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by Sam W
Thu Jan 26, 2023 8:38 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Growth off side of vaginal wall
Replies: 3
Views: 56

Re: Growth off side of vaginal wall

Would you say it's closer to a hard bump or does it feel softer or fleshier than that?
by Sam W
Tue Jan 24, 2023 10:41 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Partner dealing with dysphoria
Replies: 3
Views: 76

Re: Partner dealing with dysphoria

Hi tshlacog, This sounds like such a rough situation, both for your partner and for you. They're clearly in a bad dysphoria spike, and it can be so heartbreaking to watch someone you care about be in the midst of that and feel like there's nothing you can do to help. I wonder, do you think it would ...
by Sam W
Tue Jan 24, 2023 8:25 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Can healthy relationships have “intensity”?
Replies: 3
Views: 83

Re: Can healthy relationships have “intensity”?

Hi Mixxes, Honestly, that reel sounds like it's trying to collapse a lot of things into one, and it's sort of missing the part where there can be a lot of diversity within healthy relationships (also, a lack of a spark is generally about chemistry or attraction, not attachment styles). I actually wo...
by Sam W
Tue Jan 24, 2023 8:08 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: reflecting
Replies: 1
Views: 42

Re: reflecting

Hi dollparties, I'm so glad to hear you're doing better and have found someone who cares about and respects you! And there's no need to apologize for how you sounded in earlier posts; one of the rough things about unhealthy or downright abusive relationship dynamics is that people come up with all s...
by Sam W
Tue Jan 24, 2023 7:51 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Growth off side of vaginal wall
Replies: 3
Views: 56

Re: Growth off side of vaginal wall

Hi Cocopops,

Is what you're feeling on the sides of the vaginal canal, or is it at the back, top, or bottom?
by Sam W
Mon Jan 23, 2023 10:13 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Confused
Replies: 3
Views: 87

Re: Confused

Yeah, I think that distance might be the best call, especially if she's doing physical things that are only adding to that feeling of confusion or hurt. As far as staying friends with her goes, that's entirely up to you. For some people, saying things like "I can't get past your gender identity...
by Sam W
Mon Jan 23, 2023 8:05 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Therapist Advice
Replies: 3
Views: 151

Re: Therapist Advice

You're very welcome, I hope they help! And I'm glad to hear you already have some tools you use when you're feeling anxious; those can also be things to talk with your therapist about so the two of you can incorporate them into your strategies for managing your anxiety.
by Sam W
Mon Jan 23, 2023 8:02 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Confused
Replies: 3
Views: 87

Re: Confused

Hi Mixxes, Oof, I absolutely see why that left you feeling confused and crummy. It seems like she made a lot of big statements about her attraction patterns and desire not to have any kind of romantic or physical relationship and then threw in those comments about it not being definitive right after...
by Sam W
Fri Jan 20, 2023 8:09 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: That first time
Replies: 1
Views: 122

Re: That first time

Hi Rubie, You know, something I've noticed is that plenty of people do have instances of sex that stick with them the way you're describing. What tends to vary is whether or not it was what they consider their first time (for a lot of people, their first time can be pretty underwhelming, so it's gre...
by Sam W
Fri Jan 20, 2023 7:57 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Therapist Advice
Replies: 3
Views: 151

Re: Therapist Advice

Hi Digdawg, Ooof, yeah, the process of trying to adjust dosages can lead to some seriously stressful moments while you figure out where the threshold is. I'm glad one upshot of the whole thing has been you taking steps to find some extra mental health support! As far as broaching the pregnancy anxie...
by Sam W
Thu Jan 19, 2023 8:41 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Feelings
Replies: 5
Views: 139

Re: Feelings

Hi Anonymous275,

If you were feeling a lot of sexual desire during that time, that could have led to actual arousal, which has all kinds of physical feelings that can go along with it. So it's likely that's what was causing those sensations you were noticing.
by Sam W
Tue Jan 17, 2023 11:40 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Condom Just Broke
Replies: 14
Views: 511

Re: Condom Just Broke

No worries! Since it's only happened today, I wouldn't say it's cause for concern. If you notice it's not stopping, or it matches with the warning signs in this article, then it might be time to check in with a healthcare provider: Honorably Discharged: A Guide to Vaginal Secretions
by Sam W
Tue Jan 17, 2023 11:24 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Condom Just Broke
Replies: 14
Views: 511

Re: Condom Just Broke

Ah, okay, thank you for that, I misunderstood! It's possible this is a side effect of plan B, but it's also totally normal to have instances where your discharge is a little odd without anything bigger being wrong. Did it only happen once? And has it been accompanied by any discomfort or pain of any...
by Sam W
Tue Jan 17, 2023 11:09 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Condom Just Broke
Replies: 14
Views: 511

Re: Condom Just Broke

Hi juliapf,

One of the common side effects of emergency contraception like Plan B is that it can cause some irregularity in your cycle. If you're on the pill, that can include when your withdrawal bleed comes. So that's likely why you haven't got a withdrawal bleed so far.
by Sam W
Tue Jan 17, 2023 9:43 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: tried and failed
Replies: 13
Views: 359

Re: tried and failed

Got it. Do you think it's worth reaching out to your ex and talking about how you're feeling and what's changed and seeing how he's feeling in turn?
by Sam W
Tue Jan 17, 2023 9:24 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: tried and failed
Replies: 13
Views: 359

Re: tried and failed

All those feelings you're describing are really common things people deal with after their first time having vaginal sex! If it helps to know, unless you tell them or they somehow saw you do it, people can't really tell you're sexually active, even if it feels like you're walking around with a flash...
by Sam W
Mon Jan 16, 2023 10:10 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: tried and failed
Replies: 13
Views: 359

Re: tried and failed

You know, something we know about the first, or first few, times people have vaginal sex is that it can be kind of underwhelming. I really like how this piece dives into those feelings: Is THAT All There Is? . I also think recognizing that having a colored or more noticeable condom helps you feel mo...
by Sam W
Mon Jan 16, 2023 9:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Prepubescent rape & long term issues with labia
Replies: 5
Views: 161

Re: Prepubescent rape & long term issues with labia

Got it, it sounds like you have a pretty clear idea of what you do, and don't, want when it comes to treating this! You're right that there will always be some exceptions to general patterns of human sexual behavior. What we know is that most kids masturbate as part of the general self-exploration t...
by Sam W
Mon Jan 16, 2023 8:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Prepubescent rape & long term issues with labia
Replies: 5
Views: 161

Re: Prepubescent rape & long term issues with labia

Got it. I'm glad to hear that you have such a robust support system! It sounds like you're working with a specific diagnosis, and that you and your healthcare providers are discussing solutions (although I do have to say that it looks like surgical interventions aren't typically one of the go-tos, b...
by Sam W
Mon Jan 16, 2023 8:35 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: tried and failed
Replies: 13
Views: 359

Re: tried and failed

Hi Miss June, Yep, if you're doing something that causes your breasts to move a lot, whether that's running or having sex, it can cause some discomfort even if you're on the smaller end of cup size. So, in the future it might be worth trying positions where you get less jostled. Do you want to talk ...
by Sam W
Mon Jan 16, 2023 8:00 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Prepubescent rape & long term issues with labia
Replies: 5
Views: 161

Re: Prepubescent rape & long term issues with labia

Hi NoraStar, So, the basic answer is: no. Sexual assault cannot change or influence the shape of someone's genitals, unless the person who committed the assault did something like cut them. But the shape of your genitals is determined by things like genes (and the shape and length of labia are often...
by Sam W
Sun Jan 15, 2023 9:11 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bleeding after losing virginity
Replies: 3
Views: 194

Re: Bleeding after losing virginity

Hi Cocopops, Since it sounds like the bleeding is getting lighter/stopping, then I don't think it's necessary to check in with a healthcare provider in this case. And if you need any tools or information for how to have those conversations with your boyfriend, that's certainly something we can help ...
by Sam W
Sun Jan 15, 2023 8:58 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I think masturbating has become bad for my health but I can't stop
Replies: 3
Views: 611

Re: I think masturbating has become bad for my health but I can't stop

Hi skzly, Have you noticed yourself dealing with compulsive behaviors in any other places in your life, or is masturbation really the only place where you start without really wanting to or are unable to stop when you want to (I use "compulsion" rather than addiction when talking about iss...
by Sam W
Fri Jan 13, 2023 9:28 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: tried and failed
Replies: 13
Views: 359

Re: tried and failed

Hi Miss June, From the sound of it, you didn't do anything wrong! When you're new to partnered sex, it can be hard to predict how much lube you'll need ahead of time, and if you didn't have any on hand to use that probably played a big part in it being uncomfortable to try and have intercourse. Find...
by Sam W
Fri Jan 13, 2023 9:18 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Pee, NOT female ejaculation
Replies: 17
Views: 67745

Re: Pee, NOT female ejaculation

Hi needanswers, I'm glad this thread has been helpful for you! I do want to say that if you're noticing issues holding pee during other times (like the skipping incident) what you're dealing with may have to do more with your body's overall ability to retain urine rather than masturbation specifical...

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