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by Sam W
Mon Aug 02, 2021 10:24 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: should i be happy?
Replies: 3
Views: 39

Re: should i be happy?

Have you ever spoken to someone about this pattern? That could be a healthcare provider or someone like a parent or other person you trust/look up to. Too, do you tend to feel very strong emotions in the moment and not afterwards, or is it very dull even when you're in the midst of something want to...
by Sam W
Mon Aug 02, 2021 9:07 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: should i be happy?
Replies: 3
Views: 39

Re: should i be happy?

Hi Electricswitch, If you notice you don't often feel strong emotions, then that pattern may be playing a role here as well. With that pattern, is it all emotions that come through as very mild to you, or only positive ones? Too, there's no one, specific way you "should" feel about this se...
by Sam W
Mon Aug 02, 2021 8:29 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Guilt About Gender
Replies: 3
Views: 106

Re: Guilt About Gender

I think Iroh is an excellent form of masculinity to aspire to! And you're right that, for the time being, you may need to look to media for examples of the kind of man you want to become. You're also right that, until a lot of people do a lot of internal and external work, men who don't fit with cer...
by Sam W
Mon Aug 02, 2021 7:57 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: No pleasure
Replies: 1
Views: 40

Re: No pleasure

Hi Fluxx, This sounds like a really frustrating situation! I promise you there's nothing wrong or broken about your body; a lot more people struggle with arousal or pleasure than gets talked about, which has the nasty side effect of making you feel like you're the only person dealing with it. To mak...
by Sam W
Mon Aug 02, 2021 7:44 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Birth control
Replies: 1
Views: 54

Re: Birth control

Hi Sunland05, What method you choose, and which ones you should avoid, depends a lot on your specific needs and medical history. If we're talking in terms of pure effectiveness, the implant or IUD are the top methods, since they're over 99% effective even with typical use. What I suggest is going th...
by Sam W
Mon Aug 02, 2021 7:38 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Not an easy question
Replies: 3
Views: 74

Re: Not an easy question

Hi SilverX, It's not an inappropriate question at all! Since she had to go to the hospital as part of the process, it's likely they performed a D&C, dilation and curettage, which is a surgery that helps clear the contents of the uterus. It's not a kind of surgery that requires cutting into the b...
by Sam W
Mon Aug 02, 2021 7:23 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: This happened to me today. Now what?
Replies: 5
Views: 100

Re: This happened to me today. Now what?

Hi SilverX, There are sort of two things to tackle in this question; the situation with your friend and your questions about your identity. Let's start with the one with your friend first. Am I right in thinking you and your boyfriend are in a monogamous relationship? If that's the case, then you ne...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 31, 2021 10:12 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Mucus(?) discharges every time I finger myself?
Replies: 9
Views: 115

Re: Mucus(?) discharges every time I finger myself?

The information I'm finding doesn't suggest this is about genes. We can't determine the cause of it remotely, but things like infections and digestive conditions are just some of the possible ones, hence the suggestion to speak with a healthcare provider about this. I will say that if you do start n...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 31, 2021 9:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: age-appropriate erotica and sexual material?
Replies: 1
Views: 56

Re: age-appropriate erotica and sexual material?

Hi waffles100, It's great that you're looking for ways to help her explore her curiosity around sexual media safely! The tricky thing is that any site or seller of sexual media isn't going to have things aimed at her age group because of all the laws around selling porn to minors. But, I think there...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 31, 2021 9:27 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Mucus(?) discharges every time I finger myself?
Replies: 9
Views: 115

Re: Mucus(?) discharges every time I finger myself?

I totally get not wanting to speak to your parents about your masturbation habits. Do you have any ability to see a healthcare provider on your own? Or is your only option for them to arrange it for you?
by Sam W
Sat Jul 31, 2021 9:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever
Replies: 95
Views: 21446

Re: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever

Hi Sandpiper, I think it's really sound to recognize where that urge to keep score was coming from, and how it was tied into your bigger feelings about sex. It also seems like it's a useful contrast to that period of time in June; you weren't keeping score, you didn't feel the need to get out ahead ...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 31, 2021 8:50 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Mucus(?) discharges every time I finger myself?
Replies: 9
Views: 115

Re: Mucus(?) discharges every time I finger myself?

Did you mention this during your last healthcare checks? If not, then it's unlikely the things they looked at were specific enough to catch or eliminate any underlying causes of this.
by Sam W
Sat Jul 31, 2021 8:33 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Dealing with burnout
Replies: 4
Views: 113

Re: Dealing with burnout

Hi MusicNerd, It sounds like you've been doing lots of work to unpack and sort through these feelings, which is great! And you're right, it can be so strange and yet revelatory to realize that you just being is enough; that's one of those concepts that feels so basic but, because of how many people ...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 31, 2021 8:24 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Mucus(?) discharges every time I finger myself?
Replies: 9
Views: 115

Re: Mucus(?) discharges every time I finger myself?

Hi subjekt,

Thank you for clarifying that! So, having anal mucus in such quantities that it's easily visible and helping in lubrication is something you should see a healthcare provider about, as it can be a symptom of a number of different things. Are you able to access that kind of care?
by Sam W
Sat Jul 31, 2021 8:11 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Issue with parents feelings about sibling sexual identity
Replies: 8
Views: 154

Re: Issue with parents feelings about sibling sexual identity

Good on you for respecting their decisions! Honestly, only they can know their reasons for not wanting to raise the issue again, but I know just from the people in m own life that if the people came out to treated them lovingly they decided not to bring up the less than perfect coming out conversati...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 31, 2021 8:02 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I had some guy grab me this morning
Replies: 6
Views: 131

Re: I had some guy grab me this morning

Hi TnGirl, I'm so sorry that happened to you! I ran cross country in high school and I vividly remember all the times someone decided that my minding my own business while running while was somehow a sign to harass me; it sucked, big time. It sounds like you're mostly venting, which is totally fine!...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 30, 2021 10:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Knowing that this is a safe space
Replies: 13
Views: 233

Re: Knowing that this is a safe space

I'm glad the reading and the boards are helpful! It may help to take at least some of that sexual pressure out of your system, whether that's by masturbating or by doing something that burns off some of that pent up energy. I suggest this because when we're in a super sex-craving brainspace, it can ...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 30, 2021 10:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Knowing that this is a safe space
Replies: 13
Views: 233

Re: Knowing that this is a safe space

It can certainly be nerve-wracking to have those kinds of conversations. I will say that if you don't feel ready to be that kind of up-front or direct with him, then that's a sign to keep holding off for a bit. Casual sex often has the best outcomes when people are able to communicate about their ne...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 30, 2021 9:32 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Knowing that this is a safe space
Replies: 13
Views: 233

Re: Knowing that this is a safe space

Hi OtherAngel, Curiosity is a totally valid reason to explore different sexual dynamics or activities provided that, as Val mentioned above, you're not charging into them with lots of assumptions about how they will or won't go. I think taking time to think about this is also a sound call! It sounds...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 30, 2021 8:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Issue with parents feelings about sibling sexual identity
Replies: 8
Views: 154

Re: Issue with parents feelings about sibling sexual identity

You're so very welcome, and I hope those conversations all go well!
by Sam W
Fri Jul 30, 2021 7:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Issue with parents feelings about sibling sexual identity
Replies: 8
Views: 154

Re: Issue with parents feelings about sibling sexual identity

Hi iloveeveryone, I'm glad to hear your parents tend towards the supportive end of things, if only because that will (hopefully) make things easier for your sister when she talks to them. It sounds like you know the next step is to talk with your sibling and if/how they want to approach your parents...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 30, 2021 7:16 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Dealing with burnout
Replies: 4
Views: 113

Re: Dealing with burnout

Hi MusicNerd,

Okay! We treat this like a venting/processing post, and figure that if you want to ask for support around this topic in the future, you're welcome to pick this conversation back up.
by Sam W
Thu Jul 29, 2021 9:04 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Well, it's happening.
Replies: 6
Views: 197

Re: Well, it's happening.

Hi transfemandgay, I'm so sorry that you had to call off your plan. I can think of few things more frustrating than psyching yourself up to do something big and scary only to have something beyond your control throw it all off. I do want to say that, while this probably feels like it's all for nothi...
by Sam W
Thu Jul 29, 2021 7:43 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: An Autistic's Guide to Being Ghosted
Replies: 0
Views: 38

An Autistic's Guide to Being Ghosted

A new entry in our series on dating while autistic from the wonderful Douglas Laman: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/disa ... ng_ghosted
by Sam W
Tue Jul 27, 2021 8:37 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Friend of a friend asked me for a one night stand
Replies: 5
Views: 129

Re: Friend of a friend asked me for a one night stand

You're welcome, I'm glad it was helpful! And I think those are all good steps to take in terms of looking after yourself and being in a place where you're ready to be sexual with someone, even if it doesn't turn out to be this guy. It's not inherently bad to not have seen each other, and some people...

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