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by Sam W
Tue Jun 22, 2021 11:52 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Someone at school outed me and now I feel betrayed
Replies: 6
Views: 283

Re: Someone at school outed me and now I feel betrayed

Ooof, it can be really rough when you start feeling like other secrets (or semi-secrets) you shared got out without your permission. I think dialing back what you confide in your roommate might be a sound next step, even more so than trying to figure out if certain information has gotten out and whe...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 22, 2021 7:09 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Not understanding how to feel
Replies: 4
Views: 254

Re: Not understanding how to feel

Hi Red_Scarlet, It sounds like you've dealt with quite a bit of invalidation from your parents, and I'm so sorry that's left you doubting whether you're allowed to be upset or sad about the things you went through (and, from the sound of it, things they did to you). I want to emphasize that whatever...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 22, 2021 6:53 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Someone at school outed me and now I feel betrayed
Replies: 6
Views: 283

Re: Someone at school outed me and now I feel betrayed

Hi Hel, I'm so sorry someone outed you without you consent; that's such a frustrating, stressful situation to be dealing with. Since you don't know who did it, I'd hold off on confronting your roommate's sister. Have you spoken to your roommate and asked her if she mentioned your identity to her sis...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 21, 2021 7:13 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Feel like I was used
Replies: 5
Views: 310

Re: Feel like I was used

Hi OtherAngel, Those are all completely understandable reasons to be hurt, and it sucks that something that felt like a close, positive connection to you turned out to to be deceptive and ended up causing you more hurt. Given that honesty doesn't seem to be a high priority for him, it's ultimately a...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 15, 2021 7:25 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Wanting Sexual Connection Underage
Replies: 5
Views: 365

Re: Wanting Sexual Connection Underage

Hi Valentin0, The first thing I want to say is that you're not the least bit alone in these feelings; plenty of people find that, while masturbation is pleasurable and can help ease sexual urges, if there's a major connection component to your desires, it might not always do the trick. I also want t...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 15, 2021 7:05 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Grew Out of it, but Trying to Process
Replies: 9
Views: 3358

Re: Grew Out of it, but Trying to Process

What exciting news! Thank you so much for sharing it with us, and I hope the whole process goes as smoothly as possible.
by Sam W
Mon Jun 14, 2021 6:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: relationship advice, maybe?
Replies: 1
Views: 320

Re: relationship advice, maybe?

Hi BeepBoop, I'm glad you're in a relationship that makes you happy! When it comes to getting erections, there are a few things it might help to keep in mind. One is that, like you pointed out, getting erection in non-sexual situations is normal. A side effect of that is that a lot of people, includ...
by Sam W
Sun Jun 13, 2021 9:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is my withdrawal bleed colour normal?
Replies: 5
Views: 870

Re: Is my withdrawal bleed colour normal?

Yes, it is safe to get the Covid-19 vaccine while on the pill.
by Sam W
Sun Jun 13, 2021 7:19 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Foreskin
Replies: 7
Views: 900

Re: Foreskin

You should be able to make an appointment on your own, although the people helping you with that process may want to know if any adults are aware that you're doing so. This article offers a really clear breakdown of how to do that in the U.K: https://www.childline.org.uk/info-advice/bullying-abuse-s...
by Sam W
Fri Jun 11, 2021 10:29 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Can bisexuals be attracted to genderfluid people?
Replies: 3
Views: 820

Re: Can bisexuals be attracted to genderfluid people?

You're welcome! And yeah, unfortunately the weird attempts to draw super-hard lines between identities can leave people feeling confused, which is why I'm glad you asked for clarification.
by Sam W
Fri Jun 11, 2021 10:13 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is my withdrawal bleed colour normal?
Replies: 5
Views: 870

Re: Is my withdrawal bleed colour normal?

Hi Julia, Yes, even when you've been on the pill for awhile, it's possible to have a withdrawal bleed that looks or arrives a little differently than normal. Going forward, I'm going to ask that you not focus your conversations with us on examining or seeking reassurance about every slight change in...
by Sam W
Thu Jun 10, 2021 10:10 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Can bisexuals be attracted to genderfluid people?
Replies: 3
Views: 820

Re: Can bisexuals be attracted to genderfluid people?

Hi Hel, So the short answer is: yes, bisexuality can include attraction to genderfluid folks or other non-binary identities. The fight over whether or not it does comes down to some people trying to make a hard separation between bisexuality and pansexuality, or trying to insist that because of the ...
by Sam W
Thu Jun 10, 2021 8:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Foreskin
Replies: 7
Views: 900

Re: Foreskin

Got it. If you're noticing your foreskin is causing you discomfort or other issues, that might be something to a healthcare provider about.
by Sam W
Thu Jun 10, 2021 7:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Foreskin
Replies: 7
Views: 900

Re: Foreskin

Hi dq616, Some people's foreskins are just on the tighter side, so that could be what's happening for you. Too, while most people are able to fully retract their foreskin by age ten, for some people the process can last all the way through adolescence, so that could also be what's going on here. Is ...
by Sam W
Thu Jun 10, 2021 7:28 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Feeling guilty about wanting to break up
Replies: 4
Views: 746

Re: Feeling guilty about wanting to break up

That sounds like the best approach to a sucky situation (and like you have some good plans for taking care of yourself after the conversation). Breaking up, rather than dragging out a dying relationship, is in many ways the kindest thing you can do for both yourself and your partner.
by Sam W
Tue Jun 08, 2021 9:18 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: It's Never Too Late To Start To Date
Replies: 0
Views: 792

It's Never Too Late To Start To Date

A new column from the wonderful Douglas Laman: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/disa ... rt_to_date
by Sam W
Mon Jun 07, 2021 10:05 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My best friend, my crush, and me
Replies: 7
Views: 2345

Re: My best friend, my crush, and me

Hi Elias,

Thank you so much for the update! It sounds like the conversation ended up really productive, and that the two of you feel on more comfortable footing in terms of where you stand with each other, which is great to hear.
by Sam W
Mon Jun 07, 2021 9:59 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Advice for stepping away from porn use
Replies: 14
Views: 760

Re: Advice for stepping away from porn use

I'm glad that piece of information was helpful! And yeah, the text based option ends up being preferable for lots of people, which hopefully means you can find a therapist who's a good fit for you that offers that option for sessions.
by Sam W
Mon Jun 07, 2021 6:45 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My nonbinary girlfriend wants to get a beard
Replies: 4
Views: 594

Re: My nonbinary girlfriend wants to get a beard

Hi Vambrace,' It sounds like you've done a lot of reflecting on these feelings and where they're coming from, which is a great step! I think talking with your girlfriend about how or if they want your relationship to read going forward could be really helpful, as could talking about whether and how ...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 07, 2021 6:12 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Advice for stepping away from porn use
Replies: 14
Views: 760

Re: Advice for stepping away from porn use

Hi vambrace, Thanks for that clarification about your friends! I wanted to get a sense of whether you felt isolated in or teased for your identity, but it sounds like they've dropped the jokes now, yes? With telehealth, if it's an option you were initially interested in, a number of providers offer ...
by Sam W
Sat Jun 05, 2021 8:59 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Advice for stepping away from porn use
Replies: 14
Views: 760

Re: Advice for stepping away from porn use

Hi vambrace, I'm so glad Val's answer was helpful, and that you're looking into getting a therapist! That's a great step in terms of taking care of yourself. I want to hone in on something you said about your relationship with the kind of porn that leaves you feeling uncomfortable reminding you of c...
by Sam W
Sat Jun 05, 2021 7:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Clit problems
Replies: 8
Views: 2385

Re: Clit problems

Hi there, I'm glad to hear waiting a bit helped! If you're stressed, that can certainly influence how masturbation feels, since our brains play such a big role in our experience of sexual pleasure. When we're stressed, it's often more difficult to feel pleasure or arousal. So, it might be a matter o...
by Sam W
Sat Jun 05, 2021 7:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Am I just victimizing myself?
Replies: 14
Views: 1707

Re: Am I just victimizing myself?

Hi FestiveFestoon, I just want to chime in that it might help, either alone or with your counselor, to set micro-goals around reading those books; think in terms of reading one or two pages to start. Too, while you're right that your anxiety is very much latching on to this topic, I think it's actua...
by Sam W
Fri Jun 04, 2021 9:38 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: URGENT PLEASE HELP
Replies: 6
Views: 885

Re: URGENT PLEASE HELP

Ugh, that's just awful all the way down. I have a few more resources you could try. The NH Civil Liberties Union might be more dialed in on how to address this issue than the general ACLU: http://www.nhclu.org/. GLAD also has ways to contact legal advocates who might be able to help or advise: https...

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