Thank you so much for your answers, both of you! That meshes about with what I would have thought instinctively, but I was repeatedly thrown by the "she's like a child" kind of argument. I think I see now how that's a false equivalence (and a deflection, obviously), and I think it's really...

I forgot to add, my friend was 16 at the time and P was 18 if that makes any difference.

Hey, I've been reading the Sex & Disabilities series with great interest, hoping to find an answer to a question that's been haunting me for a long time. So far I haven't found it, so I'm asking here. Last year a friend of mine almost killed herself after an argument that's still unresolved. She...