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by ShadowSong21
Sun Jul 05, 2020 7:54 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2642

Re: Sex and all the complications

I do have specific words, phrases I'm more comfortable with and I have a lot of them that I feel uncomfortable with.Should I name them here? Why would I make an list? I mean people that I do talk to about it I try to ask to use them when talking about me, but I don't talk to many people about it, mo...
by ShadowSong21
Wed Jul 01, 2020 8:08 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2642

Re: Sex and all the complications

Hey Amanda, It's hard because it mostly revolves around changed language. I can't stand to listen to actual/medical terms applied to me and to my body without getting heavily dysphoric. All comfortable conversations I've head, comments I read and stuff like that where the language was changed or imp...
by ShadowSong21
Thu Jun 04, 2020 4:57 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2642

Re: Sex and all the complications

It's fine, I expected as much from her. Yes I've been journaling almost every day but it didn't do anything at all. I'm still very dysphoric, and feel hopeless a lot, and have some breakdowns and panic attacks here and there. I did attend meetings for trans people for about 2-3 years that were organ...
by ShadowSong21
Sun May 31, 2020 9:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2642

Re: Sex and all the complications

My psychologist just told me that I have to ask transgender people for recommendations. She told me she has noone to reccomend to me, and that she'll make a post on therapist group ton ask about it, but that's all she said.
by ShadowSong21
Tue May 26, 2020 11:06 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2642

Re: Sex and all the complications

My psychologist actually responded a little bit after I posted, and she said she missed my text and will reply towards end of the week. I mean that would make sense if they couldn't help me anymore to recommend me to someone else, but it's just been abandoning me all together, saying that they are d...
by ShadowSong21
Tue May 26, 2020 3:15 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2642

Re: Sex and all the complications

I'm not sure if I would even trust them, if they wanted to offer me help, because of how they present themselves and how they post etc. Yeah it is very discouraging, and I don't really believe anyone is able or willing to help me at this point, guess I'm doomed like other specialists implied. I made...
by ShadowSong21
Wed May 20, 2020 8:54 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2642

Re: Sex and all the complications

(I couldn't find post edit button) The answered in couple e-mails they clarified the can chedule a psychologist in 25th June, and they only help women and it's either through visiting their office or on the phone. They're in another city, I can't really do phone calls and I'm not the target group th...
by ShadowSong21
Wed May 20, 2020 6:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2642

Re: Sex and all the complications

i like to think that I'm pretty well in touch with myself. I do ask myself often, how I feel and think why is that and try to come up with even small things to fix the situation at least a little bit. Meditation isn't really my thing, and I thought couple of times about journaling, but I've never do...
by ShadowSong21
Sat May 16, 2020 9:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2642

Re: Sex and all the complications

The contact you've given me, I know that NGO and they say they only help women who are survivors of many types of abuse and violence. They also say that they work to reduce discrimination, yet they also say they only provide help for women victims. And that's also the issue, general awareness is tha...
by ShadowSong21
Sat May 16, 2020 6:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2642

Re: Sex and all the complications

No I haven't reached anyone who would be trained to help rape victims, cause I don't see how they would help me, and I'm also pretty sure that they wouldn't take it seriously as well, considering how they society functions and thinks, and especially in the country that I live in. I don't think it's ...
by ShadowSong21
Fri May 15, 2020 10:26 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2642

Re: Sex and all the complications

I can consider having limited sex and backing up front it when I feel I not in the best headspace at the time, but full on break from sex is rather unlikely. Yes I have been raped twice, but most of the people including professionals, family, most colleagues and others didn't care too much or make m...
by ShadowSong21
Thu May 14, 2020 11:35 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2642

Re: Sex and all the complications

Oh I understand what you meant with the risk.

I don't really have anything planned as far as changing anything in terms of "gender affirming", so I don't think what could change about that really...
by ShadowSong21
Wed May 13, 2020 2:55 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2642

Re: Sex and all the complications

i'm sorry, I wasn't trying to imply that Mo meant it that way. It's just more like how I feel about the situation. What do you mean by taking risks to see improvements? Also you said treatment and healing a couple of times, but I don't really know what you meant by that. What made me sound like ther...
by ShadowSong21
Tue May 12, 2020 6:30 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2642

Re: Sex and all the complications

So what you're saying is that I should actually stop having sex altogether for the rest of my life because of dysphoria, because it's not gonna change? At this point I'm getting confused, because you recommend me to take a break that is apparently indefinite, because i shouldn't have sex while being...
by ShadowSong21
Tue May 12, 2020 10:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2642

Re: Sex and all the complications

I have brainstormed a lot all of the possibilities, but I can't see anything else that would give me such feeling. I mean people have sex for multiple reason outside of sexual pleasure, so it must be pretty effective. I think we'll grow more distant, there will be some resentment and tensions about ...
by ShadowSong21
Tue May 12, 2020 6:09 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2642

Re: Sex and all the complications

Ok i'll take into consideration limiting sex or quitting it, but the problem is that if I avoid sex for longer period, or it doesn't happen it also makes me feel bad. Unattractive, like a freak, less worthy of attention etc. On top of that if I avoid the topic all together, I feel like nothing will ...
by ShadowSong21
Sun May 10, 2020 1:24 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2642

Re: Sex and all the complications

I'm already scared how much the healthcare that I can get could be worse than that, especially considering the country that I live in. I'm not sure to be honest. I guess it's more the first ("is that dysphoria closer to being reminded that your body isn't how you'd like it to be") than the...
by ShadowSong21
Sun May 10, 2020 7:41 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2642

Re: Sex and all the complications

Those two specialists are considered to be the best in Poland you can get. Yes i have thought about getting a different therapist and as I said earlier, I am kind of looking for one (as I am being made to), but I haven't heard of ones athat are respectful and could actually help me instead of hurtin...
by ShadowSong21
Sat May 09, 2020 10:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2642

Re: Sex and all the complications

Most of his role was, checking on my life (without much feedback), sending me to run tests on my body (blood, USG etc.), having me do the psychologist opinion, and all the stuff required here to change legally your gender marker, and after 3-4 years he put me on HRT, discussing with me multiple time...
by ShadowSong21
Fri May 08, 2020 11:08 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2642

Re: Sex and all the complications

I mean they haven't had any suggestions to be honest, other than at the same time suggesting me the surgery and saying to not get it unless completely necessary.
by ShadowSong21
Fri May 08, 2020 9:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2642

Sex and all the complications

Hello, First of I'm sorry to be bothering you again, I know how busy you all are and upfront I appreciate all the feedback. This post is somewhat a vent, but I also appreciate all the feedback, I need to share with someone all the things that have made me frustrated and confused for quite a while. I...
by ShadowSong21
Sat Nov 09, 2019 4:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Initiation and contact in sex
Replies: 28
Views: 2968

Re: Initiation and contact in sex

I bet there are some folks who are trans and/or nonbinary who have been pregnant and had children and I'm sure you know some, but it's likely you're talking about AFAB people. I can't become pregnant, and not because of complicated feelings. I was asked by Sian what I'd miss because of not being cis...
by ShadowSong21
Fri Nov 08, 2019 12:04 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Initiation and contact in sex
Replies: 28
Views: 2968

Re: Initiation and contact in sex

Hi Sian I feel like I've lost possiblility of getting pregnant and having children, having menstruation and generally body more aligned. It really doesn't feel like I'm the one who decides what I should do and what's good for me. There were multiple situations including very progressive people and r...
by ShadowSong21
Thu Nov 07, 2019 12:47 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Initiation and contact in sex
Replies: 28
Views: 2968

Re: Initiation and contact in sex

So I've been feeling much more dysphoric past few weeks and intimacy almost stopped in my relationship. Yesterday I had visit at psychologist and we talked about my body, dysphoria etc. and she told me that I should drop the vision of ever being cis, say goodbye to it and grieve. I deep down kinda k...
by ShadowSong21
Mon Oct 14, 2019 2:52 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Initiation and contact in sex
Replies: 28
Views: 2968

Re: Initiation and contact in sex

@Mo
Now I'm even more confused, as to what you were thinking in the first place and what you are thinking now...

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