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by Sam W
Thu Nov 25, 2021 9:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Books on reproduction
Replies: 7
Views: 136

Re: Books on reproduction

I hope you find the book helpful and informative! Since you're prioritizing your mental health, I do want to point you towards some of the resources here: Anxiety and Other Mental Health Resources . The helpline would give you a place to find interim support while you look for more formal mental hea...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 23, 2021 1:13 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: boyfriend issue?
Replies: 13
Views: 257

Re: boyfriend issue?

You're right that shock could certainly be playing a role; when people find out someone the like or trust is capable of abuse, it can be really jarring. But at a certain point, her feelings about it need to be something she manages on her own, rather than making you deal with. Just in the same way h...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 23, 2021 12:52 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: reliving old problems
Replies: 7
Views: 135

Re: reliving old problems

You're very welcome! And I would definitely talk to your dad to see if the two of you can use the fact you're in not just an unwanted, but unsafe, living space to expedite the process. Custody agreements can be tricky, but in most cases their are ways to get young people out of unsafe situations soo...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 22, 2021 11:19 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: reliving old problems
Replies: 7
Views: 135

Re: reliving old problems

Those are some serious safety protocols, and I'm glad they're in place. Do you have a sense of how soon you'll be able to get out of the house permanently? All those emotions you're describing make total sense; feeling unsafe or limited in your home, and having those intense fear reactions to someon...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 22, 2021 9:07 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: reliving old problems
Replies: 7
Views: 135

Re: reliving old problems

I'm glad your dad is taking this seriously and taking the steps to get you out of there as soon as possible. You and he may also want to look into the laws about what age a child starts having the ability to choose which parent to stay with; it may be that you're old enough to have a say in this, an...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 22, 2021 8:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Was it my fault and am i being punished too harshly
Replies: 9
Views: 181

Re: Was it my fault and am i being punished too harshly

I hope the other links are helpful!

You mentioned the hotline calling in the police previously; did they ever tell you why that happened or what policy was behind it?
by Sam W
Mon Nov 22, 2021 8:19 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Plan B while on the pill
Replies: 3
Views: 87

Re: Plan B while on the pill

Hi JuliaGallo,

That depends on the specific test you buy and its directions for when and how to test. You can read more about that here: Peeing on a Stick: All About Pregnancy Tests
by Sam W
Mon Nov 22, 2021 8:13 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: reliving old problems
Replies: 7
Views: 135

Re: reliving old problems

Hi ceciliaxe, I'm glad you feel safe and supported posting here! Those feelings you're describing make a lot of sense, and I'm so sorry that your step brother made that choice to hurt you. One thing that can happen is, if one abusive person tries to groom us into seeing certain behaviors as normal o...
by Sam W
Sat Nov 20, 2021 10:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I am mentally deteriorating
Replies: 5
Views: 109

Re: I am mentally deteriorating

You're very welcome! And I hope the visit to the GP goes well!
by Sam W
Sat Nov 20, 2021 10:06 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I am mentally deteriorating
Replies: 5
Views: 109

Re: I am mentally deteriorating

I'm glad that's helpful to hear! I'm a firm believer in keeping going, even when things are awful, and I genuinely believe things do get better. But I also think it helps to acknowledge just how much suckiness we sometimes have to deal with on the way to being okay, and to admit than when you're in ...
by Sam W
Sat Nov 20, 2021 9:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I not sure what happened
Replies: 9
Views: 180

Re: I not sure what happened

I can absolutely understand why that approach to therapy didn't do much, especially if it wasn't coupled with more concrete tools for addressing feelings of depression or treated the fact your were groomed as something about you that needed fixing. I mentioned in my other post some resources that mi...
by Sam W
Sat Nov 20, 2021 9:22 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I am mentally deteriorating
Replies: 5
Views: 109

Re: I am mentally deteriorating

miskosou, It sounds like you're dealing with some pretty serious depression, which is only being compounded by the fact your parents either don't take your struggles seriously or dismiss and blame you when you try to get help. I'm so sorry you're dealing with that on top of everything else. So, what...
by Sam W
Sat Nov 20, 2021 9:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I not sure what happened
Replies: 9
Views: 180

Re: I not sure what happened

You're not being dramatic; as far as I can see, you're having a completely understandable reaction to someone violating your boundaries in a big way and people who should have your best interests in mind telling you it was no big deal. Can you tell me what kind of help you've gotten in the past and ...
by Sam W
Sat Nov 20, 2021 8:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Was it my fault and am i being punished too harshly
Replies: 9
Views: 181

Re: Was it my fault and am i being punished too harshly

Can I ask what about the previous therapist was unhelpful? And if you want, we can talk about ways for you to access a therapist or other mental health resources who might be more helpful for you, and that you might be able to access without your mom acting as gatekeeper. I'm going to echo everyone ...
by Sam W
Sat Nov 20, 2021 8:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I not sure what happened
Replies: 9
Views: 180

Re: I not sure what happened

If it helps to know, we (and most other places, including the law) define sexual assault as "doing something sexual to someone who does not want that done to them." So, by that definition, what he did can be considered sexual assault (and the fact he was drunk matters not one bit; lots of ...
by Sam W
Fri Nov 19, 2021 9:23 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Celebrating Small Victories
Replies: 3
Views: 90

Celebrating Small Victories

Success of any kind is feeling pretty hard-won for a lot of us these last two years. But even without pandemic conditions, sometimes it's the little things in life that can feel like big victories. So, this is a thread for sharing accomplishments that might look small from the outside (cleaned your ...
by Sam W
Thu Nov 18, 2021 11:05 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Concerned about my friend
Replies: 4
Views: 92

Re: Concerned about my friend

You're welcome! And I'm glad both she and you are in better places.
by Sam W
Thu Nov 18, 2021 8:47 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 66
Views: 943

Re: Masterbating

Okay, if the bumps aren't causing pain or discomfort then they're unlikely to be cause for concern, but you can follow up with your healthcare provider about them if they're worrying you. When you went for that appointment, did the healthcare provider have any recommendations for how to manage the p...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 16, 2021 10:18 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I hate feeling like this
Replies: 5
Views: 161

Re: I hate feeling like this

I'm glad you have some strategies for self soothing, those can he super helpful when you're dealing with anxiety spikes! And it's great that learning about embryology in more detail is helping you understand the reality of what sperm can and can't do, and how fragile they are in terms of the conditi...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 16, 2021 9:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 57
Views: 879

Re: Just need some reassurance

Hi Sky, If you're already getting the feeling that you wouldn't enjoy this sexual experience much, then that's a big sign to just call it quits on that interaction before it even begins. That's doubly true if it's with a guy since, as we've talked about before, that kind of sex would likely be super...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 16, 2021 8:39 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Concerned about my friend
Replies: 4
Views: 92

Re: Concerned about my friend

Hi Hel, I want to add that it may be helpful to think about why sex work feels in conflict with the idea that she has a lot of potential or like it's her "throwing her life away." It sounds like she's told you that it's a means of supporting herself; that's the reason plenty of people do i...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 16, 2021 7:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I'm in a relationship, but I keep feeling unsure about it
Replies: 5
Views: 171

Re: I'm in a relationship, but I keep feeling unsure about it

That detail is all really helpful! You mention some anxiety around the idea that you'll mess this up or she'll "come to her senses" and end things. Where do you think that anxiety is coming from? How is your self-confidence when it comes to other things? I think these two articles might be...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 15, 2021 12:38 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 135
Views: 4071

Re: So there's a guy...

What parts of your feelings about him feel like they're in conflict?

I also want to check in on how everything else is going for you; have you checked on any of the resources we've talked about earlier in this thread to start building more independence for yourself?
by Sam W
Mon Nov 15, 2021 11:00 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: GF is ace, unsure of what to do
Replies: 13
Views: 206

Re: GF is ace, unsure of what to do

I think you're right that a large part of this is just going to be seeing how things change as they continue exploring their identity. If you need help with this situation as it develops, or if you ever want to talk about some of those challenges that come with looking for partners while trans, that...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 15, 2021 9:07 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: GF is ace, unsure of what to do
Replies: 13
Views: 206

Re: GF is ace, unsure of what to do

Got it, I wanted to make sure I had the right picture of what was going on. Are there particular ways we could support you around this right now?

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