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by Sam W
Thu May 13, 2021 10:13 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Brutally Honest
Replies: 9
Views: 398

Re: Brutally Honest

Hi girlplayer34, I want to touch on something you said about rationality and love. In my experience, love and relationships aren't purely rational OR irrational; they're a mixture of things we make decisions about and things that feel outside of our control. For instance, things like chemistry or at...
by Sam W
Tue May 11, 2021 9:25 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Struggling to keep my weight gain fantasies under control
Replies: 11
Views: 561

Re: Struggling to keep my weight gain fantasies under control

Hi belled, I wanted to chime in about your last point: sometimes, when we have thoughts or ideas that just keep circling our heads, writing them out can actually be really helpful (even when they're not distressing us and are more making it harder for us to focus on other things we want/need to be f...
by Sam W
Tue May 11, 2021 6:55 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Genderflux, but my family is anti-enby
Replies: 13
Views: 584

Re: Genderflux, but my family is anti-enby

Hi nerd. It's absolutely okay to vent about that stuff here. While I'm a pretty firm believer in normal being overrated, I also don't know anyone from a marginalized or "othered" identity who hasn't had moments of wishing they could just be like everyone else so the crummy things that were...
by Sam W
Thu May 06, 2021 8:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Semen on new condom
Replies: 1
Views: 317

Re: Semen on new condom

Hi martin021, So, the scenario you're describing doesn't pose a risk of pregnancy, because sperm cannot survive the trip from penis to hand to condom. Too, sperm need specific conditions in order to help create a pregnancy. You can read more about that in these two articles: Who's Afraid of Sperm Ce...
by Sam W
Thu May 06, 2021 8:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Problems masturbating
Replies: 3
Views: 435

Re: Problems masturbating

Hi jenny01, There are a few different things that could be at play here. The first is, have you been feeling stressed or otherwise in a low or tense mood for parts of this week? Too, does part of that boredom seem to be coming from your brain being uninterested in the fantasies or sexual media you u...
by Sam W
Thu May 06, 2021 8:15 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: I still cant ejaculate.
Replies: 2
Views: 317

Re: I still cant ejaculate.

Hi Magicarp778, It sounds like this is really stressing you out! If it helps to know, people don't hit the exact same stage of puberty at the exact same age, so sometimes a certain part of it (like first ejaculation) comes a little later for you than it does for your peers. But there's no reason to ...
by Sam W
Thu May 06, 2021 7:54 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Minors & Sex
Replies: 8
Views: 381

Re: Minors & Sex

Hi MSW4Teens, So, I would prioritize the situation where she's sending images to far older men, because that's both a major safety issue and one that, to me, suggests there is something else going on that needs addressing. Have the two of you spoken about how she's getting in contact with these men ...
by Sam W
Thu May 06, 2021 7:39 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Genderflux, but my family is anti-enby
Replies: 13
Views: 584

Re: Genderflux, but my family is anti-enby

Hi nerd., That does sound incredibly frustrating and invalidating, and I'm sorry you're stuck dealing with it. With the clothing, can you say a little more about why you're not able to buy your own? Is it an issue of access or mobility? Something else? I ask because, if you at least have the money f...
by Sam W
Tue May 04, 2021 7:24 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: missing period/how to get it back
Replies: 1
Views: 333

Re: missing period/how to get it back

Hi theaprilwitch, The tricky thing is, there's not really a way to induce a period; your cycle will get to it when it gets to it. Too, what you're describing isn't that unusual, since you're still at an age where some cycle irregularity is to be expected. And there are lots of reasons periods can go...
by Sam W
Sun May 02, 2021 9:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex toys
Replies: 7
Views: 197

Re: Sex toys

You're very welcome, and I'm glad we could help!
by Sam W
Sun May 02, 2021 9:09 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex toys
Replies: 7
Views: 197

Re: Sex toys

Do you have something like an underwear drawer? That's somewhere that, in theory, she'd have absolutely no reason to dig through.

And that sounds like a great reason to by a sex toy! There's nothing wrong with being curious about new way of masturbating.
by Sam W
Sun May 02, 2021 8:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex toys
Replies: 7
Views: 197

Re: Sex toys

Got it. So, with those privacy concerns, are there places in your room that other people never look t or use? Places like the back of a dresser drawer, under a bed, or another spot no one but you is going to be in can all be good options for storing sex toys. For those other doubts, when you first s...
by Sam W
Sun May 02, 2021 8:41 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Clothing and Tucking
Replies: 3
Views: 301

Re: Clothing and Tucking

Hi Spider_Queen, If you buy an item with a super-specific way it needs to be worn, it will usually include directions. More generally, I like this article as a starting place for how to fit and wear a gaffe (it also includes links to more detailed directions for tucking): https://pointofpride.org/ga...
by Sam W
Sun May 02, 2021 8:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex toys
Replies: 7
Views: 197

Re: Sex toys

Hi Krys, You're absolutely right that exploring different ways of masturbating, including using sex toys, is nothing to be ashamed of and is a part of our sexual development. Would it help to talk a little more about those self-questioning thoughts or doubts are? Sometimes, if we identify what, spec...
by Sam W
Sun May 02, 2021 8:00 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 22
Views: 587

Re: Exclusivity?

I think that's an excellent thing to bring up with your therapist! Especially because you've identified it as a factor in the anxiety you feel around relationships.
by Sam W
Sat May 01, 2021 8:27 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 22
Views: 587

Re: Exclusivity?

Hi MusicNerd, Since it sounds like the two of you are otherwise communicating pretty well, it might help to assume that his interest in you, and his desire to stay in a relationship with you are genuine. If he were showing a lot of signs of disinterest or detachment, that might indicate something el...
by Sam W
Thu Apr 29, 2021 8:05 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: My breasts hurt in the middle of the pill chart
Replies: 3
Views: 208

Re: My breasts hurt in the middle of the pill chart

I'm glad the response was helpful, and that you're working with your psychologist to address these fears. That's a great step in taking care of yourself!
by Sam W
Thu Apr 29, 2021 7:55 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Changed my mind
Replies: 5
Views: 171

Re: Changed my mind

Hi Hel, I think this is one of those situations where a direct ask is totally okay! Or, if the two of you regularly check in about what kinds of touch you do and don't want, that could be a good time to bring it up as well. With the pet name, does he generally call you things like that, or are pet n...
by Sam W
Thu Apr 29, 2021 7:47 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Seriously, what is wrong with my vulva?
Replies: 2
Views: 242

Re: Seriously, what is wrong with my vulva?

Hi litha_gorse, It sounds like this situation has been causing you a lot of stress, so hopefully we can find some ways to approach it. For starters, have you told an OB-GYN recently about the itchiness and the fact it seems to be causing issues with sensitivity? Your gynecologist was right that labi...
by Sam W
Thu Apr 29, 2021 7:41 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: My breasts hurt in the middle of the pill chart
Replies: 3
Views: 208

Re: My breasts hurt in the middle of the pill chart

Hi JuliaGallo, Nope, sore breasts do not indicate the pill has stopped working. Breast tenderness can have all sorts of causes, including things like where you are in your cycle and the side effects of certain medications. And, given everything else you've said, there's no reason to assume they're a...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 27, 2021 9:04 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Feeling guilty
Replies: 5
Views: 391

Re: Feeling guilty

You're welcome, and I'm so glad we were able to help!

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