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by Sam W
Tue Sep 27, 2022 7:32 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: Women, Life, Liberty: Feminist Giant at Scarleteen
Replies: 0
Views: 28

Women, Life, Liberty: Feminist Giant at Scarleteen

We're excited to share this reprint of a Feminist Giant piece by the incredible Mona Eltahawy: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/poli ... scarleteen
by Sam W
Mon Sep 26, 2022 11:07 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Scheduling a time
Replies: 4
Views: 84

Re: Scheduling a time

I will ping the folks who do chat later in the day on Friday and find out!
by Sam W
Mon Sep 26, 2022 6:59 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Scheduling a time
Replies: 4
Views: 84

Re: Scheduling a time

Hi Raffles,

I'll be the one working chat from 10-12 today, so if you want to come in then I'm happy to talk with you about this!
by Sam W
Sun Sep 25, 2022 7:48 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Some questions about condoms/pregnancy scare
Replies: 1
Views: 27

Re: Some questions about condoms/pregnancy scare

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Sam W
Sat Sep 24, 2022 7:54 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Problems with being genderfluid
Replies: 5
Views: 87

Re: Problems with being genderfluid

Hi GenderfluidDerg,

We can certainly brainstorm some ideas with you, including how to get a hold of lube if you need it. To start, can you tell me a little more about what you mean by masturbating to "satisfy your male side?"
by Sam W
Fri Sep 23, 2022 10:12 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Finding New Love
Replies: 5
Views: 149

Re: Finding New Love

I'm glad you're learning to recognize more of those red flags that your realize snuck up on you in that last relationship. One piece of ours that might be helpful is this one on intimacy; I like how it breaks down the difference between healthy intimacy and things like enmeshment or possessiveness: ...
by Sam W
Thu Sep 22, 2022 8:00 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Vibrator & Partnered Sex
Replies: 10
Views: 240

Re: Vibrator & Partnered Sex

Hi MissConfused, It's okay! These kinds of topics can bring up a lot of thoughts and feelings for people. I want to touch a little bit on the role desire is playing here. You mentioned earlier that you feel like you haven't ever really experienced intense, sexual desire for another person. Does that...
by Sam W
Thu Sep 22, 2022 7:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Finding New Love
Replies: 5
Views: 149

Re: Finding New Love

Hi BumbleRex, It sounds like this relationship has a lot of elements that make you feel cared for and respected, which is great! When it comes to wanting to not have a repeat of what happened with your ex, do you feel like that experience with him gave you any insights into what red flags look like ...
by Sam W
Tue Sep 20, 2022 9:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Vibrator & Partnered Sex
Replies: 10
Views: 240

Re: Vibrator & Partnered Sex

Hi MissConfused, I want to add on a few questions to the advice Nicole offered you. Have you ever taken much time to explore or think about your sexual orientation that wasn't in the context of partnered sex? That could be things like reading about different identities, being in queer spaces, or eve...
by Sam W
Tue Sep 20, 2022 8:42 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: First Time Getting Chlamydia
Replies: 7
Views: 284

Re: First Time Getting Chlamydia

Hi Mixxes, I'm glad what Carly said is resonating with you. I will say there does still seem to, unfortunately, be a strain of ideas that a lot of cis guys in particular are exposed to where they see a partner who's very open about their testing history or their sexual health or history as an anomal...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 19, 2022 9:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Did I fall foul of misinformation?
Replies: 19
Views: 535

Re: Did I fall foul of misinformation?

I'm glad that article had some useful info! Looking back at this thread, I have a few other things I wanted to ask. For starters, prior to this incident, were you excited to be exploring your sexuality with a partner? Or was it something that was already anxiety inducing for you? I think it's also w...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 19, 2022 8:01 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My boyfriend thinks I like him too much
Replies: 11
Views: 506

Re: My boyfriend thinks I like him too much

Hi YellowPamonha, You know, one thing that's really standing out to me in your description of all this is that he's not in a place were he's comfortable doing a lot of the work that goes into maintaining a relationship. For instance, he's not wrong that lots of things can happen in a month, but part...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 19, 2022 7:12 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Did I fall foul of misinformation?
Replies: 19
Views: 535

Re: Did I fall foul of misinformation?

Hi ManekiNeko, So, it may help to know that there are ways of being sexual with another person that pose low or no risk of STI transmission: Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That? . That means that, if you're most comfortable with low to no risk activities, there are still ways of e...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 19, 2022 6:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Do I have low testosterone? (male)
Replies: 1
Views: 86

Re: Do I have low testosterone? (male)

Hi sir_barstool, So, while sex drive can be influenced by testosterone levels, it can also be influenced by a LOT of other things. For instance, some people (including people with otherwise standard testosterone levels for their gender) just have less interest in sex or experience less attraction ov...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 19, 2022 6:46 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: Eating Disorders and Pregnancy
Replies: 0
Views: 68

Eating Disorders and Pregnancy

A new piece from awesome guest writer Leslie Massicotte, M.Ed: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/preg ... _pregnancy
by Sam W
Fri Sep 16, 2022 6:59 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Am I bisexual or just a lesbian struggling with comphet?
Replies: 6
Views: 405

Re: Am I bisexual or just a lesbian struggling with comphet?

Hi Belled, I think those are all very good insights to have about where certain fantasies came from for you or why crushing on this friend in particular may feel very safe to you. I feel you big time on trying to navigate the "boys and girls can't be friends" message and how that influence...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 12, 2022 6:53 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Anal Masturbation
Replies: 3
Views: 359

Re: Anal Masturbation

Hi Maximil,

This article goes over the types of lube that are safe to use, including things you can find at home: Lube 101: A Slick Little primer.
by Sam W
Sun Sep 11, 2022 8:16 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: First time
Replies: 2
Views: 320

Re: First time

Hi Learningthings, I want to toss in two other links to what Nicole gave you. This one specifically addresses the ways to prevent painful vaginal sex (which is what I'm assuming you're referring to): From OW! to WOW! Demystifying Painful Intercourse . And this one can be a big help in terms of figur...
by Sam W
Sun Sep 11, 2022 8:08 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I feel a deep regret about my past actions
Replies: 2
Views: 357

Re: I feel a deep regret about my past actions

Hi Greenergrass, In addition to what Nicole said, I think it might also be helpful to think about why being or feeling different from your friends is creating feelings of distress for you. Too, it may also help to remember that you can't actually know the details of your friends sexual interests, an...
by Sam W
Sat Sep 10, 2022 7:58 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My boyfriend thinks I like him too much
Replies: 11
Views: 506

Re: My boyfriend thinks I like him too much

Hi YellowPamonha, In addition to Nicole's excellent advice, I wanted to add some other things to consider. It sounds like there are a few different things going on here. One is that you two may simply have different communication wants/needs in a relationship; lots of people are like you, in that th...
by Sam W
Fri Sep 09, 2022 6:54 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Am I demisexual?
Replies: 3
Views: 215

Re: Am I demisexual?

You're very welcome!
by Sam W
Fri Sep 09, 2022 6:51 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Should I take Plan B?
Replies: 1
Views: 194

Re: Should I take Plan B?

Hi there, if you aren't on any other form of birth control and he ejaculated on your genitals, if you want to reduce the chances of pregnancy from that as much as possible Plan B or another form of emergency contraception is the way to go. Do you know how to access emergency contraception where you ...
by Sam W
Thu Sep 08, 2022 7:42 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Any tips for developing a crush on someone?
Replies: 5
Views: 272

Re: Any tips for developing a crush on someone?

Hi Dennis91, It sounds like you know at least some of what you need to form a deep connection with someone. Are there things that you've noticed help you build that kind of connection, like certain ways of spending time with the other person or attributes of that other person? I will say that, if yo...
by Sam W
Thu Sep 08, 2022 7:35 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Am I demisexual?
Replies: 3
Views: 215

Re: Am I demisexual?

Hi hiImcrocheting, Since other demisexual people's experiences really resonate with you, I'd say that's a big sign that you've found a term that's a good description of your identity! So, if demisexual feels right to you, you get to identify that way for as long as that term feels like it fits. As f...
by Sam W
Thu Sep 08, 2022 7:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Advice about sex.
Replies: 1
Views: 155

Re: Advice about sex.

Hi durgadas9645, The tricky thing with a question like this is that there's no one, universal thing that every woman (or every person of any gender) enjoys during sex. The way to really know what a partner finds pleasurable is to ask them. If that feels daunting, we can certainly talk about how to a...

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