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by Sam W
Sat Mar 23, 2024 8:23 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I am scared of having sex with my girlfriend but I really want to!
Replies: 2
Views: 132

Re: I am scared of having sex with my girlfriend but I really want to!

Hi unr3alun3arth, In addition to all the good points Latha made, I want to add that something that can help you feel less nervous is to remember that there's no one "correct" way to have sex with another woman, nor is there another way that's the most common or most expected (the same can ...
by Sam W
Sat Mar 23, 2024 7:50 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Why can’t I orgasm?
Replies: 9
Views: 426

Re: Why can’t I orgasm?

You're welcome, and no worries; we're always happy to answer questions, even ones where the answer seems obvious in retrospect!
by Sam W
Sat Mar 23, 2024 7:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Depo Provera and antibiotics?
Replies: 6
Views: 168

Re: Depo Provera and antibiotics?

In that case, I'd go with what your doctor says, since that specific antibiotic isn't mentioned in the article and a healthcare provider who has access to and knowledge of your medical history is going to be able to give you a better sense of whether a certain medication could interact poorly with t...
by Sam W
Fri Mar 22, 2024 7:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Feeling a lot of shame and sadness :(
Replies: 7
Views: 416

Re: Feeling a lot of shame and sadness :(

I'm so glad the article was helpful, and I hope you're able to get your hands on a copy of the book! And it's good to hear that there are things that help you feel confident. Do you have the option to dress the way that feels authentic to you much of the time? If so, even just leaning into that a bi...
by Sam W
Fri Mar 22, 2024 6:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Depo Provera and antibiotics?
Replies: 6
Views: 168

Re: Depo Provera and antibiotics?

Hi 55, You can find an overview of what things do and do not decrease birth control effectiveness here: Something You Can Worry About Less: Interference and Hormonal Birth Control . Too, generally speaking, when a healthcare provider prescribes you a medication, they'll let you know if it's likely t...
by Sam W
Thu Mar 21, 2024 11:27 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to find partner as an introvert and shy
Replies: 9
Views: 365

Re: How to find partner as an introvert and shy

A really common way is get involved in spaces, groups, hobbies, etc that you either already enjoy or are curious about. That gives you a structured way to meet people you already at least have some basic interests in common with, and having a specific activity or topic that you're involved in can he...
by Sam W
Thu Mar 21, 2024 10:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: 20 year old female, issues with masturbating and finishing for months
Replies: 9
Views: 1501

Re: 20 year old female, issues with masturbating and finishing for months

Okay, so one option would be to experiment to see if there are things you can do to extend that period of enjoyment. That might be starting and stopping, or taking things slower to see if that leads to the throbbing taking more time before it happens.
by Sam W
Thu Mar 21, 2024 9:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to find partner as an introvert and shy
Replies: 9
Views: 365

Re: How to find partner as an introvert and shy

Hi Mika, If you're looking specifically for dating options or options where it might lead to romance, then right now those options are pretty limited since a lot of platforms are for those 18 and older. You're right that places like Trevor Project are more for crisis or peer support; and the boards ...
by Sam W
Thu Mar 21, 2024 7:41 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Question about trans resources for exploring sexuality
Replies: 1
Views: 110

Re: Question about trans resources for exploring sexuality

Hi LostInTheSoup, I can certainly point you towards some potential resources! Too, I think that while being trans AND being relatively inexperienced with dating can make for a certain kind of tricky combination, a lot of the information out there about approaching sex and dating with limited experie...
by Sam W
Thu Mar 21, 2024 7:16 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Itchy Penis, but no STD/STI's
Replies: 1
Views: 179

Re: Itchy Penis, but no STD/STI's

Hi LowSea7204,

When you went to the doctor and got the steroid cream, did they give you any information on what they thought the cause might be? Too, have the two of you tried to see if using a condom makes this reaction more or less likely?
by Sam W
Thu Mar 21, 2024 6:57 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: dealing with being gay
Replies: 3
Views: 211

Re: dealing with being gay

Got it. So, I do think that if you're in situation where you would not be supported if you came out, or you might be punished for it, that as frustrating as it is pursuing a relationship with him might not be the safest call for you right now. Do you feel like you and he could talk about what happen...
by Sam W
Thu Mar 21, 2024 6:39 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Why can’t I orgasm?
Replies: 9
Views: 426

Re: Why can’t I orgasm?

I'm so glad we we're able to help, and that you had a positive masturbation experience!
by Sam W
Tue Mar 19, 2024 10:05 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: dealing with being gay
Replies: 3
Views: 211

Re: dealing with being gay

Hi John, I'm sorry to hear you're stuck trying to make sense of your sexual orientation in such a hostile climate, including within your own family. It sounds like there are two overlapping concerns here: one is how to proceed with this friend, the other is how to cope with your feelings more genera...
by Sam W
Tue Mar 19, 2024 9:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Musings about recent "kink as a minor" advice page
Replies: 4
Views: 293

Re: Musings about recent "kink as a minor" advice page

Hi bikinksterboy, So, since that piece was mine, I can offer a little context on why I chose to answer it the way I did. Part of it is, as you noted, is due to the fact that we don't tend to give step by step or really detailed instructions on how to do specific, sexual things. The main reason for t...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 18, 2024 12:37 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Bored when masturbating
Replies: 3
Views: 280

Re: Bored when masturbating

You're welcome!
by Sam W
Mon Mar 18, 2024 8:41 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: 20 year old female, issues with masturbating and finishing for months
Replies: 9
Views: 1501

Re: 20 year old female, issues with masturbating and finishing for months

Got it. So, you're already doing one of the things I'd recommend, which is stopping masturbation when this happens since, as you said, there's not point in continuing if you're no longer enjoying yourself. If you want to extend pleasure prior to that throbbing kicking in, have you noticed if there's...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 18, 2024 7:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: 20 year old female, issues with masturbating and finishing for months
Replies: 9
Views: 1501

Re: 20 year old female, issues with masturbating and finishing for months

Hi PleaseHelpAsap,

To make sure I'm understanding you correctly, is it that the throbbing means a dulling of sensation? Or like it almost goes numb?
by Sam W
Mon Mar 18, 2024 7:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Why can’t I orgasm?
Replies: 9
Views: 426

Re: Why can’t I orgasm?

Hi Itsmemimsey, It does sound like you're likely getting "stuck" in the plateau phase of sexual response (you can read more about what that is here: Sexual Response & Orgasm: A Users Guide ),which can for sure be frustrating! During masturbation, what would you say your brain is genera...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 18, 2024 7:13 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Long cycle
Replies: 1
Views: 167

Re: Long cycle

Hi Yohanz, Period irregularity is really common, especially in the first few years of someone having it. Even just looking at the other cycle lengths, you can see that she's someone who has quite a bit of variation in the length of her menstrual cycle. So this in and of itself isn't cause for concern.
by Sam W
Mon Mar 18, 2024 7:06 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Dating, being taken advantage of and saying no
Replies: 1
Views: 169

Re: Dating, being taken advantage of and saying no

Hi Whispermae, I'm so sorry this guy was not only dishonest with you, but that you didn't feel safe during the interaction. You mention he had no idea due to you smiling and saying yes, but does your body language or movement change at all? I promise that this doesn't have to be how these interactio...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 18, 2024 6:54 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I s**** up. I'm extremely scared
Replies: 1
Views: 173

Re: I s**** up. I'm extremely scared

Hi emmajones2, I'm sorry that this guy wasn't honest with you about his sexual history; that's a really crummy thing to do to a partner, especially if you're the one pushing to not use a condom. As much as you can, try not to beat yourself up for that choice; your partner withheld important informat...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 18, 2024 6:39 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Bored when masturbating
Replies: 3
Views: 280

Re: Bored when masturbating

Hi artistkitty, There are a few different things you could try. One could be to keep exploring different kinds of sexual media (for instance, maybe visual or auditory sexual media is more arousing for you than written media) and experimenting with different fantasies. I really like the advice in thi...
by Sam W
Sat Mar 16, 2024 8:16 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is it bad that I am quite frustrated with Cisgender Gay Men?
Replies: 7
Views: 345

Re: Is it bad that I am quite frustrated with Cisgender Gay Men?

Hi Nat, Given the experiences you had, I can absolutely understand why this would leave you frustrated, and I don't think it's a bad thing to have that reaction to things that are, well, frustrating. Sadly, being part of the bigger queer community doesn't automatically mean someone will be understan...
by Sam W
Thu Mar 14, 2024 11:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Difficulty finishing
Replies: 5
Views: 299

Re: Difficulty finishing

Hi Lime_time, With masturbation, I think some of what you're experiencing is basically a learning curve; if this is all fairly new to you, you're still probably in the process of figuring out what your body and brain do and don't find pleasurable while masturbating. So, as you continue trying things...

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