that. I said what I did earlier about not advising switching pills because yo...
by Redskies
Tue Aug 29, 2017 8:37 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: His past
Replies: 8
Views: 1932

Re: His past

thewrit3r has said some really compassionate and wise things here :) ICantThink, It's sounding like you're having a really tough time with how you feel about yourself, and that you don't like or value yourself very much. Do I have that right? If we don't like or value our own self very much, it tend...
by Redskies
Tue Aug 29, 2017 7:48 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I get no pleasure from Clitoral stimulation
Replies: 7
Views: 19868

Re: I get no pleasure from Clitoral stimulation

Welcome to the boards! thewrit3r is correct that there's no "strange" way to masturbate, and that there's a really really broad variety of ways that people do. How you masturbate is definitely not as unusual as you think it is, and there are anatomical reasons for that! The clitoris is act...
by Redskies
Tue Aug 29, 2017 6:58 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Did my boyfriend sexually assault me or am I just triggered?
Replies: 20
Views: 10363

Re: Did my boyfriend sexually assault me or am I just triggered?

Just wondering how you're doing, dogscats. How are things going?

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